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[ - ] any ideas for gift for 11 yr old girl besides gift certificate? anyone buy a cute jewlery making set or stationary or anything like that? Mom says she has enough high school musical and American girl crap. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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what about some personalized note pads and a pretty pen? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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can you recommend a website? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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try horchow..i think they have cute sets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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a diary with a lock and key, they used to have cute ones at B&N [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there long term () 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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sorry...Is there long term (4 day) parking at laguardia? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] 5 year old DS driving me nuts. He wants constant attention; refuses to play on his own, demands I get him dressed, feed him etc. His sister is now 2 so it can't be sibling jealousy. What's going on and do you think I should indulge it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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hah, you are me, only I've got 4.8yo dd and 1.5yo dd. Sorry, no advice -- I haven't got it sorted yet either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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I see other kids his age acting much more independently. I try to remember that he won't be like this forever and to relish it but it's like no matter how much attention I give him, he demands more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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yup, I hear you. BTW, at least in our case, I'm sure that in fact there is still some sibling rivalry, even though they adore each other -- it's hard being the older one at times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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I just responded to other 5 yo poster, but I think a lot of the regression we're seeing is due to everyone telling them how big they are now that they'll be going to Kindergarten. I think there's a comfort to being a baby sometimes. Maybe play "baby" with him sometimes so he gets what he wants, but encourage his independence and praise it whenever you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Our loving, hard working, responsible, fun nanny is available for work 4 days a week, due to a change in my working situation. She has done a fantastic job with our 1.5 year old son, who loves her very much. We're heartbroken at the situation and want to find her a great family that will appreciate how wonderful she is. Anne Marie can be reached at: 718-566-9455 or 646-943-1779. I am available for references or if you'd like to talk: 917-204-4675. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Shame on you. Take it somewhere else. If you are so "heartbroken" you wouldn't post her numbers on a site like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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You're crazy, or really lonely...you realize you will have to change your number now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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I flagged this post I hope they remove it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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i didn't realize that. i thought i'd seen posts like this before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Any decorating savvy moms on here? Moving and need help on paint colors and suggestions for DS's room. What would you paint a 2-story entry foyer? Also, DS wants his room painted red. Can I do one wall this color? Put in a border at chair-rail height and do the bottom portion red, the top beige? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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why not put a chair rail in and do the bottom in red, the top in cream [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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That's what I was thinking of. So you think that would look OK? Any suggestions for the color red? I was thinking something more fun than a chair rail... found a border (usually goes in at ceiling height) with race cars on it, which he would go nuts for... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Sure, you could do that; the only thing is, if you're thinking of moving anytime soon, chair rail is timeless, border is not (FWIW, we put a chair rail in the baby's room, but did a border for 4yo, but it was close to top of the room (didn't have the "I want red" issue -- tho when she saw her baby sister's room, she then wanted that instead, can't win) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] pls tell me how to get over being perpetually annoyed at 5yo dd. She is completely uncooperative and ignores me until I yell, loudly, which I really don't enjoy and neither does she. I'm even more irritable than I would otherwise be b/c it's a battle getting her into bed every night and she comes and wakes us up in the middle of the night. I'm ready to send her off to boarding school, but that's not practical, so I'm trying to figure out how I survive the next 13 years (or even the next 3 months). Any advice? tia 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.01.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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Sounds like life with my 5 yo ds. If dh is not here, it can take me hours to get him to settle down to sleep, and he comes to our bed at least 3 times a night. I never know what will set him off. I could say "How are you?", and he'll yell, "Stop doing that!!!" I try to remember that's he going through a lot of transitions with K starting soon and try to spend as much positive time with him as possible, so that the battles don't feel so bad. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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How do you deal with the middle of the night stuff? The disruption of sleep is a real problem for both dh and me -- it's making us non-functional during the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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I'm lucky in that I sleep like a log while dh is a light sleeper, so he usually handles it. Last night, though, he woke me up to do it. When it's my turn, I usually end up crawling into bed with ds until he falls asleep and then going back to dh. After a couple trips up, we usually let ds sleep with us. It can be tough when he kicks us in the head, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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yes, exactly. only I'm a light sleeper, and when I wake up, it often takes me an hour or more to get back to sleep (especially if dd insists on trying to have a conversation in the middle of the night). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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that's rough. Don't talk to her, though. It'll just wake both of you up even more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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or: Just thought of something I've done lately htat has helped him stay in bed at least at the beginning of the night. If he stays in his room at bedtime, when he's asleep I sneak in a stick a sticker on his pjs. That way if he wakes up, he knows I kept my word and checked on him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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my 7 y.o. is going through a difficult stage as well. she sleeps well, but is quite uncooperative during the day. if she irritates me enough, i just ignore her for a while until she quits the naughty behavior. my dh handles the kids better in this way. he rarely gets to the point where he yells loudly at them. he thinks that they are "kids and it will all work out in the end." my 11 y.o. is obviously easier in that she is not as childish but now we have the hormones and very difficult middle school yrs. upon us. boarding school sounds fabulous right about now :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm flying with a 2yo and 4yo. Should I bring their car seats on board or not (I can rent seats with the car for the trip)? The airline says that either way is fine...I'm just wondering what your experiences have been. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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2, yes, 4, no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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dont bring for either..the less, the easier..i find those car seats annoying on plane unless it's a baby baby. 2 yr old will only want what 4 yr old has anyway, and then you will have a fit about the car seat being in the way and wish you never brought it. rent the car seats in the rental car..so much easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone told at ultrasounds that their baby's femur and arm bones are measuring short? what happened? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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didn't you ask this the other night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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um yes. problem asking something again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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np: seriously - this board is so busy that you can't ask again to see if there are additional responses? i wish i could help you, op. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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sorry, I meant to say "did you ask this the other night", b/c I responded to you then, no point in giving you repeat info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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my prenatal yoga instructor had this happen. everything was just fine! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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yes. we have a beautiful boy dwarf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Any Dentist on? Had work done yesterday and my gum in the back of one side are killing me, when I talk or eat it feel like they are being stretched apart, and now my throat is starting to hurt- is this something to be concerned about or will it just take time to heal- if so, what can I take for the pain??? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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not a dentist but it sounds like you've got an infection. when that happened to me, my dentist wanted me to try to tough it out, but after a week he gave in and prescribed antibiotics. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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that what I am afraid of, it happened the same day though- would an infection happen immediately? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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dunno -- I had the infection before I saw the dentist (that's why I saw him -- to remove an infected wisdom tooth). But I do recall, when I got a crown and it took 4 visits, that I got sick after two of them -- all that digging around in your mouth just can't be good. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
[ - ] 39 weeks pg and feeling absolutely huge. I'm 1.5 cm dilated, but wondering if I'm crazy to try for a vbac still. Maybe I should just go for the scheduled C? I had to be induced last time at 42 weeks, why can't I just go into labor like almost everyone else???? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.01.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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I skipped vbac, didn't want risk of uterine rupture. Why not go for scheduled C? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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op: I thought the risk of uterine rupture was only like 1.5% [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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chance of rupture is very small. I am sure your OB has thoroughly examined you and is very very confident in vbac if she / he have told you you're good to go. Do what you are most comfortable with. A healthy baby and mom is the only necessary thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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np: a gree, if your OB is comfortable with VBAC she knows how to manage it and won't take risks. most of the stats on rupture don't separate out labor that was enhanced (pitocin) and wasn't, even though pitocin seems to clearly increase the risk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:05 PM Flag
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My vbac was one of the most amazing experiences of my life. Wouldn't trade it for anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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you very well may go into labor. you aren't full term. i had to be induced at 41.5 weeks with my first. #2 came on her own, three days late. at 39 weeks i was maybe 1 cm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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I was induced for my VBAC at 38.5 weeks or so. It was amazing--I had pitocin and it worked fine--healthy baby boy! Have you discussed the possibility of induction? My OB seemed to think my best chance for VBAC was if the baby was a week or so early, a little smaller and easier to deliver! Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend a primary physician they like? Preferably below 23rd street, and take Aetna. I'm new in town and need to pick one tomorrow! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.01.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Only know Dr. Weichowsky, upper West side, 86th St CPW, in case no one else answers at least it's something. takes Aetna, really great doctor, I have been going to him even before I had Insurence which was about 10 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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I like Alan Pollack, but he's UES and does not take insurance. I also like Len Horovitz, but he's also UES, not sure what insurance he takes if any. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] feeling a bit insecure - my sitter was here helping me out today and my 2 1/2 yo DS woke up from his nap sweaty and crabby and had a temper tantrum. She tried to console and reason with him and I asked her to tell him gently that she'd be waiting for him downstairs, and then leave him alone. She told me that she didn't know what to do because none of her 4 kids EVER had a tantrum (her 16 yo son confirmed this -- he'd never seen such behavior and he's the oldest). She told me it's b/c she was a FT mom (I work PT). So now I'm wondering if HER kids are abnormal, since I thought occasional tantrums were par for the course. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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oh, please. Has she ever sat for anyone else? If she doesn't know how to handle a tantrum she clearly does not have enough experience for the job. You are fine. Your child is normal. It has nothing to do with you working PT, FT, in or out of the home, whether you breastfed or provide juice. 2.5 year old kids don't know how to control their emotions. Not all throw tantrums but there is certainly nothing unusual about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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what? I stay home ft and my son has daily temper tantrums. She's out of touch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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my 2.5 yr old dd wakes up in a fit 4 out of 7 days..i have to either ignore her or hold her, without talking or offering her anything, and it just stops 10 mins later. annoying, but it happens! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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Gotta say - I would can this sitter ASAP. Who needs the lack of experience with a range of temperments and the lack of sensitivity that enabled her to talk like that to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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I hear you (i'm original poster) -- everything was fine til today! She's really great with him otherwise. She literally did not know how to handle a tantrum. I've met her 4 and they are VERY shy and sweet. The reason I hired her is b/c she's a mom of 4 and her children seem so happy and well behaved. Thanks all, at least i feel better that DS is "normal." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] 11 mos. DS still wakes up 1 to 3 times a night I am so tired and worn out...making him cry it out tonight, think I'll survive? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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yes, just be consistent oe you will be your own undoing. You will both be better off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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I know...it's the 3rd time trying but I am literally at my breaking point wanted to check into Mt. Sinai under exhaustion likecelebrities do and literally sleep for 3 days straight with an IV in me...it's getting bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] DS almost out of car seat w/snap n' go stroller...recommendation for stroller that will last from this point until he outgrows one??? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.01.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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no MacLaren...the wheels are garbage...believe it or not my cheap Chicco has held up really well but I had a Silver Cross with my DD and I LOVED it!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:32 PM Flag
[ - ] birthday gift for 11 yr old girl? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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gift certificate for clothes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I really think my marriage is ending. I love dh very much, but we communicate so badly, and it just seems like we are always, always seething with anger at each other, and unable to ever make it up, and always bickering. I'm so depressed, but I wonder if we should just quit now before it just gets worse and worse and worse. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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don't waste another minute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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what are you saying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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What does it sound like I'm saying? The poster says they are seething with anger, unable to make up, and always bickering...that's no way to live, don't waste another minute like that. The Poster didn't say we both want to work on it but it's hard, she didn't say she thinks it wil get better. She didn't ask if counseling worked or anything like that, it sounds like she's saying that she knows it's ending. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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OP: I don't want to break up, I want to be happy. I don't know if we can be happy anymore. I'd rather be separate than miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Well, that's a different story! If both of you want it to work then you will, somehow. If only one of you does it's going to be miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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My hubby and I have similar problems but I really love him and he really loves me so every fews years (married 7!) we got to counseling when we both feel like things are really bad, it helps and tehn we realize that we can make it! (a few more years at least LOL) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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well, that's part of our problem. We are stressed because we are SO overworked and literally no time--*literally* no time, not just making excuses--to go to therapy, let alone not an extra penny to do it either. We both know we need therapy badly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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we begged the counseler to lower her prices she did to $100 we could only afford to go every other week and then once a month and then it faded but we also decided to budget a once a month date night and that has been great for our relationship. We were legally seperated 3 years ago but managed to get back together and I am so glad we did since we just had 2nd baby! Not a perfect relationship but we work on it and like I said we love eachother and our kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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I'm so glad you guys were able to do that. I hope we are too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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some insurances pay part of counseling...at some point I just though 'how can I leave a man I desperately love and super attracted too' even if it meant that sometimes our fights would be horrible and mean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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does he feel the same way? have you guys tried counseling? I would think, for the sake of your marriage and your kids, that you both need to work on making it work. At least give ita shot before you give up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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he doesn't want to split up. He says it over and over but then he seethes too. He loves me, really loves me, that I know. But he had a totally dysfunctional marriage modeled for him with his parents (you stay together, even if totally unhappy) and so did I (you break up, and get remarried lots of times, and just don't bother sticking it out through any problems). So together we're a hotbed of issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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that's tough but think of you kids...either way which would be better for them and you, try a legal seperation that helped we lived almost 2 months apart and we really missed eachother [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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couldn't it just be a non-legal separation? Where did he live in the meantime? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Can I pack my dd macaroni and cheese for lunch at camp/ Assume no refrig. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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if you put a cold pack in it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I wouldn't, even with cold pack. they did a study about how well various foods did in lunchboxes, using just a cold pack, and it was lots of bad news -- the only "regular" lunch type food that fared well was PB&J, which of course is verboten in most camps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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