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07.01.08, 17:29 PM General Topics
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I really think my marriage is ending. I love dh very much, but we communicate so badly, and it just seems like we are always, always seething with anger at each other, and unable to ever make it up, and always bickering. I'm so depressed, but I wonder if we should just quit now before it just gets worse and worse and worse. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 05:29 PM Flag
 

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don't waste another minute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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what are you saying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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What does it sound like I'm saying? The poster says they are seething with anger, unable to make up, and always bickering...that's no way to live, don't waste another minute like that. The Poster didn't say we both want to work on it but it's hard, she didn't say she thinks it wil get better. She didn't ask if counseling worked or anything like that, it sounds like she's saying that she knows it's ending. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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OP: I don't want to break up, I want to be happy. I don't know if we can be happy anymore. I'd rather be separate than miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Well, that's a different story! If both of you want it to work then you will, somehow. If only one of you does it's going to be miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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My hubby and I have similar problems but I really love him and he really loves me so every fews years (married 7!) we got to counseling when we both feel like things are really bad, it helps and tehn we realize that we can make it! (a few more years at least LOL) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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well, that's part of our problem. We are stressed because we are SO overworked and literally no time--*literally* no time, not just making excuses--to go to therapy, let alone not an extra penny to do it either. We both know we need therapy badly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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we begged the counseler to lower her prices she did to $100 we could only afford to go every other week and then once a month and then it faded but we also decided to budget a once a month date night and that has been great for our relationship. We were legally seperated 3 years ago but managed to get back together and I am so glad we did since we just had 2nd baby! Not a perfect relationship but we work on it and like I said we love eachother and our kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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I'm so glad you guys were able to do that. I hope we are too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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some insurances pay part of counseling...at some point I just though 'how can I leave a man I desperately love and super attracted too' even if it meant that sometimes our fights would be horrible and mean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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does he feel the same way? have you guys tried counseling? I would think, for the sake of your marriage and your kids, that you both need to work on making it work. At least give ita shot before you give up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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he doesn't want to split up. He says it over and over but then he seethes too. He loves me, really loves me, that I know. But he had a totally dysfunctional marriage modeled for him with his parents (you stay together, even if totally unhappy) and so did I (you break up, and get remarried lots of times, and just don't bother sticking it out through any problems). So together we're a hotbed of issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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that's tough but think of you kids...either way which would be better for them and you, try a legal seperation that helped we lived almost 2 months apart and we really missed eachother [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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couldn't it just be a non-legal separation? Where did he live in the meantime? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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