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[ - ] want to go on vacation for a week w 15 month old. would like beach and preferably a pool somewhere less than 3 hours (driving) from Manhattan, and would like to spend less than $2500 for the week. Can go anytime between now and mid-sept. any ideas for where to go and where to stay? thinking we need to rent a house or 2br condo? TIA 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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Fire Island is pretty and about 1 1/2 hours from NYC, it's nice and low key, wonderful beaches, no cars aloud on the island [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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what's the best area on FI for families? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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I don't know, but definitely not the gay section (although I have seen families there, I've also seen things that I don't think I should have seen at 30 let alone a child). I haven't been in 5 years, since leaving the area, so you would probably be best served by doing a bit of research. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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I have also been to family focused parts, I just don't remember what they were called. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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cyberrentals.com or vrbo.com. Look on Fire Island and the Jersey Shore. Maybe even the North Fork. Will be slim pickings at any of these places now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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We love Cape May and spend as much of our Summer there as we can. Check out my link. We have a great place available for rent. I've reduced the weekly rate. If you've never been there, you'll fall in love.. http://www.simonecolina.com/quad/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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you still haven't rented that place? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 09:36 PM Flag
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We've had to turn down a few people whom wanted 2 week blocks where we didn't have them. I've got 3rd week of July, 2nd & 4th week of August and 1st week of Sept(but if that one doesn't go by next week, I'll probably put friends in it); that's almost my favorite time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:06 PM Flag
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and the beach is our pool... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 10:27 PM Flag
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Would likely entail a slightly longer drive, but you could look for a lakefront rental on lake champlain in vermont. Lovely, lovely lake. Google will pull up a bunch of rental companies. Keeping it under $2500 shouldn't be a problem, especially at this late date. A pool is unlikely, however. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:10 AM Flag
[ - ] our 5 yr old daughter has outgrown the mini-micro scooter (she now exceeds the weight limit). any suggestions for a new scooter? doesn't look like they make the three-wheel types any larger. tia! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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could most likely just get a razor at this point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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also, what is the wt limit? my dc is 5 and still using them-have no idea of wt limit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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i think it's 45 lbs (?) the handlebars/steering mechanism came loose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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oops, yikes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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anyone know a 5 yr old who uses a razor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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yeah -- mine. why wouldn't a 5 yo use a razor? he [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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just not sure dd is coordinated enough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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our neighbor's 4 yo uses one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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DS has been using a razor since before he was 4 yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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I am with you. Not sure my dd can navigate it yet. We don't have one but the few times she tried her cousin's razor it was difficult. I suppose practice and geer would do it. I am debating whether to get a razor or not as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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it IS hard for them in the beginning. DS practiced in the hallway in our building at first and he called it his "fall scooter", but suprisingly with a couple of months of practice, he rides it like a champ. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:44 PM Flag
[ - ] i told my son that " i can't believe i raised such a spoiled brat and sometimes i wish you weren't my child" He is only 8 and I know I hurt him deeply. How can I live with saying such terrible things? He will probably remember that for the rest of his life. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Wow. I hope you apologized to him. What brought that on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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I did apologize to him. But down deep I really feel that way sometimes. He is a very difficult self centered child and can be very frustrating day in and day out. He is an outcast with his friends because of it and it stressful to for him as well as me to always be dealing with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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can you give some examples, because I just can't imagine feeling that way. I mean, I get frustrated as hell with each of my kids at times, but not to that point. i think you need to seek counseling to learn how to parent better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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i know it is hard to imagine. i have another one and it is a completely different story. my 8 year old is in social skills group and has needed social intervention almost from the beginning. He is very impulsive and has great difficulty in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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being empathetic to others. he cannot see things from another's point of view. He is highly intelligent on an intellectual level and extremely immature on an emotional level. He is always defiant and oppisitional. I honestly think it would be difficult for any parent to handle. But i only make it worse by venting to him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I hate to say it but I feel the same way about my 4yo at times, and have only just managed to avoid saying things like that to her. It's very hard, and you have my sympathy; all you can do is try your best, and some days your best will be better than others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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thank you. i just keep imagining him as a man in therapy blaming his life on me and the things i said. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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well, yeah. of course! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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it sounds like you could all benefit from some family therapy. your son does sound like an incredible challege and you could use professional help. you've had him evaluated, right? perhaps there are further resources in your area to help you and him. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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i do go to family counseling, he has been evaluated...the works. but still the facts remain the same and it is grueling day in and day out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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this post has stuck with me and bothered me since last night. if you are in family therapy, it is not enough. i can not think of a worse thing to say to your own child. have you seen an attachment specialist? Because from what you write here both of you seem to have an attachment disorder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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what is an attachment therapist? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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You've got to cut that out. That kind of statement really stays with a child. Take a deep breath and control what comes out of your mouth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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of course you are absolutely right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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couple of issues here and i really feel for you. but it's important for you to separate your child's behavior from your own sense of accomplishment. you are taking his behaviors personally, as if they are being done to you or they somehow reflect on you. that's very dangerous thinking for a parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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i think you are partially right. it is certainly more difficult when we are in a social setting and other parents are around. I become extremely embarrassed and imagine other parents judging him as well as me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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i think you need to be very honest with yourself. i think that that's a bigger problem here than the fact that you lost it a little and said things to your ds that you shouldn't have. I also know from my own experience that the worst times i've had with my dcs were teh times when i was taking their behavior personally. either as a reflection of my parenting or that they owed me better behavior than they were showing. once i was able to take my own ego out of the picture, i was better able to deal with (or at least accept) their behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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but that is very hard to do when I see him sabotaging the relationships he is trying to make by acting in a selfish and aggressive manner. It seems so simple and obvious to me and yet he just doesn't get it. It is so awkward for me at school, camp ect. Parents judge, teachers are perplexed and i don't think he will ever get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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and of course it's awful for him and he is in a lot of pain because of his alienation from others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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it sounds like a hard situation. do you think it's a kind of asperger's behavior? i'm not trying to diagnose him but i'm trying ot think of places where you might get tips for how to help him. and not to beat a dead horse here, but remember that it's really two separate issues: he has his problems, but your feelings about his problems are something you need to address with yourself. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Thank you for your thoughts. I think you are very observant and get right to the point. He does have asperger like qualities. He lives in the grey zone of these types of labels but a neuropsych has diagnosed tendencies consistent with aspergers, non verbal learning disorder and impulsivity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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have you seen any therapists? the behavioral therapists that work with these kids are fantastic. it might pay for you to hire one, even on a one time basis to give you some tips. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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i have and continue to see one and so does he. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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it's hard. parenting is frustrating even when dcs don't have special issues. don't beat yourself up about it. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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thanks for listening and for your advise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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my dad once told me something similar and i never, ever, ever again liked him anymore. i am ok with him being my dad and love him, but have huge issues with him. not sure what you can do to undo this... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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how old were you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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very young, don't remember exactly, maybe around 7 or younger? sometime after i started school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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what kind of issues do you have with him. did he continously abuse you verbally or was this just a one time thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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sorry, have to go now, but will watch this and maybe try to answer tomorrow. it wasn't continuous, but it wasn't just one time either. i really didn't use to like him. now when i am older, i understand that it is actually him who has issues with his self-esteem. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of the name Sienna? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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Not crazy about it. What are solving for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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bad for a kid, less so for a car. great for a stripper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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that's what my dh said -- I liked both Siena and Savannah and he rejected them as porno/stripper names. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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your dh is right, but what I would REALLY want to know is how your dh knows about stripper names??? j/k, but they are kind of stripper esque [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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love both of those names. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm having two families over for lunch/day at the pool on saturday. What is a good menu. Don't want to bbq. I would love some stuff that I could prepare ahead of time. TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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panzanella, fruit salad, watermelon,lemonade and beer (or frozen margaritas, yum). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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what is panzanella [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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it's a kind of bread salad -- best made the day before (but not earlier than that) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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the one in the Giada everyday cookbook is so yummy! made with cornbread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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buy rotisserie chickens, make a corn, blackbean, pepper (red & green), cilantro salad (day before), roasted asparagus (day before too), nice italian or french bread. icecream with raspberry sauce (make ina gartens). should take an hour to prep day before [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I received something from Apple saying it's an update for "Safari". Anyone know what this is? tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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internet browser [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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thanks, so I don't need it, right? I use Internet Explorer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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it means you have won a new gaming system! congratulations!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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I would get it anyway, it's probably a security patch, and in case anyone else uses your computer and uses safari, better safe than sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] my 6 year old - normally a very responsible kid - has left or lost the following at camp during the past 2 days - a t shirt, baseball cap, lunch bag and goggles. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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In Sweden we play soccer and don't use googles in the co-ed suana...we don't go to camp, so we don't have these American "problems" of losing things like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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ha! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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no 6 year old is responsible enough to keep track of stuff like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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I still lose all my stuff and I'm 40. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
[ - ] What are they testing urine for at pre-natal visits? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.01.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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protein is one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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ok good, so I can rule that out with my swollen foot, the other post concerned me thinking maybe they aren't tsting me for something I should be tested for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Repost: ANyone here have a dermoid? Dr found one today and I am freaked out. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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what is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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yup. i freaked too (TEETH!?! wtf). but i was so relieved it was something benign that i got over it. i had it removed by laparoscopy. not fun but not sooo bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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my mom had one removed 50 years ago. She's fine now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] 1 yr old dd pooped 5 times today - what's up with that?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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anyone? wondering if i am feeding her too much... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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maybe alot of fruit? As long as it's not watery, it's ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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happens sometimes. 22mo DD usually 1x/day in the morning but every now and then its pooping madness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Our babysitter got my 4yo a barbie and all kinds of skimpie barbie clothes for her b-day. I was really hoping to wait longer to introduce Barbie's to her. She's still really happy with baby dolls and groovy girls. So annoyed. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Did you specifically ask people not to get your child a Barbie? If not, you have no reason to be annoyed. It was a gift. Hide it if it bothers you so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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I did not ask people not to get my 4 yo a barbie...seems like something one would not have to say...like don't get my 4 yo a knife throwing set. hard to hide a gift your child has seen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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np: lol. I'm not a big Barbie fan, but a knife throwing set? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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op: Barbie at 4? Seriously, I played with them when I was 7 or 8. $ just seems so young. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Still, it's not a knife set.... BTW, my mom wouldn't get us Barbies ever (she went with flat-chested Skipper). I think she was right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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you know, i would just not focus on the barbie. someone gave our dd a bratz doll on her fourth. i thought it was gross and stupid but i kept my mouth shut. she played with it for awhile and as soon as i saw her interest wane, i put it in the goodwill bag and got rid of it for good. she never brought it up. (just like all the other toys she outgrew/tired of.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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op: good advice..i guess it's just that it's our sitter...so it's hard to get rid of something she gave us. BTW, I know that it's not the same as a knife throwing set...it's just ridiculous to say that I should have informed people of what not to buy my child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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i see. it would be hard to get rid of something from your babysitter. oh well. i'd still just ignore it for now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Silly post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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op: silly idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Get a life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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you obviously are a bad parent if you don't have any concerns about barbies. i really hope you don't have a girl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
[ - ] have pink shift dress for daytime bridal shower. what color shoes? tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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silver [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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gold, white or bright green. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Closest Wal-mart or Target to Mt. Kisco? TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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There's a Target *in* Mt. Kisco. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I have green hair from the pool - i tried tomato sauce, i tried baking soda, and I tried Ultra Swim shampoo. NOthing is working!!! HELP 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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are you in dc? go to erwin gomez salon on Wisc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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You should try Xac Anthony Salon in Chelsea!! Amazing Cuts and colorists and they are very friendly and affordable! I go and I've sent my friends and they ALL love it and are very happy!!! www.xacanthony.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.12.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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gosh you're one wicked spammer today [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.12.08, 08:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Any fireworks on the west side worth seeing?? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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I never think any fireworks are worth the hassle, but that's me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:51 PM Flag
[ - ] ok i'm not a mom yet but i'm engaged to a man with a toddler. But I've known the toddler since he found out he was going to be a father-- basically he slept with his ex while we were dating and ended up with a child. We stuck it out. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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he sounds like a real winner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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HA. Ok I f'd that one up! Sorry. Bottom line is I'm 25, he's 32. I've met someone else and we're engaged. Aside from the the slip up with his ex he is perfect and I'm cheating on him. We we need counseling and we're not even married yet. If he's perfect, should I stick it out? Or does the fact that I've already screwed up mean we're destined for failure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Neither one of you are perfect [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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if he were perfect you wouldn't have cheated on him. Your relationship sounds messed up on many levels, the first being that you sound young and immature and have no idea what you want/need...scary to think of you with the toddler. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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if this is real, i don't even know where to begin. it sounds like neither of you is really the committing type -- or not really willing to commit to one another. why bother being engaged and getting married? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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are you really going to engage this loser? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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Is there a reason for this post? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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yes thank you, neither one of us is perfect. I'm glad you see that. yes there is a reason for this post. I'm lost and scared. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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if you're having problems staying faithful before you're married, there is probably an issue there. Perhaps you're not really ready to commit or perhaps your not really ready to commit to him. I cheated on someone I was engaged to (not my DH) and it was my way of getting out of a relationship with someone I didn't really want to marry. It wasn't the best approach on my part - in the end, I just should have broken up with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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then there is your answer, you need to get out. There is no reason to be doing this at 25. Getting divorced sucks and is expensive, I seriously doubt you two are going to last long enough to make it worthwhile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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it's like she's begging us to flame her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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No one is perfect, you or him, and you are too young to get involved in that mess...my opinion only. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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