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[ - ] My nephew is a high functioning autistic 7 y/o child. H recently had an eeg which showed abnormalities in the lobes that govern speech, short term memory and grasp of certain concepts. My brother and his wife are going ahead with bio feedback. Has anyone any experience with this? tia! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 07.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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I think they call it neurofeedback now. My friend is bringing her son for treatment of ADHD. I was skeptical but a recent article in NY Times says that there may be some validity to this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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We used Play Attention with our adhd/language processing ds. He did it for a year. Definitely noticed improvements, but hard to say if it was Play Attention or a combination of things (SN school with therapies, etc.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.08, 07:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Etiquette question: invited to 4th of July Barbeque. Have already told one of dd's friends that she can go see fireworks and spend the night w/us. Do I a)RSVP no b/c I have an extra child with me; b) RSVP yes and ask if it's ok to bring the extra child or c) assume the hosts won't care about the extra child when I RSVP. We've been friends a while but this is the first time we've been invited to their house and I can't decide how to read this person. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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I'd call to say that you're having another child that night. If she responds, oh, the more the merrier .. . . it's okay. Otherwise, decline. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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good plan. can you call for me? : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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agree - ask to bring the other kid - they will Im sure say great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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RSVP no. Seems rude to your guest to drag her to someone else's party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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eh - she's 8. it's a pool party with a bunch of other families. my guest will not sweat it. i'm worried that the hostess may think it's one too many kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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would her parents be okay with it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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np: good question. They might not want her going to a pool party without them there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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I wouldn't allow my 8 year old to go someplace else on a sleepover like that. no way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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ITA. OP invited dd 's friend first. She should pass on the BBQ invite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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If I was throwing an outside party, I'd rather someone give me the option to come with an extra guest, rather than just saying now. It's not a formal dinner; it's a barbecue and I'd be happy to have another child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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check if OK with the hosts, then check with the parents. if either one says no, then that's your answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:10 PM Flag
[ - ] My right ankle is so swollen. I'm 34 weeks pg and it's been like this on and off for weeks, but today it's really bad. Got it propped up with ice...just complaining, no question. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.01.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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is your BP ok? Symptom of preeclampsia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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My blood pressure is fine, the first time I had this I was sent to the L&D ER to check for a clot that was at 24 weeks. Now it's on and off some days better than others, it's just a pain and looks silly...I basically can only wear flip flops to work these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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wow, 24 weeks is pretty early for swelling like that. I would press your dr. to make sure they tested for protein in your urine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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I went yesterday, she saw it, they take urine everytime, is that something that they test for each time, the protien? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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i had lymphatic drainage work done on my legs at my last prenatal massage and it really helped the foot swelling (also 34 weeks). But then I ate pizza and they swelled right back up. I know its obvious, but now the effects of sodium are really clear!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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i've had the same problem since 36 wks. my doc said it's just the weight of the baby pressing down on the lymphatic system to the right leg, since my bp and urine are both fine. she advised me to keep my feet up as much as possible and lie down on my left side for 15-20 minutes at least twice a day, which has helped a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:53 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you write in Spanish: "Can you please feed the cats this food before you leave today?" 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.01.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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That's so funny for so many reasons...see if you tube still has the Spanish for your Nanny video. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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It's for my housekeeper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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if no one responds, you can get it translated online at babelfish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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puede comer el gato hoy dia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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op: that means can you eat the cat! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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aw, you caught me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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np: LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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np: so were you asking for information or testing us? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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asking for info. I don't know the verb "to feed" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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dar de comer, alimentar [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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that's what the you tube video is like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Por favor, da la comida a los gatos antes de sale hoy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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np: on behalf of OP: thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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Ask your butler to find out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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por favor dele la comida a los gatos antes de irse - gracias [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Why are you suburban transplants so preoccupied in identifying differences between blacks and whites? I went to a predominantly black elementary and middle school, and a white HS. The truth is they were pretty much identical. There was a small group of talented students, a group of jokers/slackers, a small group of trouble makers, and the majority of kids were just average. Same experience. 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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Exactly, I never attended a black school, but this was my experience. I agree it's people who were raised in segregrated suburbs posting most of these silly topics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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ITA. It seems as if it never occured to these people that most people attend schools in close proximity to their homes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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ITA! We pick schools close to our home, but we assume they should do whatever it takes to go to schools far from theirs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Exactly, I'm with you. Though it isn't fair to put it all on the suburbanites, there's plenty of blame to go around. The faux-elite city-dwellers, the grim SOLs, the hopeless neurotics---all polarizing in their own way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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I understand it isn't fair to label. But, the city I was raised in had a different feel. Often, I feel similar to whenever I visited New England. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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what post is this referring to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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The one on this page, asking why so few blacks/hispanics test for G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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I guess I have more options clicked. I'll check the next few pages [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Did the schools you attended have kids from similar socio-economic backgrounds? To me, the difference lies there (and correlates to race only as socio-economic status correlates with race). Hyper-parenting is a pretty recent phenomenon, by the way. I doubt if many UB moms had that kind of upbringing, yet here we are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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No. My HS was wealthier than my elementary/middle school. But, my experience just wasn't that different. I mean style of dress, music, stupid generalizations, but the students were the same. As a matter of fact, I saw more agression and acts of violence in my HS, by far. The same with college, I attended Syracuse University. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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funny, i had the opposite experience. busing started when I was in MS. Got beat up twice in my new school that was 80% AA. several dfs got chunks of hair ripped from their heads just walking down the hall. lots of grabbing of our crotches and taunting. it was a nightmare. parents moved to a burb for HS years. mostly white, and clearly UMC nabe. no busing there. I did very well there and went on to Ivy. those years in that horrible school will be burned in my memory forever. you were lucky. many of us suffered greatly during those experimental years. media always showed the black kids not being welcomed into white schools, but I assure you it went both ways. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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I never said I wasn't welcomed in my HS. On the contrary, I was well liked, and very popular. Three of my best friends to this day are from HS. The acts of violence weren't directed towards me. They had nothing to do with race. I guess we went to school in different eras. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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I was just speaking about the fact that the idea that kids are kids is fine, but the busing years were full of other complicating tensions, and for some, it was a nightmare. On a brighter note, after 3 years of pure hell 9riots and other attacks), many of us crossed the barrier and became pretty good friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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But, your posts supports the belief that kids are kids. You said yourself that the black students, when they were the majority, were just as aggressive as white students in the same situation. So, I still don't really get your point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I have no experience with white kids being aggressive in this way. i just remember news reports on tv during those years showing scared balck dcs entering all white schools with fear on their faces. but the violence against white kids being sent out of district to mostly black nabes was never shown. I am not sure that its an issue of kids being kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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You don't have to experience to know that it happened. I also, have no experience with what you described, but I have to take your word for it. It was actually my experience that the white students in my elementary/middle schools integrated quite well, and the same with HS. Usually, the acts of violence were among members of the same race. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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NP: Interesting. I went to school in a mixed public system in the 60s/70s (Teaneck NJ, first town in the nation to do voluntary busing for integration). Black girls wanted to braid my hair, not rip it out. My first boyfriend was black, and black classmates gave him a hard time about being with me. My strongest memory is of an Albino girl who cornered me in 5th grade and asked if I thought she was white or black (I said her skin was white but she was black; I thought I would get beat up no matter what I said, but this seemed to satisfy her and her friends). I'm not sorry that I was part of the experiment, but I do wish we hadn't just been thrown in together without any guidance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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Your experience is similar to mine. I really don't buy the other posters story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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my story is absolutely true. I resent you denying my experience. Perhaps Detroit was a bit rowdier than Teaneck, but the story is real. You people just want to believe what you want to believe. anything that doesn't jibe with your world view gets rejected. oh well...could explain a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Perhaps Detroit was. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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I'm the Teaneck poster and I don't doubt your experience, although mine was different. It's ancient history now anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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I never really thought about it until now, but I do remember black girls fighting to sit behind me to braid my hair. I had no idea at the time that we were on the cutting edge. In retrospect, I wish we had some sort of help mixing. Our schools were very mixed, but most of us self-segragated, and as we got older, it was only the white and black stoners who crossed the race line and hung out together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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i'm not. it's never crossed my mind, frankly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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That's refreshing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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np--I think race and class are defining aspects of the United States. To say you have never considered thinking about something means, in my opinion, you are probably sitting on a lot of blind privilege. It's not refreshing to not think about race and class. It's ignorance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I think it's refreshing that she doesn't sit around contemplating the differences between the races. It doesn't mean she's indifferent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Just found out that we will be moving to manhattan this summer with our 5 yo ds (neighborhood TBD). Are there any private schools that may potentially have an open K spot? Are there any nursery-K programs? Or is finding a great public school our best bet? 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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try mandell if you dare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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If I dare? What do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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just opened, 1st class to start in the fall, and composed of those shutout from everywhere else. also, the preschool is freakishly rigid, especially for an uws school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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The kids they got were great. Four of dc's friends are going there. Smart, bright dc, with nice families. 3100 dc took the ERB for 2400. I really doubt they have spots either, but you never know - people move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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the 2 families I know there have sweet enough kids, but they bombed the various IQ tests. nothing wrong with that, but there you go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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mandell accepted high scoring dcs who were unlucky to get shutout. the preschool has an excellent reputation and phenomenal art work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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you sound like a lovely person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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no--there are two classes of 20, and only one is made up of kids who were originally shut-out. the school has been around 70 years, and I also only know of very bright (95+ ERBs) who are attending in the fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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keep on trying to build it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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No need to "build it up"--it's a great school, but yes, I will continue to defend it. You clearly have an axe to grind, and if you think your posts will somehow prevent the school from succeeding, you're delusional as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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Only DC I know going to Mandell for K next year is a smart kid, with a great, outgoing personality and lovely parents. It was a bad year for admissions, and they weren't connected/were unlucky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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there is nothing wrong with kids who were shut out anyway. My dc had a 96 erb and will be going to mandell. was shutout because it was a bad year esp for boys. no other reason. also, it is well known that Mandell is taking high scorers, not those who bombed the tests. or is clueless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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When is your ds's birthday? If he turns 6 next May or later he will be in a pre-K class. Mandell is an excellent option if they have any spots left. ( Don't listen to the crazy Mandell naysayers on UB.) Has ds taken the ERB test? (SATs for 4 year olds) I would get on that ASAP if you want a private K spot. If you are looking at Claremont, ask them how many K classes they have next year. i hear they accepted tons of kids and have 6-7 K classes whereas last year they had only 2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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np. Their bday cutoff is May? That's insane. Isn't that precisely the kind of stupidity that gets them a rep as a "freakishly rigid" school? To quote one of the posters from above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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I am not talking about Mandell-I am talking about private schools in NYC in general. Agree it is insane, but it is a fact an thought the OP may not realize it is very rare for a non-sibling non-legacy boy who has a summer birthday to get in to any private K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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Don't tell her that, because it depends on her dc. Many May, June and some July and occasionally August boys are deemed old enough to start K at five. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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Sorry I really disagree-that scenario is rare as hens teeth. Especially for a boy just moving to NYC-big transition + summer birthday? Why would a school risk it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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wow...rare as hens' teeth? never heard that before! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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I know plenty who were deemed old enough - she really needs to let the schools decide. She doesn't want to put her dc in PreK and then have schools say that ds is too old for K next year and that they have no spots for 1st. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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np. ITA. It's not as rare as the poster claims, and it's a bad idea to make assumptions about what the schools want. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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Without naming names (because those of you who know who this is will be able to guess from my post), there is a child going next year who is the daughter of a successful NY Theatre Director and a TV Actor and the grandchild of a legendary Broadway Director. Very rich, connected, successful and cultured people and they chose Mandall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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^^^^sorry typo. Madell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Please don't try to raise the reputation of a school by naming (or referring to) a famous family that sends their child there. It's not fair to the child. Also, every private school in NYC has somebody famous associated with them. Most of us resist the temptation to name them. It makes you and your school look bad if you do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Hey I don't even go there! (Or rather, my kids don't). i was just responding to the "shut out" theory above. this family CHOSE Mandell out of a lot of choices. They were not shut outs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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You have no idea how much of a choice they had. Rich, connected, successful and cultured people are a dime a dozen in NYC. Too many for all of them to be able to choose where they send their dc to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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Call Alexander Robertson on Central APrk West. K-5 and they'll likely have spots and it doesn't cost 30K! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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They had a huge wait list this year, but you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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try Claremont Prep. it's downtown, is still fairly new. i've heard good things about it through my dd's preschool director, and i think they might still be accepting for K. they have a really nice building. close to wall st. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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join the Parents League, they'll know of any openings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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sadly they are closed until Sept! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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no they will take calls regarding summer placements. I did it last year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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British International School [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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it does happen. unfortunately the parent's league, which is like a clearning house for all the schools, is closed for the summer. They keep track of openings like this. But I would call all the schools and ask. Also, your child will need to take the ERB to be considered, so call the ERB office ASAP and get a test scheduled. ANd certainly move to a neighborhood with a great public in case nothing else works out. Oh, also, call the DOE and have your child tested for a G&T program. This year they did the process different and didn't have wait lists. They said any spots that open b/c people turn down a spot will go to kids moving to the city over the summer, so that may be your best bet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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Thank you, I had no idea I could still do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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not entirely true - np here - i had conversations with the parents league last july when we were moving...call them.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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Unlike Parents League (which charges $s and is not always helpful, let alone over the summer when those wealthy ladies are generally away at the hamptons and/or litchfied cty and not available over the summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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you won't have a problem at all. just call around -- someone will have a spot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Caedmon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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Caedmon, Manhattan Country, and Mandell are all full (I called all three myself). If you or DH are Italian, I'd check out La Scuola on the UES. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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Try again later in the summer...With the market the way it is, there will be attrition at all these schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Please! No more transplants! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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You can try IDEAL. It's somewhat new, going into its third year. My dc goes there. It's small, but lovely. An inclusion school, so all kinds of kids of different abilities, much like publics. very low key, but tons of individualized attention. they have a preK, too. and no ERBS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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try corlears [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:43 PM Flag
[ - ] best gift for a 3 yo boy - balance bike or scooter? or both? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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DD is 2.5 and loves her scooter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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definitely scooter. if you go with the "younger kid" kind, the one with 2 wheels in fromt (rather than back) is better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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our 3 yo boy loves both -- but lately he's all about the balance bike. WITH A HELMET!!! He's a speed demon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a toddler boy and a kindergarten girl. Until what age can I let them shower together, get dressed together, etc? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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This is an us american "problem". In Sweden whole families go to the sauna together and don't feel uncomfortable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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Good for Sweden. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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well, i certainly don't feel uncomfortable now. they're just little kids and all their interaction and behavior is tottally darling and age-appropriate. i was just wondering when that should/will end. pre-teen? younger? that's all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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I hate when people respond with some half assed Euro answer. In America, boys and girls take separate baths around 4 or 5 maybe 6. You can let them shower until any age, they will let you know when they feel uncomfortable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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Why such harsh language? The OR wasn't insulting, but you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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What part was harsh? The reponder was posting that this was an American "problem", it's not a problem...just different than Sweden. Can you imagine if she said this was a Jewish problem or a black problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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the or used " " and did not use words like HATE and HALF ASSED [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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That's harsh? Wow! Sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Accepted! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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It's still shouldn't be called a problem, just a culture difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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I agree, would have been a better choice of words. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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what on earth is the difference btwn letting them take a bath together vs. a shower? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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I just used bath because I think most people are afraid to have two kids in a slippery shower with soap so they throw them in the tub for a bath. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Is there an official book saying that in America, a boy and a girl are only supposed to take a bath together until they are about 4 or 5 maybe 6. Are there studies that break it down for Native Americans, Hispanics, African-Americans, Caucasians...? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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Did you read the posts or are you too disturbed by "half assed". What ever age you think is appropriate is fine, kids learn in school that there are separate bathrooms, that's all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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America is diverse. I think there isn't "the America". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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np: boys start to become sexually aware pretty early, around 4, I think. Don't know if that makes a difference. Just pointing it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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I don't know of any families that "Suana" together. Who has a sauna? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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You don't have a suana? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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in new york we have a very stinky citywide sauna all of august [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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i have 8 yo dd and 5 yo ds and they still occasionally bathe together (bath or shower). it's no big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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Mine are 6 & 2 and still bathe together sometimes, and are occasionally naked around each other (when getting dressed). It's not a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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The poster is asking what is appropriate...none of it's a big deal, but she is asking waht age should she stop putting them together. Most people here think they should shower together until they go way to college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Then I would say until one of them is uncomfortable with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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bingo. when one of them says they want to bathe alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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Thank God! A Break Through! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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ok - sounds good! thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Why is it that so many of you suburban transplants are so preoccupied with stating differences between blacks and whites? I went to a school that was predominantly black and my HS was predominantly white. The truth is my experience was identical. There was a small group of talented students, a group of harmless jokers/slackers, trouble makers, and the majority average. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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i personally find that to be the case everywhere - groups of like-minded students (ambitious, slackers, socials, whatever) hang together, no matter the socio-eco environment. i believe the only real problems arise when a school is so overwhelmed with underperforming students that they lack the resources to allow the brighter kids to flourish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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lol - you're a card. "You suburban transplants" you say and then you go on to ask about why "they" ascribe traits to blacks and whites. I say - pot, are you calling the kettle... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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np; chill on OP..she's right. Many transplants have issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 03:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Is this too girly for a 5 yr old ds - in red dots or red with white dots. His quilt is navy blue space theme. He loves it BTW, wondering what his friend swill say when he's 6??????? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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http://www.garnethill.com/jump.jsp?itemID=7398&itemType=PRODUCT&path=1%2C2%2C2773%2C5857%2C5861&iProductID=7398 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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We have the orange dot as a dust ruffle for ds's room and the orange dot towels in shared bathroom. I think it's totally cute. DS is 6 and has never had an issue with it--friends coming over haven't said anything either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] since birth, db has always favored turning his head to the right when he sleeps. it's not slightly flat. fixable? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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^^^ correction, NOW slightly flat - he is three months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] 11 yr olds still into hello kitty? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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i'd say no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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i just asked my 11 y.o. she said one girl in her class likes it, and so does my dd, but most are not into it any more. (then my 7 y.o. chimed in that she loves hello kitty, but that's besides the point!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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so cute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] What's up with the UB post refresh, it looks like posts from the last few days are mixed in with new ones. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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Is sort by "recency" checked? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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thanks I'll look [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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should I check box? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Yes, then update filters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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thank you very much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] DS and a friend (age 9) got stuck in the elevator tonight, between floors. The fire fighters came and couldn't open the door; eventually the elevator guy came and was able to open it, and the kids were able to jump down. Now ds is very excited that he has an "adventure" to tell everyone at camp. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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brave little guy! was it just the 2 kids in the elevator? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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yup, just the two of them. We were able to talk to them through the door. they were in there for about an hour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Wow - glad they took it so well! My ds would've FREAKED! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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That happened to my brother & me at Disney World when I was about that age. It was very exciting. How long were they in there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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why are 9 yos riding in an elevator by themselves? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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Because they're 9. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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A friend of mine the other day said it was illegal to let kids under 10 to ride in the elevator by themselves, in case they get stuck. Seems odd to me. Until she said that, I wouldn't have thought twice about letting my 5yo ride our very slow elevator in our small building down while I walked. (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Interesting. Wonder if it's true. The fire fighters didn't say anything to me about this. The kids were taking out recycling, which they've done for several years. Never seemed like a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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np: people are constantly trying to tell me that letting your dcs do things alone is "illegal" and that's simply not true. for example - it is NOT illegal to leave a 12 yo home alone for 5 minutes while you walk the dog or run to the store to pick up milk. it's not illegal to do that with a 9yo either. it may not be a good idea, it may be outside a parent's comfort zone, but it's not a crime. CPS is not going to get called about this. they are busy dealing with the family with the 9 yo who is responsible for caring for his 7yo, 5o, 4yo and 18 month old siblings all night every night while his single mother works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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actually, 13 is the age in nyc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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nP" sorry but that's nuts. I wouldn't let a small dc ride alone in an elevator. I guess you didn't grow up in a large city where you have seen anything could happen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 04:01 AM Flag
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not np - did grow up in this city and 9yrs old is old enough to give small responsibilities to that encourage independenec, not saying let the kid ride bus or subway to school alone (that wasn't til I was 13 or 14) but seriously STOP coddling your kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 04:50 AM Flag
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Agree, Nine is not a small child. Elevator in their own building is fine. I wouldn't leave them alone and leave the building myself but in your own building when you're home is fine especially with cell phones. I was recently shocked to fine out most middle schoolers have to leave school for lunch. We'll have to prepare for that one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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What if a strange delivery guy grabbed them or threatened them or flashed them while they were alone in that elevator? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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Well one, we have cameras in our elevators and a doorman who monitors them but also two, as much as I would love to I can't control everything and I have to accept that. While I feel I had too much freedom as a child I feel badly that we monitor our kids every minute, I can't help worrying that they're losing the ability to deal with life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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NP here. My only concern would be what happened which is why I wouldn't let them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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I must admit that if I leave my nine year old to go to the mail box etc I take my cell. I don't worry about sending her to get the mail in our building because again we have cameras etc and a door man. If she got stuck in the elevator she knows to ring the bell etc. I'm trying to give her more independence where I can. I don't want her to end up like several older kids I know who are unable to go to college etc because they're scared to leave their parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 06:20 AM Flag
[ - ] every month? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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no, just when you feel like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Any dentists or orthodontists on? I want to close the space between my two front teeth and my dentist suggests wearing rubber bands around front teeth and then bonding. Any thoughts? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Madonna, is that you? sounds little rinkydink to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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are you a dentist or just a smartass? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] i'm still nursing my 10 month old - wasn't expecting to get my period until i stopped. but i have it very light now. is that possible? i did some hard-core pilates last night - could that have triggered something? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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I got my period at 4mos even though I was ebfing, so yeah, it's possible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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You're most likely not nursing as much as you were since your child is getting solids as well. I also got my period when ds was 10 months, because I was only nursing 4 times/day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] is a 5 year old who weighs 32 lbs and is 40 inches in a car seat still or ok in a booster? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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car seat. for booster should be at least 4yo/40inches/40lbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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some boosters are ok for 30 lbs and up. I just put my 4yo in the graco booster that has a back. he's a little under 4 lbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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yes, the CarGo high back, 5 pt harness booster is ok, but need to use the harness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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my kid will be this and will be in a car seat. just got her the sunshine kids radian 80. bit more mature looking than a marathon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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op: i should clrify this is my cousin's daughter visiting for 6 weeks. should i loan her a spare car seat or purchase a booster for her...which i will eventually need [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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then whatever your cousin would prefer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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That's one skinny 5yo. My skinny ds weighed around 40 pounds at 40 inches. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.01.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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my 5yo is 36lbs and 43 inch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.15.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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