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[ - ] Help-today i got so frustrated with my 6 year old for not listening in smacked him (not hard) in the head with my hand--like bonked his forehead. I accidentally grazed right above his eye where it's quite sensitive. I feel awful. I apologized with him for doing this, and he said "nobody's perfect mom", but I feel so awful. I probably get this upset like 3-4 times a month. I am stopping lexapro, which I took due to anger/depression issues and I feel so much better, but occasionally these "sparks" of anger return, and very suddenly. Any advice? Signed, feeling guilty and sad. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.06.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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talk therapy honey. it works wonders. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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cant' afford it, though i've done it in the past and thought it was okay. not great, but okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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you need to find the right person and many people will do sliding scale fees [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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I don't know what to say, I'm not totally opposed to a smack on the butt, when my child does something like runs out into the middle of the street, but smacking in the face is just a loss of control, and I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but it's serious, my mother had that uncontrolled spastic anger and it was really so degrading. Get some thearapy, parenting is stressful and we all make mistakes, but it sounds like you may need a little help, or a switch in meds. Good Luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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Wow. You know, that is great for you but have to say smacking lightly on the head is hardly uncontrolled anger. She isn't whipping him with a belt because he spilled juice... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Well, in my experience, the slap on the face, when your frustrated at your kid is not discipline but abuse. Is it the worse thing that she lost control, no, it happens, but SHE is saying that she acidentally grazed his eye, and that kind of loss of control happens 3-4 times a month. I don't think I flamed, she asked for advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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Smacking your kid in the face is ok? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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it wasn't a smack, i bonked him, not very hard, on the forehead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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np - If my child is particularly sassy - I pop his mouth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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you sound like me... ds is 2 1/2. i stopped zoloft 6 mos ago and had a tough time dealing with normal toddler behavior and would get soooo upset the few times i gave ds a little smack on the hand for hitting, etc. i am much better now. i think it just took time to learn how to cope without the meds. i never did get around to theray, but i do think it would have helped. also- the whole guilt thing afterwards made things worse. dont be so hard on yourself. nobody is perfect. just try to practice patience... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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thanks (op here). I am working really hard on the anger thing, and it's getting better. I have affirmations posted around the house, i try and meditate, i exercise. But the "spastic" anger, as the poster above noted, is stil lthere. Talk therapy doesn't REALLY work for me--I've been in therapy in the past for a stretch of 7 years, and really, I was still pissed. I am reading about anger addiciton (not that I get angry that often, but I can relate to feeling out of control) and the literature states that you have to treat anger as an addiction, full stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Sorry: I really didnt mean to make you feel worse I posted about (Spastic Anger), I know how bad my mom felt when she lost control, then I'd try to make her feel better because I knew she felt so bad. She would end up throwing things at us and doing things that she really had no control over. I swear if she was medicated she would have been fine, I think it was totally chemical and hormonal. But it did get worse as the years went buy...and when we were teenagers it was crazy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone feel bad for people who can't afford private school, like kids of NYC cops, firemen, bartenders, actors...? I remember when I was engaged to a very wealthy man, and I came from the above class (blue collar), anyway, I remember feeling guilty about flying first class! I'm not saying I like being blue collar again, but I don't miss the guilt. 105 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.06.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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there are plenty of good public schools and who says that they really desire privates? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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np: As a teacher, I can't afford to live in a good zone, but everything will work out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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teacher, where? manhattan or outerboro? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Manhattan...District 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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NNP: Then move. I'm also a teacher. I can't afford district 3, but I'm in a good zone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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nnnp: then move is easier said than done. PPL please realize this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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I would think that everyone would want their kid to have the best education, I think anyone with the means would send their kids to Private, at least in NYC. I know that is not my situation, unless my child turns out to be some kind of talented genius, but if I could afford to, of course I would. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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if your dc gets in, a big if these days, and you have enough money not to make it a huge stretch. Which eliminates most of the population [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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private isn't for everyone. some people prefer to leave the city and do public elsewhere. private isn't the end all be all for many people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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np: that's us. grew up going to private, don't want it for the kids, and settled in a good public district outside the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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I went to both public and private schools. While my private school education was better it was very ugly in many other ways. Happy to have my kids in a good city public but I wish we didn't have to deal with the doe's whims. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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I don't. People make their choices and can afford what they can afford. Life isn't equal or fair and we just have to live with that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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OP: So no guilt for you! Good, it's wasted energy anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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Why on earth would anyone feel quilty about flying first class? I love getting upgraded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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Separate but equal sound familiar. We shouldn't feel like it is okay and just live with it. Quality education should be a right, not a privilege. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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np: But what does that mean? Equal quality on education? That a public school in rural Alaska, a public school in NYC, a private school in Boston, and a Yeshiva in NJ should all offer essentially the same education? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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Quality yes. They should all teach the same fundamental skills well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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^^^separate but equal refers to education under segregation which is kind of what it sounds like you think should be the norm. Separate but equal was not equal and was ruled against. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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I'm not stupid. I'm familiar with the Brown case. I'm also familiar with the many rulings in which the supreme court has upheld limiting a child's access to public education according to districts/zoning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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I'm not saying that kids shouldn't go to school in their zones. The schools need to be fixed. There are plenty of models of successful schools in poor zones. There aren't enough of them, however. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Does that mean that we should ship excellent teachers off to school districts based on the notion of uniform quality of teaching? Or should we let the top teachers apply for jobs where they want to work? Obviously, it is the later. Which puts the children in some parts of the country at a huge disadvantage. Not many people dream of teaching in Buffalo County, South Dakota. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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I grew up in the middle of nowhere and got a quality education, so your conclusion is wrong. Just dismissing the problems we have as a fact of life is not acceptable. We need to make quality education for all children. It is not always about the teacher. Frequently it is about the administration, community, etc. I am more troubled by your blanket dismissal of it as a fact of life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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You can't have quality education when you have so many families that can't be bothered to even bring dcs to school on time and fed breakfast, help with homework, or show up at conferences. It's a huge uphill battle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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That is what I said. It isn't always about the quality teachers, but a community problem as well. There is a whole part of this that everyone is overlooking, educating the adults as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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You know, there are plenty of opportunities out there for adults to educate themselves. The school system nor the government cannot force adults to raise their standards for educating their own kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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Not really. They are too busy working and can't miss work for fear of being fired and not earning money. The hours for classes aren't always worker friendly. Some parents have 2 job. , etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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Yeah, and what is the government going do about that? And why focus on these people rather than the slacker parents who let kids play video games and watch TV all day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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The parents that have two jobs actually often make sure the kids do well in school, especially the immigrant ones. It's the underemployed or unemployed ones that could not care less by and large. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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I also grew up in the middle of nowhere. I had to fly to school everyday. To suggest that I was supposed to have the same quality education as other children is absurd. How could we have an art or a music program? Or foreign language? They had a hard enough time finding teachers who would fly in to teach math, science, english and history. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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No, we had music and foreign language. Coaches taught science... That was a bit of a problem, but the english program was amazing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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So should we have eliminated your music and foreign language programs because my school couldn't find teachers for these subjects? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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The teachers that flew in and you did too. Maybe cut the flights out, silly. Carpool or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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There were no roads. How were we supposed to carpool? They constantly had a hard time recruiting and retaining students. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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I have lived in latin america with no transport, and you walk;) There are really no active posts on this board anymore. Have a nice evening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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I grew up in Alaska. The distance to school was often way to far to walk (and there were few roads) and ATVs were considered too dangerous for children. So airplanes it was. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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np: Maybe the teachers that flew in weren't qualified to teach music or foreign language. How can a math teacher with no knowledge, training, or certification in music teach music? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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I bet they have some good teachers there. Just about every school has some really good teachers and some crappy ones too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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But how do you achieve teaching the skills well across all schools and districts? Some schools have huge tax bases, some have tiny ones. Some districts can attract top talent from the best pedagogy programs, some can't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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Uniform funding for schools. Why should poor districts that need the most help get the least amount of money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Actually, poor districts do get more money, there is special money for SN students, ESL students, free lunch students etc. But if they don't get any support at home it's still not enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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These students need more resources. You are preaching to the choir with the lack of home support. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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Poor districts get more more from the federal government. They have less money for extracurriculars and non-core subjects. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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It's kind of silly to spend money on non-core subjects if the kids can't read and do simple math. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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Why? If the kids need extended time to learn reading and math, taking away art, music, etc. while they are learning won't speed things up. Although it may deprive them of some context for their lessons [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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then you'd have to go with the 9-5 every day plus Saturday schedule. Which a few schools have but can be totally grueling for many kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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OR oh for petes sake. Who said anything about that? I'm saying life isn't fair. I work hard btu not as hard as some people. I was born with some advantages but some disadvantages. Whatever. I don't feel guilty about what I have b/c I worked for it. I also know why I'm not rich. I don't want to work that hard or long. that's all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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So true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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If everyone actually had unlimited choice, maybe. I don't think all NYC cops had a choice between that and being an investment banker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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that's why I said life isn't fair. We all start off different. We all end up different. luck is a factor but in this country, most of where we end up is due to our own choices and how hard we want to work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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That is actually very far from true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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no. it is very true. Yes - luck of what family and staus you are born into has an effect. Yes - tragedy etc happens randomly. Aside from that, it's all about how hard and how smart you work. Did you pay attention in school and go to college or did you hang out do drugs and get pregnant at 16? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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It is not true, but keep telling yourself that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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so tell me where I'm going wrong in my thinking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Read some history books. The people who work their way out of poverty are the exception, not the rule. You may work very hard and be very smart, but never have any opportunities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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actually, I recently saw stats from the US treasury dept that were pretty much the opposite of that. It showed that most people who were in poverty the year they started the study had moved up to middle class in 10 years time. Wish I still had the link, my computer crashed and I lost all my faves. I''l have to try to find that again. Very interesting and goes against popular thought (like yours) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Again, read some history books and look at how the government measures poverty. Go research impoverished American, don't rely on one gov't stat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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LOL! You send me to the gov't and then tell me not tp pay attention to the gov't? You are making no sense. I'm not saying it's easy but it does happen and much more than most people think. I have read plenty of history thanks and am pretty familiar with our country. Hard work and working smart will get anybody somewhere. That doesn't mean it will always make you rich, but it will nearly always make your situation better. Why so pessimistic? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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You are right! The way the gov sets the poverty limits doesn't give an accurate picture. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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It is not "about how hard you work and how smart you are!" Poverty, lack of parent's education, lack of parental support, dysfunctional families stir many smart kids in the direction of dismissing education early on! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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I didn't say "how smart you are" I said how smart you work - meaning, you take whatever job us around, you learn to do it well and you move up or find something better. You don't slack off, you don't do stupid things like get pregnant young or get addicted to soemthing. I said that the luck of the draw does have an effect. Of course it does. But it doesn't mean you have no hope. Plenty of people move up out of poverty every day - mostly through hard work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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47 million uninsured can slide into poverty any given day due to an illness, they have no control about; they can work hard, smart, but it won't help! Read "Nickel and Dimed" by Barbara Ehrenreich [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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and I gave exceptions for luck. ok? No one seems to want to hear that. Yes - luck plays a part. I was lucky to be born into a middle class family that values education. I haven't always worked hard or smart and that is why I don't have a huge house or large HHI etc. I have several friends who have through their own efforts, raised their standard of living - purly through hard work and a little luck (getting accepted to a good school, no major health issues, being in the right place at the right time etc). I refuse to belittle their acconmplishments by saying it's all luck. A huge part of it is hard work. period [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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You certainly worked hard! But many people do but NEVER make it. Period! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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np: Some do but many never try which is the main problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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that is not true at all! That is what many people wish the US were... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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how is it not true? Given the exceptions I listed above, it is very much true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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It is your choice to be ignorant about the causes of poverty, lack of education... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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sigh. You don't read well do you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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sigh! You don't think well, do you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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LOL! You are funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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You are welcome! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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the American myth: Live is what you make it? Tell that the kids who go hungry during the summer because their parents can't figure out where to get free meals during the summer break [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I am a cop, went to college, I could have chosen any profession, I chose Law Enforcement. My kids will go to public school or Catholic school, I have to live within the city limits. I'm glad I do what I do, and hopefully my kids will marry into money...A mom can dream! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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np and I thank you for what you do! You sound like you have a great attitude and I'm sure you don't want anyone's pity about where your kids go to school etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Right on. I don't get the posts that suggests that if one were "smart" they'd go into finance. We need police, teachers, and other professionals who run our cities. Our culture couldn't function if everyone was a banker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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You don't loose sleep over the social inequalities. Good for you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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Why should "we just have to live with that"? What about fighting for better health care/insurance, more reasonable drug laws (less prison time for users), universal Pre-K and so on! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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feel bad for the majority of the population? no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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They live in outer boroughs which believe it or not have some decent schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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Yes, my trouble living in district 6 is that there are no good middle schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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I don't feel bad for them. I grew up with very little money, and that was no reason to pity me. It would be better if there was a more even, uniform approach to public education in NYC with higher standards across the board. But I would want that for everyone, not only the middle class, working class, and poor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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i don't feel guilty about material things, but I do feel guilty about things like the injustices that often accompany poverty (like hunger among young children or poor medical care, etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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I grew up on Staten Island, home of many a NYC blue collar worker. Most of the ones I know (and I know plenty) send their dcs to parochial schools, and while it's a sacrifice for them, they live like regular middle class folks and pretty nice lives. Most of the regular people in this city know how to work out a nice life for themselves and their families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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blue collar workers are not the only ones who can't afford private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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Well, I did not know how to phrase it, I don't know what the income level is that is the cut off of too expensive to afford private schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Are you asking if the top 1% pities the rest of the population? No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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and you know a lot of them? BTW - I don't think that is what OP meant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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There are a million children in public school in NYC. I highly doubt they are the subject of mass pity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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LOL! I meant the top 1%/ How many of them do you know? And all she said was those of us who were not blue collar. That does not imply top 1% to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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Given the socio-economic dynamic of NYC, you would have to be in the top 1% to afford private school (without FA). NYC has a huge number of families with very very low HHI. What many on this board consider middle class (100K, 200K, etc) is already in the top 5%. And you would have a hard time sending a child to private school on that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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And most of them never even think about private schools, either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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OP: I didn't really mean do you "pity" these poor kids, I just meant do you ever feel a little guilty, that's all, I expected no response, it was supposed to be a light Post...I never imagined this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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No, we couldn't afford private school, don't think about it, but I'm laughing at you, so thanks for the chuckle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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Why are you laughing at me? In a nasty way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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I don't know. All the firemen I know make over $100K a year, since they're more than five years in and have plenty of time off to have a second career. Since their schedules are so flexible, most I know also don't pay for any daycare. They're also always the coaches for their kids' teams. And many even send their kids to parochial schools. And they'll retire in their early 40s with full pension and benefits for their family. Is that sad? You tell me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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^^^must be the wife of a cop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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sister of a happy fireman! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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firemen have a great life...except for that whole "running into burning buildings" thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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they have a dangerous job, sure, esp depending on where they work in the city. but they'll tell you themselves: it's the greatest job you'll ever have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I know lots of fireman. They all love their jobs. But, yes, it is dangerous. Read a stat once that firemen suffer more fatalities than any other profession in the US. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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I think 9/11 sadly tipped those stats. And firefighters in the US, if you're including firefighters who fight wildfires, yes, that's extremely dangerous. But NYFD really isn't suffering fatalities on a large scale when you consider the size of the dept. and the city, thank God [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I know children with parents from two of those those backgrounds in private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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Do you feel guilty for marrying money? Maybe you should donate it. Create a fund to pay private school tuition for "blue collar" children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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blue collar mom here. The ppl who can't outright afford Private school tuitions are perfect for the FA the schools offer. You just need to apply [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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I would say no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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I am taking it while PG, my Dr. said it was okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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^^^but aren't you afraid of not waking up in the night when db cries? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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I did a few times, was never afraid of not waking up if db cries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else tired of listening to friends who jump the moment their dc demands something complain about how hard having dcs are and want to stop them and scream' Just say NO to them once - JUST ONCE!' 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.06.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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How about just ignoring them....I try not to even respond when I feel like they are talking too much or out of turn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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no my friends kids don't behave that way. we have taken the time to teach our children to behave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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uggg, that's my aunt. She has a 5yo and 8yo and I can't handle being around them at all. I'm really close w/ my aunt, but her kids are a nightmare. She has actually told me that she will never correct the kids around other people because she thinks it's embarrassing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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Have a friend like that, her dcs are impossible, cannot handle being with them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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She's in another state, it's gotten to the point that a bunch of us try to schedule a girl's weekend so that we don't have to visit with her dcs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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Yeah. On the street and in a restaurant and in most places where over indulged, entitled and priviledged kids roam this city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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I don't know where they have all come from. It is not a NYC thing, dcs were not like this not this bad back in the day, it must be a national trend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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parents are not bothering to discipline their dcs nearly as much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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It makes dinner out a nightmare IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I actually think that this is a pretty common American trait dating back at least two generations. By and large, the parents who don't discipline were not disciplined themselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] 21mo ds diagnosed with chicken allergy (among others)- real bummer b/c his diet is so limited already & homemade chicken nuggets were a staple. Any suggestions for what else a picky 21mo might eat for protein/iron? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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cottage cheese is loaded with protein. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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cheese and yogurt for the protein [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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yogurt, raisins, cheerios [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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fish nuggets? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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veggie nuggets [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] can anyone recommend a good accupuncturist in nj/nyc area? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Dr. Saltzman she's a MD who does accupunture and takes insurance in midtown [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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what street? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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49th i think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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could be 47th [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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My sister is an acupuncturist (living in Denver) and she recommends Jennifer Gibbons, who runs a community style acupuncture clinic at 1017 6th Ave., 3rd Fl. Phone # is 212-380-1709. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] my ds will turn 3 in oct. he wakes up from his nap or often in the morning and cries for more than half an hour. nothing settles him down, picking him up, putting him down, he seems to have tantrums all the time and really terrible ones. my parents and sister think he is not normal. i think he is difficult but not sure whether we have serious behavioral issues brewing or not. he doesnt really participate in group classes, is very shy. im a little worried about him in general but i know the son of at least one of my friends was like this (terrible tantrums). 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.06.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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no big deal, he will drop his nap this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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my ds was like that too...it was sooo hard to deal with. He woke up screaming every morning and after every nap. He is 7 now and perfectly fine but those were some dark years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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when does he tantrum is waking up his only trigger or does he had trouble making all transitions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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i guess he has trouble with a lot of transitions. often in classes, by the time he is warming up the class is ending [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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i would keep an eye on it probaly normal- but if it doesn't start to get better he might need a little help maybe he has sensory over load and needs help coping [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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what does your ped say? sounds like it's worth looking into at the very least to ease your mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Longest dry spell of no sex with dh? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.06.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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This is the only poll on UB I will ever win (sigh): 2 long dry spells -- both 21 mos long, each time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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Why so long? What is going on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Erectile dysfunction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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that's tough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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doesn't Viagra, Cialis, etc. help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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So far 2 months. Just no interest on both of our parts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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6 weeks (after childbirth waiting for ok from OB) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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We have sex 2-3 per year since pretty much the duration of our marriage (7 years). I would have sex every day if I had my way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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wow... how do you survive that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Here is my strategy: antidepressants (to cheer me up and kill sex drive) and a vibrator. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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that is kind of sad. you're ok with this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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5months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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dont know if it counts but 18 months bc of maritl problems and then a separation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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I sm so sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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we are back together now - all sorts of reasons led to our sexless year and a half [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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7 mos after db was born. we became extremely close during this time though. just no sex. go figure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:44 PM Flag
[ - ] at what age should ds start going to school? i know a lot of people do pre-school but when does that start? what do i need to do to start the process? i live in nyc and i know its competitive. thanks. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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preschool typically starts at 3. when is your dc's bday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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My dd will be going this year at 3. Then the program does a pre-K program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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dont some people start at 2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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yes. Some places have a 2s program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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np: we started at 2, but we are not NYC and it's a co-op, so different thing I think. But some kids are fine at 2--my youngest definitely in that camp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] OK, honest answers please. Is "everyone" prepping their children for the OLSAT? I am not a prepper kind of parent, but we NEED a good public option, and I want dc to have as equal a playing field as possible. Does it really seem like everyone is doing advance prep for the OLSAT or can we just do it normally? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.06.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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We got our first choice placement; no prep other than doing the sample test DOE provided. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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I like you. np btw. I'm trying to stay 'normal' in all this and am glad to know other parents have done the same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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Same here. Only did sample test 1 time about 2 weeks before the test. ITA with responder below about just normal every day parenting will be enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Same here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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we got our first choice as well, and didn't even do the sample test as for some reason we never received it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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I have NO idea what the OLSAT is or what is on it, so I am not prepping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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No prep. If your kid is "right" for g&T, then all of the normal every day "teaching" that you do as parents will be enough. if you prep and your kid isn;t really ready for g&T, it is just a disservice to your kid. Best of luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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what is the OLSAT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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we did nothing, other than the sample test twice (and on the 2nd time dc balked saying it was too easy because he had done it already). Got 99 and fc. this is an honest answer, btw. I think some kids could benefit, and some either don't need prep, would be confused or turned off by it or won't cooperate. so I guess the answer is, it depends on your dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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LOL. Our playground is more than enough prep for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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I am prepping now, db still in the womb [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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you mean like taking OLSAT prep classes or purchase the prep kit from the Internet? Hell, no. Practicing the format of the test using the provided sample? Of course. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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When you sign up for the test they give you a practice test to do at home with your kid. If you don't do it you are a fool. A lazy fool. If you do it and discover that your kid doens't understand a basic test concept, then you are stupid if you don't spend a day or two trying to teach him/her this concept that he/she is probably totally ready to grasp just hasn't been exposed yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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I guess many posting here did not find that their kids needed further teaching once they did the practice test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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I couldn't agree more. I did that and dc did well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 04:11 AM Flag
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Makes sense. The thing, though, is that the sample has nothing much in common with the real OLSAT except for the format. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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np: I think the sample was harder than the real test. Out of 20 questions in the sample, my dc got 4 wrong. Surprisingly, she did much better on the actual test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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We didn't prep at all, for any of the tests. DC did very well. I don't doubt a lot of people prep, but I don't think it's as rampant as you fear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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We did prep and it worked out very well. It does not hurt to prep, does it? GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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My best advice: make peace NOW with the fact that testing 4 yr olds is inherently arbitrary. It might work out well for your dc, and it might fail miserably. You can prep until the cows come home, and your kid could still bomb the test for reasons wholly outside your control. Remember also that the G&T test really has nothing to do with your dc's ability to succeed in school. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be in the long run. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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There's prepping and there's prepping. Yes, you should certainly do the sample test. Probably twice -- three weeks before and maybe once more closer to the test. But I see nothing wrong with doing fun workbooks or Brain Quest cards to give your child a chance to get familiar with some concepts he/she may not have encountered before, like sequencing or differences. So many schools these days are progressive and they don't teach any of this stuff. It falls on you. Other things to know for the BRSA -- does your child know all his or her shapes? Mine didn't. I didn't know that. How silly not so show him or her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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I'm prepping. Got stuff from the internet. I don't think my child is naturally brilliant, but whatever advantage I can give her is great. Our local school really sucks. And I don't even know where to move now, because it seems that all the good schools will be rezoned in the next year. G&T is my only hope at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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Are you in D2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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OP: No, I'm in Brooklyn. And NOT in district 15. And all of our schools are bad, so citywide is our only option, otherwise we are moving to suburbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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Repeat after me. The purpose of a G&T school is NOT to avoid your zoned school. I though the current changes made that very clear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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do it normally. Just do the usual stuff you would do anyway: puzzles, read to dc, block building, maze games, stuff like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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I, personally, think that most of the above posters are lying to get an advantage for their dds (so that other kids would do worse). Why wouldn't you prep??? If you have time - of course! But, of course, I could be wrong, and everyone's kids are just naturally 99.5 brilliant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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yes, you should prep for the OLSAT if you want to give your dc the best opportunity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Hate my SIL. She used to weight 80 lbs more and is now slender. All she talks about is food and exercise. I don't like being around her. I need to lose at least 20lbs and I feel like shit around her. Ugh. I hate past-fatties. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.06.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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turn it around, and use her to help you reach your own goals... what did she do that might work for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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Nah, Atkins, Stackers...all unhealthy things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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join the club, lose the weight too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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You're so right. Just can't seem to commit to it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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I hate these self righteous posters above who sound like bad infomercials. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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pfffft [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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OP: Not self righteous. She makes it sound like she found the cure for cancer. She has not become judgmental since she is no longer fat. Why does this make me the bad guy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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^^^now become ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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It's funny how people like "fat people" to stay fat. There's something threatening for some about when a fat person becomes thin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Nope not threatening. Just obnxious when they judge other fatties. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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word [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Yes, that would be obnoxious. But her change seems to make you uncomfortable with yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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NP: oh please don't turn this into a, "your secretly yearning to be just like her". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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Good for her! I think the only way people can bring about that kind of change is by becoming obsessed with diet/exercise. I say, good for them! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Private school moms please come back! I cannot take the bitter, angry entitlement of my peers in the public sector any longer. It is frightening. Thought they would be more normal, but it really is turning out to be the opposite case. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.06.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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lol. I find the people here on this board frightening. I am a public school advocate, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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Power mongering...Trying to out all of those "cheaters." It's a good way of ruining your reputation in the school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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Ah, yes, the private school moms! Breath of fresh air! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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what I wouldn't give to discuss private girls schools uniforms. anyone care for green plaid? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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Don't worry you will hear lots of bitter angry entitlement in the fall - here are a couple of previews - people who are on FA are freeloaders; so and so is jealous of my great connections poor me; the DCs of famous people don't deserve to get spots at TTs 'cause they are all dumb; [Name of TT school] ain't all that cause [story of some jerk you know who went there] etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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but its not the same. there is just something very raw about the public school (G&T) bitterness. have never seen anything like it. there is terrific anger and entitlement based on a sort of mob mentality. it is frightening. at least the private school stuff ends with people being upset, but then admitting perhaps they were not worthy. the public school moms want blood, and en masse, feel entitled to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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ita. i think that the public moms this year (at least the ub posters) came off as incredibly entitled. they were so vehement-it was crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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It was just the parents of 99s who didn't get into Anderson. No one else seemed that bitter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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no. it was more than that. truly frightening to be entering the system with these crazies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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Don't confuse UB with real life. I bet there are only a few very vocal people on this board. IRL everyone I know is over it, whatever the result good or bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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"were not worthy" That is absurd, many whose dc got SO were more than "worthy" they just accepted that statistics did not work in their favor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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that is true. others beat themselves up for being less wealthy or connected or strategy saavy than they needed to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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don't remember the bitter shutout private moms? Some of them are the probably the gloating Anderson moms. There's bitterness on both the private and public sides. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:59 PM Flag
[ - ] where can i buy H&M kids clothes and maternity clothes? can i purchase online or only in specific stores? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Stores. 125th street store has many kids clothes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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thanks! how come they dont sell online? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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No idea. I've tried. I am an online shopper. They have or had many little girl out fits that look like some of the tea collection little knit dresses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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me too!!! every h&m i go to doesnt carry kids line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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125th St store is always short of staff. Better to go in the mornings or before 2PM. Try 18th and Fifth Ave. It's never crowded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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Their maternity clothes suck. Kids clothes are great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:14 PM Flag
[ - ] are you supposed to have sex while you are ovulating or before? how many days? i know its every other day but for how long? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 07.06.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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start 5 days before and go 5 days after, just do it everyday and you don't have to worry. I know I got pregnant on day 13, that is 13 days after the first day of my period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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every day is often too much for a guy with low slow. Every other day is now recommended [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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only if guy has documented problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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no, the recommendation now is every other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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no I meant that it is only too much if he has documented problems. Statistically, it only improves your chances by 2-4% doing it every day, but some of us actually like sex, so I didn't want her to get wrong impression that every day is going to hurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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yes, I did hear that too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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good grief. If you are ttc, just have sex every other day for that week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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you can't get pregnant after you ovulate. you need to figure out your cycle and then have sex beginning 3-5 days before you expect to ovulate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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of course you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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no, you can't. it takes up to 24 hours for the sperm to get where they need to be. so you need to be having sex before ovulation because the egg is viable for less than 24 hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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24 hours is a long time. You can ovulate, have sex an hour later and get pregnant. Your absolutes just don't cut it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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statistically, it's not that likely to get pregnant day of ovulation. The egg starts aging as soon as it is released, and isn't as easily fertilized later in the 24 hour cycle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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best is day or two before ovulation. Keep having sex until 2 days later (just in case). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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get Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Best book ever on ttc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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My ob said that many problems ttc come from women relying on timing to have sex, instead of just doing it as much as possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] uh oh. ds is obsessed with les miserables 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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master of the house.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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how old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] We now know why people send their younger children to sleepaway at an earlier age than their older child. My younger ds does not know what to do with himself with his brother away. He's been sad and irritable every since his brother went to camp. Anyone have the same experience? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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LOL! Opposite problem in our house: #2 loved having the house to himself in the summertime and was anti-sleepaway camp for years and years (even though #1 thinks it's the best ever). It's funny b/c #2 is loud and gets plenty of attention during the year, but I think he really liked being on his own for those 7 weeks each year. #2 "aged out" of day camp (which he loved) last year and we made him go away this summer (and I've been told that he's doing well!). BTW, DH and I love the quiet (although, of course, we miss DC)! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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Wow - 7 weeks alone. Do you still have stuff to talk about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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With DH? We'll see! (I'm also enjoying all the time alone while he's at work!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] do you think obsessiveness with a diet is a sign of strength or a sign of unhappiness in your personal life? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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not a sign of strength - just an unhealthy preoccupation of our society [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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when you find out, tell me. I'm happy as can be in my personal life. I'm also 30 pounds overweight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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I've struggled with my weight and, for me, being thin means that things are going well (I eat when I'm stressed or unhappy -- even though I should really know better!). I do become obessesed and it's not the best outlook -- but it tends to happen when my personal life is at a high! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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90% of people would rather be thin and miserable than fat and happy...I am part of that 90%. But... when I am really happy, I tend to gain weight, when I'm anxious in a shitty relationship I'm dreamy thin. Some times I think of getting back with ex husband, just to drop a few lbs! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm an emotional 36 weeks pregnant, I cried all day for nothing and stayed in my PJ's, WTF? Back to work tomorrow, I really can't wait, it will get me out of the house and around people. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.06.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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aw, sorry about that. such a crazy time. just do what you need to do to feel OK. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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Then my boyfriend says you have "a few screws loose" is he kidding me, I feel like I dont have a screw left, I feel completely crazy, no one needs to point that out right now. I'm lucky I'm not sitting in a jail cell over his homicide right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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he's just trying to disarm situation, thinks he is funny. pay no mind. do what you need to do - gl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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