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07.06.08, 18:36 PM Toddler
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Help-today i got so frustrated with my 6 year old for not listening in smacked him (not hard) in the head with my hand--like bonked his forehead. I accidentally grazed right above his eye where it's quite sensitive. I feel awful. I apologized with him for doing this, and he said "nobody's perfect mom", but I feel so awful. I probably get this upset like 3-4 times a month. I am stopping lexapro, which I took due to anger/depression issues and I feel so much better, but occasionally these "sparks" of anger return, and very suddenly. Any advice? Signed, feeling guilty and sad. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 07.06.08, 06:36 PM Flag
 

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talk therapy honey. it works wonders. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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cant' afford it, though i've done it in the past and thought it was okay. not great, but okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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you need to find the right person and many people will do sliding scale fees [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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I don't know what to say, I'm not totally opposed to a smack on the butt, when my child does something like runs out into the middle of the street, but smacking in the face is just a loss of control, and I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but it's serious, my mother had that uncontrolled spastic anger and it was really so degrading. Get some thearapy, parenting is stressful and we all make mistakes, but it sounds like you may need a little help, or a switch in meds. Good Luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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Wow. You know, that is great for you but have to say smacking lightly on the head is hardly uncontrolled anger. She isn't whipping him with a belt because he spilled juice... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Well, in my experience, the slap on the face, when your frustrated at your kid is not discipline but abuse. Is it the worse thing that she lost control, no, it happens, but SHE is saying that she acidentally grazed his eye, and that kind of loss of control happens 3-4 times a month. I don't think I flamed, she asked for advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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Smacking your kid in the face is ok? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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it wasn't a smack, i bonked him, not very hard, on the forehead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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np - If my child is particularly sassy - I pop his mouth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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you sound like me... ds is 2 1/2. i stopped zoloft 6 mos ago and had a tough time dealing with normal toddler behavior and would get soooo upset the few times i gave ds a little smack on the hand for hitting, etc. i am much better now. i think it just took time to learn how to cope without the meds. i never did get around to theray, but i do think it would have helped. also- the whole guilt thing afterwards made things worse. dont be so hard on yourself. nobody is perfect. just try to practice patience... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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thanks (op here). I am working really hard on the anger thing, and it's getting better. I have affirmations posted around the house, i try and meditate, i exercise. But the "spastic" anger, as the poster above noted, is stil lthere. Talk therapy doesn't REALLY work for me--I've been in therapy in the past for a stretch of 7 years, and really, I was still pissed. I am reading about anger addiciton (not that I get angry that often, but I can relate to feeling out of control) and the literature states that you have to treat anger as an addiction, full stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Sorry: I really didnt mean to make you feel worse I posted about (Spastic Anger), I know how bad my mom felt when she lost control, then I'd try to make her feel better because I knew she felt so bad. She would end up throwing things at us and doing things that she really had no control over. I swear if she was medicated she would have been fine, I think it was totally chemical and hormonal. But it did get worse as the years went buy...and when we were teenagers it was crazy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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