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[ - ] i am trying to determine if I should have my late Dec boy repeat K? is there a good test ie ERB or stanford binet, which would give me a good indication if he's ready for first grade. he's average intelligence and on the immature side of kids in his class. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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If you research kindergarten retention, you'll see it's not recommended. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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i'm sorry, but i don't understand, what do you mean? what's not recommended? tests? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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Repeating k is not recommended, across the board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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np: This is not true. If child has issues in K, it's much better to repeat then that later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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At same school? And he was he 4 when he started K or 5? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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he was 4.9 years old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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also, we would transfer him to a new school if we decided to leave him back. i guess it would be a terrible strain in his confidence to give him behind in the same school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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If he is in NYC, it may be hard as many schools don't allow this, it may be easier to repeat at same school. Was it recommended by his teacher? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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he had 2 teachers. one thought he needs an extra yr, but would "do fine" in 1st grade, the other didn't really have anything to say except "don't worry" because "he will turn out the way he was meant to be." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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also, we are not in NYC. in suburb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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What does his teacher say? I would go with her rec over a test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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My son just finished K. If you can swing it I would switch schools and repeat. i think its very important for kids to feel confident about their performance measured against their peers. Ny son turned 6 in Nov. and was one of the oldest kids in his class but I still would have eld him back if there was any way I could. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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thank you for responding. am wondering, if there's no way to transfer him this yr (we may be moving next yr and don't want too much adjustment issues), is it unreasonable to have him repeat 1st grade? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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What did K teacher have to say about him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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i wrote this above - he had 2 teachers. one thought he needs an extra yr, but would "do fine" in 1st grade, the other didn't really have anything to say except "don't worry" because "he will turn out the way he was meant to be." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Needs an extra year but will do fine is contradictory. If the feeling is he'll do fine in 1st grade, send him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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leave him back. give him the gift of time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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I'd keep him back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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Google "first grade readiness" and read the check lists. You might be surprised what is expected, which is not much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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is that apply nationwide? b/c this is the metro ny area which really has little connection, IMO, to the rest of the country. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Being average and immature aren't reasons to repeat. Was he unable to follow directions in K? Did he not meet expectations? How was he socially? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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social skills are his weakness. he's immature. but is able to follow directions, has an attention span, and can write his letters and draw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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my son (who was sept. baby) had poor social skills (not aggressive or rude, just v. shy and withdrawn) and i sent him ahead to first even though i was debating holding him back. he continues to have trouble making friends and remains shy, and i still wonder if i should have held him back. in retrospect, i think it would have been better because you can't lose with a little extra maturity. it is not just about first grade, but about the next 12 years. it can't hurt to have the edge of maturity (instead of being the youngest) when he gets into high school, college, etc. i have even considered switching my son to private school just to buy him another year before middle school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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you are me. i think that the stress of this is taking a toll on me and i am agonizing over this, depressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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In real life, I have never met a parent who regretted holding a child back before or for K - I have met several who regretted NOT holding back - especially in NY with that whacked Dec 31 cutoff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Grrrrrrrrrrrr....OK so I am blessed to have a wonderful P/T nanny who loves my child and is totally available to me and flexible with her schedule. But today my DD threw a fit and was really snotty to me and I had to put her in time out. It was one of those crazy "supernanny" moments w/ DD screaming and me putting her back into time out until she sat her 4 minutes, etc. DD is a very well behaved kid 99% of the time with me and 100% of the time with the nanny. But today she crossed the line and things turned ugly. So DD is screaming and fighting and I'm lifting her up and placing her into time out over and over again and in the middle of it the nanny starts CRYING and saying "Please don't do this to her". WTF? I apreciate that nanny loves my child and I know I'm lucky to have her but I need her to SUPPORT me when I'm diciplining my child, not make me feel like I'm a monster. Doesn't she realize that the REASON DD is so well behaved most of the time is because she is consistantly given very clear signals about what behavior is acceptable and what is not? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.10.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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omg not like you were beating her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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Well, when you take on a co-pilot in parenting tasks, you have to expect this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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how do I take on a co-pilot? Nanny was not involved at all. I dicipline my child alone. Although I have told nanny that if DD ever acts out of line and I am not there, nanny has permission to give time outs or call me. But I was there this time so it was me diciplining my DD and me alone. Nanny was helping to unload the car. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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NP I'm thinking OR is being snarky. She will call you an aunt mommy next just trying to start somethng [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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What's an aunt mommy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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LOL! Hey newbie! That is what some trolls here call WOHMs since someone else spends time with their kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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LOL yourself. I've been here for four years now. And I'm not an aunt mommy OR a WOHM. My nanny is PART TIME. She comes in three days a week for four hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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I'm just telling you what I thought OR meant. If she is still here, she can clarigy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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^^clarify [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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oooohh- sahm with nanny- duck!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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you don't have a nanny then... you have a babysitter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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OP: So? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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what is an aunt mommy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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its the female version of uncle daddy -- those fathers who woh and are not involved in raising their children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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Props to you OP, sounds like you are one of those rare moms with a nanny who is a true parent. Your nanny was way out of line. I'm a nanny and I never would have interfered as this nanny did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Thanks. I must clarify though that nanny didn't realy interfere...here comments were off to the side to me, and only I noticed she was crying. She really stayed off of DD's radar (and DD was so hysterical at that point she wouldn't have noticed if Elmo walked into the room). But she did interfere with ME and I'm sure I don't have to tell you how hard it is on Mommy during one of those episodes. Always that little part of you that just wants to cave and avoid trouble and give the kid what they want. You need support, not tears from the other adults in the room! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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ugh! You are seriously annoying, Mommy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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i know how you feel. my nanny sometimes does something similar. You have to talk to her about your rules and make it clear that you are the one who decides how to discipline your child. Her reaction was not appropriate especially since it essentially undermines what you are doing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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Maybe you don't realize how rough you were being. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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OP: I'm certain I was not being physically rough at all. I'm also certain I WAS being incredibly stern and strong and no-nonsense. I was not yelling, my language was appropriate for the situation, but I did not have a happy expression on my face and my tone was extremely authoritative and stern. I rarely have to dicipline my DD because, as I said, she's remarkably well-behaved. And when she does cross the line (as all 4 year olds do because that's part of their job), I send a very clear message that the behavior will not be tolerated. Also I love her more than anything on the planet. Did I mention that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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you sound annoying and full of yourself. parading your parenting and your incredibly well behaved child on UB, looking for validation and someone to say you are great and doing it perfectly. I think you sound harsh and like a control freak, and had I been there, i'll bet I would have cringed at the very least. blech! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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You are a jealous parent who feels inferior. Work on your own parenting skills by spending time with your child. It will make you a happier person, and it will be great for your kid! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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I spend just about every waking moment with my dc. you sound like a harsh, smug hag who was mean to her kid, and is mad at the nanny for noticing it. get over yourself. you have nothing that inspires jealousy or feelings of inferiority here! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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Me thinks the lady doth protest too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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Your nanny was out of line, but sounds like she loves your dd a lot and is also very emotional. If I were you I would sit down with her and have a conversation with her about your approach to discipline and your reasons behind it. Tell her that you value her ideas on the matter, but that ultimately you are making the decisions and need her to back you. It is hard to be firm with children and especially hard when your nanny is making you feel like the big bad wolf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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thanks so much. Very sound advice. I hope I can be diplomatic...I'll let it simmer for a day before I talk to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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NP: You're Nanny clearly loves your child and had a hard time observing your DC being upset. I understand why you are upset - its hard enough to stick to your guns when have a strong willed child. But don't be too hard on your nanny - we hear too often about the opposite -- nannies who don't care enough about their charges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:07 PM Flag
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sounds like you are just angry because she reacted to what she witnessed as being overboard. calm down, and deal with your own guilt rather than taking it out on the nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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You know I realize that it might sound that way but a day has passed and looking back on the incident I believe I reacted completely appropriately and would do it again exactly the same way. No need to tell me to calm down because I am totally calm, just a bit annoyed at nanny. I realy don't think there could have been a more appropriate way (for me) to deal with that situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:16 AM Flag
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perhaps the source of conflict is that both of you are there at the same time - why? You are either have someone watch your kid so you can do what you need to or you take care of hte kid yourself. And if you really think a 4 year old is capable of being very well-behaved 99% of the time, your expectations are unreasonable. MAybe you should have picked your battles better. Good luck in the future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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I always have the babysitter/nanny there when I'm coming home from a road trip with the kids. We have no doorman so you have to double-park outside the building and one adult waits w/ kids in the car while the other adult unloads the bags, then the kids while the first adult then parks the car in the garage down the block. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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It was a moment and it passed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:19 AM Flag
[ - ] dr moms - i have unusual hip discomfort. i'm 39. pain not from exercise, didn't pull any muscles etc. noticed it about 5 weeks ago, thought nothing of it and have waited for it to go away, but it's actually getting progressively more uncomfortable. Somehow feel very scared about this. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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not a Dr mom but someone who started to have pain in the hip too (I just turned 40). I spoke to my sis who is a Dr and she asked me if I was stretching properly before workouts. I can't say I was doing it the right way. I injured my hip this way. It took MONTHS (like 6mo) for the pain to get better. I couldn't even move my leg certain ways. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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thank you. but, it's just the opposite with me. i never exercise. only walking, picking up kids, stairs etc. not overweight, per se but about 15 lbs heavier than I was pre-kids. originally, i thought the pain is from being a few lbs overweight, but then I did a google search and CANCER came up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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well I did go to a Dr and he found a small amt of arthritis but not enough to cause the amt of pain I was in..so my sis was right..it was that I injured myself with my lack of stretching> GL and I hope it's really nothing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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np being overweight can cause pains soemtimes. Did you recently do something - anything - unusual? Pick up another child who is heavier? Carry groceries etc farther than usual? Push something heavey? etc etc. Most likely you have just strained something. If youa re worried, go to your doc though just to set your mind at ease [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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^^geez! Sorry about all the typos! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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not a dr. mom, but when I had bad hip pain it was from rheumatoid arthritis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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how old were you when you started to feel it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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24! I had bloodtests and xrays to confirm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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oh my, i'm so sorry. i hope you're ok. when i googled hip pain, mostly injuries and cancer came up. i'm starting to get very upset. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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yes, mine went into remission after a few years on meds. have you seen a doctor yet? whatever you have, I'm sure it is treatable. Good Luck; I hope you feel better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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i have an appt on monday, but the discomfort is not in the muscle it's kind of in the front hip/attached to the upper thigh area. i hating waiting for appts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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dr mom here-its really impossible to offer any kind of diagnosis on UB-there are many, many causes of hip pain. Trust me though, you can pretty much google any symptom and cancer will come up, but this would be stastically EXTREMELY unlikely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] If you knew your mom had a terminal illness, but you didn't know how long you'd have with her - -how would you change the way/amount you spend time with her etc.?? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.10.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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i would spend every waking moment i could with her. at the expense of everyone and everything around me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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well obviously I would spend as much time as I could with her and let her see DD as much as possible. I would also try to stop hating her idiot boyfriend. Sigh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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I would literally move back home to spend every second w/ her even if it emant moving my kids school etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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I would spend as much time as I could, but knowing my mother, I would want a confirmed diagnosis first. sadly, I think she would lie to me about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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omg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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I probably wouldn't. She lives in CA, I'm in NY with two young dcs who don't fly well. We're not v close and she hasn't made much effort to see her grandkids. She's very resistant to most traditional healthcare, preferring to see her homeopath for most ailments, which I have trouble getting my head around, but it's not my decision [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Where are you vacationing? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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Pittsburgh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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friends live there, thought of visiting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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http://www.pittsburghbnb.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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In my Harlem Apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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np: mija, at least go to the park [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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We do and the pool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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Disney [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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don't know yet. where should we go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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we came to NYC a few weeks ago. Loved it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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sadly we are having a staycation this year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Should I wait until the K application process is over before I quit my job? Do schools care of I work or not, or if my job looks good on paper? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.10.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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Depends. Public schools just care if you have a pulse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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Just my opinion, but unless your job is super cool, I think schools prefer to see SAHMs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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I'm a federal prosecutor . . . not super cool, but it sounds good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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Are you quitting anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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99% sure I am---just trying to decide if I should stick it out a few more months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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No reason to stick it out for the private school application process. It's not going to win you any points there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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So they don't care? When I was applying DS for preschools I found that my job generated a lot of questions during parent interviews. Maybe it was just curiosity. It would be nice to have the rest of the summer free . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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Seriously, I have what most people think is a cool job, and I felt it was more of a negative than a positive in the interview process. I really don't think you should stay somewhere you're not happy to look better on paper when the perception may not work out that way anyway... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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It's not that I'm not happy, I'm just done working for awhile. I want to be with my DCs. Anyway, thanks to you and the other responders for the input---it has been very helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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I think you should keep the job until the apps are in. I think you should just try to take as much vacation this summer as possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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What does DW do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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maybe op is the dw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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I am the dw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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I think most schools like to see SAHMs because they think they will participate more in the parent/school partnership. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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it depends on the school-in my dc's school, we know the families well in classes older and younger than he-it seems like a good cross section. ibers, traders, social workers, teachers, actors, lawyers, architects. it may be helpful, but it isn't going to be a make or break thing for your dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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ITA. I remember one SS girls' school telling me, "We have other mothers who work here, so you won't be alone." Made me realize that I would be in a small minority, which I really hadn't considered for a moment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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I think schools would like this a lot more than another SAHM. They are a dime a dozen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Do what you want to do - it won't make any difference. I'm a law firm partner and I thought it was a mild positive, but I don't think it was outcome-determinative. Out of curiosity, why are you quitting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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if you want to quit, quit, don't do it based on school. plus, if you aren't working, you will have more time to do the process (which includes stressing over it). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Can you take time off work to do interviews? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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You can quit now or just get fired after you've missed the 1500 hours of work time that you're about to, for interviews and playdates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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You'll need a lot of time off to do the tours and interviews. No idea what schools prefer in terms of employment, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Rec's for a bassinet. I love the wicker ones but they are so $$$. I checked craigslist but nothing. I don't want to spend an arm and leg for only 3mo and this is the last baby for us. Tx 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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We just used the bassinett from the bugaboo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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op: I'm not getting a bugaboo and I used a bassinet for my other 2 dc but that was donated yrs ago since we thought we were done. tx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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arms reach co sleeper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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tx will look into it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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we just used a pack and play with a bassinet feature. it also had changing table. we used it in our room for 4 mos, then moved db to crib. it has been used a lot more now-we have used it for some travel, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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op: it's a good idea but I don't have room for the pack n play in my bedroom. That's why I need a reg. small bassinet for the first 3mo. Tx anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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Post a "wanted" item on freecycle.com--maybe someone has one lying around that they are ready to give away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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oP: tx..didn't think about this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Need to have ovarian cyst, prob* benign, taken out. Went to a specialist (Gyn Oncologist - yikes) and he said they won't know til it's out and have path report. He also said he can't do the laproscopy for another 3 wks. WTF? Is that normal? If they can't tell me it's benign, shou;dnt it come out ASAP? I'm pretty upset about this. ANyone BTDT? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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I;ve had 2. Both went away on their own. I would try to avoid surgery unless they are causing you problems. How long have you known you had it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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OB found it 3 wks ago, MRI last week. It's a dermoid, hopefully, and so won't go away, must come out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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ah. Well, GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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I had one when I was pregnant. Ended up waiting until 6 months after delivery to have it removed. No specialist is going to tell you it's benign without the report but if they were really worried, I would think they would push up the surgery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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OP: I know, but doesnt it seem like if they can't tell "for sure", they should take it out right away? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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It's all about scheduling. He probably has other patients and other emergencies scheduled before them. Could they do another MRI to see if it is growing. If it is not, then there's less cause for concern. I waited over a year from discovery to surgery. Who is your doctor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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In DC, Dr Barter. Gyn Oncologist. Had MRI last week, it was same size as US from week before, but it was not there at all 6wks prior which made my Ob raise his eyebrows and tell me to do it Asap. I think this Dr thinks it was there, but not seen. My Re and OB swear up and down it grew like a weed in a month. I'm not happy to be rushed to this Dr only to be put on hold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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That does sound more worrisome if they don't think it was there before. Chances are it's fine, but I can understand why you are worried. I would try to see another surgeon. Have they done a ca125 blood test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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having to wait 3 weeks sucks! I'd be upset too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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TY. So frustrated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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sorry..I know how the long wait feels. Many yrs back I found a lump in my breast that the Dr said had to be removed. The surgery was scheduled 1 mo later. That was the longest month of my life. It was benign but at 25 yr old..you freak the hell out and think the worst. GL and I hope they can move up the procedure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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Thank ou so much. Glad to hear you were all ok. I go between total denial and assuming the absolute worst. Dr was like, Eh, it's most likely ok, but we'll find out for sure. I'm dumbfounded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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I know how you feel..it's hard but think positive. If this Dr can't remove it sooner, can you get in to see another surgeon? GL with it all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Thanks. That's my next move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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please post back and let us know how it goes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] What's your favorite restaurant at the moment? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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Olive Garden of course [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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:)~ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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yumm bread sticks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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You poor thing. Come to NYC! We have real restaurants here! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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she is talking about the Olive garden in the city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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Going to an Olive Garden in Manhattan is like going to a McDonald's in Italy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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well some ppl like Mc D's in italy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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OR that is just sick. I couldn;t believe it when I was in Sabta Fe and people were going to Taco Bell. Some people just shouldn't be allowed to travel! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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OR it.was.a joke. You do have Olive Gardens there too though. I saw one when I was up there a few weeks ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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what city? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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nyc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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my favorite place is bianca, on bleecker street [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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Do they serve breath spray? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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my home.. haven't been out in ages....where can i bring my 11 month old ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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omg, anywhere! just go early, about 5-ish or so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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it would be nice for db's daddy to go out too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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aww...have him leave early once in a while. hard to do, but it's do-able [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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a Thai place on 2nd and 89th/90th not much to look at but so good, Sala Thai it's called [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Are Greenwich CT moms on? Which schools are equivelant to NYC TTs in/near Greenwich? DH told me today that he may be transferring to Stanford and we may live in Greenwich. Don't know anything about schools there. Any advice? TIA. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.10.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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Seemed like everyone in my class at Yale came from Greenwich Country Day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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Is it academically strong school? How about enrichment curriculum? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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Not really. Very mediocre. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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Oh I don't like you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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it's stamford, not stanford. fyi. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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hijack - what are the 2 top public elementary schools in greenwich? is it old greenwich and north st? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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OP: Which are the 2 top private schools in/near Greenwich(this is my original Q.)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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best elementary are north street, riverside, old greenwich, and parkway, in that order. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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Not equivalent to NYC TT's, but pretty good schools there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Can you tell me the names of the schools? I have no idea about this. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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Sorry, can't remember the name of a private school there. They recruited the headmaster of St Anns. I think the tuition was similar. If you google and use keywords like private school and Stamford, CT, it should come up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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np: Greenwich Country Day (through gr 9), Stanwich, Greenwich Catholic, Brunswick (boys), Greenwich Academy (girls), Sacred Heart (girls) are the private options. in stamford, King and Low Heywood-Thomas is rising in stature, but not near the greenwich privates yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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most kids in Greenwich go to public school. the public schools are great. Honestly, growing up there, the "troubled" kids went to private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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true that most go to public, but no longer true that the troubled kids go to private. there are excellent private schools; the public system is also very good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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You sound like you have a personal preference for private (which is totally reasonable). I think Darien - if you like the vibe there - has excellent public schools and is an easy commute to Stamford. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:29 PM Flag
[ - ] If you took a pregnancy test and it was positive, what day in your cycle were you? I am day 32, I may be prenant because last time on day 38 , the test said negative and I was pregnant... Also, did you have eatly symptoms? what were they? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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I was 13 dpo..my cycle is 28 days. I was sleepy, tired, nauseated, boobs hurt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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^^OH and the tell all sign of PG for me..a HUGE GINORMOUS ZIT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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what does 13 dpo mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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sorry..13 days past ovulation. I tested one day before my period was due [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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yeah last time mine didnt come up til 38 days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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so you have a long cycle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] New to NYC. Live in Tribeca. Where should my somewhat sporty, very smart, very outgoing DS apply for K? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.10.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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Apply broadly whatever you do. A child like that will probably do well in many different environments. Do you want to stay downtown, or would you apply uptown as well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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I think I would prefer downtown, mainly because I prefer to live downtown and assume that I'll have more in common with the parents who also choose to live downtown. Does that make sense? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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No. The school would be for your child, not you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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But I want my child to be with children whose parents have similar values to mine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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I'm afraid to ask. In TriBeCa, what "values" would those be? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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LOL. I like to think a little more relaxed and less old money than the UES. Maybe I'm fooling myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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less old money is more relaxed than the new money in tribeca these days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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I live in TriBeCa and it seems the only "values" people down here have these days is the crass display of money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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Fair point, but can someone recommend some schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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LREI, if these are your "values" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Little Red is a tremendous program but the parent body flashes assets w/ the worst of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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And its a tremendous program, if you're not talking about academics [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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np--what are your "downtown values" exactly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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PS 173 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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173? I heard of 234 and 89, but not 173... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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My DS goes there. We love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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Where is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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Ah. Then a pretty far hike from Tribeca :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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ps 173 is one of the worst schools in Manhattan; Are you an evil joker? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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Tour the schools and see which you like. Grace is pretty challenging academically and has an amazing new gym. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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Claremont, Packer, Friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Why did UB change? I haven't been on forever and now i hate it. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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took me a while to get used to - definitely not what it was 3 and 4 years ago, but still ok once you adjust (and it seems less snarky). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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stop posting this. Get over it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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guess you are the only snark on. you get over it sister. move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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LOL! I'm over it. What I'm tired of is some idiot who can't adjust, posting this day after day after day. Gets old ya know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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wow, you are rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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wha?? Not so much. Just tired of spammers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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np you are a light weight. Get off of UB if you can't take a little heat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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go to bed sistrer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:39 PM Flag
[ - ] If you were pregnant, what day did you find out? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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I found out Sunday Feb 16, 2008. I remember because I was SHOCKED and not expecting it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Went to the Bronx Zoo today, it was great, but man so many summer camps, how do they do it, watch all those kids???? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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They manage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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np: crazy how they do it. two weeks ago saw 2 teens watching over 6-8kids. NUTS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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four to on ratio - NYC law is 10 to 1, which I think is absurd for little kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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it was lunch time and you could tell the teens had had enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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I think that the camps should really hire more college students than high school students [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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np: this is exactly why I didn't send my dd to the local Y camp..they hire teens and many ppl have told me their complaints and experiences with that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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You may not want to hear this, but it really is impossible to watch ALL the kids, ALL the time. Former camp counselor here. We rely a lot on the kids to stick together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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oh i believe it. there is NO way you can watch all the kids, especially in some of the exhibits, it's not possible. very very scary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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