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07.10.08, 16:56 PM General Topics
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i am trying to determine if I should have my late Dec boy repeat K? is there a good test ie ERB or stanford binet, which would give me a good indication if he's ready for first grade. he's average intelligence and on the immature side of kids in his class. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.10.08, 04:56 PM Flag
 

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If you research kindergarten retention, you'll see it's not recommended. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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i'm sorry, but i don't understand, what do you mean? what's not recommended? tests? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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Repeating k is not recommended, across the board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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np: This is not true. If child has issues in K, it's much better to repeat then that later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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At same school? And he was he 4 when he started K or 5? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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he was 4.9 years old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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also, we would transfer him to a new school if we decided to leave him back. i guess it would be a terrible strain in his confidence to give him behind in the same school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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If he is in NYC, it may be hard as many schools don't allow this, it may be easier to repeat at same school. Was it recommended by his teacher? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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he had 2 teachers. one thought he needs an extra yr, but would "do fine" in 1st grade, the other didn't really have anything to say except "don't worry" because "he will turn out the way he was meant to be." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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also, we are not in NYC. in suburb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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What does his teacher say? I would go with her rec over a test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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My son just finished K. If you can swing it I would switch schools and repeat. i think its very important for kids to feel confident about their performance measured against their peers. Ny son turned 6 in Nov. and was one of the oldest kids in his class but I still would have eld him back if there was any way I could. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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thank you for responding. am wondering, if there's no way to transfer him this yr (we may be moving next yr and don't want too much adjustment issues), is it unreasonable to have him repeat 1st grade? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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What did K teacher have to say about him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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i wrote this above - he had 2 teachers. one thought he needs an extra yr, but would "do fine" in 1st grade, the other didn't really have anything to say except "don't worry" because "he will turn out the way he was meant to be." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Needs an extra year but will do fine is contradictory. If the feeling is he'll do fine in 1st grade, send him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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leave him back. give him the gift of time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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I'd keep him back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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Google "first grade readiness" and read the check lists. You might be surprised what is expected, which is not much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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is that apply nationwide? b/c this is the metro ny area which really has little connection, IMO, to the rest of the country. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Being average and immature aren't reasons to repeat. Was he unable to follow directions in K? Did he not meet expectations? How was he socially? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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social skills are his weakness. he's immature. but is able to follow directions, has an attention span, and can write his letters and draw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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my son (who was sept. baby) had poor social skills (not aggressive or rude, just v. shy and withdrawn) and i sent him ahead to first even though i was debating holding him back. he continues to have trouble making friends and remains shy, and i still wonder if i should have held him back. in retrospect, i think it would have been better because you can't lose with a little extra maturity. it is not just about first grade, but about the next 12 years. it can't hurt to have the edge of maturity (instead of being the youngest) when he gets into high school, college, etc. i have even considered switching my son to private school just to buy him another year before middle school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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you are me. i think that the stress of this is taking a toll on me and i am agonizing over this, depressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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In real life, I have never met a parent who regretted holding a child back before or for K - I have met several who regretted NOT holding back - especially in NY with that whacked Dec 31 cutoff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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