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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Just had first dd 8 weeks ago. Am debating whether to go back on the pill if we plan to have 2nd child within next 18 months. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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we just used condoms bw kids. I didn't want to deal with pill/hormones, etc (plus was bf). i had prescription for mini pill but it made me nervous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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Ditto. Plus, you can usually tell when you are ovulating. (it's when you are horney ;) ) We use condoms then and no condoms other times. No "mistakes" yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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np: curious, so why are you having sex when you're not horny? to pls horny partner? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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Are you breast feeding? If you plan to, it may be easier to just use condoms/other for a few months. I didn't get my period until 10 or 11 months after ds was born. I ebf'ed for 5 months, then did some nursing and some bottles and food until 9.5 months. But you can get pregnant before the first time that you menstruate again, so be careful. I was also nervous about the minipill while bf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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I am pumping, bf and using formula as supplement. Yes, doctor gave me a prescription for a new birth control (forget name) but good point about hormoes and not getting period for several months. I think if I take pill, body will be all of out whack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Did you have a C-section? If so, be careful and maybe go on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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there is a correlation bw c sxn and getting pg? never heard this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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You are supposed to wait a bit before getting pg again. My OB said to wait 2 years, but she is conservative. Most say to wait at least 1 year before getting pg again. Uterus needs time to heal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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oh, this I knew. but if op is bf, she shouldn't go on the full pill. she needs to look at other options (esp if abstinence isn't going to happen). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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True. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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np: Wow. Would've been nice if my OB had told me that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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Mini pill is a sure way to get pg again.....especially if you are not EBFing. If you are still BFing, they can't give you the full strength pill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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though truthfully, I had no sex drive while bf. some natural bc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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So true! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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We're using condoms, but EBF and like other poster, no sex drive so no huge need. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:47 PM Flag
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like the other posters above since i am ebfing i only trust condoms right now. i don't trust the mini-pill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:51 PM Flag
[ - ] DH on verge of a midlife crisis -- ask anything 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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My brother sells Harley's. Send him over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Is this RL? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] My family may be moving from NYC to Seattle this fall w/ 4 y/o and newborn (maybe October?) and am stressing about being able to find pre-school spot after school year starts. Is there any chance? Any recommendations in central Seattle? Is it as competitive as NYC? Where do I find info? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Check out Parent Map, Seattle's Child (King County ed.) online. I would also call the neighborhood community center to see if they keep a list of preschools in the area. Kindercare can be a back-up. They have an impressive preschool curriculum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 03:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Poll - What do you use for birth control if you are "done" having kids? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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menopause! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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sadly, no sex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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dh had vasectomy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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tie the old tuberinos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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IUD (Mirena). I love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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really? I am thinking about it. But I know somebody who says they can sort of feel it. Also, I want to get it because it supposedly makes your periods lighter. Is that true? And if I wanted to have more kids, it can be removed, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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OR: I have no periods anymore. I can't feel it. It can be removed anytime, but must be removed after 5 years/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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same - didn't love it at first - but love idea of never worrying abot taking pill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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I had it took it out because it caused awful, awful cramping and bleeding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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really? for how many months did you try it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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OR: Never had any cramping or bleeding. I haven't had a period since I had it inserted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone go to an accupuncturist to get pregnant/keep a pregnancy? just miscarried and thinking of seeing one. wondering how often you have to go, if it worked, etc. tia. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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I used to work for one and she helped so many women get pregnant that we started calling her Daddy. Go. It really can help. GL and sorry for your loss [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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in the city or the burbs? i just found a website for someone in the city but has an an office in purchase and his site looks so intense that it almost scares me. he makes something that seems helpful look like a scam. his name is dr. mike berkley. know anything about him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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sorry. I live in another state. As long as someone is nationally certified, they should be fine. Find someone you feel comfortable with. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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sorry, not sure why i naturally assumed ny. how silly of me. thanks for your advice, i appreciate it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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no prob. Most people here are from NYC. Do make sure the person is certified and is not some chiropractor who took a few classes. Other than that, pretty much any acup can treat this. There are people who specialize in it, but IMO the most important thing is to find someone qualified who you feel comfortavle with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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NP - Ignore the website. I went to Mike Berkley when he was at his former location on West 57 Street. He moved and his website also changed. It used to be low key and informative. Anyhow, loved MB. I had a few miscarriages and was a poor responder to meds. I now have 3 year old twins. MB is genuinely a nice person and wants his patients to get pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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My first IVF ended in miscarriage...did acupuncture before and during 2nd round...now have twins! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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op: congrats! so definitely worth the $$, right? :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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for me, yes. I'm a big believer. My accupuncturist was Chinese and she beleived that if you got your period you could get pregnant...it was just balancing everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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so you only went twice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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I was diagnosed with PCOS - doc said it could be a while until I conceived - was on clomid and did accupuncture so not sure which one- but got pregnant right away - i am still a big believer in accupuncture though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:35 PM Flag
[ - ] My 11-wk old ds is colicky and extremely fussy. Stopped napping at nine wks, which only makes him fussier. I'm trapped at home because it's ridiculous to take him out when he cries so much. I'm so miserable and think I'm getting depressed. I thought things were supposed to be getting better by now??? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.10.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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so sorry. every db is different, and things hit everyone at diff times. does db take a pacifier or thumb? my 2nd db took a paci, and it made things easier. if you are nursing, also take a look at your diet-some things can make db very gassy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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Thanks for your sympathy. DS takes a paci sometimes, and it does help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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your dc will nap again, which will make things easier for you (or at least give you a break). i found that with both of my dc's, they would fuss a bit. with my first, I would go in and change diaper, feed, whatever at first, but then I learned that my dc just needed to settle in and wiggle, so I eventually checked but left alone. with my 2nd, I just left db alone unless really crying. maybe your dc just needs to get paci back at nap time so he sleeps longer. also, it isn't ridiculous to take your dc out when they cry and fuss. every dc fusses. my toddler had two HUGE temper tantrums today in public. with the 2nd one, I actually started to cry myself behind sunglasses it was so awful. it is hard-no one ever tells you that. get yourself out to a new moms group (or mommy and me yoga or whatever). and if you do feel like it is depression, get to a therapist-my last therapist let me take my db with me. also, if you can get help, whether it is cleaning the house or watching the db, do it. get time for yourself-makes a huge difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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Yes, I cry behind sunglasses all the time! Glad to hear I'm not the only one. The problem with the paci is that ds can't hold it in at all. As soon as I let go, it falls out. Is that not normal for a baby his age? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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totally normal. this phase will pass eventually. have you spoken to ped about colic? also, if you are bf, take a look at what you are eating. i really had to restrict my diet while bf. what I also found helped was "wearing" db. I used a sling (never liked bjorn), which was helpful and kept my hands free to do other things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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^^also, I don't want to imply that it is all bad. there are times when I am just "done" as a mom and need my own space. but generally, it is pretty good. today was a bad day, but the pluses far outweigh the bad days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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What did you restrict from your diet? I cut out the typical gassy foods, like cabbage, onions, broccoli. I haven't really talked to ped about the colic. We've been really focused on the reflux because he was having a lot of problems with it until a few weeks ago. But what could ped say about colic that would help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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the advice about sleeping in swing is good-elevated head helps. we also bought this thing called a snuggle nest to help my dc with colic. i am generally not a big product pusher, but it is a lseep positioner that is elevated (there are 2, one just a positioner, one an elevated positioner). it helped. i restricted same as you, also dairy, beans, lentils (not like I ate the latter that much anyways, but the time I did while bf, it was bad) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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I'll look into the snuggle nest. Thanks for all of your info. It's nice to find a sympathetic ear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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hang in there and get some help. talk to your dh/so too. you aren't alone. gl to you and congrats on your db. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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yes, this gets better as well as they get older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Are you sure it's colic and not reflux? Also a book just came out on colic for helping the baby and more importantly helping the mom. A friend told me about it. The Colic Chronicles. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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He has reflux too, but I think that's under control. He definitely has the colicky three hours of crying per day, but he's also just fussy all day. It's pretty hard to keep him happy. I will definitely try the book! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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My oldest ds (now 7 yrs old) was exactly as you describe. It SUCKED big time and I didn't get to enjoy anything about being a new 1st time mom. At 5 mos we tried the Ferber/cry it out method....which didn't work (and again we thought it was something wrong with us since that idiot INSISTED that it would work on any child-- which he has since retracted)...my advice is to try different methods of getting him to sleep and if you find something that works, do it...even if it means co-sleeping, or that all day naps are in the stroller. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Ferber didn't work for you?!? That was going to be my last resort. When did your ds finally calm down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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you could get lucky and have it work...definitely try it around 5 mos of age....but looking back I would have been better off letting him co-sleep, letting him nap in my arms while I watched TV...but that idiot Ferber and his "all naps and sleep should be in the crib" crap led me to believe that I was going to screw him up if I let him sleep close to me. My 2nd and 3rd dc were much better sleepers and never slept with me at all. It's so hard when you are a 1st time mom but I know now that you have to go with what you feel is right, not the 'expert' advice. I have a crazy ped who tells me at every visit to feed my dcs liver because they need the iron...I just smile and nod and say OK. LIVER?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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^I'd also look into ways of 'wearing' him if he likes to be held a lot...get a sling or pouch (like a kangaroo korner pouch or hotsling) or the Ergo. Try taking him for a walk in the stroller. Sometimes the noise and the motion calms them down (with mine he loved being outside in his stroller but the second I walked inside a store to browse he's start screaming again...and if he was sleeping and I brought him home he'd wake up the second we got in the elevator..but as long as I walked and walked and walked outside he was fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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mine too was like this. stroller napper from below. we've got our routine now though and she is napping at home in her stoller more and more. it works for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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have you tried a swing? my very colicky dd could only nap in a swing until she was 7 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. my db wasn't colicky but she cried A LOT and rarely ever napped, although she was sleeping thru the night. It did get better, although now at 10 mos she only naps in her stroller (but I really don't care). I had a hard time too. My advice is similar to others--try a sling, try a swing and/or bouncer, and definitely get out of the house!! who cares if he cries? you need to see other people and to talk to other moms. have your talked to your pedi and OB about moms' groups?? good luck to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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That's so hard. I had a colicky baby, then a very fussy baby. Just keep trying different things to make him comfortable. Make sure that you get some help, and wear earplugs to blunt the crying sound (don't worry, you can still hear him, it just isn't as grating on your nerves). Eventually, he will mellow out and you'll fall in love with him in a way that you never knew was possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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Mine was like this too. He would nap in the stroller or the swing (sometimes). We went for long walks in the Park where it didn't matter that he screamed. Hang in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. I know how hard that is. Db was the same way. I only got out of the house for one quick walk a day the first few months and that was after she fell asleep and I managed to get her in the stroller without waking up. I never went more than a few blocks from home in fear that she'd wake and start screaming and I'd need to run home. I was BFing and taking out milk and soy worked wonders but she's still not a great sleeper, though DH and I have gotten used to it and worked out a system. Though the first few months felt like years, if not decades, at the time, looking back, it was just a few months, so even though it seems impossible, if you can try to hang onto that thought, maybe it'll help you get through it a bit easier. Their guts definitely do mature alot the closer you get to 6months. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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Get the book/DVD "happiest baby on the block". it saved us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.03.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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also... have you considered reflux? our baby cried ALL the time and is now on zantac and he is a new child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.03.08, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone see Kristof's op-ed piece in the Times today? He often picks upsetting and important issues, but the last paragraph was almost too much for me. I keep having these nightmarish images and waves of nausea. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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topic? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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just read it; horrifying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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what's it about? No time to read the whole thing. Just give me a synopsis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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Darfur. But the images and anecdotes are beyond awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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^^^ particularly from a mother's perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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wow. Thanks. I know it's awful over there. I hope things get better. Very very sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't do any classes with dcs. They are 3 and 1. I take them to the playground, zoo, museums and they have playdates. Do you think they are missing out? Seriously. I feel guilty sometimes. I just don't think they need structured classes. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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I don't think they are missing out. You may be missing out on making some new friends, but you may not care about that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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that is not a priority for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Then they aren't missing anything. They can do art projects and such with you and their friends during playdates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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they don't need structured classes. sometimes it's easier to have them in a class when it's too cold for parks and zoos, etc...but I really wouldn't worry about this at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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how many classes did your momm take you to when you were 1? Did you turn out ok? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: DH ran up a $2,300 bill in a strip club. Claims he was dupped and the bouncers forced him to pay. I'm not buying it. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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Duped into what? What is his excuse, exactly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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He claims they charged him for more than the drinks/dances he ordered. But he refuses to contest the charge with our credit card company. Which makes me suspicious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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Wow, what a great excuse. Sure, honey, I went to a strip club, got drunk and had a few lap dances, but they overcharged me. That would make me feel so much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I don't buy the story and I am beyond furious with him. This is a LOT of money to us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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I would be too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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hahhahahahahahahahahhahahahhaha [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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A former stripper from Scores was telling the club's story in the Post the other day. She said that happened all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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And no one complains, and the AG has never investigated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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there have been compaints, but they usually vanish when the complainants reveal that they were so drunk that they don't really remember what they ordered and that they signed off on the charge without reviewing the bill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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here is the link to the story http://www.nypost.com/seven/07062008/news/regionalnews/confessions_of_an_ex_scores_stripper_118739.htm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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From the article: Then there was the consistent overcharging of credit cards. I was sitting in the dressing room one evening applying makeup when the house mom received a call from someone complaining that his credit card had been overcharged. We laughed at yet another sucker falling prey to the place. And I'd overhear snatches of suspicious conversation between managers as they took someone's credit card. The owner of the card would then be pushed into a private room, plied with drinks and girls and handed a bill hours later when he was too drunk to figure out whether the amount added up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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Lol, I wouldn't buy it either. And even if he's telling the truth, it does not reflect well on him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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they shut the gold club in atlanta down because of this. it's actually a huge part of the club business. pretty standard. now, the question is, let's say he only "bought" $500 and not $2300. Would you not be mad then? I'm wondering at what point did he cross the line with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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We each have individual accounts with "mad money" that we can use however we see fit. But we agreed that we wouldn't spend more than $250 from joint accounts without discussing it first. So I would have been fine with him spending any amount from his mad money account, or $250 from our joint accout. I'm worried that he did more than just get a lap dance and a vodka tonic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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well of course he did. he got a private room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Which infuriates me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Was the Belle/Chanelle post poofed? Why? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.10.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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Hey. Im Belle. thank you for your concern. I dont know what happened. I had put it on watch to see when someone replied. and i got a few awesome responses. but it disappeared. Did it get reported or something. Did I do something wrong? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:37 PM Flag
[ - ] does ybm have a search feature? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] when do canidates pick their v.p. running mate? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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sometime in the next 6 weeks or so. they are both vetting candidates right now. the tickets will be finalized before the convention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Baptisms - what age is this typically done? Does baby go by mom's religion? I'm Episcopalian, DH is Catholic. I want daughter to be Episcopalian. 63 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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Why would you want baby to be Episcopalian? Just go all the way and be Catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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My mom is Episcopalian and father is Catholic. I was raised Episcopalian but went to Catholic school so I know all about both faiths. Definitely prefer dd to be my faith. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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hey now - nothing wrong with Episcopalians! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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ignorant about this stuff. Does it really matter what kind of baptism? Couldn't she be baptized in Catholic Church and still raised Episcopalian? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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np yes. I converted to catholicism but was baptised as a teen in the methodist church. I was not rebaptized [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Generally done around 3 mos. Baby is the religion the parents choose. that is why there is a baptism, you are introducing them to the faith. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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This is much easier than the other way around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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I would baptize the baby Catholic and raise Episcopalian. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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Historically, done as soon after birth as possible, now usually done before DC turns 1 y/o. Baby doesn't have to go by mother's religion, it's entirely up to the parents. It's usually something that is more important to one parent (if it matters at all to either one). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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And usually discussed before the couple marry, if OP or DH has not brought it up yet sounds like it's not really that important to either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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np: many people who are not all that religious go through this when they are about to have kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Right, my point is that if it were really important to either of them, it would have been discussed beforehand. Since it isn't chances are they can find a decent compromise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I understand your point, but I know several people who thought they didn't care at all about religion until they were faced with how they would raise their kids. Yes, it would have made sense to discuss kids and religion before marriage, but I don't think many people realize how important it is to them until the baby is a reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Are baptisms and christenings the same thing? If service is done in a Catholic church, does that mean she is Catholic? I want her to be Episcopalian. Haven't raised it with dh yet. Episcopalian and Catholic are both Christian but there are differences, like women can serve communion. Would like my daughter to believe in that, whereas Catholics have limits on women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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If she is baptised in a Catholic service, DB is Catholic. However, that will be recognized by the Episcopal church (and an Episcopal christening will be recognized by the Catholic church for most things). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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I don't think this is true. I don't believe as Episcopal you can take communion in Catholic church, while you definitely can the other way around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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np: no, there is one Christian baptism, recognized by the Catholic Church. The Eucharist is a separate sacrament, and for Catholics, you must be in full communtion w/ the Church to receive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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tbat's why it's for "most things" an Episcopal can be married in a Catholic church without a dispensation from the local bishop, because they were christened in a Christian ceremony, but no, they may not take communion at a Catholic mass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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this all seems rather silly, though, doesn't it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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in what way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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how will it make someone less of an Episcopalian, for example, to take communion at a Catholic Mass? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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it's just not allowed. However, a catholic or a lutheran can take a communion in episcopal church no problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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A Catholic should absolutely not take communion in a Protestant church. No one will stop them, just as no one stops a non-Catholic from receiving in a Catholic church unless it is obvious that the person is not Catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Any baptized Christian is welcomed to take communion at Episcopal church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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But a Catholic should not. Like I said, the communion police will not come out and arrest you, Episcopalians may be fine with it, but Catholics should not take communion in a non-Catholic church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I think you are missing the point. It does not make anyone less of something. But in the cath church, to take communion, you must be in full agreement with the church and in good standing etc. You are basically saying "I believe in what the cath chruch believes in". If you are epis or baptist etc, you don't follow everything so you can't take communion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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Ah, the Catholic Church doesn't allow it? I thought you meant the Episcopal Church doesn't allow you to take communion in a Catholic Church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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yes. Catholic church does not allow it. :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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no, Episcopalians are extremely welcoming and accepting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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np: you do not understand the Eucharist according to the Catholic faith. Catholics believe the Eucharist is the body and blood of Christ. Other Christians do not hold our beliefs and therefore should not receive. Catholics in a state of mortal sin should also not receive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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OK, I really was missing the point. Thanks for explaining. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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BUNK. Episcopalians also believe that the Eucharist is the body and blood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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No. Their belief is different, and Catholics do not recognize their consecration as valid. Furthermore Episcopalians believe in consubstantiation, not transubstantion which is the Catholic belief. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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I responded to the statement about the body and blood. I AM correct. You are incorrect. Epsicopalians DO believe it is the body and blood and say so before communion. Stop by and check it out for yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I have checked it out. You check out the difference between consubstantiation and transubstantiation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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no, not really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Well if the issue is for dd to be able to go to church with either of her parents, being baptized Catholic makes it easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Oh, I didn't mean it was bad advice, just that the rules seem almost petty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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np it's not petty. It is someone's belief. All religions have rules. You can choose to follow or not, but I don't think it's petty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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sorry, no offense meant. I'm completely nonreligious, and have become, if possible, even more so since ds was born, since given my lack of belief I would feel like a hypocrite to try to instill any religion in ds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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and that's fine. Sure - some religions can be or seem petty - but most of the time there are historical or belief issues below what look like silly rules. Thats all. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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no it won't. Catholics are not as accetpting as Episc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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There are far more differences that go beyond whether women can be extraordinary ministers of Holy Communion (which they can be in the Catholic Church). I take it you and your husband do not practice your faiths much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Not active practicers but I will always go to Christmas Eve service even by myself. Always went on Sundays growing up and now that we have dd, I want to go with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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You can explain your way of thinking to your daughter, regardless of the church she's baptized in. I wouldn't worry. It is a good idea to discuss these things with dh, though, if he's at all religious, just so you know how you each feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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there is only one Christian baptism (it's the one sacrament all the Xians agree on) so it does not really matter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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not true. Catholic or non- [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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np yes actually. It is. If you are baptized in one church, you can join any other (within bounds I guess) If you were baptized in the name of the father son and holy ghost, you are good to go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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not true! Catholic is the only real one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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ITA! Ask the Pope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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LOL! I converted to catholicism after being baptized methodist years ago. They didn;t rebaptise me! It's the same thing and recognized my most major christian religions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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But the conversion process is not exactly simple is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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no. It took a year of classes. You have to be pretty serious to convert. But, I was not baptized again. My old one worked just fine apparently! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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Exactly my point. Converting from Catholic to Episcopal is much much easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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well if that's your biggest concern with picking a religion, you might as well just make up your own [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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np: Of course it does! Protestant churches that are Trinitarian have valid baptisms. LDS and Jehova Witness baptisms are not recognized as valid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Still it's the one true church. All others pale in comparison. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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meh. Why stir up trouble? We are all different. Why not have different systems of belief? signed catholic mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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sorry. forgot to add lol. signed reformed catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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ahhh! A wise guy eh? ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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we did it around 3 mos. episcopal. but they only do it on certain sundays of the year... based on the liturgical calendar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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First few months, usually [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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TTC 07.10.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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start watching out for changes in your cervical mucous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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very mucousy now actually [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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so get going and have fun every other day until you're all dried up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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babycenter has an ovulation calculator that will figure this out for you (and project ahead a few months) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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You will probably ovulate around July 15th. The more variable phase of the cycle is the time from the period until ovulation. The time from ovulation until the next expected period is relatively constant at two weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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Every day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:32 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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how far of a drive are you willing to go? mountains, beach, or something else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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good questions.... I should have said "no beach".... about two hours...not too far [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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How about Hershey, PA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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Point Pleasant in NJ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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MV, on 76th and 2d [ Reply | More
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Alice Hair, Second between 69th and 70th [ Reply | More
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2nd this, but I think it is $60 with blow dry (plus tip) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Still a very good price for Manhattan. They do good work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I totally agree. That's why I seconded your suggestion. The only person that I avoid there is Vicki. Everyone else has been fantastic. [ Reply | More
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