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[ - ] 31 weeks pg - can't sleep. This sucks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.11.08, 12:28 AM Flag
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17 weeks and having major sleep problems as well!! It does suck!!! You only have a couple more weeks to go....hang in there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:49 AM Flag
[ - ] amnio yesterday. went smoothly. can i assume today (still taking it easy) that if i have no indications to the contrary (i don't) everything is fine (in terms of the procedure)? (say YES, please.) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.10.08, 11:41 PM Flag
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just take it easy for the 48-72 hrs they suggest. I had cramping for the firs day then it went away but returned when I started to do too much. Relax and take it easy. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:41 AM Flag
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72 hours is the cut off point, but you are doing well if no signs at the moment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:13 AM Flag
[ - ] DD's bday gift did not arrive - it's a helicopter thing with airplane wings and it has a remote control and flies - sound familiar to anyone? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.10.08, 10:22 PM Flag
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DS has a really tiny helicopter with fragile wings that is remote-controlled. He loves it. It works really well, can do tricks, etc. Hope DD's gift arrives soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:24 PM Flag
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Thanks, but it won't - i have to find something else by tomorrow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:26 PM Flag
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thought I saw this at toys r us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 04:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Any Hoboken moms on? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:44 PM Flag
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they have the internets in hoboken already? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:46 PM Flag
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Excuse me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:48 PM Flag
[ - ] i found out i'm pregnant, a bit earlier than planned, we were thinking the end of the year...but it's good i'm happy. can you recommended some doctors? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.10.08, 09:29 PM Flag
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Congrats! You should consider a midwife. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:33 PM Flag
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OP: i haven't even been to the store to buy the books yet. doesn't a midwife work with the doctor? or are they separate? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:36 PM Flag
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obviously, do what you're most comfortable with. but in general, the midwifery model of care presumes a normal, healthy pregnancy and birth in a normal, healthy woman, while the obstetric model seems to really be tuned into finding pathology where there is none. I don't think doctors are bad, just unnecessary for most normal, healthy women. just make sure you educate yourself before you decide. congrats and good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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get a real ob [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:55 PM Flag
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yeah, get a real ob and get a real c-section! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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you get a midwife and let OP get a Dr like she asked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:42 AM Flag
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np: I loved my ob and was awesome for delivery of my dd, Dr Sharon Patrick 230-1785 delivers at Roosevelt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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i love dr. grigoryan -- and his whole practice, from front desk to partners -- at st. vincent's. also had a great delivery experience there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:33 AM Flag
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I love Dr Shawna Hedley and the 2 others in the practice (dr christopher and dr o'henry). They deliver out of Roosevelt and my exp. has been great..I'm pg with #3 212-599-4400 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:43 AM Flag
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np- thanks that reminds me to call them for my yearly check-up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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Adler, Kurtz, Tung (UES) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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Ditto on that, although FYI, Tung hasn't been with them in well over a year. It's now Dr. Kassenoff who is a woman, but has the personality and bedside manner of a hyperactive mule. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:40 AM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: Dh leaves message at noon saying there's suddenly an after-work function he has to go to but that he'll only have a drink or two and be home. DH leaves another message at 6 saying he's done work early, going to the function and will be home soon after. Not another word until DH walks in at 11:30 pm. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:13 PM Flag
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he met up with a hot chick [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:16 PM Flag
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that's giving dh a lot of credit.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:17 PM Flag
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Take a deep breath and let it go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:22 PM Flag
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He got worried you'd be pissed he was late at like 9pm, so then he didn't call. Men. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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he should have called..it takes 2 sec. Let him know this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:44 AM Flag
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ita- it's just common courtesy. otherwise you could be worried that he's dead, or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:56 AM Flag
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He should have called. And, I would have called him by about 9 to check in if I was concerned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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Nothing, he was having fun & lost track of time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:07 AM Flag
[ - ] We booked a party months ago and told our family to save the date. One of my dh's sibling's family told us that was a possible date for their dd's party. Dh kept on asking his sibling about their party and date but sibling Now they can't make it b/c they are having a party for their dd too. We found out recently b/c they didn't rsvp. They said they were trying to change the date. I am annoyed b/c they should have told us what they were doing. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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get over yourselves. what's the party you booked? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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^oops...Dh kept on asking his sibling about their party and date but sibling "didn't know" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:10 PM Flag
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his brother, right? of course his brother didn't know anything about dd's birthday party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:11 PM Flag
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i think they knew what they were doing all along, playing games [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a chronic medical condition that has caused me really bad pain for years. If I take enough pain medication for it, I can't really function with the kids or life. Without it, I am barely holding on for nighttime every day to take more and get a little rest. I've seen a ton of experts, my choices are limited. I really don't know if I can do this for another 30 years. Tonight I can't sleep even with all my meds, I'm just lying here in tears. Thanks for letting me vent. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:07 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. You sound incredibly brave and strong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:18 PM Flag
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I'm not either, especially lately. It's been 6 years, I'm tired and whiny now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:20 PM Flag
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i am sorry. what is htis medical condition ? have your tried acupuncture , reflexology,or yoga ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:20 PM Flag
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I used to do acupuncture every week the first few years. It was many thousands of dollars, so now I go just once a month. I practice modified yoga nearly every day as part of my behavior therapy and meditation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:22 PM Flag
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My heart goes out to you. I second the acupuncture suggestion. Also, have you tried smoking marijuana? It can be a helpful pain reliever for some. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:28 PM Flag
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That's a thought. I should look into that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:30 PM Flag
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you probably need to lose weight. A lot of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:33 PM Flag
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Huh? What would make you assume I'm overweight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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Well, what's the chronic medical condition? In my experience as a healthcare professional, most people who have "years of pain" (as opposed to an acute episode of pain reltaed to a specific injury)are overweight - the extra weight puts stress on their joints and their backs and they suffer from depression which can exacerbate their perception of pain. If it's "fibromyalgia" you have, the studies are inconclusive that it is even a real disease and the average patient is overweight (183 pounds as cited in The New York times not too long ago). I've watched my brother's 4 children cycle out of control into completely dysfunctional peopel because theier mother was "in pain" all the time and self-medicated on a daily basis. Don't do it, for your kids' sake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:54 PM Flag
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Wow, you are judgmental and mean. I don't have great muscle tone, but I am actually very thin, the pain reduces my appetite. And I don't have fibromyalgia, and am now not inclined to share any details because you will undoubtedly find fault with whatever it is. I am not self-medicated, I am under the care of several doctors including a pain specialist. I worry greatly about the effect of all my surgeries and hospitalizations on my kids. My DH and I try very hard to create as normal a life as we can, it's one of the reasons I do not take my recommended medications. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:58 PM Flag
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nnp: please dont' listen to this miserable individual who is just playing Dr on UB but is really a TROLL. I understand your pain. I have been suffering with chronic pains for 20 yrs now. Started with chronic migraines at 20yr old then a few yrs later an assault led to a spinal injury (more pain), spinal fusion surgery which led into a 6mo recovery but also developed RSD because of the surgery..and this turned into spinal arthritis...all of these chronic conditional with no cures but just you learn to live with it. I can't take the pain meds because I wouldn't function with my kids..so I deal. I know your pain..so please don't give up. What I did learn is that if you let the pain control you then you lost. I know it's easier said than done but believe me..fight through it and don't give up looking for alternatives [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:52 AM Flag
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^^^but believe me don't give up, don't let it control you and don't give up hope in finding a fix one day. I still hope all the time for a cure..in the mean time I control the pain..sometimes it gets the better of me but I don't let it win the war. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:54 AM Flag
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np; HEalthcare professional MY ASS...a Dr's front dest receptionist doens't count as a healthcare professional. No sane medical professional would make such a IGNORANT comment as your comment about OP most likely being overweight. WHAT AN IDIOT you are. You obviously know SQUAT about chronic pain and the causes. Please don't post BULLSHIT just to make your own pitiful life feel a tad better. Get a life numbnuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:48 AM Flag
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I'm curious exactly what kind of "healthcare professional" you are: you are either a fraud or should be embarassed by your ignorance. Its basic knowledge that there are multiple kinds of pain- bone, neuropathic, central, etc which are chronic and have NOTHING to do with weight, and this is common knowledge. In MY experience as a "healthcare professional" (neurologist who treats chronic pain every day) people on UB who say they are in the healthcare profession and then blurt out some diagnosis usually aren't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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OP: I finally fell asleep last night - yay! Things always look so much better in the morning, and I had a pretty good day today. The combo of a flareup and my impending surgery (which is an experimental nerve surgery) just got to me last night. Thank you all for the support. That OR seriously has some issues! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:44 PM Flag
[ - ] have to go to dinner at tao tomorrow nt, feel huge...what can I wear? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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are you pregnant ? doesn't matter ..wear those shirts that look maternity..nice jeans and sandals, funky earrings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:01 PM Flag
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I'm not pregnant, my son is 3 and unfortunately still 20lbs over weight and hate having to go to places that I feel so out of place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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angelina has made mu-mus all the rage this summer. go for that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:01 PM Flag
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hahaha, I would if I was pregnant, but sadly am not, just chubby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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seriously -- i see non-pregnant women wearing them all the time. floor length sundresses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:06 PM Flag
[ - ] tell me how a tiny square piece of paper causes a rash that requires a posting on UB? and how was that tiny square piece of paper shot from a gun? were there other injuries? did you call the po-po? are their armed, roving, menacing gangs of paper-shooters torturing the UES? CALL THE POST!!!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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Maybe she is that mom who posts the silly overreacting fake posts? Like, her DH is on a business trip and there delays to his plane, so she is worried that terrorists would see the opportunity and invade the plane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:01 PM Flag
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LOLOLOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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aw, come on. give her a break. her kid was threatened at his UES summer camp by some THUG in A GANG WITH A GUN!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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lmao! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:03 PM Flag
[ - ] my 10 month old dd has 102.5 degree fever (taken anally). We are in a hotel far from home. She's acting fine--eating. drinking her bottle, playing, smiling. Should I find an emergency room or wait it out through the night? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:47 PM Flag
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why is she eating, playing, and drinking her bottle at midnight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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because we just got to a hotel--it isnt a normal night --i'm watching her because of the fever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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if she's acting fine, why did you take her temp? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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oh my god, i was looking for some help. she felt really warm so i took her temp. she has a 102.5 degree fever. I'm not sure what to do. I'm in a weird situation because I'm in a hotel. I'm trying to decide whther or not to take her to an emergency room. I haven't dealt with her having fevers so I'm not sure how worried to be since she's acting like she feels fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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where are you ? is she teething ? drooling ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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outside of Baltimore. she could be teething. she didn't get a fever when she cut the first two teeth. Is a fever this high possible just because of teething? That could be the explanation since I think her top two may be coming in. She isn't really drooling but she didn't when her first two came in either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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call your ped. they should be on call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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if she is acting fine, do yourselves all a favor and go to sleep. give her some tylenol. there is no reason to drag her to an er in the middle of the night -- if she were really sick you would know it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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you dont want to go to the er unnecessarily...too many germs. i would call your ped on call [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:13 PM Flag
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Even though you are far from home, I would call my ped's after-hours number to see what they recommend. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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thanks everyone. not going to er but i called ped. I think she's fine--she seems totally fine--just so weird that the fever is that high. Of course this happens when we are away! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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babies get weird fevers. so do kids. always watch the child, not the number on the therm. you can have a 100.1 fever but if the child is lethargic, confused, and obviousy SICK, then that's another story. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:10 PM Flag
[ - ] A thought on the "cash for wedding gift" issue below, fwiw. Some friends of ours asked for cash for their wedding and got it. They were recently at our house for dinner, and kept saying how they loved our china and silver or whatever, and asked when we got all this stuff. I said for our wedding, we registered for it. And they said they wished they'd done the same because they just put the $ in their bank acct and can't remember at all what they spent it on. They wished they had registered for things that were nice/lasting and they would remember. The wife was lamenting how she knew they would never buy expensive stuff like that for themselves, so they'll just never have it. I love that I have the crystal from my father (he just passed), the china dh's grandma got us (also no longer with us), the platter from my inlaws, etc. to have forever. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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To each his own. We got a lot of cash for our wedding and I can tell you exactly what we spent it on - the downpayment for our home. It was the best present anyone could've given us since it allowed us to start our family home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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^^^we got plenty of sentimental gifts from our relatives for our engagement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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we got tons of cash and spent it all on our honeymoon. Best 6 weeks of our lives and the best way to start our lives together. no regrets! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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I give gifts for the shower and cash for the wedding. We got all of our china for our shower..and we received cash for our wedding. I know many ppl who use the wedding cash as a down payment for their first home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 04:04 AM Flag
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We have nice china but it's collecting dust, never being used. I don't think I'd register for it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Why is it that in Park Slope only PS 321 gets talked about when there are so many other schools in the area (e.g., 107, 10, 282)? 321 sounds overcrowded to me - why all the hype? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.10.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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321 has been great for years, so people know about it. But PS 107 had amazing test scores this year -- I think they must be one of the top public schools in NYC now. I wish I knew what they were doing so my public school could do the same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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we just moved to brooklyn and i specifically stayed away from 321 because of its size. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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Who says 282 is a great school? That is bizarre. Everyone flees that school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:27 AM Flag
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I didn't say 282 was a great school. My post was why is it that only 321 gets talked about? Why do people flee 282? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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I don't know. My kids are there (it is our zoned school and I believe in actually sending my child to the zoned school) and it is actually great. Much more diversity than 321, smaller classes, really excellent teachers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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Huh, diversity at 282? My kids go there & I think the main problem w/ 282 is there is no diversity. Look on Inside schools -- W 5 B 64 H 30 A 2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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Well, my dcs classes are pretty diverse - in terms of more than race [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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Huh? My kids go to 282 & main problem is no diversity: White: 5%; Black: 64%; Hispanic: 30%; Asian 2%. I do think that will change with new DOE policy to force you to go to zoned school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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Funny how people say lack of diversity when a school is predominantly non white... ps 321 stats 62 W 18 B 16 H 5 A - biggest difference between 321 and 282 is that 282 is 62% black and 321 is 62% white - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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or who LIKES 282- I completely agree. And there is a lot more to diversity than b & w [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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So your only issue is no diversity? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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Very traditional approach to education which many of the current parents like. Not a lot of parent involvement. Principal hasn't endeared herself to parents in the neighborhood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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Traditional vs. progressive. Is the teaching focused on rote instruction? Do they discourage parent involvement or do parents just not get involved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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^^my daughter is going to attend this school in the fall - but I have only been able to get minimal information about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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Rote may be too strong a word, but that is the perception. My child was in PreK which was great, but that is what I hear about higher grades. They have good test scores, which many parents focus on. Te attitude in the halls is fairly authoritarian. I do think change is in the air as many neighborhood parents are sending their kids their. Just not soon enough for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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Did you see any issues with the behaviour of kids at the school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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where are you going to send your dcs instead? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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Fear of brown people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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