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[ - ] we usually travel to see dh's family at xmas. it is a 3 hour plane ride and i will be about 33 weeks pg with #2. i am also having a planned c-sec. would you travel? i am honestly worried about being comfortable in the seat. i am a petite person and #1 was almost 10 pounds! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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It will be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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ITA. Besides, I'm never comfortable on a plane even when I'm not pregnant! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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check with your ob first, but if you aren't having any preterm labor problems you should be fine. drink lots of water and walk around the cabin as much as possible. and yeah, you'll probably be uncomfortable. but at 33 weeks you're likely to be uncomfortable anywhere! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Okay, if this can be done flamelessly, I am a size 16 and looking for smart, shapely jackets, the kind that can be worn over a flowing top to look kind of smart and contemporary. I know a million shopping sites, but I want specific recommendations. I want jackets for casual and dressy looks. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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Ann Taylor is sometimes good for this - but you might have to have the sleeves taken up depending on your proportions. I find JCrew cut too narrow even at the larger sizes to look good. I really wouldn't buy something like this online but would rather go and try things on. You could also buy something that is more loosely cut and have it fitted a little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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why not go to Sacks or Bloomies and try on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:38 AM Flag
[ - ] CAn some one please recommend a nice hip hotel in south beach, florida...not the Delano. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.11.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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the shore club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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I liked the National when I stayed there in 2005 but I know there are a lot of newer hotels now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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Loewes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:42 AM Flag
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Tides [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:43 AM Flag
[ - ] I think after Obama wins the presidency, white people will feel we can get past the slavery guilt and won't support civil rights issues (for AA community) anymore. People are already doing this now and are "using" Obama as their pawn. 72 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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News 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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LOL! Way to take a positive and make it a negative! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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Whatever. Why do you think Jesse Jackson comment resonated with those in leadership? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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because it is hilarious! JJ is jealous that BO is getting the nomination and not him. I think he feels he is owed something. I think he is also worried that if a black man becomes president, it will show that anything is possible in this country and he will be obsolete [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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bingo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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np: that's what a couple AA people in my office were saying -- JJ is just jealous of Obama [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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he wants to cut his nuts off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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It worked out for Obama. The more distance between those two the better for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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You really think he will be obsolte just bec we have one black man become the prez of US? This is naive. JJ's lifelong mission was not about placing a black man into WH. It was about issues that disproportionately affect AA community and those who haven't made it up to the middle class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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I'm saying I think he may feel that way. He has done more to keep aa people down than any right wing zealot ever has. He plays on racial fears. He keeps people feeling helpless. I think BO becoming president will show many many people that JJ was wrong about this country and they will stop listening to him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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You prove my point. You think everything he talked about are "playing on racial fears"??? You really think the country won't need advocates for those who haven't made it to the black middle class? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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I think he encourages people to feel helpless and like they need big gov't or his organization to survive. When the reality is that there are laws against discrimination and even though some people are still racist, it;s a minority now. People can do well - regardless of skin color or background - if they work hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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Hear hear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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Once again, white people want a cheap way to pay out of their guilt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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Why do you think white people should feel guilty? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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I'm talking about national guilt over slavery. As a nation, we have not addressed this. Affirmative action was a cheap way to "solve" this but that is going away as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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If it is national guilt than why is it "white"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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The people in this country who inherit any guilt for slavery, in my opinion, are pretty small. My people came over in the 1910's and 1920's. I have no "white guilt." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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ITA. Waaaaay back, my family actually did own slaves. So? Slavery was wrong. Discrimination is wrong. I have to responsibilty or control over what my relatives did (or do for that matter! I can't stop my mom from dating an idiot!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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ITTTTTTA. My family owned plantations and slaves. It wasn't good, but that was their way of life, 150 years ago. The ended up being abolitionists and freed their slaves (and paid them, long before many did), but it still doesn't make it right. Still, it is not my fault in any way, and I don't feel guilty for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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exactly. I feel bad that slavery happened in this country, but not guilty. I have no responsibility for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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its like German kids today who feel guilty because of the Holocaust, even though they were not alive and had nothing to do with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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Except they don't really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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who doesn't what really? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Young germans feel guilt for holocaust. Maybe a bit of sheepishness over nazi past and Hitler, but even that is older generation that grew up post-war. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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I know a number of young germans who feel guilt and perceive hostility from foreigners because of Hitler [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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Sure you do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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Are you serious? Your family benefited from slavery financially. You are a descendant of that family. You have benefited from it as well. There are consequences to generational wealth or poverty. You sound like an idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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ITA. donate your inheritance to NAACP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Why do you assume that the responder has benefitted from her former slave-owning family at all? You don't realize that $$ (if there ever was a lot, many slave owners were pretty darn poor) that it may not have trickled down 150 years????! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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There are generational consequences. On the flip side, why do you think breaking the cycle of poverty is so hard? It's bec the family and the descendants are trapped, among other factors, in the culture of poverty as well as factors that can level the playing field. Educational opportunities, early childhood/parenting issues, no role model, etc, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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I think it really really really depends on each individual person. My dad grew up in the Great Depression/Dust Bowl Kansas, had no parental involvement, no money, everyone he knew became a farmer like their parents. He used his opportunity being declared 4-F in WWII (an error) to enroll in college, later got a masters and PhD, became incredibly successful but always worked for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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Good for him, but that is a diff story. He wasn't subject to institutional racism and discrimination. Also, he was an exception, not the rule, was he? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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This shouldn't be about guilt but about ensuring equal opportunity for everyone. There is no need for people to feel guilty for something they haven't personally done [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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yeah, really, keep down the black man permanently! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.03.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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I agree with you. I think progress that has been made with Affirmative Action will be lost. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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why would it be lost? Maybe people will finally actually be judged on the content of their character and not the color of their skin. Just what MLK jr. wanted and everyone should want. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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Just because Obama made a breakthrough doesn't mean discrimination will no longer exist. I think in this country it is largely still unrealistic that people will no longer judge another based on the color of their skin. Do you really think just because of Obama there will be no more racial profiling? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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of course there will still be idiots. I'm saying having a blacl pres would be a huge step and would encourage people to believe they can accomplish things. Doesn't fix everything, but it is a huge symbolic step [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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It will be a huge step - but it doesn't fix everything and therefore I don't think we should end programs that help ensure diversity of schools and the workplace [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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of course it doesn't fix everything but I think the time is coming soon when we should scrap those programs. I think at some point they will have outlived their usefulness and become a hindrance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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I hope to see the day where these programs aren't needed - but I don't think that day is in the next 1 to 5 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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Affirmative Action has gone too far now, so having it be somewhat scaled back would not be a bad thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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Why do you think its gone too far? Doesn't seem that upper management at most companies is reflective of the demographic they serve - and I can't believe that it is only about how smart these people are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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I think the concept of basically racial profiling to diversify colleges is a very bad effect of affirmative action. There is no reason to only allow x amount of one ethnicity or another into a college (or workplace for tha matter) but many colleges are now doing that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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Where do you suggest their is a ceiling based on race? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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^^^np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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at many places it is - only x percentage of certain groups are admitted to allow more of other groups, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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wait, are you saying there is, for arguments sake, a cap of six Norwegians at some specific school and if seven Norwegians each with perfect SATs, one plays basketball, one is a music prodigy, etc all seven are great candidates and admissions wants each of them. They are not letting one in, because s/he is Norwegian? Or are you saying they want more Norwegians so they bump up the admissions index for six of them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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think a bit more broadly than a single country, but yes. This has happened a number of times, especially with people of Asian origin and at some schools caucasians or even black at other schools (i.e. traditionally black schools that want to diversify) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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"has happened" or "is happening"? I know it happened in the past. It happened to every group in one way or another. But is it happening right now, in 2008? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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yes, it is actively happening in 2008. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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Where? and to which group? I'm not trying to bust your chops I just find this hard to believe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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Most colleges consider race as a factor (I am the daughter of a former HYP admissions counselor who retired 2 years ago) when they can - it is "supposed" to be race-blind, but it is pretty obvious on many applications. They try to diversify as much as possible. This is especially common in the top colleges against Asians, in undergrad only. A number of traditionally-black colleges also are actively trying to admit more non-black kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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IMHO, trying to increase/encourage enrollment from some groups does not equal discrimination against others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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I don't think allowing only x % of a certain group in is the right answer - but I think schools/workplaces should try to ensure a diverse applicant pool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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you sound like a politician! How would you ensure that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I'm not a politician - nor would I ever want to be one. For schools they can reach out to different communities to encourage applicants from what are deemed underserved communities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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There is nothing wrong with being a politician. Just be a good one. A fair one. An honest one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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If Obama keeps disappointing his followers and breaks his promises for "change" he will not get far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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He is appealing to the post-partisan ideas that he has always espoused. I don't understand why people aren't for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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His 180 degrees on the FISA bill is really, really disappointing. So much for change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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I'm not happy about that, but you have to pick you battles, which is what he seems to be doing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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uhm, excuse me. The FISA bill is one of the worst things that can happen to your individual freedom. He should not have voted for this POS of a bill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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I agree that it is not good, but I don't agree that it is one of the "worst things" - those of us who have nothing to hide have nothing to worry about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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that is a very slippery slope. I hope you understand why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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I do, but I also know that as a law-abiding citizen (who has an FBI file because of my family but i'm not worried about it) I will be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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np why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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He can't do worse than Bush/McCain. Sure he will disappoint his followers on somethings -- no politician can please everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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Any way you slice it, Black people have a harder time in America overall than Whites. For so many things Blacks have to work twice as hard to get what they need - school, jobs, acceptance - that will probably never change, no matter who is president. Did you consider that if he does something "wrong" (Obama) it could be chalked up to his Blackness? Because surely someone somewhere will see it this way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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Oh please. Of course he'll make mistakes, but he will do some great things too. And I think it will be great for AA boys to have a role model other than NBA players, it will widen their horizons greatly. For many, it already has. I can't see how it would be step in the wrong direction. It's not the end, but it is a big step. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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No one is asking anyone to feel guilty. I don't look at a white person and think "you're ancestors enslaved me". I do sometimes resent the ease of white person not having deal with race as an issue every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:18 PM Flag
[ - ] any spanish speakers on? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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try us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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sorry for the absurd question, but how would you translate, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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yes,....... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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'no need to change these sheets' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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no cambia las savanas, por favor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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thank you so much!! you are awesome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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I wish you knew what she really just said...just kidding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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Si [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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Here's a great site when in need for translation, http://www.freetranslation.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know if there's an electronics store like J&R or B&H near 40th and 5th? I need to get a pair of good headphones. tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.11.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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there is a Best Buy on 44th and 5th and a Circuit City right next door. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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great, thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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how about googling? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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np: sometimes it's way better to get a rec. from someone who is actually familiar with the area, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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np, how about googling a new board to go to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:09 AM Flag
[ - ] So - why are two kids better than one? On the fence about having a second. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.11.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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It is not necessarily. Often one kid is better - it really depends on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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don't know if it is better for you, but siblings are a gift IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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ita. if you can make it through the battles and sibling rivalry, sibs give/get a lot from one another, and form a bond for life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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Some sibs never make it through this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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true. but better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all, is my motto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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^than [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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I would argue that the ones that don't are the exception. I can't stand one of my sisters now, but I still loved having them both growing up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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don;t make it through? What does that mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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The don't make it through the sibling rivalry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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I am just going for it. I love #1 and love my siblings. I feel like once I get through the toddler stages it will be worth the extra work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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Everyday we say we're glad we had a second - they fight sometimes but really enjoy and love each other. They entertain each other and keep us from putting too much pressure on one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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I love having two. They are in another part of the house right now having an adventure together. I feel like our family is more complete since DD showed up. I have older siblings but was raised alone. It was okay but I think I did miss out on that closer sibling relationship as a child (my older sister and are very close now). I like seeing my kids having that and learning from it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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they entertain themselves. plus, it is truly amazing to see them develop a relationship. they learn to deal with conflict and at least your older dc has someone with whom they can complain about you and dh. i was on the fence and am glad I had 2nd dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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My only is great at entertaining herself, better than most her friends with sibs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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it is different when one dc is entertaining self vs two kids. every dc is different too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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Right, they usually don't fight with themselves :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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They have each other. They play together, they grow together. When I leave them with a new sitter or overnight at my parents its definitely easier on them because they have the comfort of having each other there. When they grow up they can complain to each other about dh and me - and hopefully stay close enough to support each other through hard times. I say this as my dh and his brother are cleaning out their parents house which is being sold in a few weeks (their dad is in hospice care in a nursing home (advanced alzheimers) and mother passed 2 years ago). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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But the age diff will be big - like 4 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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that's really not that big. My sis and I are best friends and we're 4 yrs apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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np: mine are 3.5 apart and play together a lot. It probably helps that oldest is a boy & youngest is a girl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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I think about how close I am to my sibs and try to picture growing up without them, or not having them around now that I'm an adult. Also, one day my parents will no longer be around, and good to know I still have them in my life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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sounds like you're leaning towards having another, from the way you asked the question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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I loved loved loved being an only. Loved it. Even now that both parents gone I'm not sorry. Economically made lots more sense & we got to do lots of things that 4 would have made impossible. I do have lots of local cousins but loved the life of just my parents and me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:04 AM Flag
[ - ] At what age do newborns develop good eye-to-eye contact? It seems like my 2 week-old likes to look at anything else except me -- even while BF'ing. Normal or should I call ped? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.11.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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relax!!!! It's going to be a looooong childhood at this rate. Newborns can't see very well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
[ - ] would it make sense that my 9mo seems to eat fewer solids now that i've weaned and she is drinking formula for the first time? could it be she is more full on formula and eating less? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.11.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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I think formula is more filling. Try feeding her solids first and then giving formula. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:12 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm so turned off by the new look of the site (I imagine this must have been discussed ad nauseum), but I have been out of traveling) and miss some of the old features. When I do visit it seems like requests for help (whether is is child related or not) get very few responses. Why does it seem like the Toddler board moves at a snail's pace? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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many have abandoned ship to another parenting website [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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where do they go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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I think this site is MUCH better designed than the old site. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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In what way? I miss the ability to post inside for one thing. Doesn't it move slower too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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They need to let us collapse threads and have them stay collapsed and to make read posts/old posts look different from new posts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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yup! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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as a message board maybe, but it does not allow for good instant conversation like UB did, and as a result much less traffic, which sucks. I am also tired of the same posts popping up on first page month after they were started. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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Right, why do they do that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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Because you aren't sorting by recency. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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The board seems totally dead if you sort by recency, because you are missing 75% of the conversation that does that place (on older threads). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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OP: Ugh, sorry for not proofreading. Continue on. Any other thoughts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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youbemom.com is exactly like the old site and everyone from before is on it. it has the same high traffic and conversations. this is not the same crowd as the old ub. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Why can't you see the dates of the posts anymore? Why do old posts stay up for so long? Is it ordered by how many responses there are in a thread? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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click on "options" on each post to see the time/date stamp. select "sort by recency" on the right side of your screen to see the posts in chrono order. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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Ah ha! Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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You can, under options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:56 AM Flag
[ - ] going to "new family" lunch at pre-k school director's house - what to bring? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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Seriously! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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Flowers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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yourself, your child, and a good attitude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:44 AM Flag
[ - ] would you take a 4.5 and 2 yo to a 7pm baseball game? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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probably not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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only for a few innings, to get "the feel" of the game [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:38 AM Flag
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depends on who is playing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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Not if I wanted to see all eight and a half innings (Yankee fan.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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yes but I would not expect to be able to watch the whole game. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:06 AM Flag
[ - ] name poll - paloma (need an "m" middle name too, please) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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paloma maria. don't love the paloma, tho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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I would go Marie. Don't like the alliteration of PalomAh MariAh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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ITA. Marie is nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Paloma Mar, Mirella, Maite [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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what kind of names are those? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone buying a coop and looking for a mortgage? Just wondering your experience is particularly hard. Reading lots of bad things about Fannie Mae, etc, concerned it will affect our ability to get a mortgage. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.11.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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I am not, but I don't think the government would let Fannie Mae go under. There would literally be pretty much no bank willing to give people mortgages if this was the situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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If you have excellent credit and assets you won't have a problem getting a mortgage. We just did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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Coops tend to be much pickier and more conservative about your finances than a bank is - and most coops restrict the % you can borrow, even more so that an bank will, so if you can buy a coop you probably won't have any issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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OP Here - I think it may just be a matter of price as opposed to availability, which could screw up our budgeting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:38 AM Flag
[ - ] We started a two-week trial this week with new nanny. She has been 5 or 10 minutes late everyday. She's very sweet with the kids but thinking the lateness is a bad sign. Am I overreacting? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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have you discussed with her why she's late? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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why don't you talk to her about it first and then see what happens. I would give her a chance, esp. if she's good with your kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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Give her one warning that you really need her to be on time. If it continues, you may have to find someone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:36 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone on who works 4 days a week? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.11.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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Me! I have a two year old. I work Monday through Thursday but have tried taking Wednesday off for a while. I worked 5 days for one year, then switched to four days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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OP: are you so much happier working 4 than 5? I will hopefully be able to make the switch... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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I am really happy that I am trying it, but I do have some mixed feelings. Pros: I feel like even this one extra day with DD will makes me feel like the balance of daycare/time with her family is better; If DD gets sick it is SO MUCH less stressful, I can take the day; I get to feel like a SAHM for a day/do the mommy thing - take DD to classes, Central Park, swimming... sometimes my mom comes in; CONS: I check in on Fridays and sometimes do some work during nap time, etc. Someone is out for four months in my group, and it's harder to keep my workload to four days now but they have me budgeted for five days. So really the mommy track/work to pay type of thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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-- But I think I really am way happier. I actually had no choice but to pay for 5 days of daycare so I can bring DD to school and have an hour or two to myself in the morning. A whole day if I wanted, but that would kind of defeat the purpose of going 4 days to be with her more. My husband is SO MUCH happier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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op: good to hear - I hope I get as lucky as you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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me too - good luck. if not, you might be able to down the line. before I had dd I would never have thought to ask, but companies are more flexible than when I joined the workforce a long time ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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My sister works 4 days a week - she takes Wednesday off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:41 AM Flag
[ - ] How much do you pay your nanny? For how many hours? Where do you live? TIA, I really need to know! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.11.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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live in manhattan. pay her 120 a day 7:30-5pm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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you're cheap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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should add that she usually leaves by 430. so its about 13 an hour [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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one child in preschool btw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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6 am -9 pm every day, pay $1500 a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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To one person? If I needed that many hours I would totally get two to split it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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oh, that is for 2 people. and it doesn't count the pm babysitter i have to come help with dinner and bedtime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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can't you do anything for yourself? You have nanny help all day, and then you need more help at night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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seriously... even if you and dh work fulltime you sound like you spend NO time with your kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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Maybe she has 3 or 4 young kids and they spend time with kids and the nanny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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$15 an hour for 1 year old dd, manhattan, also light housekeeping [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Nanny paid on the books: what are the advantages/disadvantages to hiring a nanny that has to be paid on the books? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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advantage - she has reportable wages so she can get a mortgage, prove employment for landlord, collect unemployment, qualify for social security, obey the law. For you, you can and must buy workman's comp which could protect you if she has an accident in your home. disadvantage - costs you more and she takes home less (unless you gross up her pay). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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It's legal and there is legal protection for both you and the nanny. Con is that it is more expensive, sometimes a lot more expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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There are no disadvantages. It will cost you more but provide protection for the person to whom you've entrusted your children. This is a strange question imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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for some the cost (and the paperwork) are a perceived disadvantage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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