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07.11.08, 06:44 AM New York City
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So - why are two kids better than one? On the fence about having a second. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.11.08, 06:44 AM Flag
 

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It is not necessarily. Often one kid is better - it really depends on you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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don't know if it is better for you, but siblings are a gift IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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ita. if you can make it through the battles and sibling rivalry, sibs give/get a lot from one another, and form a bond for life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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Some sibs never make it through this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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true. but better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all, is my motto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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^than [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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I would argue that the ones that don't are the exception. I can't stand one of my sisters now, but I still loved having them both growing up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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don;t make it through? What does that mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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The don't make it through the sibling rivalry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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I am just going for it. I love #1 and love my siblings. I feel like once I get through the toddler stages it will be worth the extra work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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Everyday we say we're glad we had a second - they fight sometimes but really enjoy and love each other. They entertain each other and keep us from putting too much pressure on one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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I love having two. They are in another part of the house right now having an adventure together. I feel like our family is more complete since DD showed up. I have older siblings but was raised alone. It was okay but I think I did miss out on that closer sibling relationship as a child (my older sister and are very close now). I like seeing my kids having that and learning from it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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they entertain themselves. plus, it is truly amazing to see them develop a relationship. they learn to deal with conflict and at least your older dc has someone with whom they can complain about you and dh. i was on the fence and am glad I had 2nd dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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My only is great at entertaining herself, better than most her friends with sibs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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it is different when one dc is entertaining self vs two kids. every dc is different too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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Right, they usually don't fight with themselves :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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They have each other. They play together, they grow together. When I leave them with a new sitter or overnight at my parents its definitely easier on them because they have the comfort of having each other there. When they grow up they can complain to each other about dh and me - and hopefully stay close enough to support each other through hard times. I say this as my dh and his brother are cleaning out their parents house which is being sold in a few weeks (their dad is in hospice care in a nursing home (advanced alzheimers) and mother passed 2 years ago). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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But the age diff will be big - like 4 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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that's really not that big. My sis and I are best friends and we're 4 yrs apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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np: mine are 3.5 apart and play together a lot. It probably helps that oldest is a boy & youngest is a girl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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I think about how close I am to my sibs and try to picture growing up without them, or not having them around now that I'm an adult. Also, one day my parents will no longer be around, and good to know I still have them in my life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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sounds like you're leaning towards having another, from the way you asked the question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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I loved loved loved being an only. Loved it. Even now that both parents gone I'm not sorry. Economically made lots more sense & we got to do lots of things that 4 would have made impossible. I do have lots of local cousins but loved the life of just my parents and me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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