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07.10.08, 18:31 PM General Topics
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Baptisms - what age is this typically done? Does baby go by mom's religion? I'm Episcopalian, DH is Catholic. I want daughter to be Episcopalian. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.10.08, 06:31 PM Flag
 

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Why would you want baby to be Episcopalian? Just go all the way and be Catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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My mom is Episcopalian and father is Catholic. I was raised Episcopalian but went to Catholic school so I know all about both faiths. Definitely prefer dd to be my faith. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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hey now - nothing wrong with Episcopalians! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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ignorant about this stuff. Does it really matter what kind of baptism? Couldn't she be baptized in Catholic Church and still raised Episcopalian? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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np yes. I converted to catholicism but was baptised as a teen in the methodist church. I was not rebaptized [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Generally done around 3 mos. Baby is the religion the parents choose. that is why there is a baptism, you are introducing them to the faith. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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This is much easier than the other way around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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I would baptize the baby Catholic and raise Episcopalian. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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Historically, done as soon after birth as possible, now usually done before DC turns 1 y/o. Baby doesn't have to go by mother's religion, it's entirely up to the parents. It's usually something that is more important to one parent (if it matters at all to either one). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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And usually discussed before the couple marry, if OP or DH has not brought it up yet sounds like it's not really that important to either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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np: many people who are not all that religious go through this when they are about to have kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Right, my point is that if it were really important to either of them, it would have been discussed beforehand. Since it isn't chances are they can find a decent compromise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I understand your point, but I know several people who thought they didn't care at all about religion until they were faced with how they would raise their kids. Yes, it would have made sense to discuss kids and religion before marriage, but I don't think many people realize how important it is to them until the baby is a reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Are baptisms and christenings the same thing? If service is done in a Catholic church, does that mean she is Catholic? I want her to be Episcopalian. Haven't raised it with dh yet. Episcopalian and Catholic are both Christian but there are differences, like women can serve communion. Would like my daughter to believe in that, whereas Catholics have limits on women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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If she is baptised in a Catholic service, DB is Catholic. However, that will be recognized by the Episcopal church (and an Episcopal christening will be recognized by the Catholic church for most things). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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I don't think this is true. I don't believe as Episcopal you can take communion in Catholic church, while you definitely can the other way around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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np: no, there is one Christian baptism, recognized by the Catholic Church. The Eucharist is a separate sacrament, and for Catholics, you must be in full communtion w/ the Church to receive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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tbat's why it's for "most things" an Episcopal can be married in a Catholic church without a dispensation from the local bishop, because they were christened in a Christian ceremony, but no, they may not take communion at a Catholic mass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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this all seems rather silly, though, doesn't it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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in what way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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how will it make someone less of an Episcopalian, for example, to take communion at a Catholic Mass? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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it's just not allowed. However, a catholic or a lutheran can take a communion in episcopal church no problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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A Catholic should absolutely not take communion in a Protestant church. No one will stop them, just as no one stops a non-Catholic from receiving in a Catholic church unless it is obvious that the person is not Catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Any baptized Christian is welcomed to take communion at Episcopal church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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But a Catholic should not. Like I said, the communion police will not come out and arrest you, Episcopalians may be fine with it, but Catholics should not take communion in a non-Catholic church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I think you are missing the point. It does not make anyone less of something. But in the cath church, to take communion, you must be in full agreement with the church and in good standing etc. You are basically saying "I believe in what the cath chruch believes in". If you are epis or baptist etc, you don't follow everything so you can't take communion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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Ah, the Catholic Church doesn't allow it? I thought you meant the Episcopal Church doesn't allow you to take communion in a Catholic Church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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yes. Catholic church does not allow it. :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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no, Episcopalians are extremely welcoming and accepting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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np: you do not understand the Eucharist according to the Catholic faith. Catholics believe the Eucharist is the body and blood of Christ. Other Christians do not hold our beliefs and therefore should not receive. Catholics in a state of mortal sin should also not receive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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OK, I really was missing the point. Thanks for explaining. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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BUNK. Episcopalians also believe that the Eucharist is the body and blood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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No. Their belief is different, and Catholics do not recognize their consecration as valid. Furthermore Episcopalians believe in consubstantiation, not transubstantion which is the Catholic belief. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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I responded to the statement about the body and blood. I AM correct. You are incorrect. Epsicopalians DO believe it is the body and blood and say so before communion. Stop by and check it out for yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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I have checked it out. You check out the difference between consubstantiation and transubstantiation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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no, not really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Well if the issue is for dd to be able to go to church with either of her parents, being baptized Catholic makes it easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Oh, I didn't mean it was bad advice, just that the rules seem almost petty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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np it's not petty. It is someone's belief. All religions have rules. You can choose to follow or not, but I don't think it's petty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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sorry, no offense meant. I'm completely nonreligious, and have become, if possible, even more so since ds was born, since given my lack of belief I would feel like a hypocrite to try to instill any religion in ds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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and that's fine. Sure - some religions can be or seem petty - but most of the time there are historical or belief issues below what look like silly rules. Thats all. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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no it won't. Catholics are not as accetpting as Episc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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There are far more differences that go beyond whether women can be extraordinary ministers of Holy Communion (which they can be in the Catholic Church). I take it you and your husband do not practice your faiths much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Not active practicers but I will always go to Christmas Eve service even by myself. Always went on Sundays growing up and now that we have dd, I want to go with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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You can explain your way of thinking to your daughter, regardless of the church she's baptized in. I wouldn't worry. It is a good idea to discuss these things with dh, though, if he's at all religious, just so you know how you each feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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there is only one Christian baptism (it's the one sacrament all the Xians agree on) so it does not really matter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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not true. Catholic or non- [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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np yes actually. It is. If you are baptized in one church, you can join any other (within bounds I guess) If you were baptized in the name of the father son and holy ghost, you are good to go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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not true! Catholic is the only real one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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ITA! Ask the Pope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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LOL! I converted to catholicism after being baptized methodist years ago. They didn;t rebaptise me! It's the same thing and recognized my most major christian religions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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But the conversion process is not exactly simple is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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no. It took a year of classes. You have to be pretty serious to convert. But, I was not baptized again. My old one worked just fine apparently! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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Exactly my point. Converting from Catholic to Episcopal is much much easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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well if that's your biggest concern with picking a religion, you might as well just make up your own [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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np: Of course it does! Protestant churches that are Trinitarian have valid baptisms. LDS and Jehova Witness baptisms are not recognized as valid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Still it's the one true church. All others pale in comparison. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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meh. Why stir up trouble? We are all different. Why not have different systems of belief? signed catholic mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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sorry. forgot to add lol. signed reformed catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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ahhh! A wise guy eh? ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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we did it around 3 mos. episcopal. but they only do it on certain sundays of the year... based on the liturgical calendar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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First few months, usually [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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