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[ - ] Restart: Sister is coming to visit with her family. I invited my brother to come over for a BBQ while she's in town. I haven't seen my sister since March and my brother hasn't seen her in a while either. I know my MIL would like to see my sister and her kids, but I am torn whether to invite her and FIL. If I invite them, it will for sure change the dynamics of the day. I feel like it should be okay not to feel like I have to invite her over, but if I don't, she will probably feel disappointed that I didn't. Dh doesn't care, as we are going away with her parents in a week for a long weekend. WWYD? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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if you are going away with them soon, i say keep it to your family only. you have the right to visit with your sister [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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you dont have to invite MIL. that being said, could she stop by for dessert? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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great idea, except that MIL lives about an hour away. My sister is coming for a long weekend, so maybe I should invite MIL to come over Friday afternoon for an hour or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Any recurrent miscarriage moms on? Did you ever end up getting pregnant successfully? 3 losses in one year for me (although one was ectopic). I have done every test in the book and they have all come out normal plus the genetics on the tissue have been normal too. Just really frustrated. Looking for some inspiration. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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I have had 4 miscarriages in 2 years. The first three were at 6.5 weeks, 7.5 weeks (twins), and 5 weeks. The last miscarriage was just a week ago. The fetus had died at 11.5 weeks, 3-5 days after I had a CVS done. For my last pregnancy, it was discovered that I become hypothyroid and have anti-thyroglobin antibodies, but only after becoming pregnant. I had normal tests (no antibodies and normal thyroid hormone levels) 2 months before I got pregnant and at day 27 of my last pregnancy - but the levels were abnormal on day 30. For the last pregnancy, I took levothyroxin (thyroid hormone) and baby aspirin (81 mg) I am hoping that this is why this fetus survived longer than the others (the ultrasound was completely normal at week 11) and that the CVS is the reason I lost her. I am not getting CVS if I get pregnant again. Have you been tested for antibodies/thyroid hormone levels when you are pregnant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.12.08, 12:59 AM Flag
[ - ] Live in Durham, NC no for dh's job and to be closer to family. we used to live in nyc. Now dh's fellowship is up and he is applying for jobs. What cities should we consider moving to? I like NC, love being close to family and dc being close to cousins, etc but I kind of feel like: you only live once, live somewhere fab. Is that selfish if I know my dc would benefit a lot from being closer to family? I miss the excitement of a larger city--like SF or LA. WDYT? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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I'd choose family (especially if you like them) over a city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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I guess I'll live my fab live once my kids go to college *sigh* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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You already lived in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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I know. But I miss the pace... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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I wouldn't do SF with kids unless you know 100% you can do private and have an excellent shot of getting in. The public school system there is a huge headache, completely aggravating. Outside SF is lovely and lots more families w/ young kids--but sounds like you want a big city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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Where is good outside SF on a HHI of ~500K? tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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We're on the Peninsula and love it. Good weather, nice neighborhoods, can get to SF or SJ pretty easily. Lots for kids to do. Home prices in a really nice area w/ good public schools runs 1-4mil. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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So you can get a beautiful home in a nice neighborhood for 1-1.5mil? How many BRs? tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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A 1mil would get you something smaller on a small lot that may or may not need some work--but you might be able to get 3 br. Our home is new w/ 4 br/office/bonus room and was over 3 mil brand new. Some towns on the Peninsula it probably gets you more--San Carlos is very nice, decent downtown, good schools, great weather. Housing prices, while not affordable, would be a bit lower than Menlo Park or Palo Alto. If you want easy access to SF then higher up the Peninsula--like Burlingame--would be easier. Burl. has an excellent downtown, schools are okay (not as good as MP or PA but I have friends w/ kids in public there who are very happy). East Bay (Berkeley, parts of Oakland) can be nice too, but I'm not as familiar w/ it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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It really goes on a school-by-school basis and we haven't lived anywhere else so I have no basis of comparison. We were really thrilled w/ DS school this year--public, fantastic principal & teachers, great parent community. I think you get a lot of that here, esp. w/ high concentrations of Silicon Valley types. We love living here--it is more expensive than other places (I'm sure higher cost of living than Durham) but of us it's worth it and we're happy we can do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:56 AM Flag
[ - ] My friend is a teacher at a TT. Her dc go to the school, pretty much only because she works there. They are smart and lovely, but let's face it, their admission is her perk. Is this fair? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.16.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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Admission is not her perk. Went to a TT and plenty of teachers dcs did not get in or go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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Of course it is - it is a benefit of the job. All jobs have benefits of some sort. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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It should be perk, but often it is not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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Exactly. Thank you voice of actual experience. OP you are hardly this woman's friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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I may not be her friends, but I am her friend !!!! I don't begrudge her, just wondering what others thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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It is not what we think, it is what we no - being a teacher does not guarantee admission, no more so than for any one else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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what i "know" is this: i work at a private school and admission for faculty children is tacitly guaranteed. you may not want to hear that but it's true. i am currently ttc and will stay at my school so that my future kids can go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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Don't want to hear that? Why wouldn't I want to hear that, I don't see your point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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because you don't know what you're talking about [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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Actually, you are the one lying on here and pushing an agenda. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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are you kidding? no agenda, just saying what i know! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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you don't know a thing, you began this post as some one who had a friend at a private as a teacher and now you have morphed into an employee your self, go away. if you don't like the truthful answers you get here then move on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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The person you are pissed at is NOT the OP. Truly. Just ignore her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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You do not work at a private school this is your friend that you are discussing, it is obvious from each post that you are the same person. I DO work at a private school and you are absolutely incorrect. The truth actually is that you want to promote the idea that the cards for admission to people like yourself are stacked against you in order to make your failing to get in less about you and dc and more about the system. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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OP: are you referring to me? If so, let me assure you, since my original post I have been reading responses, not responding (until now) and I have not applied at any school to date and was simply throwing out the question! My friend is really more of a park acquaintance and I was thinking about her situation and thought that UB would be a good place to throw it around. Good God. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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Sure. Logging off now this is a waste of time, trying to help but on this board it is a waste. Good day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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That is not true at any of the schools I have worked in. I know it is true for some, but not all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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I work in a private and there are lots of dcs of teachers who go at a reduced tuition and I would call that a major perk. I don't have kids, but if I did, I would love this option. There are have been years when there were about 5 "faculty children" entering one year. This takes 5 spots from the outside world. Is it fair? I don't know, but considering teachers work their butts off and don't get a lot of money for it, I would say they deserve it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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That is a very generous school, not all are like that. My dc didn't get into the private I worked at the year we applied & neither did a df's (different schools). I think it is very fair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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It's a private school. They can set whatever rules they want. Take it or leave it. It's not like teachers make a ton of money anyway! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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I think its fair - and I'm sure the kids wouldn't be accepted if they weren't capable of doing the work. The admins and teachers don't get paid high salaries and reduced tuition for dc should be a perk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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All jobs have perks. Teaching has very few. Give them a break. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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I have a good friend who runs dinig services at one of the elite privates. She asked me if I wanted a job with her so I could get tuition covered for dc. My understanding was that dc would have to gain admission on merit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:59 AM Flag
[ - ] A continuation of a recent thread. Wonder if there is a lawyer of someone else that has been though this. Was in a private for a long time. Applied to a public. Found out we got into the public AFTER the date to tell the private (with in hours). Told the private immediately (didn't give ourselves a minute to think to not hurt the school). They have our deposit. If we had told them by the date we would have owed 50% of the tuition. We missed it by a day. We offered a nice donation. They want 100%!!!!!! I agree a contract is a contract. They don't even need to fill the spot because they over accepted. But can fill the spot in a heart beat. This all happened back in May....so plenty of time. Do I have a leg to stand on? Will they sue us? Thank you in advance. I know all this has been asked before but felt the situation was a bit different. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.16.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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Someone posted yesterdy about their friend who took the school to court on this issue and won and won again at appeal. The basis was as the school hadn't lost out financially they had no right to demand the full years tuition. Search for your post from yesterday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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This is true. The school is at no financial loss, therefore there is nothing to "cure". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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Someone just posted their experience yesterday. They refused to pay, school took them to court and lost [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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a contract is a contract [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:50 AM Flag
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Just seems weird that you expect a refund - didn't you sign a contract? Does the contract apply to everyone BUT you? What if the school rescinded its acceptance of your child in May? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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I don't expect to get out of the contract. I expect consideration.....which is part of a contract process. I certainly had consideration of them every time a teacher left mid year or a class wasn't what it was suppose to be. I had consideration. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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"consideration" as a legal contract term does not mean "being thoughtful of others". It means the quid pro quo for sealing the deal and demonstrating the meeting of the minds which was your original contract. Here, think "consideration" means they give your child a coveted seat in their school and in exchange for school doing that you give them $$. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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np: then OP would have been harmed. Where is the harm in OP's dc leaving? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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think of all the money you're saving in later years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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Appreciate your thoughts. I guess I believed that your in a contract with a school and a relationship. The school had MANY mishaps during our years there. We were understanding. Now at a very late date (after we signed the contract) we had a mishap of our own. We told them the second we heard. It was one day after the date. I would have thought at worst they would have us pay the 50%. I think it says something about a school that they don't bend. I wouldn't expect them to break the rule entirely. I was just wondering if anyone had a legal point on this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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I don't understand. What kind of "mishaps" could a school have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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Schools have mishaps all the time. Teachers leave. Teachers don't have a good year. Classes don't go as planned. I have two children in upper grades and there are mishaps. No school is perfect and every year and every class is not always a good one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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NYT article a few weeks back about a family paying Little Red, where their child did not attend. They were able to negotiate a slight discount and make the payment over 2 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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yes, that was a K family. We are high school. We have a very long standing relationship. Thought we would have gotten some recognition. I don't think telling them 24 hours later hurt them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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that's different than having no prior relationship at all. they should refund. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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You can get out of it with the exception of your deposit. They can't make you pay tuition for a year when all available spaces are filled. The clause is intended to bind parents to their commitment to go to the school. They don't want a bunch of people just dropping out all over the place or changing their minds when they get accepted to another private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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Is this a legal answer? Can they sue? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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Not asking for our deposit back? Offered a check just not full tuition (a check closer to the deposit). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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If you think you do not need to maintain a relationship with this school (ie...you , in no way, can imagine ever sending DC back there or another child or thnk that DC would never care about being a legacy), call your family lawyer (even an estates lawyer) or a lawyer friend and have them send a letter. You would probably prevail in court, but schools have notoriouosly long Institutional memories. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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I had this situation with CADS, and they didn't ask us to pay the years tuition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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Sorry, what is CADS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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We are at CADS. The director is very nice about this. She has never held anyone to their contract. I know a few people who moved mid year and didn't have to pay for the second half of the year. She is just nice that way, though. The contract does state that you are on the hook for the whole year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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What is CADS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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Children All Day School. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 04:11 PM Flag
[ - ] My dd has a friend and they both going to the same school for next year although not in the same classroom). The mom of this friend and I used to be great friends. Lately, she has become a fremeny and her dd has become a spoiled little brat and is a bad influence on my dd. How do I cut ties with the mom and also lead dd away from this child? I know i can;t pick my dd's friends, nor do I want too, but it is becoming painful to be around them. It is all about status and fitting in and trying to be someone she is not with this person. She has completely changed for the worse (or maybe I have changed for the better?) lately. I am really at a loss for what to do. I am just hoping our dc don;t have anything in common come Sept and they drift apart- there are plenty of other kids my dc is friends with and I am sure she will make lots of new friends. I know I sound awful and will get flamed probably, but this is how I feel (maybe I didn't word it right?) Anyone been in a similar situation? How did you deal? Truthfully, would you want your dc hanging out with a kid who is just so spoiled and the mom always gives into her to the point of it being embarrassing? How would you deal? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.16.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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If they aren't in the same class there is a very good chance they will drift apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:44 AM Flag
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op: It is swad to say, but I really hope they do drift apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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Don't count on it. My dc had a friend like that and there are plenty of opportunities for them to interact. Is this a k-12 school? If the girl is mean and spoiled though chances are that op's dc will figure it out one day. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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op: It is a K-8. I think my dd is starting to figure it out a little bit. She will say stuff like, ""x" said so and so and that wasn;t very nice" or "X X" did this or that and she wasn;t being nice or that was wrong". I am just hoping they grow apart. They have been friend for their whole lives though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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np: "their whole lives" = 5 short yrs (about half of that time, they were pretty clueless) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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I was in a similar situation, until we found out dc headed to citywide ... I was relieved. Hopefully your dd will have lots of new friends and influences in her new school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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there is nothing you can do except not initiate contact with the mom. But your dd has to decide for herself how much time she wants to spend with this girl. On the bright side, in K the play dates are drop off, so you only have to deal with the child, not the mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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Just don't initiate anything with them. Schedule playdates with new kids in dd's class in the fall (which the schools encourage and you want your dd to get to know other kids anyway). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:38 AM Flag
[ - ] WWYT? Anyone BTDT? DH was strongly anti-CIO, really anti-crying at all, so after a few HUGE fights when DS was about six months old about the fact that we needed to let him CIO, I decided it wasn't worth ruining my marriage over I started putting DS to bed by laying next to him. Flash forward eighteen months later... I really can't take it anymore and want to teach DS to go to sleep unassisted even if it's tramautic for us all. I do bedtime about 5/7 nights. I end up falling asleep in the room, sleeping with DS instead of DH. Told DH that's it, I will never ever lie down with DS again. DH can put DS to sleep 5/7 nights or work with me on a plan. DH is stressed about work right now and I am adding to his stress. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.16.08, 04:57 AM Flag
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Stick to your guns. It's ridiculous that you still have to lie next to your TWO YEAR old child for him to fall asleep. You are not doing yourself or your child or your marriage any favors. Start CIO tonight. In a week or so EVERYONE will be much happier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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In the end he will learn to sleep unassisted with or without CIO, but do what you want [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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I think that's terrible advice. Yes, he will eventually learn, but when? If you do nothing, some kids will not sleep on their own until age 5, 6 or later! Meanwhile, OP is miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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And that is life and it will not last forever. I personally don't see what the big deal is that she is falling asleep with ds, especially if she and dh are not on the same page about CIO and she knows that CIO will stress out dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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Oh feh, dh will get over it. It will not last forever, but what about the next 4 years? That could destroy a marriage! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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I told my child that I would lie with her a few min. but I needed to go eat dinner but I would check back on her. worked well. Do you have a cd that you put on every night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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there was an almost identical thread yesterday. search CIO and you will find it. Lots of great advice there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:35 AM Flag
[ - ] We moved to NYC 3 years ago. DC thankfully in good private due to dh job, but now it's time to think about high school for my oldest. $$ is tight so hoping he will get into Stuyvesant -- anyone know how they select? I know there is a test, but other than that, any info appreciated. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.16.08, 04:57 AM Flag
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There are many other public HS besides Stuyvesant. Friends of ours applied to 12 schools. Her ds got into Bard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:12 AM Flag
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We are partial to Stuyvesant, but of course don't know a thing about the testing process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:13 AM Flag
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That's the problem, the whole town is "partial" to Stuyvesant. The chances of getting in are slim to none. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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you best look into some other schools- stuy takes lots of public school students who didn't go to a good private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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But I thought it was a test score admission only? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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there are many many very smart kids in public school. There are only so many spots in stuy. Do the math [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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NP: yeah but as with all test admission there is a cutoff which many won't make and which the very bright will. your point makes no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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if it's test score admission only, how could stuy take "lots of public school students who didn't go to a good private?" - it sounds like stuy takes the kids who score at the top, regardless of where they went to school, public or private. and so what if everyone in town is "partial" to stuy. it's a great school, why wouldn't they be partial to it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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What the OR is saying is that Stuy is a great school for public school educated dcs. They are not getting the same level of education as at a very good private. Those that score off the charts and do very well tend to go to B or Coll. etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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this is an absurd answer, you must know that. in general, public school educated dcs tend to stick with public school through HS; likewise for private school educated dcs. it has nothing to do with "scoring off the charts," which stuy-bound kids tend to do anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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yes but the pool is very large. Just saying that your private school status means nothing. it's all your testing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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My spot at private school, mine when I was a dc and now my dcs own spot, has nothing to do with status, it has to do with education and level of academic rigor and preparedness for excellent further education. Only people not born to it feel some level of status is suddenly adhered to them because they go to private, a notion which is ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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Not so hard to get into Stuy. Kids have to take a prep class to learn the logic of the SHS exam and with the practice tests they take, you'll know within a reasonable amount of time before the test if the scores your kid is getting would be high enough for each of the specialized high schools so you can rank them accordingly on the admissions ticket/application. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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Because of dh's job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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op: DH was transferred and his work place was extremely helpful in getting us applied to lots of schools that happened to have last minute openings for older kids. We were very lucky, and they were really helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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oh! ok that makes sense thought you were implying there was a connection made in our favor which I have never heard of before re: the corporate world and I work in admin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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If your oldest is about to enter 8th grade you need to sign him up for a Specialized HS Test Prep course. Some start over the summer, some are intensive in the fall for the 10 weeks leading up to the test. I know lots of kids who've done GRF test prep and had success. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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The only thing that counts is the score dc gets on teh Specialized HS Test. Test is used by Stuyvesant, Bronx Science, Brooklyn Tech, Lehman and one other I can't remember. You rank your choices. Your score determines where you go. Your child will need to be prepped for it. I just prepped my neighbor's kid for it. The child had been in second rate middle school, was badly prepared by school, and although bright, was not an academic superstar by any means. Sailed into his first choice (not Stuy). If they're bright, and well prepped, kids should do well. Bard has its own admissions criteria. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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The SHS test is for admissions to 6 HS: Stuyvesant, Bx Science, American Studies at Lehman, City College Math Science and Engineering, HS at York College (Queens), Staten Island Tech, Brooklyn Tech. Go to www.insideschools.org for research on these and other noteworthly HS choices (Beacon, Bard HS Early College, Millenium, etc.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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The test for the specialized high schools is in two parts (math and verbal) and is weighted so that scoring very high on one section is better than scoring well on both. 98/55 has gained admission when 95/92 does not. You can look this up in NY Times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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I was a little off in my scores (one year 99/49 got in and 97/92 did not). Here's the Times article link: http://www.nytimes.com/2005/11/12/nyregion/12exam.html?pagewanted=print [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] For those NOT in NYC publics: Age your dc will start (or has started) kindergarten. Mine: 5 yrs. 2 months 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:47 AM Flag
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My DD skipped K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:55 AM Flag
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5 years 3 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:02 AM Flag
[ - ] There was a woman on here last month who posted daily about her FSBO home. I want to find out if it has sold. Has anyone heard? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:44 AM Flag
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was it in midtown? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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I posted a month ago about our fsbo on the NY board. We just got a signed contract. Very happy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.17.08, 09:04 AM Flag
[ - ] What do I need to do to "prep" dc for the ERB? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.16.08, 04:38 AM Flag
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you don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:38 AM Flag
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op: what do they look for? what do they do? are there games or such I can play with dc to "prep?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:39 AM Flag
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There are 2 sides to this idea. Most say you absolutely should NOT prep because the tester will know it. (i.e. your dc will say "oh i know this game, i played it with mommy" and the testers do NOT like that). Others swear you should prep your kid with block and maze games, etc etc. Up to you to decide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:09 AM Flag
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which block and maze games? any suggestions? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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Don't ask me. My kid scored 30% on the ERB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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mazes are no longer on the test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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You can never find them in stores or anything, but I'm told the blocks are red & white that you rotate to make a pattern. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.08.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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does anyone know what the testers will actually write in the report if they suspect prepping? Also, how will they know the difference between mom prepping & tutor prepping? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.08.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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It is an IQ test your dc either is or is not going to do well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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np: not necessarily true. There are other factors. Maturity is huge. So a child can have a IQ (confirmed later) and bomb ERB. I think the best prep is working with your child (doing whatever) but sitting down at a table and doing the task you say for 10 or 15 minutes a day. That is an issue that could affect (negatively) the ERB. So, I would practice that and just slowly increase the amount of time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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^^ high IQ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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omg! ERB'S [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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ERB's mean nothing! so redic! the last thing you need to do is stress out your already stressed child with mindless prep. scores mean nothing, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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LOL. How badly did your genius bomb? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:25 AM Flag
[ - ] 32 weeks and my engagement/wedding rings are starting to get really tight - especially when I'm out in this heat. Although I don't want to, I suppose I'm going to have to put them away until after this baby comes. Do others have to do this? 32 weeks seems kind of early to have my fingers swell like this. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.16.08, 04:36 AM Flag
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All of us do, its not a big deal. So what, put the rings away or buy another one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:18 AM Flag
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Had to ditch the rings around the same time with #1. Then I really watched my weight gain and salt intake with #2 and never had to take off the rings, even in the hospital. I would start watching what you take in if you want to be even remotely comfortable the rest of your pg--it's not just the fingers, you know, everything is swelling! Not much time left, so it shouldn't be too hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 12:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Two years. Amount of baby weight lost: 10 lbs. 50 to go. Pathetic. Can't stay one a "diet" more than one day, be it WW or low-carb. Never was heavy before - can't imagine what's wrong with my brain. Anyone BTDT? Am thinking of trying another low-carb diet to kill my cravings... 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:35 AM Flag
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your problem is dieting. dieting is for dummies. you need to change your lifestyle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:38 AM Flag
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OP: Yep. Just not sure how to do it. I started counseling last year, but it's not directly helping the food connfusion/bad habits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:39 AM Flag
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I love South Beach. Have been on it for 8 months, lost 42 pounds, now in maintenance. Can see staying on forever. It's not low carb. It's low sugar. The first two weeks are strict and kill craving, but thereafter, it's so healthy and a way of life. Plan is basically no white flour (use whole wheat) or sugar (can use subs). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:40 AM Flag
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You were never heavy before being pregnant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:41 AM Flag
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ITA. I've never seen someone who got fat after a baby without having previous weight issues [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:46 AM Flag
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OP: That's the most ridiculous statement I've ever heard. And no, I was not overweight before the baby. Why would I lie? It's an anonymous board? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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OP: Nope. Once had to lose 20 lbs after law school - that's it. Not skinny, but normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:06 AM Flag
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OP: I had GD with pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:06 AM Flag
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Feeding The Hungry Heart or Overcoming Emotional Eating, both by Geneen Roth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:48 AM Flag
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i am similar to you...i gained 60 during prgnancy and my dc is 2yrs old. i have 10 pounds to go and cannot lose it for the life of me but i am not being discilplined at all. what i did the first time around (and which totally worked) was eat well - not no carb (b/c it would make me crazy) and exercise - worked out 4 days a week (for 2hours a night). good luck to you- it was the hardest thing for me to do! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 04:51 AM Flag
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