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07.16.08, 05:41 AM NY Schools
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My dd has a friend and they both going to the same school for next year although not in the same classroom). The mom of this friend and I used to be great friends. Lately, she has become a fremeny and her dd has become a spoiled little brat and is a bad influence on my dd. How do I cut ties with the mom and also lead dd away from this child? I know i can;t pick my dd's friends, nor do I want too, but it is becoming painful to be around them. It is all about status and fitting in and trying to be someone she is not with this person. She has completely changed for the worse (or maybe I have changed for the better?) lately. I am really at a loss for what to do. I am just hoping our dc don;t have anything in common come Sept and they drift apart- there are plenty of other kids my dc is friends with and I am sure she will make lots of new friends. I know I sound awful and will get flamed probably, but this is how I feel (maybe I didn't word it right?) Anyone been in a similar situation? How did you deal? Truthfully, would you want your dc hanging out with a kid who is just so spoiled and the mom always gives into her to the point of it being embarrassing? How would you deal? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
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If they aren't in the same class there is a very good chance they will drift apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:44 AM Flag
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op: It is swad to say, but I really hope they do drift apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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Don't count on it. My dc had a friend like that and there are plenty of opportunities for them to interact. Is this a k-12 school? If the girl is mean and spoiled though chances are that op's dc will figure it out one day. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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op: It is a K-8. I think my dd is starting to figure it out a little bit. She will say stuff like, ""x" said so and so and that wasn;t very nice" or "X X" did this or that and she wasn;t being nice or that was wrong". I am just hoping they grow apart. They have been friend for their whole lives though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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np: "their whole lives" = 5 short yrs (about half of that time, they were pretty clueless) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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I was in a similar situation, until we found out dc headed to citywide ... I was relieved. Hopefully your dd will have lots of new friends and influences in her new school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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there is nothing you can do except not initiate contact with the mom. But your dd has to decide for herself how much time she wants to spend with this girl. On the bright side, in K the play dates are drop off, so you only have to deal with the child, not the mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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Just don't initiate anything with them. Schedule playdates with new kids in dd's class in the fall (which the schools encourage and you want your dd to get to know other kids anyway). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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