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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] For old times sake, let’s revisit some old debates that I haven’t seen in ages! Starting with an oldie but a goodie- bf versus ff. I breastfed my 1st for 3 weeks and it was so awful I quit and did formula. Never fed my second a drop of breast milk. I have no regrets. Flame away! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:07 PM Flag
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I breastfed my two for 6 years straight because stayed at home and it was easy. There was a six month overlap where I tandem nursed. That was tougher because I had to consume so much food to do it that my dh was getting protective around his own dinner plate. *If it was uncomfortable in any way, I would not have done it.* There is zero judgement on my end about formula. I, myself, was formula fed. My biggest issue is centered on how we don't support one another enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:38 PM Flag
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You sound very reasonable and not at all like the rabid moms on here in 2006-2009!!! Best wishes to you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:58 PM Flag
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Those were some INSANE years np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 09:08 PM Flag
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They really were. People got ripped apart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 09:15 PM Flag
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I came on in 2010! Best wishes to you, too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 10:14 PM Flag
[ - ] If there will be no UB to walk me through the pre-school/K/HS process, and I’m able to WFH, should I consider this a sign from the universe to move to the burbs? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:01 PM Flag
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If you were depending on UB to make those decisions then yes you should move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:07 PM Flag
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I live in the burbs and living in the city is not for me. I think people making a panicked reaction to move to the burbs right now will regret it. If you love city living, stay put [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 10:34 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm going to miss being able to anonymously complain about stuff and get free medical advice. :( 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:09 PM Flag
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Exactly this... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:32 PM Flag
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Urbanbaby.net [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:41 PM Flag
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Let's make it happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:58 PM Flag
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Yes, please!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 10:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Movie recs please for us, grandparents, and 4 kids 5-8. We have watched Harry Potter, Honey I shrunk the Kids, the Sandlot, ET was too "scary", How to Train Your Dragon 1-3, the live action Dora movie, the movie where the twin girls meet at camp and switch places (I'm blanking!), pretty much all of the Disney movies (including Onward), Trolls, etc. RIP UB! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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^ kids are 6-8 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:10 PM Flag
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Cheaper by the dozen or diary of a wimpy kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:37 PM Flag
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The Pink Panther with Steve Martin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:55 PM Flag
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goonies, little monsters, nightmare before christmas, pocahontas, back to the future, coco [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 09:19 PM Flag
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That was Parent Trap. How about Totoro or Kiki the good neighbor? At 5 (call me a bad mom) DS loved "Behind Enemy Lines". And sometimes if an old fashioned musical was on the kids would watch it. Have you seen the snowy dog movie (eight below)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 09:26 PM Flag
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The Princess Bride, Fantastic Mr Fox, Big Hero 6 are on constant replay at our home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 10:59 PM Flag
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ford vs. ferrari [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:19 AM Flag
[ - ] RE moms (or someone that knows this kind of thing): is there a way to tell whether a house has been paid off via StreetEasy? Looking at the links to city register forms but can't tell. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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why would this info be helpful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:42 PM Flag
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You can see the who the lender is and I believe the amount on ACRIS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:59 PM Flag
[ - ] If you could only have one hairstyle for the rest of your life what would it be? Cut, color? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:02 PM Flag
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I am 57 and during Covid I let my hair go long, straight and parted in the middle. Same as I had in my 30's and 40's. I know you're not supposed to do that when you're old but I don't care. Brown with grey coming in. I look good enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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Shoulder-grazing lob. No bangs, long layers. Color would be “natural but better”- I’m a medium brunette, so I would just add some lowlights for dimension and shine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:09 PM Flag
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This is exactly the hair I’ve had for the last 20 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:44 PM Flag
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Lol same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:59 PM Flag
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I am also in my late 50s. My natural hair was very dark brown before I went gray. My eyes are blue and my skin is fairly light. For the last several years, I let my hairdresser convince me to go blonde. In the last year, I decided to go back to a medium brown, and EVERYONE says it looks much better. I work in a library, and people I don't even know came up to me and told me I look younger as a brunette. Lesson I learned: I am better off sticking to the color I originally had, and keeping it blunt cut. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:15 PM Flag
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I have it now! Super short pixie cut, my natural light brown with lots of silver and gray. Ultra low maintenance, ultra chic. Helps if you have a long neck and defined jaw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:52 PM Flag
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I've had the same style since the 70s (sad but true). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 10:35 PM Flag
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Martha Stewart and Camilla have great hair. They found their look and stuck with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 10:52 PM Flag
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long and parted on the side - brown with some shine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Just writing in to say THANK YOU and I LOVE YOU GUYS. So many individuals who post here have really helped me with all sorts of problems, large and small, over the past many years. To every person who has ever taken a moment to write in a kind word, an encouraging response, a piece or wisdom, a helpful hint or just something that made me laugh out loud: thank you. Truly. I wish you all health and happiness. Hopefully we will find each other again. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:54 PM Flag
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Totally agree. I initially came here to be snarky and superior, and eventually was changed by the people here who were kind and offered thoughtful advice. In the early days I posted comments I would be ashamed of now, and became someone who thought "would I say this IRL to a friend" before commenting. Being here made me more empathic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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This place has shown me some real ugliness but also some amazing kindness [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 09:00 PM Flag
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Same. There were times I felt tears sting my eyes from the remarks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 09:27 PM Flag
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Thank you for saying that. I feel the same and will miss you all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:56 PM Flag
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ITA. I've been reading through my watched posts (I have 400 pages of them) and getting a little emotional. I know people here have a reputation for being snarky and rude, but I am seeing pages of people providing helpful and supportive responses to all sorts of things. I laugh at some of the problems I posted about here -- like preschool problems that I don't even remember now and seem trivial now that the preschooler in question is 10 -- but people were so helpful! And some of the snark is really funny. ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 09:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't even click on dcurbanmom so not sure can really use that site? anyone else? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:47 PM Flag
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What do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:51 PM Flag
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Here's their teens board - https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/forums/show/65.page [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:01 PM Flag
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Oh, and someone has already started a UB thread under Metropolitan New York City - https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/892846.page [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Should I buy a stroller that can be converted into a double stroller? I really like the bugaboo fox which is non convertible, vs the uppababy vista which is convertible but much heavier. Pg with DC1 now and likely want DC2 when the first is age 2.5-3. Do toddlers need strollers at that age? Will I regret buying a nonconvertible? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:22 PM Flag
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Yes, get the convertible double then sell it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:36 PM Flag
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I agonized over this decision. None of them will cover what you want every time, especially living in NYC. Sometimes, I wanted something light that I could jump on the subway with, or pop the baby into a Bjorn and carry the stroller and sometimes, I wanted something bigger to walk with and hang my stuff on. Sometimes, you'll want to push both kids, sometimes, you'll only have one and then a double stroller is a giant PITA. Sometimes, your 2 yr. old will want to ride on a kick board, sometimes they'll get tired and want to jump in. And you won't want to constantly be converting strollers. SO, I bought a cheap, lightweight one, a single one and a double. Each trip, I'd grab what I wanted, throw in the kick board, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:40 PM Flag
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I would get the non-convertible. Then when #2 arrives you can do an add-on board or get an umbrella/lightweight double. The huge full-sized doubles seem unnecessary and impractical unless you have twins or dcs super close in age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:42 PM Flag
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We had bugaboo and love loved love it. I had 7 strollers (and only one child) and it was my favorite. People love vista but hate it as a double. I would get a stroller that you want and deal with the second when the time comes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 07:42 PM Flag
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Which bugaboo did you get? There are so many! Just want to get the best stroller possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:07 PM Flag
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There's not really a best stroller. Get the one that speaks to your heart for when the baby is an infant. I loved my Bug and then I also had an UppaBaby Lite (or something like that - they don't make it anymore), which was an awesome portable stroller for a toddler. You're going to buy more than one over the years - I ended up having three - the Bug, the UppaBaby umbrella stroller, and another double - and they each served their own purpose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:23 PM Flag
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ITA. I had a bugaboo when my first was born in 2006. I loved it but it’s clunky and not super portable so when he turned 1 I got a maclaren umbrella stroller which was better when I was out and about and in and out of my car [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 09:02 PM Flag
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Totally agree with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a tin watering can from RHS, a UK garden supply store. It is brand new and painted, sort of like an old-fashioned watering can you would use as a vase. Would you serve drinks in it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:12 PM Flag
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No, I would definitely not do that. Not all paints are food safe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:36 PM Flag
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Ok, when you put it that way... Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:42 PM Flag
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Cute idea but I'd be afraid it wasn't food safe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:37 PM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] With no urban baby, how else will kill time? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 05:25 PM Flag
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will we kill time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 05:27 PM Flag
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:-( time will now kill us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:07 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:34 PM Flag
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Will we actually get things done? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:26 PM Flag
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I may actually finally do something useful and go back to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 09:00 PM Flag
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ub prevented u from working? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 07:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know if the fireworks in Southampton will be canceled if it rains? Not sure if they continue if it's light rain or cancel if there's any rain. tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 05:20 PM Flag
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check 27east.com or the patch. They might have it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:04 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:19 PM Flag
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HUMBLE BRAG [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:19 PM Flag
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I could give a fuck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 10:08 PM Flag
[ - ] What are people doing about their saved posts??? I have over 100 pages of great advice saved and I am panicking!! (Separately, I will miss this a lot. It was a forum for unfiltered advice and it allowed me to share true thoughts in a way I never would in real life. Especially during this pandemic, it offered light socialization and shared commiseration. It's a real loss.) 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 04:13 PM Flag
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Screenshot? Print? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 04:13 PM Flag
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How would you print? Like one page at a time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 04:16 PM Flag
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print to PDF? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 04:34 PM Flag
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I do think that is likely the best option, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 05:03 PM Flag
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copy paste into google doc. edit down later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 05:07 PM Flag
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copy and paste into a word doc, then you can search it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 05:08 PM Flag
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I spent a few hours last night copying and pasting into google docs. So painful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:16 PM Flag
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I only have 12 pages, but I'm finding that either my connection is faulty or I'm cutting too much to paste?? Can I cut and paste a whole page? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 10:23 PM Flag
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Copy paste, but also save the bookmarks for posts you're saving - I'm going to put up a copy of the site at ubarchive.net so we can still access old posts. the links will be the same, just different domain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Recommendation for a financial planner to advise me before/during divorce? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 04:03 PM Flag
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Divorced mom here. What kind of advice are you looking for? Will you come into a windfall and you're not sure how to invest it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 05:13 PM Flag
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My attorney, and soon to be ex husband, are both wanting me to suggest what I want financially and how to structure it. Yes this will be a large amount of money maybe not UB huge but more all at once than I personally dealt with before. I am scared about starting over midlife and with the way the world is right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 06:56 PM Flag
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I filed when I was 51 so I understand your concerns. Do you have your own attorney? Unless your soon to be ex is the one rare generous individual who will give you what you want, it will come down to what the law and precedent say you can get. I can pm you the name of a financial planner who has advised lottery winners on what to do with their windfall. Post a "burner" email address here and I'll send you his name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 10:10 PM Flag
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You also need a very savvy tax person. All dollars are not created equal, look carefully at adjusted basis of everything. What property and money will be worth down the road really matters as well as how they will be taxed (cap gains versus regular income.) Don't take deferred money even if it's more as you don't want to have to chase after it. Get a life insurance policy on DH but make sure you own it. Make sure you're the beneficiary of any pensions, file the proper papers so company knows. Try to estimate what you will need going forward; no ability to reduce money if income goes down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.20, 08:02 PM Flag
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