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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] For anyone who wanted to keep r/urbanbaby open as an option, I'm not hearing back from the moderators there. It was set up at some point in 2013 when UB was hacked, and they are probably long gone. My reddit login is too new to make a page, but it looks like anyone who has been there more than 30 days can: https://www.reddit.com/r/help/comments/2yob6r/creating_a_subreddit/ 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 04:22 AM Flag
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The correct place to go in order to take over the /r/urbanbaby subreddit would be https://www.reddit.com/r/redditrequest/ ...just follow the rules in the sidebar while making your request. Wouldn't it be funny if one of the current moderators makes the request first and gets the subreddit? Then we'd have to follow her rules there, the same way we did here! Oh shit. ಠ_ಠ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 04:29 AM Flag
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OP: We'd really need a regular to do that "All requests must be made by an account that is at least 90 days old and has a minimum of 500 total karma." It also sounds like it might not be that fast "depends on admin workload." & don't worry, any moderators here are CBS employees, they're not following us anyplace. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 04:43 AM Flag
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I can do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 05:44 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.05.20, 11:35 AM Flag
[ - ] geez... I tried both YBM and DCmoms and just can't get used to it... and so very few posts. I already miss UB. Why can't someone here create a new site like this, for all of us to go to and feel welcome? Will urban baby.net really happen? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:51 AM Flag
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I'm worried it won't because she hasn't posted about it again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 07:24 AM Flag
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YBM is identical to UB. Also, you can search it, so any posts about "camp" etc, that were made while you were away can be found. Its so much better, honestly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I've always wanted to start a sort of "Tigermoms" messageboard/group. Not just for Asian moms, but moms who are interested in academic achievement and getting their DCs into HYP. Any other moms like this out there, and would you join a board like this? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:13 AM Flag
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Yes! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:16 AM Flag
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Not me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:19 AM Flag
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me. Now get to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:24 AM Flag
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Yes!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:42 AM Flag
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This sounds great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:43 AM Flag
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I probably wouldn’t join a board like that at this point but my DD who just graduated from high school is going to Y so in the last few hours before the site shuts down happy to answer any questions you have! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:14 PM Flag
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Any advice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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+1000 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 04:58 PM Flag
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I would totally join it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 08:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Carnegie Hill mom here. The fireworks here are insane! No permits needed any more? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:10 AM Flag
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Yes, because they're illegal. Pretty, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:13 AM Flag
[ - ] I used to have tons of friends. Now, at 50, I have virtually none. My closest friends moved away, and I have not been able to make new friends from 40 on. The mom friends are fleeting or very surface friendships. I am so lonely and it’s as if the stages in my life where I had friends is over forever. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:52 AM Flag
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Me too, the only person I have is my sister, she is a real treasure, better than gazillions of friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:54 AM Flag
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You are so lucky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:55 AM Flag
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I'm 50 too. And I feel similar. I want more friends. I see women like me with school age kids and fulltime jobs who seem to have lots of friends. I feel like I don't spend enough time w my kids, dh, parents, siblings (4), Nieves and nephews. I feel very lucky to have so much family nearby (and all her along well), but there's not much extra time for friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:45 PM Flag
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Have you reached out? It's hard to make friends but you have to be willing to risk (and receive) rejection. Then do it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:05 AM Flag
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Yes, many times. I don’t want to do it anymore. Why have others been successful but I have not? I am kind and funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:15 AM Flag
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I am like you. Which is why i am even more sad about UB shutting down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:54 AM Flag
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I am as sad as you about it. Believe me. Why don’t you have friends? I had so many until 40. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:15 AM Flag
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np: I think it's a pretty common experience. People have no free time because they are working and dealing with their kids, their relationships with DHs and DCs take center stage and, they are more protective of their personal space and don't have the focus or enthusiasm for building other relationships. Friendships with other moms can get tricky if the kids stop getting along. I also think there's another angle that by middle age a lot of women have had bad experiences with friendships that fell apart and have become a bit more jaded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:30 AM Flag
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Op— I am one of those people with careers, DH and DC, but still need friendships otherwise life is too sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:37 AM Flag
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hi OP, I am exactly in the same situation... never felt so lonely. And yes, the fact that UB is shutting down is really difficult to take. I know it's just a board, but I could come here and vent, or ask for advice, or read what other women had to say, it kept me company. Sad, I know. I am also in a bad marriage, which only makes things worse. I wish there was a a way to start a new UB and just stay in touch... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:36 AM Flag
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Thank you for responding. I’m sorry you feel the same way. I hope someone can start a new forum for us. Sadly, I used this place as a replacement for all of my lost friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:52 AM Flag
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pp - Yes, I did the same. Like you, I feel that I am kind and can be funny. Makes me feel like a loser at almost 52 to have no friends, but I try to remind myself that sometimes it's life's situations. I moved a lot too, that never helped. But the fact is that I am lonely and wish I could change that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 04:17 AM Flag
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I hear you. Me too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 04:44 AM Flag
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URBANBABY.NET : yes, it's happening! It will take me some time (a week? 2 weeks maybe) to set it up but I will try to set things so people can register on the site with their email - and then you'll get a notification once it's live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 08:50 AM Flag
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I feel the same way. Wondering if men have similar feelings about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:45 AM Flag
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I doubt it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:53 AM Flag
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https://gretchenrubin.com/2009/02/friendship-seven-tips-for-making-new-friends/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 11:28 AM Flag
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For real, adopt a dog, even in NYC or big city and I would even say *especially* if you live in a big city. You will meet so many people instantly because dogs always want to interact during their walks. And you tend to run into these people again and again during your walks, and then you notice them in your neighborhood in general and they can become friends. Our social life has been multiplied by a factor of 20 since we adopted our young dog 3 years ago. It's been amazing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:13 PM Flag
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And you get to meet people from all ages, sexual orientations, social status, kids or no kids, race etc and all professions - it broadens your horizon dramatically. It's been a life changing event for us and our children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:17 PM Flag
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NP I agree with this overall idea. I also met so many people through tennis that I never would have met. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:30 PM Flag
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Keep trying. I am 50 and always looking for friends. I have a ton already but always on the hunt for more cool people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 05:10 PM Flag
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Take community college classes. I have been back in school for a couple of years and met so many interesting people at community college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 06:39 PM Flag
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I find I have groups of friends and I make a point of scheduling things in my calendar and not letting them slip. So I have former work friends that I will meet for coffee every month or so. 2 friend from my my kids' old school. We do lunch once a month. I have a book club (but I don't think I would call any of them good friends). I have also made a real point of keeping up with my old friends from high school and university. Starting at 50 we all made an effort to go away together for a few days -- we all live far apart--and it was wonderful and reconnecting was actually very natural. so those closest friends of yours who moved away? they can still be emotionally close (even if they are not physically close). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 07:00 PM Flag
[ - ] When is the deadline to fill out the census online? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 10:14 PM Flag
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Just do it right now. It takes 3 minutes and you don't need a "census ID number" you can skip right past it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:06 AM Flag
[ - ] UB has really helped me during the pandemic. Sad this is it. I had been gone for a while but glad I came back for the end. Just browsed some of my old posts. My big take away is that I should have started Zoloft sooner. Ha. Note to those struggling and considering meds... take them. Thank you all for maki g me feel less alone, less middle aged and giving me a place to reminisce the nyc of my childhood. Xo 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 09:57 PM Flag
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aww..glad the meds helped. Thanks for sharing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 11:04 PM Flag
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Thanks for helping! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:52 AM Flag
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Glad you got the meds you need. Better living through chemistry! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:02 AM Flag
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Yup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:16 AM Flag
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We have a troll on YBM, but you're always welcome in your hours of need. Youbemom.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:04 AM Flag
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Feel like I literally could have written the entire beginning part of this! xo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:21 AM Flag
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URBANBABY.NET : yes, it's happening! It will take me some time (a week? 2 weeks maybe) to set it up but I will try to set things so people can register on the site with their email - and then you'll get a notification once it's live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 08:50 AM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] My last UB post - if you really want to promote diversity at selective universities you should eliminate legacy and geography based preferences since they overwhelmingly benefit white applicants. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 09:07 PM Flag
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Bronxville had BLM protests. how about if they offered scholarships to their exquisite school district? their protests are meaningless [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:05 AM Flag
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A scholarship to a public school? How does that even work?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:44 AM Flag
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they charge $45k per year for out of district tuition. THAT is how it works. Now offer scholarships [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:00 PM Flag
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legacy for sure. it reinforces the class dynamic that we have now rich = white [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know where to get the Covid throat swab as opposed to the nasal swab test. I plan to visit someone elderly and would like to test first. If possible, would prefer the option. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:42 PM Flag
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I went to a regular doctor who had this. Maybe call your internist? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 09:48 PM Flag
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Isn't nasal swab more reliable though? If you want to ensure you are negative before visiting this person... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 10:28 PM Flag
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Is the blood test not better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 11:58 PM Flag
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Which test is the rapid test? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:02 AM Flag
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just do the nasal swab - it's over so quickly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:43 AM Flag
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there are companies that do it online. google [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Advantages of working at trader joes? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 07:44 PM Flag
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Discount? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:01 PM Flag
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good benefits, I think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:22 PM Flag
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hooking up with the hot cashiers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:23 PM Flag
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Ha ha it’s true I have crushes on a lot of the cashiers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:16 PM Flag
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hard to get those jobs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 11:16 PM Flag
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Good health insurance ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:05 AM Flag
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Great benefits, including retirement contributions and health insurance. Supportive work environment around upbeat, happy people. Downsides: you are obligated to be cheerful and outgoing -- that's the culture, and you won't get hired unless you can convince the hiring manager that you are pretty much always "on" in a super-friendly way. Plus, it's really hard to socially distance in a small format grocery during a pandemic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Just wow - Youngest DC has 2 more years of HS and DK if I am ready to be pushed out of the UB nest. UrbanBaby posters can be cruel, but I've also gotten a lot of great advice here on nearly everything NYC, parenting, etc. I've even suggested UB to single friends ISO advice on careers, job hunts, vacation planning, etc as this site can be great for crowd sourcing. Thanks to people who took the time to reply, especially those with sage advice or just sympathy for struggles. Where should I look for insights for future quandaries? UrbanBaby Support - seems a little cruel to cut all loose in this phase of COVID. Good luck to everyone - stay safe and strong! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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Agree. Bad timing. We need UB more than every in these challenging times. A bit off-topic but that note above signed by UrbanBaby Support reads as if the Customer Support team decided to close down UrbanBaby. In my opinion, it should have been signed "UrbanBaby," "The UrbanBaby Team," or even by the owner or owners who made the decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 09:12 PM Flag
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realized that now teen dc has been involved in 3 summer day camps because of UB and has continued in them. really was super valuable info. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:44 AM Flag
[ - ] I told my manager I'm pregnant due in January 2 weeks ago. She has yet to tell anyone else in the company? What the hell? I guess she's not concerned. I thought she'd tell our team soon but apparently not. Can I start telling my coworkers, and some other higher ups I routinely work with? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 06:43 PM Flag
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what? Why would she tell? Yes you can tell people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 06:57 PM Flag
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Umm, it’s not her place actually to tell people, other than possibly HR. That’s your job. And of course yo7 can tell people now that you’ve told your boss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 07:29 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 07:44 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 11:16 PM Flag
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I thought she'd tell our team? So 3 of us report to her. She hasn't told my 2 coworkers yet. I shouldn't? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:37 AM Flag
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you should. are you for real? It's not her news to share. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 01:46 AM Flag
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this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:51 PM Flag
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NP: it is your private news. In a professional context, no one should tell it but you. However, you should tell the other co-workers soon so that things don't get awkward! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:02 AM Flag
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Who is she, your mommy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:14 AM Flag
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I manage a team and would never tell the rest of them about one's pregnancy... not my news to share [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:23 AM Flag
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+1. and it isn't even close to the time for your boss to be looking for maternity leave coverage yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:52 PM Flag
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You actually have a good manager there. It is not her place to share this news. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 08:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Quick, before UB goes away. I need dr. recommendations in NYC for thinning hair. Someone with proven results. Late 40s and I'm shedding more than my dog HELP! 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 06:06 PM Flag
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you need an endocrinologist, not a derm. Mine retired. They will run blood tests to see if you have PCOS, or low ferritin (iron). Regardless, they will give you a prescrip for Spironalactone which works somewhat well, and possibly birth control pills. i did see andother Dr who was good but cant recall the name! Years ago. DONT go to a derm. they just give you rogaine and know nothing about hair loss which is generally a hormonal issue for most [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 07:28 PM Flag
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Thank you for this information. Years ago my grandmother's heart medicine resulted in a really thick head of hair...I think the medicine was Spironolactone. For the life of me, I haven't been able to remember the name of the drug. I have thinning hair and rograine has helped but hasn't solved the issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:11 PM Flag
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OP: thank you, will give it a try [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 11:55 PM Flag
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Are there any drawbacks to Spironalactone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 12:35 AM Flag
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Omg, 50 here and same. It’s always been bad but now, it’s terrible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 07:30 PM Flag
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You need men’s foam Rogaine / minoxidil 2x /day. Buy it at Costco. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 02:55 AM Flag
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Second this but I use only once a day. I would also see an endocrinologist. Rogaine made a huge difference for me. Ttook 6 months to see changes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 05:27 AM Flag
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Nutrafol. Pricey and effective [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 04:00 AM Flag
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URBANBABY.NET : yes, it's happening! It will take me some time (a week? 2 weeks maybe) to set it up but I will try to set things so people can register on the site with their email - and then you'll get a notification once it's live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 08:50 AM Flag
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I have had really good luck with this supplement called nutrafol, it actually REALLY works. my hair was really thinning but now is normal again. nutrafol.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 10:29 AM Flag
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Dr David Orentreich (72nd and Fifth) dermatologist, specializes in hair thinning remedies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 10:46 AM Flag
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My dermatologists recommend platelet-rich plasma (or PRP) therapy for female hair loss; dermatology offices have just begun to reopen for elective procedures and that is exactly what PRP is. Platelet-rich plasma therapy uses your own plasma to nourish your scalp. It works for pattern hair loss as well as for temporary shedding caused by stress, illness, nutritional deficiencies, or hormonal changes. S [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 04:44 PM Flag
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Just make sure you have adequate Vitamin D and Bs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 05:02 PM Flag
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Sherley Abraham at Mt Sinai. Endocrinologist. Also agree with above poster per my endo - B and D vitamins important [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Any piano moms on? DD is 11, will be 12 next year. Her piano teacher recommended that she try for Juilliard pre college. What is the audition process like? Any theory/ear test components to the admissions process? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 05:25 PM Flag
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Um, why don't you ask Juilliard? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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I did, but they told me all the information is on their website. I found info about repertoire, etc, but nothing about specifics. Just trying to see if I can garner any insight here, on the off chance there is someone who is familiar with the program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 09:22 PM Flag
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I'm surprised your teacher would recommend that and give no guidance. Seems a little strange, honestly. Most teachers who would suggest that would do that out of knowing the program there (versus, the other schools)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:03 PM Flag
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Normally, the teacher would have been preparing the student towards that for at least a year or two, and indicate when that student is ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:04 PM Flag
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congratulations, mom. she must be a fantastic little musician. I know it's a lot of work to get kids to that point - I moved to a pre-college program in my home country at 10/11 after getting through suzuki etc., but my DD (10) is still on book 5 haha. my dad was more dedicated to it than I've been to my kids, sadly (he also worked a lot fewer hours than I do), but she's doing ok. Don't expect to get good guidance on this here - my experience is that there are very few musician parents here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:53 PM Flag
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Thank you. We are in NYC but DC's teacher is in CA. We moved to NY 1.5 years ago and chose to stick with the teacher she's had for 4 years in CA. We have been doing lessons via Facetime. He is older and unconnected, so he does not know too much about Juilliard. DC has won a few competitions and seems to do well, but I don't know if she's pre college material. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 09:21 PM Flag
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Consider Manhattan School of Music as well. Same all-day Saturday format. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 11:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I need recommendations for child therapists, one specializing in ADHD issues and one that deals with phobias/anxiety. We are in NYC thought any location could work as we will do remote. Preferably someone who takes insurance though sadly I realize that is a tall order. TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 04:54 PM Flag
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Child mind institute - midtown. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 05:34 PM Flag
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The NYU child study center. Park and 33rd. They take insurance but sadly our insurance does not cover sessions. My DD sees them for anxiety/depression. They are pricey at $300 for 45 minutes. Ugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 06:16 PM Flag
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Thanks. We have been going there but can no longer afford them with the hit on our income. :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.04.20, 08:20 PM Flag
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I think insurance is just not effective in this area. My kids’ insurance anyway. Try groups that specialize in this stuff like Brooklyn Special Kids and YBM special needs, which is a really different climate from ybm main board. If you are on the UWS CUNY has a grad student clinic up at their Manhattanviole campus. And Before you separate from child mind you can also ask them what else is available. They have a lot of connections and a lot of grad students around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.05.20, 03:25 AM Flag
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