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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] if ybm is soooooooooo great, why does everyone keep coming back here? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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the problem is, they're v adept at getting us to advertise for them. all they have to do is start a post, and we keep it going for a page. we need to ignore them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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to tell people here who don't know that if they prefer the old UB, to go there. if you like how it is here than you stay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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I think we are all well aware that ybm exists. Now just go away and leave us alone you obama loving, HHI polling, $1000 bag weirdo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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it was sarcasm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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Hey, if you all know so much about girls, how come you're hanging around the Gas n' Sip on a Saturday night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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By choice, purely by choice man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ylgd2ef4xg - 1 min in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] 4 1/2 yo DS is starting to mouth off a lot, test boundaries, etc and he's been going out of the house and then going to where I can't see him. He IS allowed out of the house provided I know he's gone out AND he stays on the patio where I can see him at all times. Today, he purposely wondered around to the front of the house and so I told him that he couldn't do that because sometimes people come and take little children away and if that happens, he will never see anyone he knows again and he can never come home again. He started to cry and said that made him sad. I don't want him to have a fear of the world and that's not why I nec. don't want him to wander exactly, but it worked it seemed. Was I wrong? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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yes, you were. you asked, i am answering honestly. now come the nightmares. you should read some parenting books [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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'mouth off' a lot? that's because training starts at birth and you seem to have missed a few steps. it is developmentally appropraite to test boundaries. yeah, you're wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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OP: What am I missing here? My 4 yo is the only one who ever pushes? In most aspects it's easy to deal with as it happens but in this case, I was tired and maybe I shouldn't have said it, but it made him stop and think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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I've done it. But, you're wrong for letting him go out alone. 4.6yos are impulsive. you can't guarantee he'll stay on the patio just b/c you want him to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:17 PM Flag
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actually...she can guarantee that. our mothers did it. she sounds like a cowardly parent imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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I don't know, really. There were plenty of times I stepped out of my yard. BUT, things were safer then. I don't totally disagree with you, but I don't think you can trust a 4yo not to step out into the street if they are alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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depends on her setup i guess. i was imaginign a backyard patio where you could easily tell a kid "don't leave this patio." if the patio wasn't high or dangerous i'd def let 4yo out there alone in my sight. but a 4yo who walks around the house definitely didn't get the message about there being big time punishment for leaving mom's sight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:29 PM Flag
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it's your responsibility to train him without fears - and you could even do this without words. my suggestion is to read , 'children, the challenge' by rudolf drikurs. try to get a copy today [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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"trainign without fears" is bullshit. he should be afraid of disobeying his mother. she shouldn't have to coerce him into thinking he'll be kidnapped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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he should not even be afraid of his mother. sounds like an antagoinistic reaationship [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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i'm scratching my head. what happened to "you step out of my sight for a minute and that's it for you, buddy." the scare tactics on your part just seem immature, like you have to convince him there's a boogie monster when his fear should be of punishment for disobeying you, not of some kidnapper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone BTDT? 10 wk old sleeps in his carseat which I place in the crib from 8:30-4 then 5-8, which I think is great. I have to transition him to sleeping in the crib and I am terrified! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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it will be ok - he's young enough to transition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Think he'll be up all night. Definitely doesn't sleep well in there for naps. Only about 20 minutes at a time. Will sleep for hours in the carseat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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better do it now - later it will be harder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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Thanks. Have you BTDT? Any tips? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Its so much better over there and faster and easier, its the old UB. THANK god 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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Youbemom.com? I'm all over it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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do you think we don't know about that site? If it's so great, why do you haev to keep proselytizing? I swear the Jehovah's witnesses are less persistent! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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You're welcome. Everybody over here thinks you're a c*nt anyway. Signed God [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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snort! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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np-Right. by all means stay here with all the glitches and scrolling and horror. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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why are you telling us? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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np my theory is that it's slow over there too and they keep coming here to try to convert us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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its twice as fast as this and twice as fast as the old UB here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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so why are you here? I'm happy at UB. Go away if you don't like it. We don't miss you. Really [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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i came to see if this had gotten better. it hasn't, its terrible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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it's not. I like it. I can adapt. You ought to try that sometime [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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well, duh. if it was so great over there, they wouldn't need to be here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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i think it stinks that we have splintered. now less insight in both places [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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You're the new Curb Mom. can we just get a tag for spam so these posts can be properly labeled? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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then why are you here? And why would you want all of us to come over there then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Well, after coming back here I have to say I am a YouBeMom convert. It's the old UB and everyone is over there and I'm done with this UB, its awful now. Bye! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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yeah just go already and stop posting that spamela [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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totally agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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really tacky to respond to your own posts OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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grow up, freak [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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LOL! you are the weird one who is talking to herself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:14 PM Flag
[ - ] your bed: king or queen? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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queen, king feels too spacious to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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really? how big are you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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that's funny, I'm 5'7", dh is 5'10". like to feel close to him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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yeah, you're medium sized people i guess. i'm one of those sleepers who likes the options of going diagonal, i always sleep with my legs apart (internalized whore thing, i know, lol) and need SPACE and plenty of covers! especially when dd climbs in i don't like to feel like she's overheating or poking my spine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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queen, though with ds, I sometimes wish we had king. He doesn't sleep in our bed, but sometimes comes by in the morning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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ditto, cosleeper, got a low platform king. never going back. though king sized linens cost a bitch and a half and never go on sale! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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king [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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queen, but i want a king. don't have the $$ for it right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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you can build one... and buy a 'real' mattress later. use a pad mattress (ikea esque) right now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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queen, wish I had a double, honestly. we have a big bedroom, but I feel like it takes up too much space. just silly. ever notice when a house is professionally staged, they rarely put in anything larger than a double? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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of course they don't, unless the room is huge and they want it to seem grand with a fluffy king-- again, for a huge room. our br could fit several beds, i really like the low platform king arrangement as it becomes more like a family bed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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uck. family bed is the last thing I want to encourage around here. I like that my kids are able to fall asleep by themselves. both dc went in crib as soon as they were home from the hospital, both great sleepers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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oh, ours sleep great too, as would i if i coerced my parents into letting me watch tv with them in their bed, then conveniently conked out sleep just as they were too tired to move me-- this is dd's gimick. i was sort of raised in a family bed situation (in terms of morning 'snuggling', not sleeping nightly with my parents) and kinda like it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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lol, whatever works, right? dh and i just need the privacy, kwim? ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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ooooo yes, the privacy. formerly i knew what you meant :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:34 PM Flag
[ - ] newsflash: the world is dirty and filled with germs. you are alive and okay still. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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exactly. thank you. unless you have autoimmune defiency syndrome.... you're ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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What?!?!? G-G-GERMS?!?!?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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agree, i don't wash my hands nearly as much as my neurotic friends. myself and dd are rarely sick, can't say the same for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:10 PM Flag
[ - ] is there no autofill anymore? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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that is truly the only thing I miss from the old format [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:05 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 yo dd's room is 67 degrees. She wears light cotton footie pajamas and uses no blanket. Is this too cold? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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Sounds good to me. My DS has a blanket though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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np sounds awesome to me! Early menopause is making me sweat my brains out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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but she's only 2 and small [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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LOL! Does she feel cold in the morning? Hands and feet? SHe is probably fine. Just a generation ago, many people had no heat in the winter. My Dad grew up that way and he did just fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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i think that sounds too cold. get her warmer pjs or up the heat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:12 PM Flag
[ - ] So, the Little Red article has me wondering...How are you SUPPOSED to apply to pre-K in the city? We could maybe afford private for a year but it would be very, very hard. Do we apply for private and forego public altogether or just keep our fingers crossed for public? Do any private spots open up after the public pre-K admissions process ends? I'm in Brooklyn,BTW. DS is 2 so I haven't really thought about this before. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.23.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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The DOE introduced a new procedure for applying to universal Pre-K this year. You need to find out if there's a universal preK in your area. And even if there is, you need to identify private options, since there are so few public preK seats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Thanks. But isn't the decision date for private options well before that for public options? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have Monte Luca Glider? Like it? Thoughts? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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I haven't seen it irl, but looked into gliders once and thought it was very nice. Made in Canada I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:10 PM Flag
[ - ] NY MOMS: Thinking for birthday of getting my mother a gift certificate to Payard on UES so she can have high tea with a friend. Good gift? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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Love Payard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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Does your mom like that sort of thing? Mine wouldn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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My mom loves food and pastry and lives on the UES so... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:06 PM Flag
[ - ] It's so infuriating that people just leave their trash lying around in the playgrounds in NYC. Kids end up playing with it and putting in their mouths. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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ita. plus the pigeons/rats come around to clean up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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Yeah, it really pisses me off. I start saying out loud "People, pick up your garbage" and they look at me like the crazy mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:17 PM Flag
[ - ] niece who just finished her freshman yr at college, couldn't get above a D. The college told her to get tested for LD. How did the school district she came from, a very good one btw, not pick up on this. Feel so bad for her. She is really down. Anyone know of any books she could read that would tell her it's okay to have a learning disability, that she can still succeed? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.23.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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DH went to private catholic schools all his life and was a poor student. I noticed that he coulsd remember facts from a documentary but not from reading something and encouraged him to get tested for college. He does have a LD as it turns out and it was missed all those years. It happens. Don't know of any books but Winston Churchill failed a grade and Einstein didn't talk til he was about 5. LD are common and many many people with them are very intelligent. Remind her of that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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Einstein was speech delayed (and not until FIVE!!! that is not true) because he grew up in a household where 3-4 languages were spoken. He did not have a learning disability. That said, there are TONS of successful people w/ LDs! Not everyone has the same skill set, and thank God for that! There are millions of things she can excel at, too many to name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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Thank you, seriously, for debunking that myth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 04:11 AM Flag
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my dh has LD, was barely identified when he grew up. There are college age programs to work with ld. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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ITA. On the bright side she's actually done well enough with an unidentified ld to get into college. Many colleges have support service departments which can offer accomodations. She may find, that once she identifies what is going on and gets support that she will find things much easier than they have ever been for her. It could be a great thing that they've helped her to id this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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don't know of any books, but most people with LD are very intelligent, have very high IQs. not sure why, but it's true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:27 PM Flag
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this was me. i was not dx till i was a sophmore in undergrad. Got ADHD diagnosis and in one sememster went from a C avg to a A- avg. now in a fairly successful job in marketing with an MBA. If they are suspecting ADHD, try Driven to Distraction. GL. I am not on a lot, but will watch this post if you have any questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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op: thanks, i'll suggest that book to her. to the above posters: I know she can succeed and do just fine. she just doesn't know that yet. she is feeling very defeated. am looking for a resource that she can use to help her through this. i appreciate everyone's comments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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While "A Special Education," by Dana Buchman, is written from the parent's perspective, it's a great book because she is a huge proponent of the idea that these are learning *differences* and that people with LDs have a unique vision to share, that it's not strictly a downside. You might take a look at it and see if parts of it might be for her - the afterword is written by Dana Buchman's daughter who is now at college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:57 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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one word: adderal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 09:13 PM Flag
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It could also be that she was merely well supported and comfortable while at home and in school and then felt lost and scared and anxious when away. Or she was sowing her wild oats, skipping classes and is falling onto the LD wagon instead of taking responsibility for her actions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 04:12 AM Flag
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i thought this too, but now i'm putting pieces together and it makes sense. plus she has me as a friend on facebook and i see how she talks with her friends, she is not typical gone crazy college kid, she's very responsible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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possible adhd. It shows up differently in girls than in boys and is often overlooked. I have a friend who was not diagnosed until college and her grades and self esteem increased so much after she was diagnosed and treated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 04:21 AM Flag
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I am reading a great book about an LD and an ADHD kid who transfer to Brown and figure out how to be successful there and pass it on. My son is 8 and was diagnosed with LD and ADHD and I'm in graduate school and realize I too have a functional LD that I have been hiding from everyone for my whole life. My brother was diagnosed with dyslexia and I hid under the radar with highly skewed and variable performance. The book is Learning Outside the Lines by Jonathan Mooney and David Cole. I flunked out of college and was academically withdrawn and I went back after working for a year and I graduated two years later. I don't generally tell people that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:25 AM Flag
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He wrote Travels on the Short Bus, or something like it, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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Yes, that's the guy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 02:17 AM Flag
[ - ] bossyboots? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 11:59 AM Flag
[ - ] if you conceived naturally (ie without ivf/iui etc) did your OB check your hcg #s after 48 hrs to see if they've doubled? i ovulated on may 2-3 and now i'm pg. my OB had me come in yesterday for blood test to check my HCG and progesterone (they are 4600 and 31 respectively). He said to come in the week after next for an U/S. But was he supposed to get my HCG 48 hrs from now too? Sorry if this is ignorant; this is my 1st pg. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 05.23.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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With your HCG that high, there's no reason to check again in 48 hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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ok, ty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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I don't think they normally check that stuff unless you have some reason to think things aren't progressing normally. They didn't with my first pg anyway but with the others they did since I had problems. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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