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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] why does ub look different again? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.23.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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font change in response to all the whining, which of course only brought on more whining [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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oh i see, the size is smaller. thanks! i thought i was losin it.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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LOL! no biggie. I didn't even notice at first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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good summary! it's back to the original font, Verdana, instead of Helvetica which was in the redesign and is still on the right, for "Your settings" etc. FWIW I like the Verdana. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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wow, you really know your fonts! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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some of us do graphic design for a living - WAHM [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:19 PM Flag
[ - ] friend invited us to mexico. we spent close to $200 on getting renewed passports. she just wrote and cancelled...... 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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Don't blame her. You needed the Passports anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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np why do you "need" one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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omg - because sometimes you leave the country! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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OMG it hasn't happened since I was 16! Most of us know when trips are coming up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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good to have a passport. you don't want to get one in a hurry. plus they often prefer them as ID at the airport even for domestic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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sure. but does that warrant an omg? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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I guess you don't like leaving the US then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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you haven't been outside the country since you were 16? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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no. is that a problemo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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I think it's good to visit other places once in a while. There's a whole world out there that's quite different than home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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of course, but I can't afford to travel right now. Not like I think people should feel sorry for me or anything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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np: oh, was the friend paying for you guys? that's a bummer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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Why would someone bother to invite you out of the country then since you are such a world traveler? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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LOL! Not OP but don't have the $$ to travel right now. Would love to. Wanna donate to the cause? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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NP: PErsonally, I haven't been out of the country in 3 years but I always take my passport for the airport domestically. Also, my dh occasionally gets surprise trips out of the country and I think someday I might actually go with him. plus, having an additional form of official government id is a really good idea for jobs, benefits at work, all kinds of things. It's worth having. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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np: so go away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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Go on vacation anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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kinda sad that it would never occur to you to go anywhere overseas without your friend prompting you. . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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why is t hat sad? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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it's even sadder that you have to ask. . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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LOL! you are funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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you should go anyway! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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not for nothing but the housing is the cheap part of Mexico. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:26 PM Flag
[ - ] what do you take for menstrual cramps? how many advil can i take? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.23.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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get a heating pad or bottle filled with warm water. Should help more than advil [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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i take 2 aleve. works fast and lasts a long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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800 mg of ibuprofin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:26 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone familiar w/ River Edge? there's a house on NJMLS for $375K!!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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It's a small, cute town next to Paramus and right by Van Saun Park. Probably worth a look-and-see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Just make sure it's not too close to the river - I think it floods at times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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don't worry about the river but make sure it's not too close to the railroad tracks because they run the trains now. Very nice town, good schools, nice community. Worth a look. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Not a very nice town, lots of small houses, schools not so great. I'd go to Oradell or Haworth or even Paramus over River Edge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Can a newborn sleep in a moses basket and where do you put it at night? - is there a stand for it like a bassinet has? How long can they sleep in a moses basket? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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we didnt have one, but heard good things..you could put it anywhere..but the point of having a moses basket, i think is so you can have db in room with you. dont think therei s a stand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I want db in room with me. We had a bassinet with db #1 but we gave it away (don't ask!). Now I'm looking at bassinets and I just don't want to spend $300-400. for something that db will outgrow in 4 months. I just can't picture putting the moses basket on the floor, but I guess that's what I'll have to consider. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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I payed $30 for a perfectly good brand new moses basket from Amazon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Most of the ones in bbb or bru are $100 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Those are overpriced for the name. You might be better off with a Grace playpen with sleeper and changer all-in-one. Though they can be bulky if you don't have the room for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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op: But what do you think of the mattress quality on these? I'm guessing you meant Graco and not Grace. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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My dcs slept in a moses basket by the side of our bed for about 2-3months before moving into the crib. I used a stand with #1 but just put it on the floor for #2 as I was worried about #1 pulling it over. I used the Moses basket during the day too so that the baby could sleep in whichever room I was in at the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Any problems with basket on floor at night? Draft? Dust? Your pillow falling off the bed and landing on the db? 'Can't believe I'm even thinking this way? I was sooo laid back with db #1! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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I kept it pillow falling distance away from the bed just in case and I was also worried if it was too close I would step on him in the night (which I never did!). Honestly it was fine and it's only for a few weeks anyway. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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We used our bugaboo bassinet in the beginning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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op: Y'know, I don't really need a new stroller and I was a little anti bugaboo, but I've thought about this as a reason to buy one. Can you put a carseat in the bugaboo frame? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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NP. Yes but if you don't need a new stroller getting one just for the bassinet would be crazy. By the way I'm a Bug fan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:16 PM Flag
[ - ] biracial company living in brooklyn with infant dd..cant afford to stay. where to move? ive lived in nyc my whole life... 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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oops meant to say couple, not company :) who needs a long weekend... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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Maplewood, NJ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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What are you looking for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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op: good schools, urban feeling, stuff to do, some diversity, and near city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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I'm not sure I understand why the biracial part is important, but I'd say look at NJ. Maybe even Jersey City or Hoboken for its proximity to NYC. Also, Queens is a great option these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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op: thanks. are there specific parts of queens with good public schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Forest Hills and Bayside may be ok? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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Forest Hills is a great choice. Very diverse, near the city and PS 196 and 101 are two of the best schools in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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Prices are so reasonable there too. Can get a 1000 sq. ft. 2 bed/1 bath for about $350k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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are you currently renting or do yo own? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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If you want to stay in NYC come look in my hood in Riverdale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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op: we own..ive heard great things about riverdale..how are the schools? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Excellent! Look up PS 24 and 81 on insideschools.org [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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op: thank you! do you live in a house or an apt? what do you like about riverdale? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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i like the bars and hookers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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It's mostly co-ops up to the $500K range. Houses are $600 - millions range. I'm not a city person and this is the burbs really. Nice parks, walkable, great Hudson River views. Zoo, Botanical Garden, Wave Hill all nearby. City is still very commutable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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co-ops are the biggest scam going. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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I'll just have to assume that you don't live in NYC. Co-ops are the major housing here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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i've been looking at nyack. it's a good enough distance from NYC for me (because i'm sick of nyc), but still a decent commute for dh. our budget is in the $400-475k range, and i've been seeing some cute houses and condos online...all within walking distance to the main drag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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WAY too far a commute. I'd rather live anywhere in Bergen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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ok. just trying to help! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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i guess the bitch quotient hasn't changed since the redesign. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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Why is that bitchy? Nyack is at least a 90min commute each way, it's not commutable imo. I didn't say you're an ahole for thinking of living there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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ita - nyack is nice, but feels far. traffic can be rough too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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Definitely Maplewood. We have lots of biracial families. Schools are excellent, despite what you read here. (Check the stats. Lots of AP scholars in the HS, lots of music, art, theatre, dance, writers, etc.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:52 AM Flag
[ - ] should I cut blueberries in half for a 10 mo? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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yes, grapes too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] wondering if anyone else has the exact opposite sex drive as their partner. Its killing me here. Love our son, home, everything else. But the difference in desire is destroying us. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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It's not destroying us, but we do have our issues about it (and have since we were dating). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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Is there a way to make things peaceful? Its become such a problem that we are fighting almost daily and I dont know how much more I can take. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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Who wants it more - you or him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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Me. I'd settle for once a week or once every other week. He's content with about once every two months. I'm trying to be good about it but after 3 weeks pass I'm about ready to kill him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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Ah - you're the opposite of us. My dh wants it every other night (and thinks that's a compromise). We have a 2yo and a db - so I'm exhausted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I'm so jealous. Every other night would be a dream come true. Right now its more like every other month. I am loyal but very very tempted lately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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This is what I need to hear - I know if I don't keep him happy someone else will. But, with the babies, I'm so tired, the last thing I want is sex. I'm working on it, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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I wish dh thought this way. Once or twice I've been frustrated enough to tell him another man would actually be grateful for a woman who wants it frequently. He has NO fear. After going on 3 years of this he should be worried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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this is us. but he's ready to roll if I initiate. I just let that bug me. also ttc for 3 years kind of puts crimp in things. and I'm postmeno so now I have no sex drive. He won't initiate = no sex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I have been shot down too many times, so I never initiate. And he only initiates after 2 months of me bugging him (he basically does it to shut me up) which makes the sex pretty unenjoyable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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np: has he had his hormones checked seen a dr? Maybe he has a medical issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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If only. At least that could be fixed. He's healthy. Just no interest. And its killing my self-esteem a little more each day. I keep trying to figure out whats turning him off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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this is really strange there has to be a bigger issue then just being "turned off" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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Like what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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this is about him, not about you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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Its definitely about me. How can it not be when he is rejecting me, neglecting me, and leaving me so frustrated I fantasize daily about cheating!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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what about stress, depression? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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I don't think its those either. Our lives are fairly simple. We both work decent jobs, have a great kid, etc etc. I dont know what it is, except maybe he lost interest in me and doesn't want to break the family up over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I'd be very suspicious of a man who refuses to have sex more than once every 2 mo. Gay gay gay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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No no no. He's been with alot of women. He had a reputation when we met. It took a long time to get him to settle down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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Just proves my point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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that he's gay? No. I would believe anything BUT that. He hasn't a gay bone in his body. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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madonna/whore syndrome? or elvis syndrome (I just made that up), has it just been since db? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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It started after we moved in together. Continued through pregnancy, postpartum, and continues and continues. . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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you really should get counseling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I told him so and he said it was a waste of money, that he is totally turned on by me just busy with other things right now. Like what? God only knows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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us too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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What are you doing about it? Do you ignore the issue or work on it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I think about it but haven't started working on it. probably should [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone get an amnio even though it was not necessary? Any advice? I am PG and 32. Nuchal results came out great (1 in 10,000) but I am still nervous. OB thinks I am crazy and the risk is not worth it. Any advice? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.23.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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I was 40 and had good nuchal but inconclusive quad. only then did i decide to do amnio. if you are in a large metropolitan area the risk is not very high. make sure whoever is doing the amnio does them all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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Honestly, you have a greater chance of being hit by a bus. If 1 in 10,000 odds bug you, never step out of your front door. Your OB is totally right on this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I accused dh of having affair, but he denies it, says it's a friendship. It totally upsets me but still he refuses to stop seeing the woman, even as friends. He knows how upset this makes me. It's like I don't even exist, like they just go on with their friendship. Now that I've accused and gotten no satisfaction on it I feel a million times worse. Time to play the separation card? I've asked for therapy and been shot down. This sucks. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.23.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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trust your gut (esp if you are not a jealous person to begin with). same thing happened with my mom and dad, and after a couple of years she finally caught him. not sure if her accusations drove him to it or not, but there is no excuse. if they are too close, then something has to change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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i agree, you are feeling that something is not right, and if he refuses to change the situation then he is not respecting you, trust your gut, play the separation card [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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a dh: Years ago I had a woman I was great friends with. I was dating a woman and we got engaged. She was horribly jealous even though this woman and I were never more than just friends. I stopped talking to my friend to appease my fiancé. Fiancé and I eventually broke up. I will regret betraying my friend to my grave. I did what I thought was right in the moment but in my heart of hearts I knew it was wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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Only b/c you wish you f'ed her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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If you are going to try and segregate the man in your life from every woman he might ever hope to f' you are not going to have a lot of spare time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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Why didn't you sleep with her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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She was with someone, I was with someone, timing and opportunity never happened. Then eventually we were just friends. Neither of us were "players" so fuck buddies was not in either of our natures. (This obviously misses the point but I'll play along.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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There's no reason he should be carrying on a relationship with another woman, esp if it makes you uncomfortable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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What don't you like about their relatonship? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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When DH and I got married I told him he had to stop talking to all women he knew outside of work and that if I caught him talking to any of them I would suspect he was having sex with htem and I would leave him immediatly! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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just a little too much. But close... ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I accused dh of having affair, but he denies it, says it's a friendship. It totally upsets me but still he refuses to stop seeing the woman, even as friends. He knows how upset this makes me. It's like I don't even exist, like they just go on with their friendship. Now that I've accused and gotten no satisfaction on it I feel a million times worse. Time to play the separation card? I've asked for therapy and been shot down. This sucks. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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Don't insist he break off the friendship; do insist on therapy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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I have 'insisted' but he just won't go. I even spoke with a lawyer to make good on the threat. He ignores everything and does whatever he wants. Lawyer said I'd probably have to get a legal order to get him out of the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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It's more then just his friendship. He has ZERO respect for you or any concern about how you feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:06 PM Flag
[ - ] A mom in my playgroup told me that soccer is the most aggressive sport. Is this true? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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I'd say rugby and ice hockey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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I'd say football or rugby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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also agree with ice hockey [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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boxing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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boxing, rugby, football, hockey. soccer is so not as bad as rugby. oh, and synchronized swimming. brutal! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Have you ever been to a naked party? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I've played strip poker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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no, i'm very selective who I want to look at naked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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