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[ - ] Need some help. For some reason in recent weeks, I can only orgasm if DH calls me a whore and other names during sex. What is the reason for this? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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I don't know, but your post made me laugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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me too. thanks! I needed that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:36 PM Flag
[ - ] dh complains that we spend too much money eating out, but that is our one extravagance. I don't do mani/pedi/spa thing, rarely go to the salon even for cut. Not into labels, or spending a lot on clothes/shoes/bags. I told him he should feel lucky that I don't spend money on all those things, but he's still complaining. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.23.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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start spending money on those things, then cut them out and ask him to congratulate you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Who's in charge of the HH budget? Maybe you should discuss your financial goals together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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Maybe leave him home ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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I do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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I'm like you. dh never complains but I agree with your dh, I waste $$ on restaurants that could go to more interesting things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
[ - ] if i eat healithy, lots of veg, protein and a little carbs and work out 3 or 4 times a week, will i definitely lose weight? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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drink lots of water too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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Water doesn't help you lose weight, just saying. it just keeps you full and hydrated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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eat tons of fiber and that will help a lot (drink a lot of water with it) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] So this lady just now stares me down at a crosswalk and starts shaking her head at me because DD is crying (fake crying about wanting cookies from the grocery store). So I said to her, do you have something to say and she just turns away. If you are gonna have the nerve to judge a stranger so opening on the street, why do you not have the balls to address the person if she confronts you? WTF? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.23.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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I hate that. My ds once had a "time for a nap" meltdown at the playground and was doing his best fish on pavement imitation. Some lady walked by and just sneered, muttering "Jesus" - I was so annoyed and called her on it. "Jesus"? - her answer: "Christ". This too shall pass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Can you imagine doing that to another mother? I just can't it is so unreal. It is hard enough to have kids, to have them crying then some know-it-all pita passes judgment on you, there is no relief for moms, especially from other moms, I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] FINALLY! my 4-1/2 yo DS is showing an independent interest in sitting on the potty (i.e. me not initiating it). It's only for #1, but hey, I'll take what I can get :) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Does your 4 1/2 have a physical limitation? This is a little old to be getting potty trained. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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None that I can tell. Like what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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Are you seriously saying your 4 1/2 yo is just now going pee in the potty? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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oy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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they do it when they are ready. even if it means being 4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:40 PM Flag
[ - ] I love TV and I watch loads of it. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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me three [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone who would post that co-ops are "the biggest scam" does not live in NYC. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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right. I think commuting long distances is the biggest scam. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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co-ops the residential buildings? Why would it be a scam? love ours. Wouldn't live in a house in the burbs if you paid me too. I like being able to call up the maint. staff to have them fix something for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:36 PM Flag
[ - ] had ridiculously horrifying birth with first ended up with emergency c section, thinking about second, would you schedule c section or try again? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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each pregnancy is different. discuss it with your ob. when the time comes you'll decide together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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i kind of want to try it again, but then i start to get nervous just thinking about it, we are talking 50hrs of labor i was in for the 1st, not kidding. i just hate all the pain killers after the c section, i needed them but they made me very sick [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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VBAC mom from below and I needed plenty of pain meds after my vaginal birth and ended up with tons of stitches and a broken tailbone. Recovery is much easier after a scheduled c because you did not labor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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op: broken tailbone? holy crap i had no idea that could happen! i labored for 30 hours natural labor with my first, then 20hrs with meds then csection finally. i think the idea of a broken tailbone makes me like the c section. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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It was really bad. I broke it pushing. Hurt for nearly a year but the first 2 months were a nightmare. I used to nurse walking around because sitting hurt so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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op: oh my god, i'm just dying thinking about that pain, i just don't think my body can get a db out, i pushed for ever and was in labor for days and days (broken water for days too! my midwife was a nut), and he never ever even budged [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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NP: I had two vaginal births, needed a couple of stitches, but barely needed tylenol afterwards. Minor discomfort. Don't scare her needlessly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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I am giving her the worst case scenario. I scheduled c-section is not a bad recovery and less likely to have unexpected things happen. As someone who had a tough labor with a scary emergency c she should realize that it might not go perfectly even on the second try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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^^u r right, ugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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that is amazing, i hear that and i want to try, i mean i tried so so hard the first time, i had the birth ball, the classes, the mindfullness meditation, the exercises, my hubby, the tub, the midwife, the glass of wine, the natural labor, and it just went on for days and days of severe contractions two minutes apart...it just never progressed, it was unreal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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depends on why you had the first c [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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Much more controllable with a scheduled c-section. I vbaced after a really bad emergency c and went into it knowing that it could happen like that all over again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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that is a good point, how was your vbac? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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It was great. Healthy baby and no trauma but much harder recovery actually and my c-section recovery was no walk in the park. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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You'd have to have a very agreeable OB. Many prefer C-sect to cover their own ass. They like to keep their liability to a minimum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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i had an insane midwife the first time, i need to find a good ob [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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Are you in nyc? I can reccomend my practice who did my vbac. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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yes i'm in nyc, who was your practice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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Wain, Beyers and Friedman. They are out of Mt. Sinai. Friedman delivered db via vbac. They were all great. Very supportive of the vbac and great about giving me balanced information pro and con. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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great thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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op: what do you feel like after scheduled c??? im realizing i felt so horrible after my emergency c because i had be laboring for days and days, but now i'm think that just have it scheduled and going and getting it done will not be as exhausting and body-traumatizing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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I hated my C/S recovery, and by other standards, it wasn't even that bad. I didn't have any infections or complications or anything. But my scar keloided and was insanely sensitive for about 1 year, and still is depending on the weather. C-sections carry many more risks - I say pick another provider (midwife or OB) who is very supportive of natural birth, and try again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.02.08, 09:43 PM Flag
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i had a scheduled c section for my 2nd. much easier. I was out of the hospital after 2 days-couldn't wait to get home. my milk came in while I was in hospital, which didn't happen with my first. my ob was amenable to a vbac, but I didn't want to try it then have the c again since my recovery from my first was tough. I didn't want to have that recovery and have to care for 2 kids. everyone is different. so find what works for you-don't feel pressured any way, but know that the 2nd isn't normally so bad. normal to be nervous too and have trouble deciding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.03.08, 03:43 AM Flag
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I had a c-section and a vbac and the vbac was a vast improvement on the surgery in multiple ways physical and emotional. I felt like a different person afterward--human, and healthy, even radiant. After the surgery I felt like SHIT. I am so glad I had a vbac and would never hesitate to recommend that anyone make the effort. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.03.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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Totally agree! I vbaced with my 2nd son and it was amazing. I felt healthy and energetic after childbirth--euphoric. After my c-section, I felt exhausted and like a true post-surgery patient, which I was! Definitely try! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.03.08, 03:55 PM Flag
[ - ] how much are garages in nyc these days? monthly 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.23.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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we pay a little over 400/mo but live on the far UES, I've seen over 600 posted downtown. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I am pretty sure that my DH is going to have sex tongiht 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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Who with??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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I know mine is. I already shaved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:24 PM Flag
[ - ] What was Hillary's point in bringing up RFK's assassination? To remind voters Obama could be assasinated? She is so classless. I used to love her, each day I respect her less and less. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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I think she's secretly evil. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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that's the worst kept secret in north ameria [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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in what context did she bring it up? Was she talking about the run of bad luck the Kennedy's had? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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http://www.nypost.com/seven/05232008/news/nationalnews/why_hill_wont_drop_out__bobby_kennedy_wa_112232.htm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:58 PM Flag
[ - ] My dcs just recently discovered Little Bill. Now they're addicted. Thank you, Little Bill! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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we like Little Bill. Also Little Bear who shows up right after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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NP: except it teaches DC's to trust bears. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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but at least he has parents, unlike Max and Ruby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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in that case - no teddy bears for dcs either! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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dcs are not huge fans of Little Bear. I think it's cute though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Bored DH here, any questions? 99 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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Do you think most married men cheat at one point or another? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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Why doesn't dh ever want sex? Do most guys only like the sex in the beginning and then just get bored? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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I love sex and would have it every night if DW would let me. Is he stressed or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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No. I wish men came with warning labels. I swear if I'd known I was going to spend my 30's celibate I would never have settled down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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what have you done to try to seduce him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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I take a bath, shave myself bare and walk around in sexy lingerie. Or talk dirty. Neither do the trick. I even bought a vibrator and told him he didnt have to do anything but watch if he didnt feel like it. THAT worked. He was pissed off that I replaced him so he f*cked me. But not because he was turned on, more because he felt threatened. I must sound so pathetic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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Have you tried to massage him or kiss him or just jump him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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of course. he pulls away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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have you tried to hold him down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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okay thats just creepy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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why [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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I shouldn't have to hold him down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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HMM [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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np-no. You shouldn't. You really shouldn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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exactly. He should want me. he should make some effort, however small, to be with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Is he having an affair? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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I tracked him like a bloodhound for months. Checked his cell phone records, credit card charges, everything. There's no way. Unless he's doing it in his car during lunch break, but thats pretty unlikely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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Does he come straight home from work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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Yes. Never more than a few minutes late. Doesn't go anywhere on the weekends without me and ds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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This is weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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When did this start? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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years ago. Didn;t become a serious problem until I came clean with my friends and found out that in most cases men bother women for sex, not the other way around. Knowing I'm the only one has made me feel completely inadequate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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this sounds weird. Hvae you talked to DH about it? What was he like earlier in your marriage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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So amazing. Three to four times a week, everywhere in every position. And then it tapered off and dwindled to nothing. Now I'm lucky if we do it once a month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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How long after kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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A year. But this started before ds so its not the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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I don't think so. I really think for whatever reason I don't excite him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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Do you think it could be possible? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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What does he wear to bed? I have an idea? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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pajama pants and a t-shirt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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How about this. Go to bed wearing sexy lingerie.....maybe rub his penis a bit and then roll on top of him and start kissing him and telling him how sexy he is and how much you want him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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Ok, tough to try giving him a wake-up blowjob. He wear boxers under those? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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How about telling him that you are going to have sex with his best friend if he doesn't f--k you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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ok but his best friend is fat and balding. he might laugh at that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Well at least you'll get a laugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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He have a hot friend you want to sleep with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Actually. . . yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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would you do it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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At this point? Probably. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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would the guy be up for it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Could you threaten him with that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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I have threatened leaving, sleeping around, and never having sex with him again. He didn't seem to think I would do any of those so it didn't work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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If you did cheat, how would DH react? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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He would try to ruin my life. Which is the ONLY reason I haven't. His feeling stopped mattering after the first year of this sh*t. I was understanding. Now I'm angry, bitter and frustrated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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Is he that vengeful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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Yes. He really is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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Why did you marry him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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He was funny sweet sexy and great in bed. In reality hes boring frigid annoying and critical. Stupid me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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oops. Meant for the other question. But as far as what he'd do? anything he thought would hurt me (not physically but otherwise). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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How old is he? what does he do for a living? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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He's in his 40's, works for a small company. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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Have you thought of divoricng him first? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Yes but I don't want to be punished for wanting sex more often than once every few months. Thats bullsh*t. If you dont like sex dont get married. Its not meant to be torture. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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What do you still love about DH? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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The person he was. I remember the sweet things he said, the way he held me and kissed me, the way he worried about me. I love who he was and its hard to let go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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When did you find out he was different? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Fuuny enough, right before we sealed the deal. But I thought maybe I was getting cold feet, imagining things, etc etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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What do you think he would do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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Was your DH every sexually abused as a child? Was he raped as an adult? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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I don't think so. I think he really lost interest. I don't know why or when exactly but there isn't really any other explanation that fits. Its awful and hopeless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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Have you talked to him about it? Straight out asked him "Honey, why aren't you having sex with me?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Have yuo thought of therapy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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Have you tried to wake him up with a blowjob? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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BTDT, I've really tried it all. Now all I want is a discreet affair. Or a divorce. But why should I lose time with ds when hes the one with the problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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Do you have a guy in mind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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Several. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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who are they? Do you think they'd do it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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My boss, a guy who works in my building, an old friend from high school, an ex. And definitely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Why do you think they'd do it? Are they single? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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Yes and I'm attractive and they hit on me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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There a way you can do it discreetly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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Yes. But I don't know if I could do it. I want to but I'm afraid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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Which guy would be your top pick? How could you be discreet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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The boss. And he's asked me to go to a hotel during work hours. I just haven't been angry enough at dh to actually go through with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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what have you told your boss in the past? How old are you? How old is he? Does your boss know you are interested? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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sorry, totally new poster, I don;t know if anyone has said this, but this sounds like he is depressed. It can be very hard to detect, and some men are not willing to admit it, but depression is a huge problem for men and their libido. I highly doubt it has anything at all to do with you, most men would screw a willing participant with onion breath and unshaven legs and baggy sweats if they needed it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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thank you. thats kind of what i needed to hear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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is there anything DH would be depressed about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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me??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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^^^wanted to add, antidepressent medication can add to lack of sex drive, but depression is a real medical condition and it is a major MAJOR source of lack of sex drive. If he takes medication, he may be impotent, but his sex drive could return just not the ability to have erections, then he can take viaga (men can continue to have sex drive with out ability to perform, unlike most women). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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That would be nice but for some reason I doubt hes been depressed for 2 years. He doesnt act depressed, he acts disinterested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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That's what I am saying, depression, especially chronic depression is not what you think it is. It can be very subtle and many men are not willing to admit it. There is no good reason for a healthy man to be adverse to sex, it is not normal, it is absolutely a sign that something is wrong with him physically or mentally. I urge you to get him to a doctor to talk about this, trust me, do not go outside your marriage for sex, get him to the doctor, work on this for real or file for divorce, having an affair is not going to fix it and it will make it worse. I know this is not about you, you have to see that. He is not well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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how come these responses don't line up under the original posts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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i have to go. i dont see why i should deal with being separated from my son when dh is the one ruining our marriage. thanks for the advice though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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can you get a good attorney? is DH's family very powerful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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I think this woman is just looking for an excuse to have sex with her boss and ruin her life, her child's life, her boss's life, and her poor sick husband's life. There is clearly something wrong with the DH and she doesn't want to help him figure it out, instead she is just saying oh, I feel unattractive and so I'm gonna have an affair to feel good about myself and keep everything else status quo, There were so many good ideas here for her and she had an excuse why none would work, doesn't sound like a women on the edge to me, sounds like someone looking for excuses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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You can file for full custody on the grounds of mental abuse, he is abusing you in a way. Don't have an affair to punish him, this is stupid. Do you live in the midwest or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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totally agree with above poster. DH needs help, and if he refuses, get a divorce. Don't go outside of the marriage. It will just bring a swift and very dark end to your marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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Why would your boss suggest going to a hotel room? How old is he and you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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does dh watch a lot of porn? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:13 PM Flag
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you are bored far too often. why dont' you find something to occupy you. it's insulting that you turn to "us" to ease your boredom. find something else, why don't you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:17 PM Flag
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why is it insulting? we all turn to eachother to ease our boredom. why else would you be here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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Okay, I've read the whole dialogue here and it's pretty disturbing. If you're not happy and your partner isn't willing to confront the importance of that-END IT. You read like a typical mid-life crisis borne of a need to excuse your own roving, actively investigating eye; you're even engaging in some lame (yes sexual) exchange with a male poster. Get a grip on reality-You don't step out; you opt out first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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If your partner isn't cheating, actually gay or depressed(which could be from any number of factors, including denial of his own sexual orientation), then this is not solved by cheating. Be an adult and quit the stupid vibrator threats, cockteasing around your past and workplace(!!) and see a therapist. If you've ever had a grip on being a woman-you've lost it. You sound like a nin.ny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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From where you went from this header, you could've signed on as HORNY FISHERMAN. You're not a chick, so what's up w/being too cheap to hit a porn site-Many are free! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 11:47 PM Flag
[ - ] can endometriosis be detected w/ a pelvic ultrasound or is there another test necessary? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.23.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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laporoscopy is the definitive test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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op: thx. what are the symptoms anyway? periods that are too light? too heavy? cramping? TIA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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there could be no symptoms, but painful periods are one of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I live in Brooklyn and send my kid to the local crappy elementary school and frankly, I'm really not worried about their long term prospects. Then again, I went to the local crappy elementary school myself and ended up an Ivy league grad. I think that as long as you talk to your kid, take them to interesting places, make sure they read good books and learn how to reason independently, they will succeed without or without the fancy 25K a year education of superselective nerdy G & T schools. But hey, that's just me - thinking outside the box over here. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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Many kids would fare better at a non crappy public school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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op: unfortunately, those are precisely the type of kids who are stuck at the crappy schools without options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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Also, sorry to say and I hope this is not true in your case but many kids would not have the results you had from a crappy school or flounder when they get to good colleges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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op: depends on how crappy we're talking about. For example, I don't necessarily think that children need to be pushed to read at very young ages. On the other hand, I think the attitude that many public elementary schools have towards basic computational skills in math is appalling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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Interestingly, public schools push reading earlier than many privates. [ Reply |