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05.23.08, 13:20 PM General Topics
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Bored DH here, any questions? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
 

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Do you think most married men cheat at one point or another? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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Why doesn't dh ever want sex? Do most guys only like the sex in the beginning and then just get bored? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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I love sex and would have it every night if DW would let me. Is he stressed or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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No. I wish men came with warning labels. I swear if I'd known I was going to spend my 30's celibate I would never have settled down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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what have you done to try to seduce him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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I take a bath, shave myself bare and walk around in sexy lingerie. Or talk dirty. Neither do the trick. I even bought a vibrator and told him he didnt have to do anything but watch if he didnt feel like it. THAT worked. He was pissed off that I replaced him so he f*cked me. But not because he was turned on, more because he felt threatened. I must sound so pathetic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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Have you tried to massage him or kiss him or just jump him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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of course. he pulls away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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have you tried to hold him down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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okay thats just creepy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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why [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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I shouldn't have to hold him down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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HMM [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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np-no. You shouldn't. You really shouldn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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exactly. He should want me. he should make some effort, however small, to be with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Is he having an affair? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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I tracked him like a bloodhound for months. Checked his cell phone records, credit card charges, everything. There's no way. Unless he's doing it in his car during lunch break, but thats pretty unlikely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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Does he come straight home from work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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Yes. Never more than a few minutes late. Doesn't go anywhere on the weekends without me and ds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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This is weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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When did this start? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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years ago. Didn;t become a serious problem until I came clean with my friends and found out that in most cases men bother women for sex, not the other way around. Knowing I'm the only one has made me feel completely inadequate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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this sounds weird. Hvae you talked to DH about it? What was he like earlier in your marriage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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So amazing. Three to four times a week, everywhere in every position. And then it tapered off and dwindled to nothing. Now I'm lucky if we do it once a month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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How long after kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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A year. But this started before ds so its not the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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I don't think so. I really think for whatever reason I don't excite him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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Do you think it could be possible? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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What does he wear to bed? I have an idea? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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pajama pants and a t-shirt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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How about this. Go to bed wearing sexy lingerie.....maybe rub his penis a bit and then roll on top of him and start kissing him and telling him how sexy he is and how much you want him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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Ok, tough to try giving him a wake-up blowjob. He wear boxers under those? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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How about telling him that you are going to have sex with his best friend if he doesn't f--k you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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ok but his best friend is fat and balding. he might laugh at that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Well at least you'll get a laugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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He have a hot friend you want to sleep with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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Actually. . . yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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would you do it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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At this point? Probably. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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would the guy be up for it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Could you threaten him with that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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I have threatened leaving, sleeping around, and never having sex with him again. He didn't seem to think I would do any of those so it didn't work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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If you did cheat, how would DH react? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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He would try to ruin my life. Which is the ONLY reason I haven't. His feeling stopped mattering after the first year of this sh*t. I was understanding. Now I'm angry, bitter and frustrated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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Is he that vengeful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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Yes. He really is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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Why did you marry him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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He was funny sweet sexy and great in bed. In reality hes boring frigid annoying and critical. Stupid me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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oops. Meant for the other question. But as far as what he'd do? anything he thought would hurt me (not physically but otherwise). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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How old is he? what does he do for a living? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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He's in his 40's, works for a small company. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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Have you thought of divoricng him first? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Yes but I don't want to be punished for wanting sex more often than once every few months. Thats bullsh*t. If you dont like sex dont get married. Its not meant to be torture. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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What do you still love about DH? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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The person he was. I remember the sweet things he said, the way he held me and kissed me, the way he worried about me. I love who he was and its hard to let go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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When did you find out he was different? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Fuuny enough, right before we sealed the deal. But I thought maybe I was getting cold feet, imagining things, etc etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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What do you think he would do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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Was your DH every sexually abused as a child? Was he raped as an adult? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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I don't think so. I think he really lost interest. I don't know why or when exactly but there isn't really any other explanation that fits. Its awful and hopeless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:11 PM Flag
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Have you talked to him about it? Straight out asked him "Honey, why aren't you having sex with me?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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Have yuo thought of therapy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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Have you tried to wake him up with a blowjob? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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BTDT, I've really tried it all. Now all I want is a discreet affair. Or a divorce. But why should I lose time with ds when hes the one with the problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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Do you have a guy in mind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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Several. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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who are they? Do you think they'd do it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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My boss, a guy who works in my building, an old friend from high school, an ex. And definitely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Why do you think they'd do it? Are they single? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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Yes and I'm attractive and they hit on me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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There a way you can do it discreetly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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Yes. But I don't know if I could do it. I want to but I'm afraid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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Which guy would be your top pick? How could you be discreet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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The boss. And he's asked me to go to a hotel during work hours. I just haven't been angry enough at dh to actually go through with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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what have you told your boss in the past? How old are you? How old is he? Does your boss know you are interested? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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sorry, totally new poster, I don;t know if anyone has said this, but this sounds like he is depressed. It can be very hard to detect, and some men are not willing to admit it, but depression is a huge problem for men and their libido. I highly doubt it has anything at all to do with you, most men would screw a willing participant with onion breath and unshaven legs and baggy sweats if they needed it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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thank you. thats kind of what i needed to hear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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is there anything DH would be depressed about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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me??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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^^^wanted to add, antidepressent medication can add to lack of sex drive, but depression is a real medical condition and it is a major MAJOR source of lack of sex drive. If he takes medication, he may be impotent, but his sex drive could return just not the ability to have erections, then he can take viaga (men can continue to have sex drive with out ability to perform, unlike most women). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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That would be nice but for some reason I doubt hes been depressed for 2 years. He doesnt act depressed, he acts disinterested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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That's what I am saying, depression, especially chronic depression is not what you think it is. It can be very subtle and many men are not willing to admit it. There is no good reason for a healthy man to be adverse to sex, it is not normal, it is absolutely a sign that something is wrong with him physically or mentally. I urge you to get him to a doctor to talk about this, trust me, do not go outside your marriage for sex, get him to the doctor, work on this for real or file for divorce, having an affair is not going to fix it and it will make it worse. I know this is not about you, you have to see that. He is not well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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how come these responses don't line up under the original posts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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i have to go. i dont see why i should deal with being separated from my son when dh is the one ruining our marriage. thanks for the advice though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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can you get a good attorney? is DH's family very powerful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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I think this woman is just looking for an excuse to have sex with her boss and ruin her life, her child's life, her boss's life, and her poor sick husband's life. There is clearly something wrong with the DH and she doesn't want to help him figure it out, instead she is just saying oh, I feel unattractive and so I'm gonna have an affair to feel good about myself and keep everything else status quo, There were so many good ideas here for her and she had an excuse why none would work, doesn't sound like a women on the edge to me, sounds like someone looking for excuses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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You can file for full custody on the grounds of mental abuse, he is abusing you in a way. Don't have an affair to punish him, this is stupid. Do you live in the midwest or something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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totally agree with above poster. DH needs help, and if he refuses, get a divorce. Don't go outside of the marriage. It will just bring a swift and very dark end to your marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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Why would your boss suggest going to a hotel room? How old is he and you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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does dh watch a lot of porn? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:13 PM Flag
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you are bored far too often. why dont' you find something to occupy you. it's insulting that you turn to "us" to ease your boredom. find something else, why don't you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 10:17 PM Flag
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why is it insulting? we all turn to eachother to ease our boredom. why else would you be here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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Okay, I've read the whole dialogue here and it's pretty disturbing. If you're not happy and your partner isn't willing to confront the importance of that-END IT. You read like a typical mid-life crisis borne of a need to excuse your own roving, actively investigating eye; you're even engaging in some lame (yes sexual) exchange with a male poster. Get a grip on reality-You don't step out; you opt out first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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If your partner isn't cheating, actually gay or depressed(which could be from any number of factors, including denial of his own sexual orientation), then this is not solved by cheating. Be an adult and quit the stupid vibrator threats, cockteasing around your past and workplace(!!) and see a therapist. If you've ever had a grip on being a woman-you've lost it. You sound like a nin.ny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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From where you went from this header, you could've signed on as HORNY FISHERMAN. You're not a chick, so what's up w/being too cheap to hit a porn site-Many are free! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.12.08, 11:47 PM Flag
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