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[ - ] Struggling w/placement for ds with autism in Queens. In our experience, the 6-1-1 classes are too low functioning and the 12-1-1 is too big. Has anyone been able to get a 1:1 f/t para for their dc in a 12 class without suing? Feels hopeless, wish we could afford a private. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 05.27.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Can you afford a funded private? Assuming you get one, once the initial legal fee is paid, you are done forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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^I'm specifically thinking of Learning Spring or the Child School. Both of them have small classes but the kids are higher functioning than in the 6:1:1 in publics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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We were given this (for toileting) 12:1:1 with health para in special ed class in our community school; however that was not an appropriate setting. We ended up in a private sn school and we are in the midst of suing for reimbursement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Soon we will have to make a decision if we want to kep our spot at PS150 (TLC) or go with G&T. One major factor in the decision will be the sibling policy for PS150's pre-K. Do siblings of currently enrolled kids get an automatic acceptance into the pre-K program? Considering that I have two more of them at home it would be nice to just lean back and have it all put together for you and we will start worrying when MS time comes around. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.27.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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bwaaah ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. Don't you GET it? Even IF sibs get automatic enrollment now for pre K, there is NO guarantee that it will be the case when your sib needs to attend. That's the thing with the BOE, they change the rules every year. This was one of the many reasons we have decided to leave the city (have 3 too and just can't deal any more) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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ok. anybody else? what is the current situation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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not in same situation - but it is true that the rules may change every year. I think what you have to do right now is make the best decision for your family and dc who is starting K; if that is 150 because it is close - then that makes sense...it will all work out for you in the years to come but no way to predict what the system will be like later on...unfortunately! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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I would have to agree with above poster you should not make decisions based on sibling polocy as it changes every year. We are applying next year for K and have one dc at Anderson and will apply to eight privates plus G&T and Hunter. If Anderson work out great but I am not remotely counting on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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I am the poster above and also just want to say that you should feel lucky to have GREAT choices! We are faced with a decision to make also and I just keep reminding myself that we are in the best possible situation (in our opinion) in terms of K...so it will work out either way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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ITA, but out the whole K thing is very stressful especially when you have more coming down the pike. I don't know how we will manage if we have 3 dc's in different schools (both me and dh work) but we will and hopefully they will all thrive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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i hear ya! we were counting on our dcs being in preschool and K about a block apart next year...then the g/t results came in and we may be schlepping our older dc all over town...it just never works out like you want! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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I'm the OR and I wasn't trying to make light of your post but my 2nd dc is starting K this year. Older already in public (2nd grade). I know several upset parents this year who have dc's at district G&Ts and NEST who thought their younger sibs would get in and now that they haven't made the cutoff are struggling to figure out how to make 2 drop offs work next year. Your best shot if you want all your dcs together is your zoned public...but for some (like us) it wasn't a good option. Anything other than your zoned public and you are gambling that your kids may not attend the same school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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ITA with this, but I can't envision a scenario in which PS150 sibs wouldn't have priority. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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the sib policy at 150 is the same as everywhere else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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I think your chances of getting a sib into PS150 are better than getting the sib into a G&T. The sib doesn't has to test in to the former. Look what happened at NEST. However, if you're the mom making the commute from the UES, I would forget PS150 and go for PS6 or LL or whatever district G&T you are eligible for and worry about the sib thing down the road. You're not going to want to make that commute for 10 years or however long all three sibs are in 150, plus the MS commute, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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The commute is a non-issue. We both work in that area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Fair enough. Still, if it were me, I'd pick a school closer to home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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Will you have to let 150 know before the G&T placements are announced? That doesn't seem fair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Isn't the problem that even at a small school like PS150 there could easily be more sibs than the 18 pre-K spots? Of course, since there is no pre-K at a G&T, even not-great odds are better than nothing. I think in any case, though, counting on public pre-K, even for a sib, is a bad idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:36 AM Flag
[ - ] How is your 4 mo sleeping at night? Especially curious if you are EBF... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.27.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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I EBF both of my sons, and they were waking about 3 times a night. DS #1 didn't sleep through until 1 yo, DS #2 is 10 mo, and still wakes 2 times a night to nurse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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My ds woke about 3 times a night at that age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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when my ds was 4 mo he was waking up twice, around midnight and 3am. at around 5mo we did ferber for the bedtime and the first wake up. it worked really well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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oh, now at 6.5 mo he generally sleeps through (this started when we introduced solids). i do nurse him if we wakes up though, and its been a substaintial amount of time since his last meal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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The vast majority of healthy hearty 4mos can physically sleep through the night. The question is what you'll do to get them there. Ours ebf-ed one (gave pumped bottle for last feeding to make sure he was full) was sleeping 12 hours a night at that point consistently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Help! Does anyone know a place I can get new glasses within a couple of days? I have a very high prescription. In the past Lenscrafter has taken over a week and I need them asap. Anywhere in NYC is great. TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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any place in chinatown will do it. i've gotten good & cheap glasses before at the store located on mott one block south of canal. they took just over 1 hour on a saturday afternoon and i thought my prescription was high. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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If you're on the UWS, Pildes Optical did mine in 3 days. They are on B'way around 77th. If you need any special type of lenses, it will always take longer, though. My rx is pretty standard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] 2yo dd wants to hear the same fairy tale 20 times before she falls asleep at night. What can we do to stop this? She cries if we leave before she falls asleep. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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tell her you will read it 3 times (or whatever number is ok with you) then you are going to leave. Do it. Consistently. It won't hurt her to cry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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ty. I like your idea! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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you have got to let her learn to fall asleep without you. get a chair and sit next to the bed the first night. each night thereafter move the chair closer and closer to the door. eventually you will be on the other side of the door and she will be fine. She just needs to know that you are there and right now cannot process that unless she sees you. Get a great book called "I love you All the time" there is a line at the end that says "even when you can't see me, I love you all the time" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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op: it's not just me being the room that she wants. she wants to hear my (or my DH's) voice and fall asleep hearing it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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does she just want you there, or is the reading the vital part? would a book on tape have the same effect? maybe she needs distraction to drift off (i do). if the thing is you being there, maybe leave the door open so she can hear you, or just sit there and fold laundry or read your own book silently? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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op: she wants to hear me reading. if I stop and just sit there, she would continue asking me to read and get upset if I don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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ok, then i would do the book on tape [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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ty. I'll try that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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OK but it is still an issue of your presence. so start working on being there but not reading and eventually you will be able to leave the room. sure the first nights will be hard and there will be tears, but eventually she will learn the new program and hopefully get with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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Maria Von Trapp - no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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Sorry mispost [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone whose child has/had hyrdocephaly? Just found out from high risk OB that, at 28w, my DD had enlarged ventricles and is behind by 2 weeks. OB did amnio and is referring for MRI. Really, really scared. Too soon of course to know anything, but this is all such a shock. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.27.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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wow. Hasn't happened to me but GL. Have they given you any odds for how she will be? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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No, nothing. We are all in the let's see how the tests turn out phase. MD said 50-50 something is very wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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well GL to you. I hope everything will work itself out. Sometimes they see things that seem to fix themselves or aren't as bad as they originally thought. I hope that is the case with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Thanks. Unfornately, he saw the problem a month ago and it was supposed to have resolved itself (it usually does!), but in my case it hasn't, and then we added the failure to grow as well as expected. Just need to talk to someone. You've helped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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I'm glad I was able to help. Just hang in there. Watch funny movies and try to stay positive. It's hard to be this worried. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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No advice, but tons of sympathy. How awful for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Any Diva cup users? I am taking mine for a test drive and, though it seems to be working, it's basically hanging out of me and not 100% comfortable. Wondering if this is normal. Sorry if TMI... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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god, i miss people posting inside. i'm eating [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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where did you buy yours? And do you ever need to take it out while not at home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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I have a keeper. It should be more comfortable. Did you fold it up when you put it in? My guess is that it is not up as far as it should be. The only thing that should "hangout" should be the plastic "string". Also, it did take me about 2 cycles to get used to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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I thought I did it right yesterday, but it leaked.Today I'm not leaking, but I can't imagine it's placed 100% correctly. I'll have to keep trying. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:19 AM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: 5 yo ds was playing with a group of neighbors on saturday and punched our 6 yo next door neighbor in the nose. OBVIOUSLY wrong...and ds was punished and not allowed to play for the rest of the day. My concern is how our neighbor (parent) handled it and how to proceed. Now, her ds's nose was barely bleeding, nothing dripping out of the nose, etc. However, she came storming out to the front of the yard yelling: "where is your ds? where is he? I need to talk to him." Now, I am standing there holding his arm as I'm in the process of removing him from the situation. I turn and say, "he's here, we're on our way in because he's punished for the day and ds did apologize" She says: "Well-I don't accept that. My ds is bleeding" So I look at my ds and say, "can you please apologize to Mrs.X as well, she's very upset b/c her ds is hurt" And ds again apologizes. She responds,"this is unacceptable." and walks away. What the hell do I do next? Dh thinks she's nuts and totally over-reacting. I mean, what should I have done, given her ds a free shot? I agree that ds was wrong, however, he is 5 and a boy. Things happen. Do I owe her anything else? 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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she is overreacting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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She is over-reacting and I would not do a thing, except have your ds knock on door with you to apologize to the boy (which he should do, and it will go long way in keeping peace). But I would avoid this beyotch. She is unhinged. I have a 5 yo ds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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ITA. I have a 5yo ds too. Boys will hit from time to time.. so will girls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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np: please don't make excuses for kids. I hate this saying boys will be boys bullshit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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nnp so you don't think it's normal for a kid to hit someone? Her kid did something wrong and she dealt with it appropriately. The neighbor is looney [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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You're nuts lady. You need to read A nation of whimps. You are the mom they are talking about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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no I'm not nuts but I don't say boys will be boys. They do get into fights but I don't like it when parents make excuses for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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She said he already apologized [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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OP: he already did apologize though--to her ds and to her. I'm afraid if i have him do it again, it's feeding into her too much. Ds is not going to get anything else out of it in terms of a lesson on how to be friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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Oh, then no. If he apologized to the boy, then let it go. She over-reacted. Especially because your kid is the younger one. Just avoid her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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if I were you I would have had him apologize to the mom too. To show her that he was sorry and that you weren't just covering for him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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OP: I did have him apologize to her as well, right as the scene was unfolding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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that's good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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no, you should have gone back over to see how the kid was, but now, they shouldn't play together anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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she's a nut. i pity her kid's teachers, kid's friends, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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OP: oh, she's very well known as a nut in the neighborhood and beyond. However, I have managed to keep her friendly to me and would like to continue to keep it a peaceful relationship since neither of us is planning to move for the next 10 years or so. Dh thinks she's bi-polar and we know for a fact that the kids have been medicated. She has come right out and told us all about her depression/anxiety meds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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now you're being that annoying gossipy neighbor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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What does the child being medicated have to do with anything, Judgy Judy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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That's all besided the point. MYOB and make sure your child does not resort to violence again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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OP: please-as if anywhere here I said that I thought ds's violence was acceptable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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You sound like my worst nightmare for a neighbor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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OP: well thankfully we don't live next door to each other. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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np ignore the idiots OP. I'd love to haev you living next door to me. You sound very reasonable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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so glad I'm not in the burbs with you two [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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I bet you're well known as the gossip in the neighborhood and beyond [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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OP: b/c I posted this on UB? She's the one telling everyone about her meds, not me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Then why are you upset if you know this woman has mental issues? You should feel bad for her. Let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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i love when people say things are "unacceptable"...so impotent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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why did you kid do this? He is going to do this to the wrong kid one day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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OK, I wasn't there, and your reaction sounds fine, and your neighbor is a nutjob, but maybe you are a little less sympathetic to the victim than you should be. "Barely bleeding," eh? If my DC hit somebody, my first reaction would be to make sure the hurt kid is OK. I would also very visibly correct my child to signal both to him and everyone else that I find his behavior 100% appalling. I disagree that "boys will be boys." Boys may have a harder time controlling aggression, but that's no reason to soft-pedal it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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np ITTA. Especially a punch on the nose. What's the kid watching that makes him think he can do that?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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np-- That is so silly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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I'm sure thjat's not the way you feel when someone your age punches you in the face. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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settle down, lady [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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agree, most 5 year olds don't know what a "punch" is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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OP: omg-he's playing with the neighborhood kids! Including her 6 yo and the 10, 7 and 5 yo boys across the street. You think he picked this up from TV? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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OP: I certaily did attend to the victim, and that's how I know he was barely bleeding. Trust me, he wanted to continue playing with my ds. He was upset when I took ds home as a punishment. There was no blood coming out of his nose, I'm just trying to say that it was not as if my ds beat the kid up and left permanent damage. We sent a very clear message to ds that his behavior was not going to be tolerated as well as to his friends, that listened to me and watched me take him in the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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FWIW, you're OK with me (OR), then. The other parent overreacted, and that's the way she is. You'll need to watch all interactions with her very carefully. Playdates at your house or only with you present. ITA that you are right to be concerned that she might be emotionally abusive to your son. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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OP: TY--and really, i'm not sure why I'm feeling so compelled to defend myself here. My across the street neighbor who's dcs were there for the interaction agreed with me as did dh..and they got more of a first hand account of it. Hard to put all the details,etc in a post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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she's over-reacting but proably because she was so upset. If she's reasonable she more than ;likely has calmed down. Can you go over or call just to see how her kid is doing? If she's still upset then that's her issue and just keep the kids apart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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OP, the tide has turned against you, after your gossipy reply. No need to defend yourself further. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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ittta let it go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:31 AM Flag
[ - ] What would you do if you came back home from a vacation and found your cleaning lady in your bed...apparently she had been using our home occasionally while we were gone. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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Do you really need to ask? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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f.i.r.e.d!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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i would change the locks and never use her again, that's it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Any south fla moms on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 10:08 AM Flag
[ - ] I just got the best fashion advice from lastylistmom.wordpress.com. She RULES! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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Signes, lastylistmom.wordpress.com. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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I'm not but she's so awesome I though I'd spread the wealth : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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We've always been very compatible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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You and lasm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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I go to her blog from a referral here and it's not bad, but seriously stop spamming. It's a real turn off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Why so nasty? She's helped me on a ton of stuff. I don't even think she comes here anyway. I think she's all YouBe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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You must be Diana, the LA StylistMom sychophant who comments on every post she makes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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I'm not, but why so friggin' bitchy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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Learn to spell, BTW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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spam is soooo yummy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Decorator moms: How do I keep my pole-pocket curtains from sliding toward the center of the rod? They obscure too much of the window/light. I'm using hold-backs lower on the wall, but at the top it's too dark. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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rubber bands around the rod at the head of the curtain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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Will try that. I've tried foam stitch holders (knitting)to no avail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Who else is waiting for MHC/333 and the District 3 lottery placements? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.27.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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^^I mean MSC not MHC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Dh and I live in a 2bdrm apt with db. My friend is coming to town for 5 days and is bringing another friend with her. I think that would be pretty ballsy- I can't imagine going to someone's apt with no guest bdrm and bringing a friend with me. I want to be hospitable, but where should they sleep- in our bdrm? I'm 6 mo pg, btw. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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at a HOTEL... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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How old is the baby? Maybe she assumed the kid was in your room? Has she been to your place since DB was born? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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i'm sure they plan on camping out on the floor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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Did she ask you if it's ok to bring a friend and you said yes and now complaining? Or she didn't ask? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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She sort of just told me. Her friend has a work conference to attend Th/Fr and then they're going to just spend the next 4 days here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Has she ever stayed with you before? Have you ever stayed with her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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Yep, when her and her dh came here, db was not born and they stayed in our 2nd bdrm. When we've gone there, we've stayed in their guest bdrm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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You invited them without figuring out where they'd sleep? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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She sort of invited herself about 2 months ago and I said okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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You shouldn't have said okay if you were uncomfortable. In your friend's situation, I'd be expecting to crash on the couch in the living room, but I don't know your friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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You don't think it's a little awkward for her friend (whom I've never met) to also be crashing in our living room? I would do this at 19, but probably not in my 30s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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NP: You should have said no. But you wanted to seem cool/nice, so you said yes. And you stuck yourself! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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op- so true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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These would have been good questions for you to ask when she raised the issue. "You're welcome to stay, but I can only give you the living room." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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I think women who are passive aggressive don't deverve to call any one ballsy and deserve what they get. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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what about men who are passive agressive? what do they deserve? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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same thing, but OP is quite obviously female. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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I wouldn't call it ballsy, just clueless. Tell her they would be more comfortable at a hotel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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pull out couch? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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In the living room with sleeping bags. That's what I do...and I have guests all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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Find some inexpensive hotel options and/or sublets and suggest them to your friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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call her and remind her to bring an aero bed. (If friend is traveling for business conference, why are you putting them up?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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We have an aerobed and her friend's conf. is only for Thurs/Fri, so they're staying the add'l 4 nights here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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I agree. aero beds are great.. you will be saving them TONs of $$$$. They should also take you to dinner AT LEAST 1 time for your efforts. i do this when I visit the city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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call up your friend and tell her you are concerned about sleeping arrangements -- tell you that you just want to make sure that her friend understands that you don't have a guest room so they will be sleeping on the couch in the livingroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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The other bedroom is DB's, right? Two choices: call friend and remind her that she and her pal will be sleeping in the living room and that becaue of DB you guys are up early, getting coffee etc., every single day. Do not make any accommodation of her at all -- tiptoeing around, shushing baby, etc. Or else call her up and say you are reconsidering the whole thing. While you would like to be accomodating, with DB and your preganacy you now think the whole situation is too much and you either can't put her up or her friend up. If your friend is childless, expect her to be angry and feel betrayed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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ittta [ Reply | More
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