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[ - ] Anyone familiar with Rahway, NJ? Where in Jersey could we find a modest starter home for around 300,000? Don't laugh at us lol. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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Rahway not so nice. Where do you work? You could try Clark, its near Rahway, a little safer, very blue collar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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isn't there a really big prison in Rahway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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LMAO, I didn't know that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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google 'scared straight'. Its a maximum security prison. Famous documentary shot there in the 80s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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lol. modest, you can find a modest home in many areas in NJ, i guess it depends on how far into NJ you could go. Where do you commute to for work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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I say modest cause our budget is small. Well the commute issue will be for hubby mostly. He works in Williamsburg, brooklyn. I don't want to go too far into jersey and it seems like we are priced out of North Jersey? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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Rahway is North Jersey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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I neeed to get a map. Not familiar with Jersey at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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Spring Lake Heights NJ. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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that commute would be too far for her DH imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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seriously. I'm thinking Rahway is way too far from Brooklyn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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OP. why NJ? Perhaps parts of Queens or LI would be better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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VERY VERY hard to find a decent home in Queens for that price. Haven't much looked in LI. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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lots do it into the city , but WBurg, could be a deal breaker, I agree, depending on how easy it is to get there from Port Authority. But good schools, nice community and varied, but very well maintainied housing stock. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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Very funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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I was serious, but I hadn't seen Williamsburg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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That wasn't meant for you. For the person that mentioned Spring Lake heights. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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That is me......just follow the thread [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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yeah if you want to live in a town with a huge prison [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Best riding toy for an active 2yo db? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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oh, c'mon, someone answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:05 AM Flag
[ - ] 10 wk old ds makesterrible noises in his sleep (mostly at night) He grunts, gasps, etc. Ped says it is part of his sleep cycle. Anyone BTDT? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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don't be ridiculous! everyone has btdt. worried wart? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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give her an f-ing break, she has a new baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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yes, we went through this... it almost sounded like db was gasping for air, so i was worried about sleep apnea and couldn't sleep myself. mentioned at the next ped visit and ped recommended swaddling db (which we had stopped doing) and the noises stopped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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Thanks. I already swaddle him and he still makes thse noises. It is going to give me an anxiety attack [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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or: we actually tried to record the sounds to play it to the ped but as if on cue, as soon as the had the mini recorder out, she would stop;-) crazy i know! are you swaddling tightly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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yes. with the moracle blanket. He sleeps pretty well. 9-2 3-6 but the noises are making me crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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I don't recall my newborn making crazy sounds like that. I would google. Maybe sleep apnea? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:46 AM Flag
[ - ] have an infection on my toe. when do i seee a doctor? it is red around the rim of the nail and i see a bit that seems to be a red line moving away from it. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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definitely get to the dr before it gets worse -- remember -- it's flip flop season now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:52 AM Flag
[ - ] When DH and I got back from our Memorial Day weekend away with teh kids at his parents, we found a dozen used condoms and opened condom wrappers in our bed. I think our neighbor's son may have used our bed for sex. Our neighbor has a key to our house. What do I do now? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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first of all, ewwwwwww! second, change your locks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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ewww..toss out the bedding and have a talk with your neighbors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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We put the bedding in a bag and I left my neighbor a voicemail to talk when they get home from work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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good..and now change the locks too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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call the poilce. let them deal with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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I dont think this is police-worthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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police?? hang on a bit. she should check w/neighbor first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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if this is true, that is so very nasty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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first off Ewwww and I'm sorry this happened. Change locks and talk to neighbors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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We paln on talking to the neighbor and probably changing the locks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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cool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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you should talk to the kid before you talk to the parents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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Why would a teenager do this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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why? lol. There are many teens that make idiotic decisions in life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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How old is this "kid"? He's obviously got serious problems, he can't even bother to clean up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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^^^I am surprised in that he's a clean cut, nice guy....teh typical boy next door.....I know he has a girlfriend, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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np: do you think he gave the keys to a friend or friends of his? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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I don't know....I would guess it was him, but it could be he loaned them out. That I am not sure. All I can say is its all same brand of condoms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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same brand as what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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all the same brand of condoms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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I'm missing something. what's the significans of all the condoms being the same brand? you mean it was a stream of friends all using the same box? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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More saying that it is likely to be the same person if its teh same brand or they used the same box [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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ok. hadnt thought of the idea of it being a bunch of different kids. Now that's really a gross thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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One brand in br. If it wa a "party" it would be different brands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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Is he a good kid who did something dumb or an asshole? If the later, I would tell the parents I want to have a talk with that kid. That I am going to hand him a bill to replace the bedding. That his choice is he does that or I call the cops. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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He's a pretty clean cut, nice kid....very much the type of boy you'd want your daughter dating....helpful, nice, all of that....he's definatly not a jerk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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are you sure it was him? Did you get home early? Something is off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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got back in the period we said we would. he does have a girlfriend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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why would he just leave them there? prob a prank but all the same, not nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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That's awful! You have to find out what happened b/c it could be even worse if it wasn't their teenaged ds. Maybe he gave the key to friend or something which could have been a disaster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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That's what I want to know.....last night DH and I were too tired to talk to them and we figured we'd wait. We took all teh condoms and put them in a plastic bag and toook pictures of the bed with them on it so it was known [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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when you talk to neighbors, dont be accusatory, just state facts and that they are only family with a key. they will be embarrassed enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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that's what we are planning.....we exchanged keys with them a few years ago as a back up,etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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NP: If he knows that if something was found, his family would be to blame, don't think he would be that stupid to leave condoms around. Sounds like someone else got a hold of those keys [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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I am not sure where they keep the keys in their house. So I would guess he is involved. The only other people in the house are his parents and his 12 year old brother (who I doubt did this). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:57 AM Flag
[ - ] what is doe? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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old board of eduation. Dept. of Education [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:39 AM Flag
[ - ] Any DHs on who want to chat? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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something specific or just chat? -a dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:42 AM Flag
[ - ] favorite youtube videos? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:33 AM Flag
[ - ] op: People keep telling me 4 years is too far apart and they won't play well together. Sounds like yours do, yes? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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my dds are 4.4 yrs apart and play together all the time. The ppl who say this don't have experience with it. My own sis and I are 4yrs apart and never had issues playing together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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My brother and I were that far apart and played together. We prefered our friends if given a choice but when it was just the two of us we played. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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my kids are 4 yrs apart and they play beyond wonderfully together. Plus the 6yr old can keep an eye on and help with little tasks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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My DDs are two years apart and definitely play together more than siblings who are further apart. But those siblings do play together as well. It's just a different kind of relationship. All spreads are good and bad in their own ways. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:46 AM Flag
[ - ] WWYD: My ped is away for 2 weeks. DS needs to see someone, and I'm making an appt with senior ped in practice. I also have concerns about ds's dev't... should I speak to this other ped, who is considered the best diagnostician in the group, or wait to speak further with my ped in a few weeks? Basically should I two-time my peds??? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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you aren't 2 timing your ped. You need to see a DR so you can see who's covering him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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op: i know, but this is sort of taking the issue out of my peds hands into another. If a client did this to me with a project while I was on vac, I'd be pissed. But my son's dev't isn't a project! My mom says go for it, but I feel that as it's not urgent, it may be a no-no.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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I think it's ok to being up to this ped and continue the evaluation next time with your ped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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op: thanks. I just am so worried, I want to discuss with someone NOW! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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you should speak to the ped to whom you want to speak. if the best diagnostician is not your ped, obv you don't go to your reg ped. btw, in my ped's practice, they regularly pass on cases to someone else in the practice if they specialize in the disorder (e.g., if you have probs w/headaches, you do to the headache person). your ped will certainly not be offended. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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op: thanks all. will proceed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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Medicine is totally different. I'm sure there are some egos out there but medical doctors consult with their colleagues all the time, patients get second opinions, they refer cases to someone who might have more experience or expertise. With all the medical liability these days, drs. are happy for you to get input from other physicians. It is your health (or your ds's wellbeing) that is most important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Have 21 mos ds. DH is really wanting to try for #2, I still don't feel ready. My question is, will I ever? I really think ds should have a sibling, but some days I feel like I can't handle two. Anyone btdt? Advice please! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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It is really hard having 2--at least it is for me--and I don't know if you ever feel really ready, but tired as I am, I don't regret a thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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I would wait until you feel ready. I felt ready when my dd was close to 3 yr old. My dds are 4 yrs apart and it's great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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^^^I find the parents who I know that have dc who are very close in age have it harder in the beginning. My friend has 3 kids who are all 2 yrs apart and she is pulling her hair out. I'm pg with #3 and this one will be 4yrs apart from my younger dc. I don't see it being an issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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Us too, all the way around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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2 is much easer than one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Surrrrrrrrrrrrre [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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I don't think anyone is ever truly ready, but it was so worth it for me. My dds are 3 years aprt, it was a good range for us--older dd was potty trained and in pre-school, so she didn't need as much hands on care as the newborn. And she was old enough to want to help, play with the baby etc. I say go for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Day Care/Nanny question? I finally got my son into this greaet daycare that he had been on the list for since I was six months pregnant. He is 10 months now. He has been with the same nanny since he was three months old. He loves her and she is great with him. Putting him in daycare would save us $400/month which we really need. But I am afraid he will have a hard time and I feel guilty about letting our nanny go who is amazing with our son. Please offer your advice. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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He may have a hard time for a few days, but he'll get over it faster than you could imagine. The daycare spot sounds awesome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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are you in nyc? what are your plans for ds when he turns 2 (a 2's program?)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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^^^ if you're in nyc and are planning to get ds into a 2's program, then i would stay with the nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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the daycare goes up to "preschool" and they have an academic setting much like a pre school. They learn letters, numbers, colors, geography. Its like a montessori setting. Its in Union Square, right in between my job and DH's job on the subway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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or: sounds great then. go for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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sounds perfect. Go with the daycare. Not only will you save money now, but in two years, when you would need to add preschool on top of the nanny, it would cost you an additional $10k/year. So you would actually be saving $5k for the next two years and $15k for the two years after that. Is the nanny really worth the extra $40K? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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good point!! I am going to visit the daycare one more time today. I am suprised at how nervous I am about the decision. My DH is too busy at work to come see the daycare and I am afraid to make the wrong choice and get blamed for it! Ugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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manhattan kids club? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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YES! Do you know anything about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:34 AM Flag
[ - ] what was the last really thoughtful thing you did for someone? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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brushed my teeth before having sex with DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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Let DH sleep in yesterday morning while I entertained the kiddos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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helped my friend clean out her dad's apt. after he died. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I was in Filene's basement and saw a pair of glasses on the floor. SOmeone came by looking for something (I didn't know what they were looking for) and I went out of my way to track this lady down to see if she was looking for these striped glasses. She thanked me so much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:32 AM Flag
[ - ] SIL had baby on Saturday, they named her Madysyn. God help that poor girl. I cant even type it without laughing. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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She can hang with my niece Haydyn! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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np: roflmao [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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Where does she live? I'm guessing North Carolina. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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No we are all in NJ. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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i know of a charleigh in virginia! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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seriously that is so cruel. WHY????? what is her middle name? i need a good laugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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I'm ashamed to say its Brianna. BIL is Brian. At least there's no superfluous Y. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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I taught a pair of twins, Madisyn and Jamesyn. Eeek. They had a sister named Monet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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lol about monet! was the "t" silent, at least? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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I think Monet is the worst of that bunch. What awful names. Hope they dont have any more kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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np: why not? Picasso and VanGogh would be great baby names... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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Pycasso. [ Reply | More
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np: OMG ROFMAO! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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why judge. Just be thankful she's healthy and ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Hi. You must be new here!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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no I'm not new here but know too many ppl who have it hard getting pg or have had sick babies to waste time with judging a name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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Unclench woman. This child has to go through life with the name Madysyn. Its hilarious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:39 AM Flag
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OP: Someone I'm related to thought it was a great idea to spell their kids name Madysyn. It is hysterical. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:41 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone have issues with nieghbors (apt dwellers) when you had a newborn or were doing CIO, from all the crying? In my old building it was never an issue, but in my new place some actually complained about DS crying (we were doing CIO). I don't want to distrub anyone, but we have to let him cry sometimes. I can't muzzle him becuase of the nieghbors. Anyone BTDT? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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When we're doing CIO, I usually put a note under my neighbors' doors, just so they know what's going on. I tell them to let me know if the noise is too much so we can try to do something. At a certain point though, you can't really worry about the neighbors. This is city life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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which neighbors? you can put him someplace as far as possible away from their unit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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np: yeah, if you have a room without "common walls" for a few days... [ Reply | More
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