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[ - ] One of DH's best friends is marrying a paranoid, insecure man who doesn't want her to have male friends. It sucks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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been there with my male best friend who isn't allowed to have female friends...they officially married on sunday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] beards - still hip? (on men obviously) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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I hate any facial hair on men [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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mustache rides - 5 cents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Fortunately, I'm just spiteful and petulant enough that every time someone says, "I'm totally not sexist -- I just don't want to vote for her because she's got such an inflated sense of entitlement, and she's so ambitious, and I don't like her husband, and I don't like that she tries so hard not to look 'soft,' and none of that has anything to do with her being a woman," I feel compelled to put up another blog post saying, "I VOTED FOR CLINTON IN PART BECAUSE I AM SICK OF SEXISM BEING SUCH A NORMAL PART OF OUR CULTURE THAT PEOPLE CAN'T EVEN CONNECT THE FUCKING DOTS THERE." Every time I hear about a woman being afraid to admit she likes Clinton, I feel compelled to put up another post saying, "I VOTED FOR CLINTON, AND I AM NOT ASHAMED." I voted for Clinton, and I am not ashamed. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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Good for you. You shouldn't be ashamed. Now if you could lend a hand with getting your fellow Clinton supporters to stop enabling the campaign's racial insensitivity, maybe we can all band together and win this thing in November. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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bullshit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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you should vote for whomever you think is the best candidate and if a person doesn't like clinton it is not autimatically sexist just as if soemone doesn't like obama it is not automatically racist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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not automatically, but in reality, a lot of people hate Hillary for reasons that have nothing to do with her positions or record, that have everything to do with her being a woman [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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the same goes for hating obama because he is black or has a muslim name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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np: Yep. Plus a lot of people are just sick of the Clintons, both Hillary and Bill. I don't think it's sexist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] I need a new nail polish shade for summer. Any recs? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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I tried a slightly glittery grey and really like it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Chanel Blue Satin, or any blue-black shade. OPI Russian Navy is nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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for toes I do a deep violet that is slightly pink and for nails I just get a buff since my nails get trashed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone recommend any crunchy, educated, towns in Bucks County, PA, with good schools? Thanks. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Bucks County, in general has pretty great schools (look for any elementary that are feed inot Council Rock, in particular). It isn't really very crunchy in BC (in an UWS sort of way) but you will find an educated crowd. Yardley, Newtown, Holland are worth a look. I knwo people who commute to NY from there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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why bucks co? newtown, new hope, or lambertsville on the nj side i think... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] my babysitter is pregnant after not having kids for 12 years. i am very happy for her but our dc are starting pre k programs in the fall and i really need a cleaning lady once a week and maybe 5 hours of sitting.i dont want her to nor expect her to do housework and she is really not into it anyway. how can i nicely explain that after the summer we are really not willing to do hire her any longer? also she has medicaid and she asked me if i knew anyone who carried bery low. her doc is of no help- she is 12 weeks and she is already feels teh baby very low. i have never heard of this. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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You want us to tell you it's OK to hire a woman who needs a job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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what? pls explain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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SO many typos in OP's and OR's posts...Too tired to parse. Don't fire a pregnant woman who needs a job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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i CANNOT PAY SOMEONE WHO IS NOT WORKING . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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So what's the question? And why are you yelling? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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tell her your needs have changed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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we are leaving for 3 weeks mid summer she knows this . should i tell her now or closer to when we are leaving. i think the sooner the beytter but i would feel weird having her around my dcs when i have told her she wont be with us much longer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Why would you feel weird? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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i would feel weird having a preganant woman take care of and clean up after my own kids. but that is just me. if you were a big corp. you could be sued for discrimination if you fire her because she is pregnant. also as a woman where is your compassion. you really shoudl keep her until seh cannot perform her tasks any longer. that is the risk you take in hiring a nanny. they have lives outside of your home and pregnancy is always a possibility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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she cannot perform any longer. seriously she is really really low energy. i cant do this to her or my kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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sorry i just cannot feel bad for you. if you let her go give her a month's pay. that will ease your conscious and give her time to figure out what to do. then again if she is a nanny i cannot imagine she can get another position. but i am sure you have been paying all the correct taxes so she can collect unemployment right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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np- lol, taxes, lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 08:08 AM Flag
[ - ] so what do we think of the denise richards show? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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she seems whack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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at first I was kind of horrified (and her accent is so grating) but at the end when she was crying about her mother- it made her more sympathetic, I think. But she's pretty awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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she is not aging well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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train wreck that wasn't even entertaining to watch- all that poop! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:08 AM Flag
[ - ] U.S. presidential candidate Barack Obama is distancing himself from expectations he would meet Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad and taking a more cautious stand on talking to other U.S. adversaries. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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flip flop. this guy gets such a pass from the media and practically everyone else. He is "refining" his position? He does nothing but play every side of every issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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"There's definitely been an adjustment in what was initially a pretty categorical position," said Ross Baker, a political scientist a Rutgers University. "As (Obama) has gone around the country campaigning, he has realized he's had to fine-tune his position." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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That put him at odds not only with Republicans but with Clinton, who said she would pursue more engagement with foes like Iran but not promise a top-level meeting immediately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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She's been better on all the real issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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Baker of Rutgers University said Obama's shift makes sense politically. A meeting with Ahmadinejad would be unacceptable to Jewish voters whom Obama wants to court. Promising unconditionally talks with Raul Castro might be unpalatable to Cuban-American voters, he said. "There are mid-course corrections in every campaign," Baker said. "It's better for him to make that course correction now than later in the campaign." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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what a hypocritical, wishy washy piece of crap he is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:44 PM Flag
[ - ] WTF happened to all of my watched posts????!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Site Feedback 05.27.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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And this needed to be posted on the Special Needs board because... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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np: take a guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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>> np: maybe one of her watched posts was from the special needs board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I can feel the fat melting off my ass - signed low carb mom 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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tell me how. low carb? which plan. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it normal? Dh asked me if I want to go with him to a day trip (for work) 120 miles away. Suddenly I realize that if something happen to us 3 yo ds will be alone. Now I don't want go and leave my son here. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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I felt the same way the first time DB stayed with his grandparents and we went away for the weekend. I got over it though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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It is not the first time I live him with grandparents. Thistime I just feel it, should I cancel? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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Maybe normal, but something you have to get past. If all parents did this, no one would ever go anywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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you are right, thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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I get anxiety about people I love dying when I or they go on trips. It's not exactly normal but not way out there. I recognize it as irrational and suck it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:49 PM Flag
[ - ] how old when toddlers can count to 10 or 15? Properly. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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My 2.5 yo counts to 20 properly about 50% of the time. Sometimes he throws in extra numbers here or there--or skips some. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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my oldest around 2.5, middle around 2.0, and youngest at 5yo - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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my 3 year old can- maybe just when she turned 3 she could do it- count objects up to 10. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Spin off an earlier post: are the School Leadership Team elections in your school highly contested? Do people show an interest in running? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.27.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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I would not say highly contested, but there are always more people running than spots available. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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And how would a voter differentiate between them? Speeches? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] kate hudson and lance armstrong? blech. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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Did they meet through Matthew McC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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She's a ho and he's an ass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Lance has such a type. all his women look the same. his first wife, sheryl crow, tory burch, and now kate hudson. they are all skinny, around 5'5", blonde, same bone structure, it is kind of creepy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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don't forget that olson twin he dated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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what is he - a male slut? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone use angie's list to find a contractor? I just 'joined' for $20 but wondering if it isn't just the contractors reviewing themselves or having friends do so. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.27.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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I used them for painters and for an emergency plumber, and was very happy both times. I think it's legit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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thanks....we just bought a house that needs major work. I'm debating whether to hire a general contractor or just individual people......I think the GC thing could end up being a nightmare but dealing with a bunch of different people doesn't sound like much fun either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I have my first yeast infection in about 15 yrs. What's the best treatment? It's all OTC now, right? Anyone else start getting them after having dbs? I can't think of what might have brought this one on, and I'm wondering if it's some kind of hormonal thing. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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seriously, put a clove of garlic up there. cheap, easy and it works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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Really? Just peel and insert? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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yes, but be sure you don't nick it in the process. here's a great guide: http://www.msu.edu/~eisthen/yeast/yourself.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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Thanks. Very interesting. This infection seems to be pretty raging (it started yesterday, but I thought it might go away on its own) so I think chemical warfare might be necessary. I'll hang on to this link and refer to it earlier next time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:47 PM Flag
[ - ] HELP!!! breasts so engorged, incredibly painful (milk coming in). i can feed db on right breast and pump if needed--still really painful, but at least milk comes out. left one is so engorged yet pumping won't get milk out (hand or electric) AND db just fights and screams because milk doesn't come out 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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^^how do i get relief for left breast?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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take a hot shower or put hot cloth on breasts. hot shower works best, massage breast so that milk comes out. it may just spurt out on it's own. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Would love some suggestions on how to manage 2 yr old bedtime. DD used to go to bed very easily, to the point of asking us to leave the room. Now, going to sleep takes forever, usually she's in the room for at least 30 min on her own, singing and calling out to us sometime. We've cut her nap in the afternoon, but she still is not sleeping until 8:30 (used to be 7:30, then 8 as she got older). Any suggestions on what to do? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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If she is happy in her rooom she is jsut winding down for the night. Give her some books in her bed and let her sing and talk to herself as much as she wants. I did this with my dd and she now looks for ward to her nightly wind down reading time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Let her sing. Ignore the calls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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if she is in her room singin and such leave her be. she will go to sleep eventually. it's when she starts to come out that you have to worry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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My 2 yo is the same. For us, the only issue is that his chattering sometimes wakes his 9 mo sister sleeping in the same room [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] what do you do when someone dies and you don't want to go on without them? live the rest of your life as a testament to them? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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I think you can and should find a way to deal with the loss and move on with your life. We only live once. Make the most of your time rather than dwelling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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die [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Thinking of it that way sounds like a good place to start. You need to give yourself time to heal, and to figure out how to re-engage with the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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Are you the mom of the ds from before? It's still so raw, please give yourself time and get help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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i've been thinking about this question all day after reading the post this morning about the ds who died. and i don't know. i think especially if you have another dc, you have to go on and make a show of feeling strong until you actually do. if not, i dunno. just grieve for a long time and the feeling will pass. just wait for that. and yeah, get help. i dunno, i'm so sad about that post still. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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whose son died? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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It happens to people every day. I am not saying it's easy to deal with and move on. But I think with the passage of time, things DO get a little easier. I have a friend who died 2 years ago suddenly and left a dh and 2 dds, one of whom was just 3 months old. I think about what the dh must be dealing with all the time. Luckily, in their case, he is a really capable person and has a giant support system but I am sure it's still very raw and lonely for him at times but I think he really tries to live like you mentioned above - tries to make decisions they way he would have if his wife were still alive as a way to honor her memory. He had 2 dds to think of...I think he's doing a great job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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DH's sister died in middle school (in an accident). MIL, FIL, and DH have each gone on to live full, meaningful lives -- but they will always carry some grief with them. MIL once told me: "It was a long time ago...you don't get over it, but you move on, you have to." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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i guess they had their other child to live for [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 yr old dd has been hitting a lot. We've made it clear, and I think she understands, that it's wrong. But, she keeps doing it. Anyone had similar experiences? WDYD? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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who does she hit? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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My 2 yo is hitting and even biting. It's upsetting. I'd love some advice too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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again, who does he hit? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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She hits me, the nanny, her dad, and the nanny told me she tries to hit other kids as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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do time outs. take away a toy. she needs a consequence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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A few tricks you may want to try: Pick one or two and be very consisten for a week. 1. Give no attention to her for hitting. 2. Give lots of attention to the one who has been hit. Oh honey, are you hurt, let me see your boo boo. 3. DD is told "hands are for hugging," not " no hitting" when it happens." 4. Catch her being good. Notice when she uses her hands for hugging or being gentle and lavish, lavish praise on her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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^^^and I agree with the responder below that for some kids, you may be working on this for a very, very long time. Redirecting is especailly good for biting, I found, btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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state clearly that it is not acceptable. don't over talk it in case there is negative attention associated. mostly though, remove from the situation and redirect until it passes (which may be a long time) and in the mean time make sure that the parents of kids she is hitting hear you telling her and see you acting on it. she will outgrow it if you stick with it, but for some kids it does not stop immediately no matter what you do because they just can't control the impulse until at some point they can...sorry its difficult [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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