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[ - ] Thoughts on Dr.Stein the RE? Is he worth the time? SLR. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.27.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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seriously, go to Grifo at NYU [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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ITA - NYU or Cornell. I was at Stein and although he and his partner (name escaping me) might be fine, their practice is the pits. Totally impersonal, they don't remember you from visit to visit, you really need to advocate for yourself and be on top of everything, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:18 PM Flag
[ - ] trigger post: who has your spare keys? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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no one but my landlord [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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doorman, and put copies in kids' school backpacks. have had to go fetch from kids at school when doorman's key was missing and I was locked out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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We don't have one :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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building super, my parents (live an hour away), dog walker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] almost 9-year-old dd is, well, maturing. told her about menstruation in case she gets it while away in sleep-away camp. didn't tell her about s%x yet. when do you tell your kids about that? ugh... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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haven't had that talk w/10yo ds yet. but I think I'm last among his peers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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np - Your and OP's dcs don't have friends with older siblings? I had the sex talk with my dc at around age 8 or 9. She is 13 (and no period yet). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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no experience here (3yo boy...) but it seems weird to me to explain menstruation and not sex. And at 10, shouldn't she already know about sex? (not for herself, just as general knowledge about the world). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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^^ maybe I am misunderstanding what you mean by 'sex talk' -- does a 10yo not know how kids come into the world?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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I'm confused by this too. My five year old knows everything except the mechanics, and the mechanics are like a two-sentence conversation. What's the issue? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
[ - ] So I am 15 weeks pregnant with twins. I am still shocked an scared. What the heck do I do with two of them? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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Are these your first? I was you, but didn't even find out until 20 wks, and had a 3 yo already. It's really not that much different - you're either in newborn hell or you're not. Get the Podee bottles (google it) and don't stress about the nursing (if that is your plan). I couldn't spend enough time w/ either to get it working right so just pumped for 6 mos. They just turned 3, btw (b and g) and they couldn't be cuter!! Good luck and congrats!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] going fairly nuts w/ the terrible 2's ... why does it seem like my dd is the only kid who screams on the street? why does she have such intense tantrums? why is she so whiny? what can we do about it? advise please, and pls. no flaming. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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she's not. really. we've all been there. prevention is generally the key, in my experience. make sure she's well fed, well rested. make your expectations clear (and don't expect too much of a 2yo!). it will pass (and you'll be on to the next set of annoying behaviors). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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op: thank you for talking me down. you're likely right on the money that she is sometimes getting hungry or overtired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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She's not eh only one, but I sure felt like my kids was the only doing this at that age. Stay calm, strap her in the stroller and sing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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oh, if only i could get her into the stroller ... lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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this you can and need to control. The stroller is a non-negotiable (like a car seat for a suburban mom). You plop her in, hold her down with your knee and strap her in. Dh called it "hog-tying." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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my 2yo DD is the same way -- i'm hoping she grows out of it.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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me too--except dd is 8yo.... still waiting.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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my kid was an angel through his twos (and before). never ever a tantrum. But ever since he turned 3... omg. (I guess I have a late bloomer?) no advice really, just remain calm.. I think it's from frustration with communicating what they want and getting it right away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:12 PM Flag
[ - ] what should 20 mo dd wear to briss for cousin? at nyc apt. does she need to wear a dress. we are so not fancy fwiw. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.27.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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a 20mo can wear whatever you want. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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every girl should have a dress up outfit, even if it is a casual dress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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^^^^or a nice pants aand a pretty sweater [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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I am not fancy at all and for these type of events, I bought dd a simple/cotton/colorful Zutano dress or something along those lines. Do you know what I am talking about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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that should be totally totally fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Can separate accounts really work? I'm having a hard time accepting that my DH wants separate accounts, and separate money and separate property. It's true, I married him like this, but in reality, it's become a nightmare. 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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It works for me, but clearly it isn't for everyone. Why does he want this? Is this a new thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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no. it's not new. it was always this way, but in reality, the splitting of the bills became very unfair imo. he claims that paying for a mortgage for property that he owns is contributing to the household. is that right? because it gives me a place to live. he also claims that just because he paid off mortgage, doesn't mean that he's still not contributing even though he doesn't have that expense monthly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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I think the mortgage thing is right, unless he is no longer making the payment in which case he should take up some other responsibilty. DH and I have always had separate accounts and it's never been a problem, not even now with me SAH. My parents have always had joint accounts. It just depends on the couple. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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are you contributing proportionately equal amounts to the mortgage? if he's paid off the mortgage, that's not an expense and not a financial contribution. if he wants it to be an expense, start counting all your unpaid labour (childcare, cleaning, cooking, etc.) as "contributions" to be recorded in $ amounts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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he's not paying mortgage anymore. and you think it's fair that his paying the mortgage would have counted for a property he owns 100%? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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I do think his paying the mortgage counted because you were living there, and even if he didn't own it himself, you would have had to pay rent somewhere. BUT now that he's not paying it, all bets are off and he has to pay for something else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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For him the mortgage was/is an investment but for both of you it was also an everyday living expense, presumably freeing up some of your money to make your own investments since you didn't pay rent/mortgage. However, once it's paid off I don't think he should count it anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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np: I would not like this at all. If it's our family home, I should be on the deed for it. Why does only DH own it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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I wouldn't like it either, but it sounds like OP knew this is how it would be from the start and she seems to have agreed to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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op: i did agree to it. i did. i can't deny that i was a schmuck. must i now deal with this for another 40 years? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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the problem is though, that, in effect, i am paying rent to my husband because he was essentially putting equity into something that he owned 100%. and, even when he stopped paying it, he said it was still a contribution because he provided us with a place to live. should i pay rent to my husband just because i would need to pay rent someplace else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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no, of course not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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op: well, that's my point. of COURSE, i would contribute to something we owned together, but why should i pay off equity in something he owns outright that gains value? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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is it possible for you to pay half the mortgage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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what? you're paying rent to him? that I didn't get from your original post. I thought he was paying it and you were paying other stuff. That's just whack (for lack of a better word.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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he is paying it and i'm paying other stuff, but i was paying ALL other stuff, and paying off a mortgage that he owns is just like putting money into your own savings account [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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I'm really not being rude, but why did you agree to this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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you're not being rude. i'm a schmuck. that's the only reason. i was in my 30s and i was scared that i would never meet someone again, and the wedding was all planned, and really, i do love him. so, you're not being rude. it's a fair question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. What a terrible situation to find yourself in and I would be very upset myself. Is he receptive to talking this out at all? I would assume that your spouse would be concerned about your financial safety and well-being. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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that's not what I meant. I meant, it's ridiculous for you to pay "rent" if the mortgage is paid off. But while it's being paid off, I don't see the issue. I mean, I would want to contribute to the mortgage and be on the deed, but that's a whole different conversation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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op: YES, but I'm not on the deed. it's paying money to a mortgage that he owns. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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how are you paying money to the mortgage? are you contributing towards his payments? Or are you responsible for, say, groceries in lieu of mortgage payments? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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lets see. i pay for all diapers, all formula, all food, cleaning person, babysitters, presents, phone bill, cable bill, airplane tickets, car service to airport, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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also, he DOESNT have a mortgage. it's the imaginary mortgage that he says counts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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oh my god! that is CRAZY. what a jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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^^^ in my case, DH and I contribute in proportion to our income [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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same for joint property? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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so, what if you stopped working? would you own 50% even though you didn't work? would that be an issue? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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there have been periods where I didn't work and it doesn't affect our shared ownership of property. it's not an issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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my understanding is, unless you have a prenup, if you get divorced all the money is both of yours, regardless of whether it's a joint account or separate accounts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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we have a prenup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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I think this depends on where you live, and if you acquired the money during the marriage or before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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We have separate accounts. It works well for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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op: how? do you make more than him? in my case, my dh makes a lot more than me. we live in the apt. he bought, and if we buy new one, it will be his, unless i put in money, in which case i will own percentage i put in to buying price [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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how long have you been married? dh and I were in similar situation with prenup, he owned apt. and made more than I, but once we were married, he agreed everything was equally ours and second home is in both our names. Our prenup basically protected our assets from before marriage but acknowledged that anything earned/purchased after was to be split equally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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that's not my prenup. everything is separate. i get some certain percentage after certain amount of years. ultimately 25% but i think that is after 20 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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How long have you been married? How long has this been an issue? Is it a big issue between you, or a nagging issue for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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a big issue. tremendous. my lawyer sent my husband a letter today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. It sounds like you guys are having a difficult time communicating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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We each have our own accounts and we have joint accounts. We can each save/invest without getting totally wrapped up in the other person's attitudes/views towards money. It is much better than fighting each month over how much to save and what to invest in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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It depends on how you do it and why. We have his/hers/our accounts, but almost all of the money flows through the ours account and all investments are in joint accounts (except for IRAs and 401(k)s). Neither one of us like having to answer to the other one for how we spend our "walking around money" and we don't want the other one to know how much we spend on gifts for one another. Our family budget includes monthly stipends for both of us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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op: oh. that's different. in my case, it's ALL separate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are not happy with the arrangement, so maybe it's time for serious discussion with DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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Think back to when you married DH and signed the prenup. At that point, what was appealing about this financial arrangement? Would you be better off financially if you wee alone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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op: at the time i signed it, i was upset about it, BUT, he was paying a significant amount of the expenses. once we had kids, he continued to pay the same expenses and i paid for a significant part of the added expenses (except we split day care). plus, i did a significant (about 99 percent) of the household work. i guess when i got married, i assumed it would stay fair. but, it didn't. and i feel that i was very taken advantage of. and i can't get over the hurt. plus, he controls what goes on in the house to a certain degree - so, it's not just the money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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I can relate to you. My husband behaves similarly re $ -- it is insulting & is inappropriate for a "real" marriage. Just one issue in my marriage. You said your lawyer was sending him a letter. What are you hoping to achieve? If you are communicating this way, are things pretty contentious between you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:50 AM Flag
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What you describe is not a real marriage. Just divorce already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Were you taking prenatal vitamins when you got pregnant? How many of you found out and realized you had drunk alcohol after conceiving? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.27.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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yes and yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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same here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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i was on prenatals. didn't drink with first one and had maybe two or three cocktails before i found out i was PG with #2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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no really (took vitamins, but not every day) and had 3 glasses of wine one night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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no and yes...and smoking big cigars, too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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euphemism cigars? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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nope... went out for DH and we ate steak, drank lots of read wine and smoked cigars with the boys at the bar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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no and yes. I was about 9 weeks pregnant when I found out and had gone out for a 4 martini night two nights before I took a pregnancy test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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that was me. I was on a business trip in male dominated environment and drank lots of scotch and smoked cigs. Found out 9 weeks the week after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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yes, took prenatal vitamins. yes, drank alcohol after conceiving (and before finding out I was pregnant) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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My son's nickname is pinot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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nope, yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:05 PM Flag
[ - ] What would your reaction be: nanny went to throw out the garbage while db was sleeping and door locked itself. Locking db in the apt. Doorman didn't have key bc nanny took that key earlier in the day bc super was up here and locked the other lock (for which nanny doesn't have key). Nanny didn't immediately return key to doorman (which is the prudent thing to do). When I got the call at work, I seriously started shaking. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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^^ btw, if I leave apt with db sleeping (trash compacter on the floor), I close the dead bolt so door doesn't shut, bc you never know . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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I'd definitely be annoyed in the same way I'd be annoyed with myself, but it is one of those things that happens and could easily have happened with you. I wouldn't leave the deadbolt on for fear of someone coming in and taking db. I mean, I know it's far-fetched, but I'd feel safer with it locked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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this is a small doorman building, door is basically in view of trash room. if you allow door to shut (even assuming you think it won't lock), take your key (i've done that as well). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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Before db, I used to do deadbolt thing, but now I take key when I go to put garbage in back of house now that we're in burbs. I understand your annoyance, but I still think if all else were equal her mistake could have happened to anyone. It would have been worse if it were an awake toddler, but a sleeping infant in crib is not in immediate danger (though obviously not a good situation.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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if db was awake, she should NOT be tossing the garbage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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Of course not. I'm not saying she was not careless, but I am saying that having a sleeping baby locked inside an apt for 20 minutes is not as serious as a mobile baby or toddler in a crib or pack n' play. How old is your baby? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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^^^my point is this, if I liked the nanny and she normally showed good judgment, I'd be pissed at the situation, but also understand that it happens and work out a solution so it never happens again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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this happened to me too, but i didn't have a sleeping child inside. set your front doorknob to NOT lock automatically, just rely on the dead bolt for which one will always need a key to lock. i had to prop up a ladder and climb in thru the bathroom window. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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that's the way the door is normally set, but the super changed it when he went in to change something. but for me, personally, that is not enough if i have a child inside, so I deadbolt the lock. clearly, nanny did not take same precaution. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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ils have knobs that don't lock, but deadbolts that require keys on either inside and outside of door to lock (no thumbturn latches, gotta use a key). maybe that would be better solution? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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no, i'm fine with our lock, just not our nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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It's a horrible accident -- but I do think that a nanny should be extra careful (maybe nt fair, but still!). I'm sure that she meant to return the key to the doorman sooner or later -- it just wasn't convenient at the time. Do you like her otherwise? How is her judgement in general? I assume that DC was okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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bad judgment otherwise. i wish i could have fired her on the spot, i'm interviewing, but don't have anyone lined up yet. I basically said, please go home now (I rushed home from work) -- I didnt even look at her. DB was fine, sleeping. I think i was harsh, but I was so shaken up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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Nanny didn't do anything wrong here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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OP just doesn't like nanny and this is the last straw. That's diff't from what if nanny made a mistake like this. This is yet another blunder in a line of blunders, it seems to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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yes, that's basically it. and nanny did do something wrong. she locked my child in the apt. when i showed up, sweating (i ran home), she didn't immediately appologize, but said, "i just went to throw out the garbage" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Because you were freaking out and she was trying to explain things in hopes of keeping her job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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totally harsh. that is why nannies bad mouth their employers all day long at the playground. trust me i have heard them. you expect them to be perfect and come down too hard on them for things that could happen when child is in your care. you fault them for talking on their cell when you do the same thing at the playground. you get mad when your kid has a fall or gets a cut when that is what kids do. the important thing is that your baby wasn't hurt, there wasn't a fire etc. the nanny did the right thing to call you immediately. be mad at the super for changing the setting on the door but to fire the nanny-that is ridiculous imo. also be careful about treating your help badly. remember you are leaving your children with them. It amazes me the stories i hear about bad treatment from employers. luckily most nannies don't take it out on the kids that they take care of. and no i am not a nanny, just a sahm who actually talks to nannies on the playground. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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(1) bad practice to let door shut and leave apt. (2) nanny knew that lock was being "funky" since she needed key from doorman. (3) nanny didn't call me, she went down to building lobby (yes, my baby along in the apt, although at this point she had no choice) and basically asked them to open the door -- didn't get the concept that there's no back up key to the back up key that she didn't return. Doorman reached me at work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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OK your baby was not hurt. it was a mistake. do you ever make them? nanny is human. cut her some slack (unless there is a history of bad judgment). your baby is fine. the whole drama was an hour or two tops right. you obviously feel strongly so fire her. GL with the new nanny. Just knwo that everyone is not perfect. i know a woman who fired her nany because she came home and found baby had thrown up in her sleep and nanny had not cleaned it up. Except baby was fast asleep and nanny said there was no sound. Guess what, that has happened to me and several friends with our dc. All I am saying is put things in perspective. #1 thing is that baby is fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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how old is db? if infant, I would be very upset that she left him sleeping and went out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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to take trash out on the same floor?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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db is 14 mo. the funny thing is, she actually never ever throws out "our" garbage. i'll come home sometimes and the little supermarket bag in the can is overflowing. she puts her own garbage in a separate bag and just throws that out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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You're looking for an excuse to fire her, and you've found it. Don't ask us to validate your decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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I would be upset. But the same thing could happen to me or DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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tritto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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done it. With our home when I went to get the mail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] is it spoiled of me to want a car in new york city if i'm married (i.e. my husband thinks its spoiled of me)? 58 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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what do you need the car for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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op: i don't need it. i guess to go out of the city once in a while. to take day trips. to visit friends. to go shopping. like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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rent a car then or sign up with zipcar.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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there are none in the summer unless way in advance [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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Rent a car. You don't need to buy a car, pay for parking, and pay insurance for an occasional trip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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does it matter how much the hhi is? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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NP: not really. wasting money is still wasting money, it just isn't as noticable as quickly. and wasting money is a big reason that many people who used to be wealthy are no longer wealthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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not only that but it's a headache and a half to keep track of the car, maintain it, wonder if it's getting towed, wait 4 hours for it to be "unparked" from the garage it's been in for 3 months and then it won't start because the battery died. Just plan ahead and reserve one in advance - you can always cancel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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I don't get this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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i'm trying to see if i'm being completely unreasonable. i went to rent a car this weekend, and it was impossible. there were none left. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Well, duh. It was a holiday weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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np: what does this have to do with being married? and fwiw, just b/c you planned poorly last weekend doesn't mean you need to have a car at your disposal 24/7 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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Try the airports, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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depends. do you have to commute out of the city? we had a car when we lived in the city but we went to the burbs a lot to visit our family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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i don't commute out. my parents live in the burbs but only part of the year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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what has being married got to do with anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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op: i know. i know. my dh is saying that i'm spoiled for wanting a car, and i guess the marriage part is the compromise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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did you have a car when you were single? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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i did. but i commuted out of the city. [