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[ - ] Is anyone up yet? Does anyone go to playdates fot the first time and feel totally uncomfortable?? I feel really insecure around these women...why?? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:22 AM Flag
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I haven't started for that reason. I've never been around kids or moms (other than my own). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:27 AM Flag
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Really? I force myself to go to these things for my son's sake but I feel very strsnge talking to other people.....i used to be in the public eye a lot but have found it impossible to meet with a bunch of women.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:35 AM Flag
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I completely agree with you! After becoming a SAHM I seem to have become a complete sociophobe...what gives? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.19.08, 12:01 AM Flag
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yes..it's the unknown that is weird. PLUS we don't know if this other mom will be the judgemental type or be cool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:29 AM Flag
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^^^it's like a blind date [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:30 AM Flag
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Exactly. Plus you're meeting these prople for you kid to have friends with. What if we don't like them? Do we still let our kid play w/them? It's more complex than just meeting someone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:32 AM Flag
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well it's inevitable that you won't like at least one mom. If that's the case if the dc is very nice I suck it up but meet in a playground where the time spent together isn't that long (you are running after your dc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:36 AM Flag
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^^also try to invite others to the playground [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:39 AM Flag
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you just have to dive in. i have made a lot of good friends this way. And met a couple wierdos too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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so I am not alone? I guess a lot of people feel this way, it always seems like the "other" women are the comfortable social ones ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.19.08, 12:21 AM Flag
[ - ] When di I switch to stage two nipples for the bottles? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:22 AM Flag
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you'll know....betweeen 9 and 12 months.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:23 AM Flag
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Aren't they suppose to start drinking out of a sippy cup by then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:25 AM Flag
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when db is taking a long time getting milk out, maybe at 4-5 mo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:33 AM Flag
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Oh ok. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:36 AM Flag
[ - ] DOES IT MATTER?- just had sex with dh in an attempt to conceive. Do I take it easy this am or can I do my usual cardio? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:14 AM Flag
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every time we have conceived, I stayed in bed a while afterwards and kind of propped up my pelvic area. Worked all 3 times [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:30 AM Flag
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for how long? i stuck my pelvic area up in the air for only about 2 mins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:32 AM Flag
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I usually stayed there for about 15min. I was really hoping something happened [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you go on vacation with a good friend - family vacation - i have a toddler, she has a newborn? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:02 AM Flag
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i don't vacation with friends esp now that I have kids. I don't see a happy ending for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:13 AM Flag
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yes I would but with the understanding that they are (and you are) allowed to do what you want when you want. You guys can make beach plans together or maybe plan on eating meals together but don't have to spend every waking moment together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:32 AM Flag
[ - ] need kids' party space for this weekend in nyc, pref. uws just a big gym or room will do. help...tia 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:38 AM Flag
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Do any of your friends live in a building with a "party room"? (The Lyric, The Montana, etc.) Or what about the JCC or Columbus Gym? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:52 AM Flag
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ymcas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:07 AM Flag
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Kidville [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:15 AM Flag
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the children's museum- i think most spaces will be booked already [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:16 AM Flag
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how about the park? central park [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:17 AM Flag
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try the 74st Magic. They are usually booked but doesn't hurt to call. They are on the East side [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:38 AM Flag
[ - ] if i take my laptop to a diner/coffee shop, do i just log onto their wireless? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:55 AM Flag
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if free wi-fi, like most, you are connected automatically [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:07 AM Flag
[ - ] if i take my laptop to a diner/coffee shop, do i just log onto their wireless? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:54 AM Flag
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Dunno about all of them but I was in Starbucks this past week and I overheard someone complaining because even tho they advertise free WiFi, you need to be a T-Mobile customer or something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:48 AM Flag
[ - ] woke w/a sore throat, what to take for it? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 02:54 AM Flag
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love tylenol sore throat if you can get it- otherwise plain tylenol if you have no other symptoms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:58 AM Flag
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I drink Emergen-C, gargle with warm salt water and maybe some tylenol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:05 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone here? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:24 AM Flag
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what's up and where are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:43 AM Flag
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Me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Expecting mom here. After reading about all of the insanity we good parents go through of trying to get a good education for our dear children here in NYC, and the dedication / time / stress and tole it takes on our families -- financial as well as psychological -- it's gotten me really worried. The sheer extremes which seemingly sane parents are willing to go to to in order to get the best edu for their DC(helicopter mom, faking addresses, begging officials, telling their four year olds to lie during interviews) makes me wonder how DH and I will face up to this task when the time comes. We are very middle income, and I'm still working on trying to propel my own career to a better place. Also, reading the various posts brings up my own sadness of not having had more support from my parents during my education. We are immigrants, and I navigated the educational system completely on my own -- first grade through college-- simply because dear parents didn't know how to navigate the american educational system (not to mention they had bigger fish to fry such as surviving in a new country with two little kids). Anyway, any comforting worlds of wisdom out there from parents who made it through the fire without losing their minds and their shirts? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 11:24 PM Flag
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yes, from me. don't worry- just follow your way and you'll be fine. you don't have to do all of that, just be present and loving and involved with your kids and they'll do great that's all they need. public schools are fine at worst and great at best, small apts. are fine. workign and focusing on your career is fine- just love your kid and it'll be good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:27 PM Flag
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dear poster, I think I love you. I feel (a bit) better already. **sigh** [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:36 PM Flag
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OP: Also, in all honesty, I can't help but have feeling of envy toward families with more options for their children financially. Of course, I know this is not healthy, and the grass is always greener. "Walk a mile in their shoes etc". I know it's super important to find one's own strengths regardless of one's economic position. I also am aware that my feelings are the result of growing up as an immigrant in this country, and often feeling very limited in my options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:08 AM Flag
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I take issue with the statement "public schools are fine at worst." Our zoned school is one of the schools being closed for lack of performance. I think this poster may be able to afford to choose where she lives, but most New Yorkers do not have this luxury. OP, you will read the worst of our neuroses on this board, but you may also get some good information. The wisest thing you can do is try to live in a good school zone, if possible, and with this backup you can explore other options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:33 AM Flag
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^^^ Look for schools with happy teachers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:00 AM Flag
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you were cut off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:30 PM Flag
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OP here, Yeah it does cut it off, but if you click on the original post, you'll be able to see my full neurosis disclosed. :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:37 PM Flag
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well, I can offer you no better advice than the first poster. I think i love her too. good luck and try not to lose perspective and your sense of humor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:04 AM Flag
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^^^A sincere "thank you" to you. Yes, thank god for humor and perspective. It's my and my DH's savior. Thank goodness we're pretty funny (and humble, ha ha). Maybe our DS will end up a great comedian, and help us all relieve the tension... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:14 AM Flag
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I read your second paragraph. We moved to ny long ago just so that our son could attend Stuyvesant High School. Could barely afford the apartment and moved even before he test in. It was a blind leap. Well, he broke their math curve and got to go to school there. It was a great experience for him. And we survived financially. Try not to worry too much. It really does all work out in the end. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 12:21 AM Flag
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parents who are really sane will not go through or do the things you listed (faking addresses, begging officials, telling kids to lie, ect). I'm as sane as they come and didn't do any of that. I'm not middle class (but more lower middle class) with 2 dc and one on the way. The school situation is what you make it. If you don't freak out and are yourself you will have an ok time through the process [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:55 AM Flag
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I think we do need to beg officials, the way the budget is being cut is disgraceful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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dear new poster, thank you for responding. If you don't mind, I'd love to hear a bit more about how you got through it with 2 dc (and now a third on the way.) Like how did you handle early childcare, and how did you approach finding a good school for your first two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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we live in the age of anxiety, and parents freak out over everything. if it isn't one thing, it is another. have your db and put this out of your mind for now, since when your dc is old enough to go to school, it can all be different. and, as a parent, follow your instincts, since you know what is best for you and dc. someone gave me this advice when my first was youngest, and it has held true for everything we have done so far. gl with your db [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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^^^op: Yes, I totally agree. I've been thinking this through more rationally. And you know what it comes down to one always wanting more than one's got. Example: My grandfather died in the seige of Leningrad by the germans in WWII. Left my father's family destitute. Dear fatjer done great for himself and is a hero [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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...is a hero in my eyes. And here I am worrying about my DC getting into the top school before he's even born. I'm getting infected with this crazy anxiety that doesn't let people live content lives. So I'm officially refusing to partake in it. I'll do my best for DB, and the rest, I'll leave up to the universe. Thank you all for posting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:54 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone on? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:22 PM Flag
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me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 PM Flag
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what's up and where are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I made one mistake at work the other day & my boss is riding me for everything I do now. How to deal?? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 10:02 PM Flag
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Actions speak louder than words. Just work harder than normal until this all passes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 03:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Should I get breast implants? What is the recovery time? Anyone get them and have regrets? What about the ballpark cost. Really would like to get shape back after breastfeeding 2 kids. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:45 PM Flag
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Why not a lift? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:46 PM Flag
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i have friends who have done this after having children or losing tons of weight. the ones that are happy got a lift and a small implant and went back to their original size with a better shape [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:49 PM Flag
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they really really hurt, most don't look very good, i've never felt any that felt good and it's about $7-12K. you need them re-done every 10-15 years or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:49 PM Flag
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^^^ implantinfo.com is a really good source [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:49 PM Flag
[ - ] How much can I lose in a month? I'm 5'5...200 pounds. I'm on my second week of fitness boot camp, 4 times a week. I need to change my diet, cut carbs? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:33 PM Flag
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when I started last yr I was 193 and 5'4. In a month I lost 17 lbs on WW and going to the gym 3-4 times a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:33 AM Flag
[ - ] cremation or burial? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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Cremation. Although dh wants to be buried. So that poses a bit of a problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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cremation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:28 PM Flag
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my parents were both cremated. kind of wish i had somewhere to go to visit them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:30 PM Flag
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what did you do with the ashes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:32 PM Flag
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scattered them in favorite places. i do like going to those places, but somehow it is not the same as looking at a tombstone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:33 PM Flag
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no, i agree that it is nice to have a special place on earth dedicated to a loved one who has died, but to me...there body doesn't need to be there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:34 PM Flag
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you can still have a monument or plant a tree with a plaque dedicated to them...and lots of people bury ashes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:33 PM Flag
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cremation and then put into a niche at my favourite cemetary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:32 PM Flag
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I'll get flamed, but I would like to be cremated then put in the attic. I imagine my great grandchildren finding the box. "What is this?" "Oh, that's your great grandmother. She had an odd sense of humor." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:44 PM Flag
[ - ] my 2 ds (4 and 2) have started chatting after we put them to bed (in their shared room). it's taking them sometimes an hour to go to sleep, even when we go in and try to get them to stop talking. it's driving me crazy, though it's cute (they talk about "their pirate names" and which car from Cars they like best). wwyd? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:23 PM Flag
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Put them to bed earlier [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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You have a few choices - sit in their room with them and repeatedly tell them to be quiet (which isn't going to help much); put them in separate rooms (if you have the space); separate bedtimes - the 4 y/o doesn't go in until the 2 y/o is already asleep or ignore it and let them do their thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 09:30 PM Flag
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