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[ - ] SAH mom's: if you had a job you liked, where you felt validated/supported, and you made enough $$ so that you would bring home at least 1/3 of your yearly earnings, would you work? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I just started working PT for a lot less than that. I'm happier when I have something to focus on outside the home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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Yes, but DD is almost 5 y/o and will be in school full time in Sept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I am standing up in a friends' wedding in california and have to bring my newborn ( 3 months) I have a baby sitter for the wedding, do you think it is rude to ask if I can bring the baby to the rehearsal diinner? the cost is adding up (flight, hotel, dress, gift, I had to throw her a shower, etc) and I really don't want to pay for another baby sitter? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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are u goign with dh. can he sit out the rehearsal dinner and be with baby? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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he could, but I think friend really wants him to be there- is this rude? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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if she wants dh there and you cannot afford sitter, tell her that you are going to brign the baby if that is Ok with her. if she says no then your dh shoudl stay back with kid. bride cannot have it both ways. you have already done a lot and are a new mother to boot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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it isn't that I can't afford a sitter, it is just more money thrown out the window. even if we go for 3-4 hours, it is another 50 bucks and stress on my newborn that I don't want to ahve [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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Then say that. Tell her that it's a lot for a NB and you'd all be more relaxed if baby could come to the dinner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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I really don't think she wants any kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Ask her and find out. If she doesn't have kids herself, she may not understand all the issues for you. If she says no, have DH stay with DB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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just ask. guess what, you are a mother with a child. and if she is your friend she has to learn to accept that. if she doesn't want kids at dinner then your dh stays at hotel with child if you do not want to pay for a sitter and stress your baby. it will be the first of many tough decisions you have to make as a mom. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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a 3 month old is not going to run around wreak havoc -- and it's a rehearsal dinner which is usually more relaxed than say a wedding reception. I'd ask her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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Of course not. Ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I thnk it is fine to bring baby to rehearsal dinner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I think it's fine if friend says it's fine (which she should). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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I think you have to ask the bride and just have a limit to the stops you pull out and lay down the law somewhere. And call her directly...I really hated it when guests had issues with something but did not have the balls to just call me and ask me. That in of itself is bad guest behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] you know what? eating less works. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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it really does. my bil just dropped 45 lbs just by changing what he ate. I know he's a man and it's "easier," but I was impressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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My weight has yoyo'd (unfortunately!) and ITA -- every time, that's what helps -- eating better! You can exercise regularly and be "in shape" and still be heavy (I should know!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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ITA...not only eating less but eating different as in fewer processed foods. I really think you can do a good job of controlling weight by controlling what goes in your mouth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I really don't like my sister's husband. the past few years he has gotten more and more distant. I don't even like him anymore. my sister is clueless. he is really rude, always o his blacberry or phone, it is so strange 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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maybe he feels the same way about you and that's why he's rude and avoids you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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maybr,but I did nothing to him I make an effort [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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are you my sister? this sounds like my dh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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could be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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what areyour initials? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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I don't like my BIL either. We avoid them, but I really miss my sister. He answers her cell, too which makes me crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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sounds like my exh when he was having an affair [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Are the PA elections in your public school highly contested? How do people know how to vote for one candidate above another? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.27.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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No. Generally, they sort it all out before putting it out for a "vote". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Nope, they usually beg and plead people to run, and many jobs are actually shared. There are usually a few contested races though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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How many people actually vote? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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A good number of people who do morning drop off seem to vote at our school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:53 PM Flag
[ - ] when can i give db berries and citrus? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.27.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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How old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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Sure. My 1yo ate pineapple like it was cocaine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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mine did too, until he started getting cankers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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mine got HORRIBLE diaper rash from eating too much fresh pineapple....he LOVED it but I had to restrict the pineapple intake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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My 11 mo eats blueberries and just started strawberries. Haven't done citrus yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] friend of 15 years didn't get me a baby gift (my son is 5 months old). she is a good friend and money is not an option. I think she is just selfish. it is not that I am expecting a big gift, but a small somethign for my son would be nice 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Why choose to get angry about something so trivial? Let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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Eh. This doesn't seem like one of life's larger tragedies. Maybe she has things going on in her life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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or is she like me and just doesn't have it together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Expecting any gift, regardless of size, is really tacky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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i agree with you - strange and rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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Ruder to expect the gift, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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she has more money thatn she knows what to do with. I don't have much yet always think of her. I would never expect anythign , it is jsut interesting , that strangers hae gotten my son gifts and a close friend (whom I am always there for) doesn't get him anythign. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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Does she have kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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Then it may not have occurred to her, frankly. My single friends didn't really give me gifts for DB--and I have one friend who's single and really wants to get married and have kids and is freaked out that it's not happening. She rarely asks about my kids which is fine because I know it's painful for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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If you're keeping track of all the good deeds you do for her and testing her with this, you're not being a good friend to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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did you have a shower? maybe if she gave something at that she doesnt think she has to give something after the baby is born? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Told husband tonight that I want to separate. Breaking point was this weekend when he did not attend my 40th Bday dinner and never even wished me a happy day. This is typical and I have grown tired and realize I deserve better. Have agonized over this for a while though bc of my 2 ds' (ages 1 and 5). Words of wisdom? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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You do deserve better. You are doing something so difficult, but so brave. Your life can be very different and this is the beginning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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really? sounds petty, on your part, and his. you have two very young children; can't you work on your relationship? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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She said "breaking point" I'm sure there's tons more to the story [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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agree with above poster, plus it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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he won't go to counseling and hasn't responded to my attempts to connect. It's very painful to feel that my spouse actively tries to be mean and hurtful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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do you understand what "breaking point" is? you really think OP hasn't tried to work on it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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Sounds like you should just leave, take all the stuff, and he probably won't notice anyway. You're going to be so much happier, seriously. Why keep pounding on a locked door if there's nothing inside worth getting to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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get out. my friends dh did the same exact thing to her and she is so much happier now that they are getting divorced. you are not unreasonable. you do not deserve this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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I have no advice, but life is far too short to be with someone who treats you like this. Separating and starting over can be incredibly hard, but being alone is far better than being treated badly or with indifference by your partner. I wish you all the luck in the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:35 PM Flag
[ - ] i'm all about change, but this new site just isn't the same. not sure i'll get used to it. not sure i'll try. has this been discussed? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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just a little [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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I used to it...but no one's here...so it is different in that sense for me (and it's a bummer b/c I enjoyed my UB time!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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youbemom.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:20 PM Flag
[ - ] ran out after db went to bed the other night to get something (dh home w db) and i was SHOCKED at all the babies and toddlers I saw out out with their parents between 8:30-9:30pm. am i totally rigid for wondering why these kids weren't in bed? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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My DD (3) is an afternoon class (nursery school) and we do sometimes go out for dinner on the late-side b/c she doesn't have to wake up in the AM (although we don't go out quite *that* late). My point: who knows what their schedules are? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:22 PM Flag
[ - ] how much did dh spend on your mother's day gift? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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flowers, maybe $60? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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I got a kitchenaid stand mixer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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nada - he and DD made me a card. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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not much, card and some relatively inexpensive chocolates [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I got breakfast made for me, a card and a bouquet of flowers delivered. I don't know how much it cost but it was perfect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] sister and her husband cannot tell me or my family that they spend time with her dh's parents. my family knows they see them but it is like my sister isuncomfotable talking about them. I feel badley that she can never just day that they are spending the afternoon with her in laws. it is hurtful 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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is this strange? shoudl I confront my sister? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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please help me , what shoudl I do??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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I know it probably isnt' workth to say anthign, I jsut think half truths are worse than lies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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will anyone reply to me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Feel like DH and I need a break from each other. Lately, he just gets on my nerves (and I feel like I get on his.) Every single thing gets complete blown out of proportion, and then he wants to have sex at night! WWYD? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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i would have sex. it tends to change the other stuff. he will be less on your nerves. we went thru this same thing, and the sex really improves things. you forget how much you like it until you start doing it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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I just feel like sex is the one thing I can hold over his head- I know, that's horrible! but, after an intense night, I honestly rather go to bed and sleep than 'please' him. I'm so not feeling the sex... sigh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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then have him please you in bed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:20 PM Flag
[ - ] How much is postage these days? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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42 cents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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think it's $.42, but check usps.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] 8 day old db has diarrhea - any advice on what I need to do? TIA 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.27.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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ebf? all baby poop looks like diarrhea at this age...post muconium adn after milk comes in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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Yes, ebf. No, it is literally dripping out of her butt on the changing table. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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i would call ped. can be potentially v dangerous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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np: what color is it? if it is green/mucousy, could be a food allergy (most likely dairy). also look for streaks of blood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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if you're not sure, you can even bring in a diaper tomorrow for ped to look at. sounds gross but i've done it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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it could very well be normal....db shot lovely green poop across Crate and Barell when she was about 8 days old. Have you had your first ped visit yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Yes, today. She was hospitalized over the weekend for jaundice but had a great check up today. I'm a bit flipped out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Call ped. Sounds like normal newborn poop to me, but call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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call the ped right now. that is what they are for! Good Luck....it is porbably just fine, but you have a very young baby, so call! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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I agree about calling. I'm not one to call the ped often at all but I think all bets are off w/ kids under 3mos. Better safe than sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] pg, have 15 mo at home, getting over virus and justed worked 15 hour day outside of home. MIL coming for week long visit tomorrow and DH refuses to help clean up Stay up late and clean so place isn't a pigsty or go to bed and just let DH deal or not deal with the mess? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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go to bed and let DH deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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But is he *really* going to deal? My DH wouldn't care about the mess (or would clean up half-heartedly) and not be at all embarassed in front of MIL (and I'd be mortified that the house was such a dump). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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go to bed. deal with the mortification. really, it won't be so bad. she'll understand. and if she doesn't, come here and vent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:20 PM Flag
[ - ] should i go back to work next year? dd just turned one. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.27.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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work now while she is very young and stay at home later when she needs *you* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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interesting - someone said the exact opposite thing to me today! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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you are much mroe easily replaced now (and when your kid is under 5) then when you need to help with homeowrk, friendships, values, money questions, etc etc. BTDT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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