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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] why won't they put a refresh button on the bottom of the screen? such a small thing, but so desirable. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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send it to site feedback. Maybe they will [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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I made that request weeks ago. Apparently they don't care. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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eh they have been changing lot's of things. Send it again and give them time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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F5 refreshes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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but you don't go back up to the top automatically. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Hit Home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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extra clicking takes time. one simple click is best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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OMG, hitting 2 buttons really takes that much time out of your life??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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why won't they get rid of the crap on the right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Need your gut reply here: You are given a terrific and exciting opportunity (new job, move to a new city) that frankly terrifies you. Do you go for it? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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depends. how old are dcs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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5 (starting kindergarten) and 2. You've been out of the workforce for a while and are a depressed SAHM. DH is supportive of the move for lifestyle issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Then you should definitely do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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rationally I think the pros outweigh the cons. But I'm scared sh-tless of making a mistake, regretting it down the road. If I take it, I'll regret the hard work it will entail, time away from my kids. If I don't take it, I'll regret missing the opportunity. I may never get another one like this. Crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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What's the worst that happens? You fail and end up being a SAHM again? Doesn't seem to me like much to lose -- you end up where you are now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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but in a different city where I don't know anyone. I guess I'm trying to convince myself. Change=Scary=OK. Status Quo=Complacency=Bad (for me). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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It's NEW HAVEN, not Singapore. Get some perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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It's partly the move and partly going back to work FT after 4 years as a SAHM. That's the big difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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ITA - but can DH work wherever he chooses? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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he'd have to find a new job in new locationj (which he's willing to do). But if I fail/quit and go back to SAHM I don't know how happy he'd be to then move back... like i tell my kids, it's "pick it and stick with it".... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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Depends on the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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nowhere exciting but more sane than NY, more affordable and family-friendly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Go for it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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be specific, it matters, where? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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New Haven, CT. Nice suburbs around there with good school systems for DC. And we'd still be 90 min. from NYC and under 2-3 hours from most family (NJ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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OMG, you must be f'ing kidding me. That's hardly moving very far at all. I thought you were moving to Wisconsin or something. You have issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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it's still a major change for me and the family... everything: job, school, childcare, new friends, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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It's not that big of a change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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that's not nearly as extreme as you described [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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i don't. but i fully encourage others to do so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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on what grounds? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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i don't want excitement. i don't want to start over. i don't want a job that will take a lot of my focus and energy. it's not what i want, but if it is what someone does want, then i'd encourage them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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I meant, on what grounds would you encourage a friend to go for it? why would it be right for her but not for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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if she wants excitement. if her self worth is tied up in her job (that sounds much snarkier than i mean it to be). if she's looking for a challenge. if she wants the money/lifestyle change and her dh also wants it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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yes, i would. i mean, just based on your description of things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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i don't, because i want stability more than excitement. i take tons of comfort in routine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] when did youbemom start? only heard of it tonight here on ub. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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spam spam spammer... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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the purple goddess knows you are here cheating on her! She will not be pleased! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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ugh you again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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yep! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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It started about two weeks ago as a response to this site's redesign. It's actually a pretty vibrant site. Busier than this one, for sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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But everytime I peek in, the only board that's active is Toddler. I liked our old New York board -- please tell me these posters are still on here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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honestly, I've been on YBM. It's faster. This is the first time I've logged on UB in a week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a career or know anyone with a career in OT, ST? Lately I've become interested in becoming one myself and would like to know where I start (education obviously, but what degrees). TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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it's a post graduate degree. a lot of sciences. there should be an organization which licenses people so you can google. (it'll say something like "accredited by whatever organization") [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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My mom is a SLP and has a masters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:19 PM Flag
[ - ] i'm having a bbq for possibly 40 people. Crazy, I know, but we got carried away with the guest list. anyway, any suggestions for how to feed that many people without losing our minds? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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hire help! seriously, either someone to help grill or a server to help constantly clean, replenish drinks etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Very good advice. Also, prepared foods as much as possible. Enlist a friend to help grill, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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only half will show [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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do as much as you can ahead of time -- make the pasta salads, desserts, etc. a day before and serve buffet style. also, set up a serve yourself bar for drinks, a tub full of beer, soda, water, and juiceboxes, and a condiment bar... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] dd has been crying on and off in her crib for an hour. i dont want to comfort her, i want to yell 'GO TO SLEEP' 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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Wow, you are warm and cuddly. What if she's sick? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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meh, she's fine. just doesnt want to go to bed. its not a real cry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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we would have, but we were told by ped to switch to low fat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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i keep getting misposts to my posts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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BTDT. But go check on her anyway. Every once in a while there's some legitimate concern, like a poopy diaper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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op: sigh, ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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^^^^i just checked her and it *was* a poopy diaper. oops, sorry dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:15 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone ahve the whirlpool duet washer/dryer? likes/dislikes? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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i just got the duet dryer and i like it quite a bit. i was hoping the steam cycle would get rid of any and all wrinkles -- it gets rid of some but not most... i can't throw out my iron... but i do like the fact that it doesn't overdry and shrink clothes like my old dryer. so far, so good. my cousin has the washer and the dryer and lvoes them both... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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thanks. are they very large? do you live in nyc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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yes -- they're pretty big --my cousin and i both live in the burbs and have nice sized laundry rooms... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] want to start a business for kids in nyc -do we really need another store? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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depends on if there's a need in a particular nabe or if it's a unique idea.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] My sitter/mother's helper came in on Memorial Day. I paid her the usual rate $12/hour. Was that outrageous? She wanted to be paid a higher rate, but I am at home, so it's not like she HAD to come in that day. Thoughts? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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seems like something you might want to discuss with her ahead of time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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OP: am I expected to pay a higher hourly rate because it's a Federal holiday even though I'm home and don't absolutely need to have her come? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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Does she not get any paid holidays? I agree with poster above that you should have discussed this with her sooner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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OP: no paid holidays. she's part-time and i'm very flexible w/ her on the hours, plus i roll up my sleeves when she's here. we change diapers together, prepare food together, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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i would have given her a paid day off but that is me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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if she's just a mother's helper and you're there, she has nerve to ask for a higher rate... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 year with strep-how serious? we leave for vaca in 2 days and mil has it and staying with us. if dd gets it should i cancel my romantic getaway? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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No -- antibiotics knock it out fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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np usually. My DD had it and was really sick for a week even with the antibiotics. We had to miss mardi gras this year b/c of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:04 PM Flag
[ - ] wwyd? i got back in touch with an old friend. we were emailing 4x a week. two weeks ago we had some tense emails about why we fell out of touch in the first place. now i haven't heard from her in a week. (i sent the last email.) do i email her again or let it go? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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ugh let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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ita. you lost touch for a reason, apparently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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op here. i agree with you guys. just making sure i wasn't being an ass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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pray over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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maybe this friendship just wasn't meant to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:17 PM Flag
[ - ] for ds's 1st bday i'm making a CD for each family and then a goody bag for kids. it's at the shore...just put in some beach stuff? bubbles? what annoys parents? i'm new at this and don't want to piss anyone off!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Seems a little over the top, IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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chalk is always good, sand toys are good. it all ends up being donated to good will anyways at some point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:06 PM Flag
[ - ] If my cycle is only 23 days long, on what day should I be ovulating? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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generally day 14 despite the short cycle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Why does this bother me? Dh and I are separated, getting divorced, I asked him to watch dc tomorrow night, he has plans. I asked him what, he wouldn't tell. wtf? I'm pissed off. Please tell me to get over it and give me good reasons to do so. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.28.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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You are divorcing so you DON'T have to be his keeper. Stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Get over it. You are getting a divorce, he can do what he wants. It really, really sucks that he's started dating first, but it is what it is and you will move on in your own time. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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op: thank you, I do need a reality check. A part of me was telling myself to stfu when I asked, if only to save dignity, but then this wave of anger came over me. This whole thing sucks. He started a relationship with another woman and yet I'm the one who gets to sit home stewing. Nobody said life was fair... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Ah, that's the essential back story. That sucks. So sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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I know, it totally sucks. But honestly, try to move past it. You won't be happy until you stop being so pissed at him, and it will actually bother him MORE when you are happy and don't give a crap about him! Hire a babysitter and have a great time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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why are you divorcing? is that really the right thing for dcs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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The right thing for dc's would be for him to stop fooling around and renew his committment to his marriage and family, to grow up and take responsibility for his actions, honor his vows, etc. It pisses me off when people get all sanctimonious on divorce- to avoid the demise of a relationship there must be two people in the relationship. So yes, it is the right thing for dc's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] am i the only one who still gives two year old whole milk? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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what? never even considered not giving dd whole milk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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i thought most peds switched kids to 2% at 2 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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they do. or 1% [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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i do -it taste so yummy! esp sky top farms milk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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i switched to 2 percent but my DD has a tendency to get chunky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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My five year old still drinks it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Why does this bother me? Dh and I are separated, getting divorced, I asked him to watch dc tomorrow night, he has plans. I asked him what, he wouldn't tell. wtf? I'm pissed off. Please tell me to get over it and give me good reasons to do so. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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His life is not your problem any more. He doesn't owe you any favors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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itda. if they're separated with no formal custody arrangement yet, he does owe her the occasional night out. in general, the mom gets screwed during the initial separation phase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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either you'd be jealous if he had a date or you suspect his reason for not watching the kids is not legit. either way, i totally understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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not only should you get over it but you never should have asked him what his plans are. you are getting divorced. his activities are not your concern and he doesn't have to answer to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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harsh but true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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i only agree with you if they already have a custody agreement set in place. if she's got the kids 24/7 and can only get a break if she asks him, then she may have a reason to question his no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Any Stratford, CT moms on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:58 PM Flag
[ - ] if you clean your own house, how often do you clean the bathrooms? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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2-3times a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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really? A full deep clean or just wipe down the sink and toilet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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A full deep clean. I wipe down the sink 3-4times a day and the toilet every other day if not every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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wow. My hat is off to you! I am doing good to clean the whole thing once a week! Signed busy slobby mom! ;-0 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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why do you ahve to wipe teh sink down 3-4 x a day? OCD mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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When I did, about 3x every two weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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honestly? every other week i scrub the toilets and clean the bathtub and the floor. my oldest is 8 and she is responsible for wiping out all the sinks at least every other day. i've finally got dh scrubbing the toilet when he makes it disgusting (only took 10 yrs of marriage.)But I tend to let it go - and so do a lot of my friends when they're honest enough to admit it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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aaahhh. I feel better now! ;-) that's about my schedule [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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