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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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flame me but i love crate and barrel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Help me out: DD just turned 2 this week. She used to be a great sleeper (aside from some sep. anxiety issues which involved lots of screaming for 10 days - but that was months ago). Lately she goes to bed at the same time 7.30 but it takes her over an hour to fall asleep. She isn't fussy at all, she just plays and jumps and talks to herself. However, she is EXHAUSTED. I tried an earlier bedtime and she still didn't go to sleep until almost 9. Any advice? Her napping is still the same. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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what's the problem? Sounds like she's working out her own sleep routine -- does she stay asleep? Wake up refreshed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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she wakes up and is really tired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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np: how long has it been going on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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have you tried benedryl? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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LOL! Yeah - drug your kid. Great idea mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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what? it works! Kids have to get their sleep! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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terrifying attitude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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I think she is kidding moron. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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not sure about that. but if yes, i'm glad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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NP- ugh. gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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This post shocks me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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you need to re-access your life, asap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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please tell me you don't do this. liver damage, not to mention all sorts of other calamities, result from long-term benedryl use in children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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OR doesn't care about that. "kids" need their sleep. mom too of course [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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are you people really that dumb? take the sticks out of your asses for second and go look for sense of humor. I think you lost it while polishing your high horse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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no need to be rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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um, did you forget where you were moron? UB idiots drink and smoke pot while pg DUH. No reason to believe you weren't serious about a little benedryl for the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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What exactly is her nap schedule? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Who is performing on the Today show right now? I can hear them screaming from my office......... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.29.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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david american idol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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ahhh, now I see why the loud screaming. thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:55 AM Flag
[ - ] what are(did) you having(have) for breakfast? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:44 AM Flag
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1 cup raisin bran and 1 cup 1 % milk - 5 pts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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kashi frozen waffles and some cantaloupe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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op: mmmmm cantaloupe. that reminds me, i need to put it on my grocery list [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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2 dunkin donuts, hash browns and 3 cups of black steaming coffee. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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i want an egg mcmuffin but feel i should be eating all bran [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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so get the egg mcmuffin and eat a fiber one bar right after. Then you'll crap it out by noon and feel much better about everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:50 AM Flag
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lol, good idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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Classic ub advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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^^^^scratch that. make it THREE Dunkin Donuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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Kashi cinnamon harvest and some coffee. A few bites of dd's pancake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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a big piece of pound cake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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smoothie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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oatmeal with flaxseed, yellow and brown raisins, soy milk, and local linden honey...yum! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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Coffee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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egg whites, cheese, english muffin, coffee with skim. same thing every day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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Slimfast in the can. It's gross but I've no time to eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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left over of my son's: plain yogurt with banana. Then after I dropped him off at school: chocolate swirl with coffee... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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luna bar [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:07 AM Flag
[ - ] i have had excruciating backpain the last 3 months of this pregnancy. i woke up in the middle of the night last night basically free of pain (in my back). any btdt? I am 39 weeks pg and am wondering what is going on. It makes me a little nervous that something is wrong. i would appreciate any feedback. tia. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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this happened to me, although before week 39. usually means that the baby has shifted off of your nerve and it's no longer pinching. might make sense if the baby is dropping, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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ok--that was my only guess. i thought maybe the baby moved, but it is so weird that I have been experiencing such pain and now feel much better. pregnancy is fun! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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you're worried because the pain went away? lol. baby probably got his big butt off whatever nerve he was pinching. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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OP: it was VERY strange to wake up and be able to move my legs without pain and to be able to roll over without pain--i didn't know what to think since it has been so long with this excruiating pain. i had to ask if something had happened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:51 AM Flag
[ - ] What do you think of (non-working) women of singletons who keep their baby nurse for 6 (or more) months 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.29.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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To each his own. I begrudge no one for hiring help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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wimps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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LOL! Ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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That it's only going to get harder for them. Parenting takes practice and the longer someone puts it off the harder and more daunting it gets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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because they can [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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oh none of my business. I wish I could have [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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lots of us in NY *can* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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and I know people who can and have and then they have a nanny. Wish I could but I can't so I don't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:35 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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no, full time baby burse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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np full time? Then what do you do all day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:35 AM Flag
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I would wonder 1) is she depressed or otherwise mentally incapable of being a mother and 2) why did she bother having a baby if she doesn't wan the job? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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I wonder if they are too overwhelmed and can't deal, or they just don't like newborns. I had a babynurse once and I adored her and was so grateful she was there to help me out. But after a bit, I didn't need her. While I would LOVE some help, full time for an infant just isn't something I need and I think it's strange - for that long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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i think they'd better keep them a lot longer - if you can't handle a 5 m/o, how the hell are you going to handle a toddler? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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i don't judge. the mother can be suffering from PPD and doing what's best for her baby... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Should we get a dog? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.29.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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how old are your kids? did you grow up with one? do you like picking up poop? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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one dc is 10 - i didn't have a dog as a kid but always wanted one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:19 AM Flag
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does dc want one? or do you? are you working? is this a substitue sibling? (don't be insulted, I see this *alot*) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:20 AM Flag
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yes - i work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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^^oops not done yet - definately more a substitue baby for me than a substitute sib for dc - DC is way over that, but still would love to have a dog [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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no, too much work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:18 AM Flag
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do you have one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:19 AM Flag
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no but sil has 3 kids and 2 dogs and they live a crazy busy lifestyle; also, they never go away and we go away often for weekends, so I wouldn't want to deal with that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:20 AM Flag
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no - they are alot of work and can be very $$. plus hair everywhere. Loss of freedom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:20 AM Flag
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only if you can afford a dog walker and a cleaning lady to come in. otherwise, as lovely as they are it becomes a huuuuuge responsibility, esp if you already have kids. the potty training is more messy than with children, so try to get one who's already trained. that said, they're a lot of fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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no- they are such a commitment and if you have to ask then you must have doubts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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i had doubts and wouldn't trade my dog for all the tea in china.if you are willing to sacrifice the money, time, and hassel then do it. if you only want a dog sometimes (when it's fun), then don't. look at it like a kid - taking it back or giving it up cannot be an option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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^^unless you can take time of work to potty train or come home at lunch every day get an adult. petfinder.com. don't get more dog than you can realistically handle (smaller is better for most imo). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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NP and totally agree on adult dog but I prefer a big dog! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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if you get one try to adopt one that needs a home rather than ordering up one from a breeder....if you want a pure bred check rescue websites. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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No if you have to ask. Dogs need a lot of attention, time and effort. I really wanted a dog until I got one and realised how hard it was! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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Yes! Your dog will be your best friend! Though if you've never had a dog before I would suggest getting an adult dog (2-3 years old) from the pound. You're doing a good thing, he (or she) will adore you for it, and you're teaching good values to your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] have a job offer but it's badly paid and may be really stressful. have another possibility that may pan out for july which is much much better. should I say no to the current one and wait for the second one which is no guarantee, or take the current one and possibly leave in just a month? worried re: the second one falling through but at the same time, worried that the first one may get mad when I leave so quickly. what's better? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:16 AM Flag
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can you afford to turn this one down? are you going to be kicking yourself if you do and the other one doesnt come through? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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maybe--I already turned down two others earlier in the year and I'm kicking myself over one of them. I can afford to turn the first one down in a way, because I freelance and have income from that work to last through the summer...but over the long term it would be better to get a full time job...I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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take it then leave. do what's best for YOU [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:58 AM Flag
[ - ] just found out I'm pg w/#3! we were planning it but I'm still in shock 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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congrats! how old are #1 and #2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:16 AM Flag
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will be 5 and 3 when baby is born [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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that sounds perfect! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:42 AM Flag
[ - ] do you think your life SHOULD revolve around your kids? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I think different stages of one's life can have different priorities. I've focused on my career, my social life, my body, my education,my kids, etc. depending on lots of factors. I dothink even if you are at a kid-centered stage, a woman deserves to have other interests, both for her own sanity and the well being of her family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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no- but they should be one of the top priorities. If you life revolves around them - what happens when they move on? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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you move to where they are to take care of grandchildren [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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I hope you're joking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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I think your life should be about your kids, but not the the exclusion of your own life. When they are young I think it does revolve around them b/c of the high demand of taking care of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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I agree with that. Over time your involvement is phasing out gradually. In the beginning it is all about the kids. Later on you have more time to focus on other things again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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I totally disagree. Marriage first, children second. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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I think it should revovle around my life with kids. I think all our needs ought to matter. BUT when there is a dad (or mom) need which butts up against one of the kids, we'll usually defer to the kids. I should also add, I am very sensitive to needs versus wants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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absolutely not. You are a wife, daughter, sister, friend, neighbor, coworker, parent. You wear many hats. People who only wear the "mom" hat and make their life revolve around their children do a huge diservice to their children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] do you think your life SHOULD revolve around the the kids? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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no, bad for you and bad for your kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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itd. childhood passes in a flash and i cant imagine you'll find any parent of a grown children who wishes they had been less focused on their kids when they were younger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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np maybe we need to define what me mean by "revolve around" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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shouldnt but it usually does. with 3 kids something is always going on. hard to avoid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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to some extent yes - esp when they are very small. But, you have to have your own life too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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np I think it's fascinating how our attitudes about this have changed. My grandmother took care of her siblings after her mother died when G< was 13, Then she raised her own family. Then she basically raised 2 of her kid's kids (weird circumstances involving mental health issues of spouses) She was the least bitter person I ever met, just happy and wanting to help everyone. You would think she would be bitter about putting her own needs and desires last her whole life, but she was not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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that is an interesting observation on how times have changed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:16 AM Flag
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seems like we might all be better off with her attitude of doing one's duty without bitterness. I don't see us going back though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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In terms of her raising her grandkids, I think the issue there is that too many people today see parenting as being an option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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but my response was about OR's idea that "sacrifice" brings bitterness. I think we are more likely to see that now. I think in earlier generations, it was just life. People did what needed to be done without thinking about what they wanted as much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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np: I think this is a completely different issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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in what way? I think it's very relevant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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same with my grandmother. she lost her mother and two siblings in the flu epidemic when she was a teen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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Good response. I would agree with this. My dd is definitely my priority but I don't completely disregard other aspects of my life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:16 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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tritto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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if youre a god mom, yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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^^^ha, good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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I've put my stuff on hold while 3 kids are little and still need me 24/7. However, I also see crazy helicopter moms who can't even breathe without consulting the kid schedule, which is way too much. Not good for the kid at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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when they're young, yes. doesn't mean i don't have anything else going on and doesn't mean i hover, but they are my first, second, and third priorities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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I think children are part of your family and no one should revolve their lives around anyone else. You shouldn't negligect yourself or your spouse for your child. However, all people should get the attention they require, and little kids and babies require a lot of attention. And certainly less than your spouse who presumably can take care of himself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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I think women who make their lives "revolve" around their kids are headed for 2 outcomes 1) lonely sad and depressed when their kids grow up and don't need them as much and they realize they have nothing else or 2) bitter and angry when they realize they have sacrificed and given up everyting for kids who have grown up and don't need them anymore. I also think that women who's lives "revolve" around their kds are completely unbearable to be around. You need a balance. Your kids should be your proirity, without having everyning in your world revolve around them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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do you speak from experience? I wonder simply because I think this is a viewpoint which while it makes sense to many in our generation, would not ring true with many of our moms. I really don't think everyone sees time spent with their kids instead of pursuing some other interest of their own, as a sacrifice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 10:01 AM Flag
[ - ] when did you go for your first ob appt after you got a postive hpt? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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I went in right away (had some previous losses) but I think many people go in around 8 to 10 weeks or so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:16 AM Flag
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8 wks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:16 AM Flag
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around 8 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anything help sore ribs in pregnancy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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sorry - only time. I found as the baby moved and dropped and got bigger, different things hurt! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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yes. delivery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:49 AM Flag
[ - ] ttc now and i can't test for another week and a half. i have a hair appt tonight for cut/color. should i wait on the color part? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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no, i would do it now when truthfully - you may not even be pg (sorry) and then its done [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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op: that is how i feel too, but i did not want to be risky for no reason. thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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you can color all thru pg - no problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:07 AM Flag
[ - ] advice? i want to sahm. DH wants me to keep wohm. i have a stable and extremely lucrative job so i know now is not the right time to quit - however the deeper issue here is i dont think my DH would value my contributions as a SAHM, although i know in my heart it would be the right thing for my 3 dcs. tia if you have any thoughts 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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sorry i would keep working. its just too many risks - financial and also marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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op: dh is that you? just kidding. thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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My mom was a sahm and my dad definitely did not value her contribution. He would blame her for their money troubles. Interestingly enough my sisters and I all wohm. What are your hours like at work? Do you have alot of flexibility? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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door to door usually 7-6 although i have quite a bit of flexibility (rarely miss school events). Some travel but i typically work from home after every business trip. live in the suburbs so i cant do their drop off pick up every day. as they get older i feel that i could be so helpful being the one who hears about their day immediately after school, hears the chatter in the back seat - i feel that they need me more. [ Reply | More
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->also, i have 3 dcs and i am 40. i know a lot of this is about me being tired of the grind [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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Could you possibly work from home one day a week? It is a tough call to make considering your dh's feelings. In addition, being there for your kids is important but so is job/financial stability. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:13 AM Flag
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can you find a happy medium - like cut back hours or job share? my brother is like this with my SIL. He is a real jerk about her not working and complains constantly about her spending habits (she is always scheming ways of making $ from home too) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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i dont think you should quit especially as he is already sending negative vibes. it'll just become a huge problem between the two of you. i agree with poster above about a medium, maybe do 1 or 2 days at home? being a sahm only works when both parents agree on it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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I don't have advice, but your post makes me so sad. Your DH really can't see the value of your staying at home? He can't support your choice? I SAH and DH had a crappy but lucrative job for 3 years; I would have, and told him, we could switch (I'd look for a job) or that I'd support any career decision he wanted. he just accepted a position for 30 percent less pay and we are both so happy about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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how much do you make and how much does your dh make? would your lifestyle change if you stopped working? What kind of savings do you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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The 2-3 hours every day after school are exhausting, but something I personally would not trade for all the money in the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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This is a tough one, I know, we have 3 dcs . Could you try to work out a deal at work so that you can get in earlier and telecommute 2 or 3 afternoons a week? It is great to be home with them, but the return to work after the ten year nap is pretty difficult to do, and that's when the college tuitions start. Believe me, I know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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op: thanks everyone, i appreciate the help. it makes me sad too but it is what it is - our relationship and life are really great, and i do make a lot of $$ especially for hours. i like the shifting my hours to be home earlier idea. i will continue talking to DH about it and maybe i get a chance to make a change when the economy improves [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:01 AM Flag
[ - ] have to say, I'm pg with #3 and just saw ultrrasound yesterday. It has been awhile sicne i have been pg and we are so wrapped up in our lives and other kids that I don't really focus on it and I had forgotten how cool it is to see the little creature growing inside you. Now I just have to remember to stop eating soft cheese and drinking coffee. just thought I'd share. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 04:52 AM Flag
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awww! congratulations!! how old are your other dc's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 04:57 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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or: my children are the exact same spacing and its been fantastic so far (youngest will be 2 in August) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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that makes me feel good. I ti shard to fathom that the eldest and youngets will be so far apart, but I know I wasn't cut out to be the mom with 3 under 5! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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barf. take it to BC hon [ Reply | More
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