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[ - ] I gave birth five weeks ago and have been on a 2000 calorie a day diet. I go to the gym 6 times a week. I breastfeed (not exclusively). I lost 24 pounds since delivery but since last week I haven't lost a pound. I'm still 20 pounds heavier than my original weight and feel this is becoming so difficult. Any ideas on how to drop these 20 pounds? 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.29.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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You're kidding, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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you need to cut down to 500 calories, and on the day when you don't work out you shouldn't eat at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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ha ha ha ha [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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I find this post so disturbing. You gave birth 5 weeks ago - you have a healthy, beautiful new life. You will drop the weight, focus on your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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OP: I'm very focused on my child as I'm with him 20 hours every day. I'm sorry but when I go back to work 7 weeks from today, the whole weight thing will be harder. Most of my clothes don't fit anymore and I don't like the way I look. Is it too hard for people to understand? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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when you had a baby 5 weeks ago, yes it is hard to understand. we have all been there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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yes, b/c it sounds like overkill, and if you keep cutting calories, etc. your bm supply will drop [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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ITA. its possible you aren;t losing because your body is trying to hang on to some reserves for bf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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np: YES. you clearly have issues which you will pass on to your dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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OP, you need to be a little more patient. It took you nine months to put the weight on, it's not coming off in six weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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maybe getting a child was not the best thing for you to do then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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its not that we don't understand, its that you don't seem to have the self awareness to see how pathological your behavior is. you should not be working out 6 days per week, 5 weeks post partum. any trainer in the world would back me up on this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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I wasn't even cleared for "exercise" by y ob until 6 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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me either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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her uterus will fallout [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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dont eat at all. or eat one meal a day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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it took you nine months to put it on (and you gained porbaly 10-15 pound more than you needed). Chillout board whore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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OMG. You are pathological. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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you should be exclusively bfing your baby and not even thinking about shit like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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Just keep working out and watch your calories. It is normal to not lose weight every single week. You do need to be more realistic, though. Most women take months to a year to lose the baby weight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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I didn't, though. I am sympathetic to OP, but I think she needs to have a more realistic set of expectations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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I honestly wonder why people like you even have kids. How can you possibly being going to the gym 6 times a week with such a tiny baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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people are different though. i think op is impatient, but it's not fair to say why would she even have kids. that's going too far, obviously. she could be the best mama in the world and just be obsessive about her weight loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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np: Maybe she can't afford a new work wardrobe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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OP: Gym is next door to where I live and I work out for an hour. You must be a suburban mom, fat and ugly and your husband must be cheating on you. People here are not helping or supportive of issues, just judgmental bitches without lives or careers or fulfillment. For the record, yes, I want to be with my child who is gorgeous, yes, I want my body back and to look healthy and hot for me, my husband and my baby and yes, I'm coming back to work in 7 weeks and I happen to have a very successful career that will require a lot of my time. If people here just think about hving babies and becoming fat and whose only topic of conversation is diapers and spit up, please go ahead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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*yawn* why again are you asking a question here on UB? You know you had it coming, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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OP: No, honestly I didn't, I expected something positive, not this shit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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dude, wrong board. bring it to the PaFo on Craig's List or to Babycenter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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The positive you should take from this thread is that you need a little help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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get some diet pills and meds board whore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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op: i was sympathetic but you sound crazy here, accusing people of being fat and ugly and husbands cheating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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first of all, I live in the City. Second, I happen to be a partner in a law firm. third, I happen to have 3 kids, and with all of them the wieght came off at a natural and normal pace and when they were 5 weeks old, I wasn't focsuing on hte gym or my wieght, I was focusing on them, becuase I knew I would have to go back to work soon enough and focus on other things. Finally, as far as my hottness and my husband cheating. I think I am pretty hot, but if your self -esteem and the hope the hope that your husband won't cheat on you at some point is tied up in your wieght and "hotness" you are in for some rude surprises in your life. My husband loves me -wheither I wearing a size 4 like I did before I got pregant, or any number between than at 14 (that I wore after I gave birth). Grow up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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I surprised you actually answered [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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I am just annoyed that she got me so riled up that my post looks like it was written by an illiterate. Actually I feel bad for her. Her priorities are all out of whack and she is clearly very insecure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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it could be helpful for you to recognize the insecurity coming out in the above post....that if you don't get your hot body back immediately, your husband might stray. Give yourself a break....if working out makes you feel good, keep it up and it's obvious on that schedule you will lose the weight in very short order. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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Wow you shouldn't post here if you can't handle the critics. On the other hand. You need to give your body a chance to get back to normal. 5 weeks is not long enough, and sorry to say sista your body will never be 100% the same. I give you props for trying, but you may need to back off a bit let your body reshape a bit and then go at it in the gym. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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np: wow. you are very angry. re-read the rant you just wrote, take a deep breath and think about talking to someone. you need help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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and I re-read your post and I am more convinced than ever that you have issues...why say your child is gorgeous? what does this have to do with anything? You are clearly some kind of obessive person who thinks that everyone's (including your child's) value is wrapped up in how they look. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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ITTTTTTTA! Op needs help. I feel VERY sorry for her. Signed, mom with 15 pounds of baby weight on her at 11 months ppd. So be it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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second marriage for dh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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how old are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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OP: I'm 32 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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^^that's a genuine question. weight loss is different according to age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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I am very sure this is a joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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no it's not. too involved. also, not THat extreme [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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If this isn't a joke, I would suggest that you consult a nutritionist. First of all, a lot of the weight you lose the first few weeks has absolutely nothing to do with working out or your diet -- much of it is water weight and fluids that you retained when pregnant. So if you purge all of that, it makes sense that weight loss would be slower after that. If you are breastfeeding, you should definitely consult with a nutritionist about how / what you should be eating. You might be working out too much and sending your body into starvation mode. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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WEIGHT WATCHERS!!! they have a GREAT plan for breastfeeding new mommies. I'm a trainer with two pp clients who have lost it all after 7 months (one natural and one ceasarean). GO ONLINE NOW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 09:00 AM Flag
[ - ] has anyone used castor oil to bring on labor? what was your experience with it, how many days from your due date did you take it (before/after)? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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just motor oil. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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I sincerely hope this is a joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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np- I hope the fact that you feared it wasn't a joke is a joke. Sincerely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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I did, I'm not sure it actually worked, as my water broke right after a swallowed the nasty stuff. it did make me poop for oh, about 3 hours or so. I was a couple of days past due date, and followed my dr.s instructions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:50 AM Flag
[ - ] fyi: ips on ues is closing after this year. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.29.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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What is this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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which location? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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upper east side, International Pre School [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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can yo be speicific about location [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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sorry. 85th street [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:37 AM Flag
[ - ] have you had a post in most popular? thats my aim 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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not yet, but i did sort of go overboard yesterday in criticizing this woman whose friend is coming to visit over the july 4th weekend, and this created a most popular post. i contributed to making it most popular. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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good for you!. i trolled on a post once about bf and it got to most popular. but thats about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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No, but I helped to get one there by posting a controversial reply to the OP. I can't remember what it was right now, but I remember the feeling of "I did that!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Baby announcement question: We want to include a closing, but "with love" is too familiar (we're sending these to some of our work colleagues). What's a better closing that doesn't come across as too cold?? tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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The baby announcements I've seen don't include closings (assuming you mean printed announcements). They usually say something like "X and Y announce the arrival of Z" with the weight, etc. Do you mean e-mail? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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No, printed announcements. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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Yeah, I've never seen one that was written like a letter. You don't need a closing, just like you don't need one on a wedding invitation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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Best Regards, I lik to end with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:39 AM Flag
[ - ] :) 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:18 AM Flag
[ - ] oops, sorry 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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You keep doing it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:18 AM Flag
[ - ] this is the last time i'll repost. so please answer! i woh p/t. i have the option of a drop off babysitter (all ages, flexible hours, great location) or a drop off playgroup (one age, structured day). the price of the playgroup is about half of the babysitter per month. (either way, it's much cheaper than the nanny i had this past year). wwyd? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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Age? If 2yo or older the playgroup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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she'll be 2.5yo in september. the other issue is the timing. with the babysitter, i can pick up at anytime. i end work at 1, the playgroup ends at 2. so i can see about extending my work day or i can pick up dd an hour early every day. (assuming that's ok with the playgroup) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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for some reason I couldn't respond to you post below, but how about just having an hour to yourself?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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the problem is that both the sitter and the playgroup are near my office which is an hour away from home. so i'd have an hour to kill every day but i couldn't go home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:47 AM Flag
[ - ] an outfit. yes, a girl. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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Okay, your brain really is mush! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:18 AM Flag
[ - ] i hate my meathead boss 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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I hate you, too. Now get back to work! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:17 AM Flag
[ - ] can someone please help me write a thank you note to dh's boss for the baby gift he got us? my mind is mush. tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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What was the gift? Is db born yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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dear so and so. Thank you so much for the little onesie you sent over for Harry. It's really sweet and he's already thrown up on it three days-- so cute and yummy! Hope to see you soon, and thanks again, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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Dear So-and-So, Thank you so much for the outfit (add some descriptive words somewhere so he knows you remember which outfit he gave). She looks adorable in it/we can't wait until it fits. It was so kind of you to think of us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:20 AM Flag
[ - ] i wonder if the jolie-pitts will stop moving around so much now that maddox is 6 and needs to stay in one place for school at some point. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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They can hire a tutor to travel with them, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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it's interesting-- it might be sort of a cool upbringing to be going to different places all the time, especially if there is a brood of kids within the family. though he probably wants stable peers at some point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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havent they just bought some zillion $$ castle in france as their base? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I keep hearing about different superstar journalists who send their kids to SHSH. The school seems to get mixed reviews here, but how bad can it be to send db to a school full of journalist & Columbia professor kids? I'm still totally ignorant about NYC schools, but that sounds like a lot better environment than many of the places that this board focuses on, no? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.29.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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all of the NY private schools, even those that are knocked down on UB have children whose parents are well educated and employed as professionals in impressive jobs. Not sure why journalists are *more* than lawyers or MBAs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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if you have to ask . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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We looked at SHSH beautiful building and great focus on community and world values, very traditional a bit religous and only goes to 8th. I think you need to look at the school and not whose kids go there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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Our db is at SHSH -- and we simply love it ! We think that the info on UB is inaccurate. SHSH is a smaller school (compared to other schools that get discussed a lot), hence, the pool of parents who have REAL (as opposed to hearsay) experience is much smaller. Contrary to the claims here on UB, SHSH is also not a very religious school. Yes, it has chapel, but so do Trinity and other schools, but that is a forum where moral questions are discussed. Also, a large number of families in the school are jewish and absolutely comfortable with it. Academically, we find the program very strong and the faculty amazing. so my advice is to check out the school yourself and not rely so much on UB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Doesn't St Hilda's St Hugh's have daily chapel? Their website makes it very clear that it is chapel--not some kind of "meeting." Do they offer communion? Not all Episcopal schools do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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i heard good things about them, but most people don't want to have to go through the admissions process again (for HS)!! And some don't like it bec it's more traditional and structured. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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The negative press on UB is relatively new - it's a terrific school that gets less press in general b/c it is a single sex catholic school and so the pool is automatically smaller - for what it's worth, a friend who runs an after school program in the city and deals with kids from private schools all over the city has always siad that the sacred heart girls are the nicest, best behaved, mose polite and participatory kids he deals with - and everyone I know with a child there absolutely raves about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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SHSH is co-ed (not single-sex) and not catholic, but episcopalian. Another example of how 'informed' posters on UB are!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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duh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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i thought it was sacred heart - i'm clearly an idiot! - my st hilda's friends are happy, but it is an uws school and religious (some friends withdrew the application b/c the head turned them off with as overly religious speech at the info night - forgive me for my error! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] my dd (3) wishes her name was isabella. she keeps asking why didn't you name me isabella? it's almost making me wish i had. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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it's a phase [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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okay. helpful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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^^i meant that truly. helpful that it's just a phase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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or: YW. My friends dd went through this around that age. She was insisting on being called a name and wouldn't answer or become annoyed when not called by that name. It lasted a few months tops [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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the first of many things you will have done wrong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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