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[ - ] i just interviewed a guy named Jimmy. Not James, not even Jim. Jimmy. why not give the kid a proper name???? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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I've posted this before...my MIL named my dh Freddy. That's his name and it't not short for anything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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Freddy! Does he go by Fred? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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no just Freddy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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So he must like that better than Fred. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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I work with guy called Johnny, not John, Johnny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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not flaming but does it really matter in this day and age? does his name being jimmy over jim really make a difference? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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honestly, we're in a pretty corporate environment and yes, jimmy implies a note a familiarity that we don't have. It won't inhibit him, just comes across as awkward. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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Actually, it matters a great deal. There have been dozens of studies about the impact of an individual's name on his success, particularly pertaining to jobs. This is why people with stereotypically "ethnic" names are often at a disadvantage. And why searching for "trendy" names is a joke and harms your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Ok, Music Class Moms and nannies. Look out. I'm bringing my dc to class and he has the most atrocious sounding cough. I do not care what you think. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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You also do not care about possibly infecting us. Thanks loads. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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ditto. Gotta love the mom's who put themselves above others. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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oops, typo- I meant "moms". :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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you are a dope. seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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you're special and must have loads of friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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selfish much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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I'm sure you will sleep good if your dc (because of your selfishness) gets another dc (possibly one that is immuno compromised but the class doesn't know it) or a pg mom sick. Great going [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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np: I always sleep "good" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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OP: Hey, germs are everywhere. I'm doing you a favor! If your kid catches this nasty virus it will only make him or her stronger in the long run. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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keep telling yourself that and all germs aren't viruses. BTW there are viruses and bacteria that may be ok to you and your dc, but could be very harmful to others. SO STOP BEING SELFISH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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grow up. once your kid goes to school she will have one cold after another all through the school year. NP, btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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no you grow up. I do have school aged kids. Yes many kids get sick in school why? because so many selfish parents send their SICK kids to school. They don't want to be bothered with them. Not only are they doing wrong by their sick dc but others. When my kids are sick they go to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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^^they don't go to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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OP: Well, if you're on the UWS and you don't like my plan, then you and YOUR dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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^^^^^can skip [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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oh, you're UWS. That explains it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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I hope to god your dc never gets so sick from someone elses selfish act..and if he/she does you have no right to complain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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I am fine with that. The oldest kid in nursery school brings home new bugs every month and gives it to every one of us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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We'll see you there. I'm not worried and we can go out for coffee later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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well just dont sit too close to anyone and they'll be fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you think celebrities do PGD and IVF for gender selection more than most other people? What if they're having IVF anyway? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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highly likely. so many of them get 1 of each twins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
[ - ] What are typical household duties for p/t nanny of 3 mos old? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.29.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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baby laundry. clean baby bottles. empty baby diaper trash. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
[ - ] started 6 mo ds on cereal on Monday. when do i introduce another food? I know it's a 3 day rule, but is that after the first food too? Or should i wait a week for his system to get acclimated? (this is dc#2, i just have no memory from #1) 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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We never followed the 3-day rule...our ped was pretty lax about that. He said if there's an actual allergy, you know right away. If it's a sensitivity, you can usually spot that as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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even for the first food? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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Yup...it all worked out okay. But, you should do whatever makes you feel comfortable! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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great. i think i'll follow the 3 day rule and start some avocado tomorrow. see how he takes to it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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the purpose of the three day rule is not that it gives the body time to adjust. it's so that if there's a reaction, you have a better idea of what food they are reacting to. so it's fine to introduce another new food now. i just wouldn't give a fruit salad with five new fruits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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right, i know that normally. I was just thinking since it was the first solids he was eating if i should wait longer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:28 AM Flag
[ - ] how bad is it to leave a job after only 1 month? are they going to try to undermine my reputation? the thing is, the salary is way below market rate and I'm planning to leave for a much better paying job, so how can they really blame me? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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just leave it off your resume. I once left a job at the end of the first week. I knew it was a huge mistake and decided to cut my losses asap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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were there any long term repercussions? I'm thinking that if I don't use them as a reference and I know I did the job well for that month, what's the problem...but maybe I'm wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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none. I would say just leave it off. The gap won't be apparent and you won't look flaky or need to offer an explanation every time you interview. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:06 AM Flag
[ - ] why do most women instinctively want to have a girl? I also wanted a girl and ended up having a boy --now I can't imagine having a girl and think boiys are the most delicious lovey things. Is it the clothes? Becasue I will admit girl's clothes is way cuter. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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I have 2 girls and am pg with a boy. I was honestly a little bummed and freaked out at first. I only know how to deal with girls and this will be very diff. for me. BUT he is healthy (knock on wood) and that's all that matters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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you will love having a boy. they are so much fun and so lovey. I do think it is nice to have daughter when your children are grown (most women are much closer with their adult daughters than sons) but a little boy is just heaven. You will love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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thanks. I'm sure it will be a nice change [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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I don't think this si true. I wanted a boy both times and have 2 girls - now pg with #3 and would alomst rather have another girl....for the ease of things.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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For me I wanted a boy because I am not a girly girl (don't wear make up, have little fashion sense etc) so I just felt more comfortable about having a boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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I am not sure your assertion is right. I know for me, I really wanted a boy, and dh really wanted a girl. We ended up with a boy, and we're both super happy now (of course). Now pg with #2 -- we both wanted a girl but it's a boy. But I always wanted some of each, and more boys than girls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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^^^ reading the response above me, I am also not a girly girl, but my boy likes some girl things (eg nail polish, which I never wear, wants long hair, etc). He is so perfect and cute and easy and smart :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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NP: My boy used love to play with my make-up, brushes etc. Now that he's 5 that is all done with! He's all "boy" now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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I think maybe it's because it's what we know, maybe a change to relive our own girlhood? That said, I never wanted a girl. Had a boy first and wanted another, but now that I have my girl I am delighted with her too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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I always wanted boys b/c I adored the little boys I used to babysit for in college. I think they are "delicious lovey things" as well. I have two dds and they are so wonderful. I realized after first db that gender is only a part of who this individual is. If you want a dd b/c you love the clothes or a ds b/c you want to do little league you may find that you have a dc with no interest in those things. My youngest dd loves trains, cars, playing baseball while my older dd dresses like a fairy . Who knows what their interests (and wardrobe) will be as they get older? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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How old is your DS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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16 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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Is he still delicious at 16? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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he's yummy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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Op? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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yes, i'm here. just cuddling with my boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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no. I'm OP. My DS is 13 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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I just felt like I could relate better to a girl. I come from a family with 3 girls, so the idea of having a boy just seemed foreign to me. I thought we would do the types of things I liked to do as a girl. It's not about the clothes for me, and I'm not really that girly. But I liked doing crafts with my mom and imagined doing that kind of thing with my dd. I did end up having 2 girls, so I'll never know what it would have been like to have a boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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np: never say never LOL I did and not pg with #3 and it's a boy after 2 girls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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Well, I'm 40 and dh and I are very careful. It's highly doubtful but you're right, it's not impossible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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I'm 40 too and dh are always careful. Both of our pg were planned. Now I'm pg with #3 and he was a big SURPRISE. We couldn't figure out how the hell that happened when we are so careful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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That would actually be a big problem for us, so I really hope it doesn't happen. We can't afford for me to stay home much longer (#2 is 3yo). Our sex life is really bad right now, though, so it's highly unlikely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Murray Hill/Gramercy Park Moms --where do you take your kids to get their hair cut? That Kids Cutz place of 30th & 3rd has closed I think. Need to tkae 1 yo DS for his first haircut and I want to take him to a kids places. TIA. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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it relocated into Homefront Toys on E. 29th just off of Third. Same haircutters, just a less visible space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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^^^^if you don't know Homefront Toys it is above the hardware store, you enter through it. next door to Tonic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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Thanks!! I had no idea that there was even a toy store there. And I have lived in the nieghborhood for 15 years (although only 1 with a child). Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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np: they used to have a playspace there too but it closed down like 5-6 yrs ago. I miss that space [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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huh. interesting. we as far as play space, I go the Gymboree on 38th & 3rd. It's pretty nice. Are there any others? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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Did you join Scandinavia House? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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not yet. since we are so close to the gymboree. but maybe in the fall when hte weather gets cooler. Is it nice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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Scandinavia is cute. Best part is membership is $65 per year. There is one playroom open year-round, and then the second they open for winter. Best value in the city. You must know about Wee Ones on 36th and Little Spirits on 38th. But i did like Gymboree the best of that bunch too. If you are a sahm or wahm, look into the St Vartans Playgroup In St. Vartans park for when dc turns 2. Great program, great value. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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yeah, I am familar with them. But we live arouind the corner from gymboree so that is just the easiest. And it is pretty big and nice. I will definaltey do Scandinavia House when it gets cooler and thanks for the tip on the St. Vartan playground. We go to that playground regularly but I didn't know there was group there. How do you join? Internet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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No internet, in person. Very low-key program. Stick your head in the building and say hello to Stefanie, she is the director. classes are M and W for 2 yo and T and Th for 3 yo. Program hours are 10:30 to 1:00. Stefanie usually gets there around 9:30. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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Do you (the mother) attend the program or is it a drop off program? Sorry for all the questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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must attend, that is why you need to be a sahm or wahm to go. it is a parent cooperative, so you have some limited participation responsibilities. you can sign up for one or two days per week, so if you do woh, if you could structure your schedule you could do it too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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I WOHM, but I have a very flexible schedule and my mother is my child care, so I am sure we could work it out. SOunds greats. Thanks for the tip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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Grandparent might work. Definitely check it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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The toy store is a bit much. I can't shop there because it is soooo crowded with things. but if you need something, it is bound to be there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:59 AM Flag
[ - ] was hanging out with friend and her 2yo grabbed toy from my 16mo db. what should i say when this happens? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.29.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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You're kidding me right?? Get over it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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np: why should she? Kids need to learn manners and taking turns. This kids mom should have said no we will give it back and when they are finished you can have a turn [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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she didn't say anything to her 2 yr old? Did you dc cry? I would have said Johnny now let's give this back to Jane and when she's finished with it I promise your turn is next [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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she didn't say anything to her db and mine didn't cry but looked freaked out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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well next time just ask for the toy back and you will give them a turn when your dc finishes playing. I can't stand clueless moms (not you but the other mom) they play dumb and let their kids do whatever they want even if it means being rude to other kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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If she was a friend I would have talked to the 2yo and said that this is not okay. She will get her turn later. Btw, y7ou really don't know how to act in a situation like this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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no, where can i get some info? is there a book. i know i sound clueless [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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is she your friend or not? can;t you talk to her about things that bug you? her kid's behavior annoyed you a little so speak up to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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np-I wouldn't say "this is not okay." That sounds too much like disciplining someone else's dc to me. I would say, "db was playing with that. Can you give it back, please, and I'll make sure you get a turn in 5 minutes?" If the dc doesn't give it back, and the mother doesn't say anything, I would probably let it go. But your friend would probably take your cue. If she didn't and it continued to be a problem I would talk to her about setting up some ground rules for playdates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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you have to be kidding me. If you and I hang out together and we are friends you are allowed to tell my kid that something is not okay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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It bothers me when people do that with my dc w/o giving me a chance to say it first. It feels like overstepping to me. If I'm not in the room or something it's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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^^^Also, you don't know that the other mother agrees that it's not okay. I've actually been at playgroups where the moms believe they should only get involved if someone's getting hurt. That's not my style, but that's why you should talk about ground rules. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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np: AHHHH, this is my current problem. Looking for advice about a close friend who always seems to discipline my dc. I know she must think I am ridiculous to be offended when she does this, but the whole point is that I am sitting RIGHT THERE and I don't get a chance to discipline because she jumps in first. Since you too are bothered by this, what do you do/say? [ Reply | More
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ita. i would say it in that way as well. or at least hope that i would in the moment. i think it's best to come in as non-confrontational as possible with little kids at that age. they don't know they are doing something wrong, but need to be gently corrected. the other mom should be doing it, of course [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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No need for it to awkward or putting yourself in the position of disciplining someone else's dc. What you do is say, "Joey, Harry was playing with that. Let's find a fun toy and see if he will trade you. It isn't fun when someone takes your toy. It is fun to trade." Then you show the two of them how to trade. Your younger one will have fun being part of the game and the older one will start learning how to negotiate play situations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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np: good advice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:58 AM Flag
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I assume we are not talking about a friend-friend but just an acquaintance from the playground or a mommy-and-me class? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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this is a classic problem. i think this comes up in a variety of ways. i'm a little timid in general, but have learned to assert myself just a little. i've regretted them times i didn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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i have a dad acquaintance and we take our kids to the beach sometimes. kids are 3. he has this theory that kids should just work out everything amongst themselves, short of killing each other. he's not lazy either, it's just a genuine theory that they learn best that way. he says, we may have genius negotiators on our hands and we'll never know. but it's hard for me to follow along with this even a little, ESPECIALLY when my child is being the aggressor. it's interesting, though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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I subscribe to that theory also but not when the kids are at that age. A 16mo is in no situation to work this out. Even the 2yo has no real grasp of what happened either. I have a 5 and a 3yo at home and I usually let those two work it out most of the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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I have thi s problem constantly as my dd isn't very aggressive and tends to give up toys quickly if another kid cries for them. I haven't figured out the solution other than to say to the offending child, "Oh, Lili was playing with that. Can we find you another fun toy to play with and then you'll have a turn with this when lili is finished?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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You're supposed to distract the grabber with another toy and return the toy to the kid who had it. Not a lot to say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.01.09, 09:22 PM Flag
[ - ] The shows about woman that have multiples over 3 make me so angry. Those women are ignorant and selfish and a drain on society's resources. And they dare to beg for help from the community as if they had no choice in having 5 kids. Really infuriates me. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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i disagree. but i haven't had breakfast yet so i don't really want to argue about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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OP: Please tell me why you disagree -I was in a bad mood when I watched so maybe you'll change my mind! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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here are some of my thoughts. i think children are inherently good. i don't agree with the "drain on society's resources" argument when it comes to having kids, whether you have them one at a time or five at a time. i have no problem with asking for help from your community. that's what communities do. they help friends and neighbors when they need help. i would criticize someone who demanded help, whether they had ten singletons or two sets of quintuplets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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I understand (and appreciate) your points but 5 healthy children are a lot less of a drain on society than 5 preemies! I think it is crazy that women would rather their babies be seriously ill with terrible developmental delays, or even die, rather than reduce to a number that will in all likelihood be healthy. It is NUTS!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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i don't see myself doing it any time soon, but i disagree that it's a bad thing. although in a way, i'm surprised the insurance companies pay for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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are you talking about selective reduction? I'm all for this, but I'm sure we'll get flamed. ITA it's selfish to have so many [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:34 AM Flag
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so you are not a fan of a woman's right to chose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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I am absolutely in favor of a woman's right to choose but think it is completely ignorant when she is risking the lives of her babies! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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So, their choice is fine if it is the one you would make.... Don't get me wrong, I don't think it is the better choice but part of allowing an adult to have a choice is allowing them to make what we would consider a "bad" choice. I mean Pat Robertson believes in a woman's right to choose. So long as she chooses what he believes God would want. I don't see your beliefs as any different -- just your outcome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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OP: I get ya. I just felt sick looking at those poor babies - I felt like they were suffering needlessly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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No. They are suffering because something bad happened. You are focusing on the wrong thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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What do you mean "something bad happened"??? As if that was not an absolute certainty for a woman carrying 5 babies?? Please explain yourself!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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No. The opposite. Not all multiples have bad outcomes. And not all multiples end up having the full number of implantations. (Natural/spontaneous abortion) When those babies are "suffering" they are suffering because "something bad happened." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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OP: I agree that not all multiples have bad outcomes, but am not getting your "something bad happened" argument. Find me one set up quintuplets that weren't preemies and maybe you can win this argument. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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They need not be full term to not "suffer needlessly." Your point is that all quintuplets suffer therefore the mothers ought to have reduced. Granted quintuplets don't make it to full term but I am not granting your logical leap that they suffer needlessly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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ITA with the OP. It's also so risky to the babies. They and their doctors are morons. I can't even stand to see those septuplets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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Oh come on boron. Like your opinion even matters. You sound like the selfish one to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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OP: Please explain how I sound selfish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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Figure it out for yourself. I'm totally not going to talk to you because you're an idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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Wow. What is going on in your life to cause such rage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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You could make the same argument about any family that has more than two kids is using up more than their share of natural resources. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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OP: No, the majority of women aren't on hospital bedrest for their entire pregnancy, don't need 100 hospital staff to deliver their babies, and most babies aren't in ICU for months on end with long-lasting problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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AMEN!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Have all the fun, interesting and witty moms abandoned UB for good? Everyone here is humorless, uptight or santicmoniuos. CNET you have ruined my favorite past time. You suck. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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i hate to say that you don't seem full of humor or lowkey or nonjudgemental. i guess you belong here with the rest of us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:48 AM Flag
[ - ] ok, i am totally nervous. db has 18mo doc appt. and since 12mo has been having a complete breakdown at the office as soon as we walk in. what can i do to calm her? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.29.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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nothing. just grit your teeth adn apologize when you leave. your child is not the only one that does ths. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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bring her favorite things. My dd did the same thing. She would wig out as soon as she saw the building [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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My ds did this for a while too. It's normal for some kids. Try to stay calm yourself and just apologize if you feel it's really disturbing others. The staff will have seen it all before. Also bribery with a new toy etc might help! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:49 AM Flag
[ - ] i've been having a very rough couple of months. a lot of things happening and i'm having a hard time workign through it. what amazes me is how easy it is to just stop talking to people. i don't want to talk to my friends or neighbors or see anyone and it's so easy to do. no one even notices. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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wow. sorry you're having a touch time. I'm not sure stopping talking to anyone is a good long term solution but if it helps in the short term go for it. btw, you don't know who notices what -- just b/c they don't say anything to you about it doesn't mean they don't notice. i hope things improve for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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thanks. i think that i don't see or speak to people that much. but before it was b/c i was too busy. now it's b/c i don't want to see or speak to anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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Sounds like depression. I know, cause I've had chronic depression on and off for the past 14 years. First off, there's nothing "wrong" with being depressed, and taking some time to try to heal. But if you find that it goes on for more than like three weeks, and if you find it difficult to get out of bed or to take care of basics of life, then *definitely* find a therapist you like and trust and respect. Problem is depression can start with "just not wanting to talk to people" and if all goes well, that will go away, and you'll feel better again. But in many cases it can easily spiral quickly into a much more serious place. So just watch yourself closely, maybe even keep a chart to see if you are improving, staying static, or starting to descend, in which case, don't wait. find someone right away. often there's a waiting period for the good therapists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Can you make small steps in getting back into talking to people. I can get to a stage where I don't want to talk to people but I make myself call one of my friends who I know will be easy to talk to and pleased to hear from me and after that I start to want to speak to other people more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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i'm not even interested in taking small steps. maybe in a few weeks. i was thinking of pushing myself but i think i'll end up resenting it. i feel like other people are intruding on my concentration and misery. and i resent having to make small talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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^^^meant as a response to poster above. but there's no reply button on her post. at least i don't see one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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I did this before and ended up isolating myself. try to find at least one good friend to open up to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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you mean other than UB? :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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jaja, yeah, a real person! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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i'm in a bad spot right now. i don't feel comfortable talking to anyone about what's going on. but i get angry about talking about trivialities. so i just don't talk to anyone. but i think it's slowly getting better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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what are you going through? i went through this too as my mother descended into a very long and drawn out terminal illness. i couldn't STAND conversations about what kind of invitations to get or what color the curtains should be. drove me nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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i notice. you seem depressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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:-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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Wow, I am having something similar, but it's more that I can't bring myself to do anything. I have talked to the few people I feel comfortable about my problems (DH, some friends) but honestly I can't keep bothering them and I feel I must keep up a front with others. BUt I sit here at work and have to force myself to do simple things. Was just noting the name of a therapist when I came across your post. I think we could both use it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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i'm not sure. it's very up and down so some days i think i must see a professional and other days i think i'm absolutely fine. except that i'm still avoiding people and getting together with relatives or friends really puts me in a funk. i'm not sure why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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what happened - did your work status change? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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no. just a lot of bad news lately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendations for an ophthalmologist/eye specialist for kids? Just need to check my ds (3y) eyes. Thanks. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.29.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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yes Dr Fredrick Wang on E. 40st. He's great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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Mark Steele [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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Mark Steele Work: 212-981-9800 Address: 40 W. 72nd St, bet CPW and Columbus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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np: His partner, Dr. Ceisler, is also very good. We saw her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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NP: We also saw Dr. Ceisler, and liked her a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.13.09, 05:57 PM Flag
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He is great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.13.09, 05:49 PM Flag
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np ITA. My dc has a "lazy eye" when tired and I took her to him. He also takes many insurances, if that's important to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.13.09, 05:59 PM Flag
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We had a bad experience with Brian Campolattaro (who I think partners with Wang) yet I had heard many good things about him. We went to Steele after that and were quite pleased. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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Love Dr. Richard Koty on East 72nd (between 3rd and Lex) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:50 AM Flag
[ - ] i'm going to hire a live-in nanny (no flames pls.) would a nanny prefer a bedroom w/ a full size bed, but it takes up about half of the room...or would she prefer a twin size bed and have more room? Twin is probably the right size for the room...but want make sure someone is comfortable. tia for any insight. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.29.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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Twin unless she is having people to stay over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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OP: not planning on having her have anyone stay over...hoping to find someone to live in monday - friday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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if it were me, I'd probably prefer the twin and a little sitting area w/ a tv. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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Twin. I think only in America do we use full beds for 1 adult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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twin with a tv and dresser [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:48 AM Flag
[ - ] 4yo is interested in learning to read, and I've been trying to help her, but I don't want to screw her up -- of course I know how to read, but I don't know anything about teaching someone else how. Advice? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.29.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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I taught my dd to read at that age. I first started with the sounds of letters, then the sounds 2 letters make when put together. We took out the magnadoodle and started with 2 letter words and built up from there. She was eager and excited. Made it a fun game to play at the end of the day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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teach you child to read in 100 easy lessons by engleman (and others I can't remember). or subscribe to headsprout.com (very good tutorial sessions). starfall.com is free and great for learning letters, not as great for teaching reading. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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I bought some of the LeapFrog videos -- they really helped dd learn the letter sounds, and how to put the sounds together. She is now the only dc in her preschool class who reads. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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My dd was interested at that age. We read to her a lot, and when she asked us how to spell words we would ask her what sounds she hears instead of just telling her. It's torture at first, and you just want to tell her how to spell, but it really helped. My dh is a 1st grade teacher, and he told me to do that. She already knew most of the letter sounds at that point from a variety of sources. Also, dh bought the Electric Company dvd. It's great; you should get it for your dd! She learned a lot from it, and it's funny. I learned to read from that show, too. My dd is 5 now and finishing kindergarten, and she reads at a 3rd-grade level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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OP: thanks for the advice all. we already have the leapfrog videos and best of electric company and I agree, they're great (and I'd much rather put that on than TV). I'll check the websites and such mentioned and I appreciate the ideas about how letters sound together etc. It's been so long since I learned to read, it's hard to break it down! but your advice will help, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:36 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone tried those Balloon in a Box (helium) kits from Party City? Do they work well? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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why not just buy the balloons? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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Thought it might be a better value and I don't have to worry about running to the store the day of the party for pick-up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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you are right. you don't really want to run around with a bouquet of balloons on the day of the party when so many other things need to be done. Get the helium tank and let your kids help you inflate them. It is so much more fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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Balloon Bouquets NY deliver (and not outrageously expensive)good choice for basic heliums. Balloons to go is also great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:55 AM