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05.29.08, 06:45 AM General Topics
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i've been having a very rough couple of months. a lot of things happening and i'm having a hard time workign through it. what amazes me is how easy it is to just stop talking to people. i don't want to talk to my friends or neighbors or see anyone and it's so easy to do. no one even notices. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.29.08, 06:45 AM Flag
 

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wow. sorry you're having a touch time. I'm not sure stopping talking to anyone is a good long term solution but if it helps in the short term go for it. btw, you don't know who notices what -- just b/c they don't say anything to you about it doesn't mean they don't notice. i hope things improve for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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thanks. i think that i don't see or speak to people that much. but before it was b/c i was too busy. now it's b/c i don't want to see or speak to anyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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Sounds like depression. I know, cause I've had chronic depression on and off for the past 14 years. First off, there's nothing "wrong" with being depressed, and taking some time to try to heal. But if you find that it goes on for more than like three weeks, and if you find it difficult to get out of bed or to take care of basics of life, then *definitely* find a therapist you like and trust and respect. Problem is depression can start with "just not wanting to talk to people" and if all goes well, that will go away, and you'll feel better again. But in many cases it can easily spiral quickly into a much more serious place. So just watch yourself closely, maybe even keep a chart to see if you are improving, staying static, or starting to descend, in which case, don't wait. find someone right away. often there's a waiting period for the good therapists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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Can you make small steps in getting back into talking to people. I can get to a stage where I don't want to talk to people but I make myself call one of my friends who I know will be easy to talk to and pleased to hear from me and after that I start to want to speak to other people more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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i'm not even interested in taking small steps. maybe in a few weeks. i was thinking of pushing myself but i think i'll end up resenting it. i feel like other people are intruding on my concentration and misery. and i resent having to make small talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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^^^meant as a response to poster above. but there's no reply button on her post. at least i don't see one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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I did this before and ended up isolating myself. try to find at least one good friend to open up to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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you mean other than UB? :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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jaja, yeah, a real person! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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i'm in a bad spot right now. i don't feel comfortable talking to anyone about what's going on. but i get angry about talking about trivialities. so i just don't talk to anyone. but i think it's slowly getting better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:10 AM Flag
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what are you going through? i went through this too as my mother descended into a very long and drawn out terminal illness. i couldn't STAND conversations about what kind of invitations to get or what color the curtains should be. drove me nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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i notice. you seem depressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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:-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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Wow, I am having something similar, but it's more that I can't bring myself to do anything. I have talked to the few people I feel comfortable about my problems (DH, some friends) but honestly I can't keep bothering them and I feel I must keep up a front with others. BUt I sit here at work and have to force myself to do simple things. Was just noting the name of a therapist when I came across your post. I think we could both use it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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i'm not sure. it's very up and down so some days i think i must see a professional and other days i think i'm absolutely fine. except that i'm still avoiding people and getting together with relatives or friends really puts me in a funk. i'm not sure why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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what happened - did your work status change? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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no. just a lot of bad news lately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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