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[ - ] 6.5 wks pg with #1 and extremely bloated. is this normal? aside from drinking lots of water and eating healthy, anything I can take? Gas X ok?? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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its totally normal. I'm not sure about Gas X - check with your OB first. But honestly I wouldn't bother taking anything - its just part of early pg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:51 PM Flag
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totally normal. will get better by the end of first trimester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 03:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone who judges me because I gave birth without meds and thinks I did it to be selfless is so off-base. I don't talk about it except when asked (usually by close friends who are pregnant and want to get info) and did it because for my first, I really felt like the epidural set me back and that's partially why I ended up in labor for 30 hours. (My doctor says she suspects as much.) I don't react well to medication, and this time around, I wanted to just try another route since I was so miserable the first time. And it worked for me. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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ok, i'll make a note of that on your report card [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:14 PM Flag
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I get it, and if people want to be judgy aholes about it, let them. They need something to feel good about, obviously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:18 PM Flag
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People are judgemental of that? I got the epidural both times but wish I could say I went without meds. Good for you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:25 PM Flag
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np: why do you wish you could say you went without it? nothing wrong with getting an epi. I wish I could have but because of medical issues I couldn't and had to endure the horrible pain of going med. free. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 04:17 AM Flag
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I did the same thing. Hated the epidural the first time (hated the needle, the numb feeling, 20 hr labor, vaccuum extraction.....). 2nd time, quick, easy labor, four painful pushes and out popped the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:41 PM Flag
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i did it because i don't like needles and tubes in my back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:08 PM Flag
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Totally ditto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:34 AM Flag
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I'm glad you did what was best for you. I had a medication-free birth at home because it was what was most comfortable for me and made me feel safe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:11 PM Flag
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ita, i would risk my baby's life for my own selfish needs too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 11:32 PM Flag
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has it come to this? why oh why do we women judge each other for every single thing? And OP, you don't need to explain yourself or justify yourself to anyone. Good grief. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 04:04 AM Flag
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if it was the first without meds it would have been harder. From what I can tell the second seems to pop out every time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 04:17 AM Flag
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no one gives a rats ass though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:57 AM Flag
[ - ] My friend just found out that her husband has been having an affair for like 3 years. So bad 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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^and that he gave her herpes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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That really sucks. How could she not know???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:26 PM Flag
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she knew there were issues. they'd been in therapy and he blamed all of there problems on her. then she sort of suspected something and intercepted an email. he said he was thinking of cheating but hadn't and finally admitted and it just got worse and worse and worse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:28 PM Flag
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Men suck. What is wrong with people? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:32 PM Flag
[ - ] has it happened to you? have you just gotten a job and found out that you were pregos... what did you do? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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Quit and decided to stay home full time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:30 PM Flag
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I think it's best to be honest. Will you work post-baby? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:32 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the best flower delivery service? I am in NY need to send flowers to LA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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martha stewart flowers are actually great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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Proflowers is good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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Where in LA? I am in LA, and have a great local florist, depending on where you need them delivered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:48 PM Flag
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^^http://www.gillyflowers.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I had a 2nd degree tear with both deliveries. It still hurts to have sex, and db #2 is 18 mo. WTF? Anyone else have this? Anything I can do? tia. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:36 PM Flag
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are you still bfing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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might get better when you wean. sometimes the hormones make your genital tissues a little different. mine stayed slightly engorged/inflamed which made my healed area more painful. go better when the hormones evened out. but still feels different and somewhat sensitive in an unpleasant way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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op: so is sex ruined forever? holy shit! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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noooo, not necessarily. but if you're concerned, have your ob look at it to see how it's healed. mine basically said, if there is not chronic pain, then i should leave it and not get a revision (which i had asked about). because there are so many nerve endings in that area that getting a revision would mean risking ending up with some kind of nerve damage and chronic pain. ughh. so i'm hanging with slight discomfort. or, as *he* put it, my "new normal"... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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op: ugh. I had the revision after #1 because the pain was constant and unbearable. Now it's just slightly painful, but enough to ruin sex. Has it gotten any better for you at all over time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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yes. it's actually not really a problem during sex. it's more the day to day. it just feels *different* all the time and kind of tingles sometimes. but that's much better than when i was nursing and it felt like the inside of my vagina was constantly rubbing against my underpants. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:47 PM Flag
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^^^ and does yours look different? that's what bothers me most about mine. somewhat assymetrical now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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ask your OB about a cream called estrace - it made a world of difference for me. rubbed it right into scar and pain was gone within days. (np) Oh, and feel totally back to normal now, pain was not forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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or: will do. thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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i had 2nd degree with both, but it doesnt hurt, sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Need some feedback please. My sn ds has been attending a nd preschool with a SEIT. Next year the preK there is a 5 day a week 5 hr a day committment. The school director has supported us in therapy and offered to permit ds to arrive late/leave early or even have some services concurrent with school ie PT during playground. He just got a spot at ps41 pm preK tha is only a 2.5 hour day 5x a week. I love his current school. but ds has IEP for 111 hours of realted services. It would be an easier schedule to go to ps 41 but we enjoy the private school he's been going to. I am worried about the rigor of staying, but also know he loves it there. This year he only goes 3 days a week for 5 hours a day. What would you suggest? switch to a new setting at ps41 with a shorter day or stay where at the supportive school he likes with friends he enjoys but a much more demanding schedule? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 05.28.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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op = sorry ds has 11 hours of services not 111! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:37 PM Flag
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really? because of the shorter day or the benfit of the school itself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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You will get mroe responses at youbemom.com most of UB's sn commnity has migrated over there due to cross posting this board is no longer considered safe by our community. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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ok will do thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I feared this day would come. The older of our two children (aged 1.5 and 3.5 yrs) has come to dislike a babysitter who has been with us for two years. It started gradually about three months ago, and now he has reached the state of total antipathy for her. When pressed for details, he says she "isn't silly" and "never laughs" and "doesn't like to play funny games." I agree that she is a serious woman, but we have always liked her for her integrity, common sense, and reliability. Would you end the relationship right away so as not to make your child unhappy, or would you approach the sitter and suggest ways she might be able to engage him a bit more on a child's level? She babysits for us two evenings a week without fail, so there is an ongoing relationship and commitment. I don't want to lose my son's trust and confidence in me, so intuition dictates that I say goodbye to this sitter, but I also don't want to prematurely end the arrangement if there is some way to salvage it by speaking with her. FYI, this is not my son't ploy to get us to stay home those nights, as he has specifically stated the two other sitters he loves and thinks are "silly" and "funny" and whom he would prefer to see instead of this other woman. What would you do? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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tough one. how much waking time does he spend with this sitter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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He is with her for 3 waking hours on each of the 2 nights she is here, for a total of 6 waking hours each week. The period includes playtime, dinner, reading, bedtime routine. I have two freewheeling, happy-go-lucky little boys, and even dinner and bedtime are "playful" for them. I fear she is just not the right personality for them, particularly my older son, but feel so conflicted about giving up a smart and capable sitter like this one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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how many waking hours does she spend with him? in any event, I think I'd start to phase her out (we went through something similar, but it was with a part time nanny -- ie spending a lot more hours with the kids), and I could see my older dd was not respecting her, and I didn't want to force the issue -- I think the nanny realized it too, b/c she left by mutual agreement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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i would get a new sitter. childhood is too short to subject your dc to someone so who makes him unhappy when there are other options. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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Whatever you do, remember that young children are very fickle creatures. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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I would try to manipulate the situation before giving up the sitter (hard to find good ones!). Point out to your son that while she may not be giggly she's great at reading, cooking, whatever... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:51 PM Flag
[ - ] just bought dd a bento box as her lunch box . i am so sad . she is getting so big 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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curious why a bento box instead of a regular lunch box? have seen them online but never in person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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Bento this baby! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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so pretentious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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not really, it's very practical. That way, her sushi doesn't mingle with the mango, which she hates. And I don't have a bunch of little containers and lids to sort through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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why are you giving her mango if she hates it (unless you were being sarcastic) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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no, she hates it when the mango mingles with the sushi. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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she brings sushi to school???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:27 PM Flag
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just the kind we make at home with veggies and rice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 10:49 PM Flag
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I agree. Bentos are great and the size is right. It's a great way to pack a lunch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:33 PM Flag
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LOL - how is a bento box pretentious? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:43 PM Flag
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link? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:41 PM Flag
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np: i use sigg midi and maxi boxes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:39 PM Flag
[ - ] george w walks funny 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Go Pittsburgh 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.28.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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go where? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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go win the Stanley Cup and beat Detroit agianlike you did tonight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:02 PM Flag
[ - ] jcrew have a $1,100 jacket???? wtf? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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link? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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http://www.jcrew.com/catalog/product.jhtml?id=prod90849161&catId=cat303198 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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underwhelming for $1.1K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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ew! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] If my almost 5yo goes to summer camp from 9 to 12, what can she do in the afternoons? I have 1 afternoon a week figured out - dance class. What else to fill up the week? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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How about the park? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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park, pool, hang out w/ a friend, run through a sprinkler, ride a bike, chill out in her room and have tea parties... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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where are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 09:09 PM Flag
[ - ] why do we watch Ultimate Fighter every Wed? Why didn't I remember the pool was open until 9 and take dd? Why do I work when I hate it and we could get by on 1 salary? why do I feel bad about sending dd to a good public (free) school instead of private school? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Sounds like you need to buy Post-Its [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Cause it's fun; You'll take her swimming next week; working is good for your the soul; if you were in private school you'd say, why am I paying $30K a year when I could send my child to a good public school for free. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:59 PM Flag
[ - ] I decided to quit drinking during the week and now I have completely lost my desire to drink at all. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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i think you gave it to me ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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i did this too. i like it. it makes me eat less at night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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