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05.28.08, 20:36 PM General Topics
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I had a 2nd degree tear with both deliveries. It still hurts to have sex, and db #2 is 18 mo. WTF? Anyone else have this? Anything I can do? tia. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.28.08, 08:36 PM Flag

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are you still bfing? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:37 PM Flag

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:38 PM Flag

might get better when you wean. sometimes the hormones make your genital tissues a little different. mine stayed slightly engorged/inflamed which made my healed area more painful. go better when the hormones evened out. but still feels different and somewhat sensitive in an unpleasant way. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:40 PM Flag

op: so is sex ruined forever? holy shit! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:42 PM Flag

noooo, not necessarily. but if you're concerned, have your ob look at it to see how it's healed. mine basically said, if there is not chronic pain, then i should leave it and not get a revision (which i had asked about). because there are so many nerve endings in that area that getting a revision would mean risking ending up with some kind of nerve damage and chronic pain. ughh. so i'm hanging with slight discomfort. or, as *he* put it, my "new normal"... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:44 PM Flag

op: ugh. I had the revision after #1 because the pain was constant and unbearable. Now it's just slightly painful, but enough to ruin sex. Has it gotten any better for you at all over time? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:45 PM Flag

yes. it's actually not really a problem during sex. it's more the day to day. it just feels *different* all the time and kind of tingles sometimes. but that's much better than when i was nursing and it felt like the inside of my vagina was constantly rubbing against my underpants. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:47 PM Flag

^^^ and does yours look different? that's what bothers me most about mine. somewhat assymetrical now. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:48 PM Flag

ask your OB about a cream called estrace - it made a world of difference for me. rubbed it right into scar and pain was gone within days. (np) Oh, and feel totally back to normal now, pain was not forever. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:49 PM Flag

or: will do. thanks. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:50 PM Flag

i had 2nd degree with both, but it doesnt hurt, sorry [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.28.08, 08:39 PM Flag