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05.29.08, 04:59 AM General Topics
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advice? i want to sahm. DH wants me to keep wohm. i have a stable and extremely lucrative job so i know now is not the right time to quit - however the deeper issue here is i dont think my DH would value my contributions as a SAHM, although i know in my heart it would be the right thing for my 3 dcs. tia if you have any thoughts [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.29.08, 04:59 AM Flag
 

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sorry i would keep working. its just too many risks - financial and also marriage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:02 AM Flag
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op: dh is that you? just kidding. thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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My mom was a sahm and my dad definitely did not value her contribution. He would blame her for their money troubles. Interestingly enough my sisters and I all wohm. What are your hours like at work? Do you have alot of flexibility? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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door to door usually 7-6 although i have quite a bit of flexibility (rarely miss school events). Some travel but i typically work from home after every business trip. live in the suburbs so i cant do their drop off pick up every day. as they get older i feel that i could be so helpful being the one who hears about their day immediately after school, hears the chatter in the back seat - i feel that they need me more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:08 AM Flag
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->also, i have 3 dcs and i am 40. i know a lot of this is about me being tired of the grind [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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Could you possibly work from home one day a week? It is a tough call to make considering your dh's feelings. In addition, being there for your kids is important but so is job/financial stability. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:13 AM Flag
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can you find a happy medium - like cut back hours or job share? my brother is like this with my SIL. He is a real jerk about her not working and complains constantly about her spending habits (she is always scheming ways of making $ from home too) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:14 AM Flag
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i dont think you should quit especially as he is already sending negative vibes. it'll just become a huge problem between the two of you. i agree with poster above about a medium, maybe do 1 or 2 days at home? being a sahm only works when both parents agree on it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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I don't have advice, but your post makes me so sad. Your DH really can't see the value of your staying at home? He can't support your choice? I SAH and DH had a crappy but lucrative job for 3 years; I would have, and told him, we could switch (I'd look for a job) or that I'd support any career decision he wanted. he just accepted a position for 30 percent less pay and we are both so happy about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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how much do you make and how much does your dh make? would your lifestyle change if you stopped working? What kind of savings do you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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The 2-3 hours every day after school are exhausting, but something I personally would not trade for all the money in the world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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This is a tough one, I know, we have 3 dcs . Could you try to work out a deal at work so that you can get in earlier and telecommute 2 or 3 afternoons a week? It is great to be home with them, but the return to work after the ten year nap is pretty difficult to do, and that's when the college tuitions start. Believe me, I know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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op: thanks everyone, i appreciate the help. it makes me sad too but it is what it is - our relationship and life are really great, and i do make a lot of $$ especially for hours. i like the shifting my hours to be home earlier idea. i will continue talking to DH about it and maybe i get a chance to make a change when the economy improves [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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