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[ - ] hows spring lake, nj? can you rec good family friendly place to stay? any must do places, to go to with kids? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.29.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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It's the Irish-Riveria of NJ. I find it cookie-cutterish and boring. Not much to do other than go to the beach and drink at bars (if you are into plaid shorts and braided belts). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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There are very few bars in Spring Lake. It is pretty dry, actually. Low key and family friendly. Spring Lake Inn is one block from the beach and takes families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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My husband and I went there a few years ago and it's beautiful, but if your not Irish, and your skin is a little darker, you get looks-I'm not kidding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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that's just b/c they don't know who you are- they do that to strange white people too. it's part of their shtick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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The beach is the big draw. If you have a car drive down to Point Pleasant for (low key) rides on the board walk and Jensen's pier. The pizza shop and the chocolate shop in town are good places to hit. Most like the ice cream at Hoffman's best; I prefer lower key Susan Murphy's The seafood at Mister Shrimp's in Belmar(one town over) is very good and fresh and quick. It is a BYOB place. Fun food...texmex done beach style cheap and low key at Surf Taco in Manasquan (and Belmar) as well as Fins in Bradley Beach. All of these towns are very close together. Nice little lunch places and strolling around in Ocean Grove (also a dry town, byob at night for dinner). Do you need recs for a a verynice dinner sans kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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thanks for all this info, can you rec a good family affordable place to stay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] go to youbemom.com it's the old set up and so much better! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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hee hee these random plugs for ybm are starting to be funny, like product placement [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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i'm waiting for the first conspiracy theory post...you know, cnet actually created youbemom so they could keep everyone, the people willing to try the new UB and the people who would leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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I think someone is just storing all the posts and waiting to charge a fee so they can be used against you in divorce court. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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yikes. that will not be good. i wonder how much my posts are worth? do you think they'll charge per line or extra for juicier posts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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you know it's got to suck over there if they're trying to recruit....NEWBIES! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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really? is it just like the old UB? Is everyone who is anyone there? Does it do laundry? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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All the cool posters are doing it! If you don't do it, no one will sit with you at lunch or invite you to the prom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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it did my laundry last night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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If it does laundry I may have to switch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:08 PM Flag
[ - ] who? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] 8 months pregnant and i have this blue heart that keeps popping out and beating from under my white tank top nonstop. It's so annoying. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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lol, what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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a blue heart, it's right by my naval and it keeps popping out especially when I eat yogurt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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well, i am still confused, but good luck with all that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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ok... i'll bite.. WTF ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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what an annoying post. we get it, you have a tattoo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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i get it and i think you're very funny. looks like you went shopping for bacon tonight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] not planning on returning to work after maternity leave. any advice on how best to convey this to boss? I have worked there for 8 years and people haven't even acknowledged my newborn. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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write a letter- i've enjoyed/learned a lot from my time, but iwll be staying hoe with family, blah blah blah. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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ITD. Call and talk on the phone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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then it isn't maternity leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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true. but they don't know that yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Women who use mat leave and then quit truly piss me off. Ruins it for the women who stay. Men assume we are going to up and leave any minute; because people like you do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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ITTTA too. Sorry OP, you suck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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lovely. thank you -- and good night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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can back and worked for 2 years before going out on leave again, but I hear you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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sorry- came back... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Its work for God's sake; not a new mom support group [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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I worked with women and they all talked incessently about motherhood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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what biz? I;m in law, BF are in engineering and accounting. I can't imagine any of us in "mommie" conversations at work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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big law [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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surely ye jest. I am a lawyer and we never talk about motherhood. Are you a lawyer or support staff? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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senior associate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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Well, lets just say your firm is pretty different than mine. Which is funny since I am also Big Law (NYC) partner though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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it prides itself on being a little touchy/feely-- [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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S&C??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] We have a new librarian at my local library, I hate her. It really shouldn't bother me so much, and yet it does. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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why do you hate her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Officious and literal, tight little smile on her pointy little face [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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well, mayeb they tell you you have to be like that in librarian school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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they don't, but the local public library types all have poles up their butts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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it would seem. But the last guy was this crazy boisterous weirdo. Much better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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you seem to issues with librarian, which is an odd issue to have [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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You need a real problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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I have several, but the library was a small little joy I could fit into my week and she's ruined it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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i'm a librarian and i can't say i'm always little miss smiley. but have to say that while my public library has some fantastic librarians, a lot of them are really not. (although i tend to be really critical) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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Grumpy is fine, I mean, within limits. She's just so impossible to talk to, so unhelpful in her literal way. I feel like I'm completely offensive to her every time we talk, and I'm just asking about every day library stuff - and not often, if I can avoid it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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i had a very snippity librarian at the circulation desk the other day. i think seh was actually a librarian, not a clerk and she really made it unpleasant. oh well. it's only a library. i go for the books, not the company [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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that wasn't OP. But ITA on that one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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maybe. i don't suppose it even makes a difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I do not want to go back to work after maternity leave. I just don't!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.29.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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Just try it and quit if it doesn't work out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Who is going to pay me? I need the money. We need my income. Sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Sorry, but I don't think it will be as bad as you think. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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i have been both a sahm and a wohm. (also wah and p/t woh). i can tell you in all honesty that once you have a child, there is no situation where you will be 100% happy. even if you really want to sah, there will be parts of it where working would be better for you. sometimes we can choose our options and sometimes we can't. but either way, the only way you'll be happy is to embrace the positive aspects and minimize the negative ones. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Name Benjamin's brother. We have a very Jewish last name, and like traditional Jewish names. Can't start with an A. Not Noah. Any ideas? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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i love samuel. also elijah- is that jewish? i think the only kids i know with that name are pennsylvania dutch or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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Love Elijah -- is that an option? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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op- don't think dh would go for it, but thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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samuel, of course [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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Samuel, Daniel, Zachary, Eli, Jonah, Jacob/Jake [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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Isaac, Jonathan, Joseph [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] UB made the time stamp est. yay! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Um, it's been on there for weeks..... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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op: it was pacific time for a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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Oh, I gotcha. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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now if only you didn't need to click options to see it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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you obviously arent here often. i admire you for that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I am the queen of rice. Perfection every time. White, brown, Chinese fried, Indian. You may bow to me. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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ugh i kill it EVERY time!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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secret [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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for plain: soaking, salting, a little oil, and you must let it sit, covered, undisturbed for 5 minutes after removing from heat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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Me too. But I use my handy dandy rice cooker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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rice cooker? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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yes, but in using it, I have discovered how to make it in any old pot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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well so tell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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see above [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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Is this just one person replying to her own ost? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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OP: lol. You'd think! I didn't think anyone would care, plus the lofty attitude! I'm just so proud of myself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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I actually learned to put some oil add the rice and mix just to coat the rice then add water, salt and leave alone. Works every time! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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you don't even need to mix to coat. It happens by itself. But it's so simple! Yet it's eluded me nearly 35 years. At least the last 5 have been filled with starchy goodness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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I just made Persian barberry rice so you are about to be dethroned! It's awesome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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do tell! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Help! Just got 2.9 y/o dd her first bed. It's a bed frame, and we got a bunky board and very thin mattress so that she could climb in and out. We ordered a safety rail from One Step Ahead.. we installed it correctly (I think), but I don't understand how you can change the sheets without basically reinstalling the rail each time. Anyone btdt? Is there a better railing for a bedframe and no box spring? tia! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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When we put our son in his bed without a rail (17mo) we put the old crib mattress on the floor next to the bed in case he fell out. He did fall a couple of times the first few days but never since. Maybe you don't need the rail long term? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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That's a thought.. but I've heard they recommend it until age 5 or 6! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I miss the timestamp feature. I can't tell if the posts I'm replying to are from 2 minutes or 2 days ago. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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ita [ Reply | More
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CLICK OPTIONS [ Reply | More
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caps lock...sorry [ Reply | More
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op: yay! thanks. [ Reply | More
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"options" doesn't do it for you? [ Reply | More
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np: who wants to have to click options every time? why can't it just be there at the end of the post, the way it used to be. [ Reply | More
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YES [ Reply | More
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np: seriously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Pelham, New York, here we come! Now all I need is some cool mommy friends up there. How do I go about that part? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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if you settle for mommy friends you'll be fine. if you wait for cool, it'll be a long wait [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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is that a jab at the moms in that nabe? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] when are you due? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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end of sept [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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I'm not. I hope! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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i'm not. i miscarried, thank you very much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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sorry, i've miscarried too. sucks but i promise it gets better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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thank you. i had no idea it would be this hurtful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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i know. feel better but i know how it hurts right now. i cried for 2 months and i talked to DH a lot, that helped me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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dh and i are not really speaking about it. but it is slowly getting better. it's so nice to hear from other people that it's normal to be really shaken up by it. thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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yw, don't feel bad about feeling bad. it's all part of the crappy process. best of luck with everything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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i'm not pg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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I just LOOK pregnant, but I'm not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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november [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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oct. 1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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january. still nervous about m/c. only 7 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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Next saturday and I am ready!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Affair mom here. Haven't checked in since my Friday talk with dh. Well, it had gone well. We ended up "together" that night, only for him to avoid me and start in with his anger all over again. He's so hurt and I feel sick over how I've hurt him .We're not really any further along except that he is not sure he can ever trust me again. I told him I know that I may have risked the marriage but I did lay out in an e-mail (since that seems to be the only way we're speaking), that I was feeling very uncared for at the time. He spent many weekends away, night out with friends, etc. However, I was a coward for turning to someone else. I should have fought harder for us. I'm scared to hear his response, but he still says he needs time and that this may not work. I'm crying even as I write this. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I'm sorry, but you may have to accept that it's over. Honestly, if I were in DH's position, I don't think I could trust you again either. Some things can't be repaired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I guess part of me feels sorry for you, and part of me doesn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I can understand that and I appreciate your honesty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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I find it amazing that most of the critics here are attacking her when Pitt left Aniston for Jolie it was somehow all Aniston's fault. Come on ladies... consistency!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Marriages recover from infidelity all the time, especially when the guilty party feels remorse and wants to reconcile. He is just punishing you and making you feel like it is all your fault so he can feel exonerated for his own bad behavior [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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I don't think her dh's behavior was any excuse for her to whore around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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she did not "whore around." She turned to someone else because she felt neglected. Sometimes one spouse pushes the other into something egregious in order not to take any responsibility; that seems to be what is going on here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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How does he know she won't feel "neglected" again and cheat? That would be my worry if I were him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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op: I understand. I know that I won't because I ended it on my own a year and a half ago because I knew I was jeapordizing my family. But you're right. I did a despicable thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Well, maybe he can try being sensitive to her needs and not neglect her. She may also be worried that he will beglect her again (spend weekends away, pay no attention to her, etc.). They both have things to work on. What I am saying is that cheating is not necessarily worse than other kinds of behavior, even though people view it as some kind of buzzsaw that cuts a marriage in two irreperably [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] We swapped apartments last summer with a family from southern France for 10 days. When we came back, our house was spotless and they left us a sweet note (and we did the same for them). Their home was a nice, comfortable place. Their neighbors were so great to us. This summer dh wants to swap for another place and I'm so worried it won't turn out as well as before. Can we really be that lucky twice? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.29.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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Probably not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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How did you find out about this? This sounds like something I would like to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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There are services but we simply arranged it through Craigslist - as odd as that sounds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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Wow! That's surprizing.  People can be so shaddy on craigs list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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it's a great story though. hopefully it will be great again this summer [ Reply | More
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