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[ - ] Who is Jeremy Bentham? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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Arsenio Hall's brother? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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A 19th century economist and social commentator. Jesus, you are that child left behind [ Reply | More
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I know that, but who is he on Lost? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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LOLOLOL I didn't realize you were talking about lost. Missed the last few. But if you notice- many philosophers- Locke etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Oh yes, rousseau too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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hume baukunin, burke, cooper, hawking . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I want Sex and the City Spoilers. Can anyone help? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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Carrie is really a man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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charlotte wears payless shoes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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Go to Wikipedia, the whole thing is there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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Wikipedia has the entire movie plot posted. [ Reply | More
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[ - ] so, who is here? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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Miami [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] All you women are afraid to leave kids with DH for 2 weeks? What kind of morons did you marry? Or is it that you "took over" child duties and are stuck with time? Or maybe you all need to feel like they couldn't do it without you. Don't get it 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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a little bit of each [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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i'm scared to leave my kids for one day with dh. it's so freaking stressful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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but why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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changes in routine are hard. i wouldn't want him leaving me for two weeks any more than he'd want to leave me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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I get that. I wouldn't want to be away for 2 weeks, but OR's on last post were talking about how their DH "couldn't" take care of kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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i posted there. i wouldn't leave dcs with dh for two weeks. unless he arranged for a lot of help. i think it depends on the age of the kid and the schedule. i also think that op was more worried about her trip than about leaving her dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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why would you marry a man unable of caring for his own kids for 2 weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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he goes to work. logistically it would be a problem. and then practically...he's never bathed them. he's capable if he had to, but he's never done it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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I find your post truly shocking. He has NEVER bathed them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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no. never. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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np; I agree. How old are the kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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2, 3, and 4 (almost 5yo). we have different strengths. he's better with the kids in some ways. but he has never bathed them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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NP: Mine would have to take two weeks off of work to do it. Given how much he travels, that's not easy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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op of the earlier post: I'm more worried about dd...she's closer to me than dh..I'm more tuned into her. I just worry that she'll miss me a lot and dh won't know how to handle it. Its the emotional part...not the actual practical part. I might have to stay for more than 2 weeks if my dad gets worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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she'll be fine. two weeks is nothing. if you were sending her to a foreign country for two weeks, i'd be worried about her being homesick. but she'll be in her own environment. also, sorry if this sounds harsh, but part of parenting is learning that it's not always going to be you to be there for your children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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op: I'm going to be in a foreign country...my dad is not in the US. Dh will be here with dd. I'll be really far away. I guess that's what is worrying me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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they'll be fine. it's a hard time for you but they'll be ok. best wishes for your dad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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They will be ok. DH always rose to the ocassion when he had to, I am sure yours will too. I bet it will make them closer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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dh is a SAHD - he's scared to leave them with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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If I left dh for two weeks, we would need to buy a new house, because our current one would be trashed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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I'd leave them together for a month if I had to....they'd probably both forget about me but at least I'd be rested! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:31 PM Flag
[ - ] did anyone here have a home-birth? starting to consider this for #2 (due late summer) and wondering if anyone has good/bad experiences to share. (and for nyc moms, if you have midwife to recommend, i'd appreciate it.) 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.29.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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i can't imagine why you'd want to do this. my friend did it but only b/c she insisted on helping her older dd get dressed before leaving for the hospital. but by then it was too late. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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i can't imagine wanting to go back to a hospital vs. being in my home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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no, but now wish i had and planning on doing it when i have a second. my hospital experience was horrendous so i dont understand why pp think homebirth is so much worse of an option. hope you find the info you need. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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thanks! : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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I wouldn't. Did you see the health channel home birst - she delivered twins in breach position. She and babies were fine, but I never could have done it - not that brave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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>> she's not having twins and if she found out the baby was breech she has the option of going to the hospital. i'm not seeing how this example relates to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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for me, the stay in teh hospital is like being in a hotel. they bring you food whenever you want, and it is good, you can get help, and they will help you sleep for about the last time ever. i wish i couls stay there longer. plus, after each of my births the custodian had to come clean up afterwrads because i make a massive mess of blood and fluid. i'm a bleeder and i certianly don't need that mess in my own home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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>>> np: where did you give birth?! i want to give birth there b/c that's not waht my experience was like. (i'm assuming not in nyc?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I didn't and wish I was having another to try it. Best of luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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Cousins [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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My cousin's wife decided to have a home birth and panicked at the last minute and decided to go to the hosp. She had the baby on her lawn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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I wanted to do a birth center birth. But 50 hours into labor, the baby's heart rate fell to a dangerous level and I needed a crash c-section. I'm really glad I chose a birthing center adjacent to a hospital. I still had my c-section in the ER though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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from op: was this your 1st dc? i know several women who have had home births for their 2nd dc, and subsequent labors are usually faster than the first one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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This was my second. I thought it would be as smooth as my first. But I went into labor, went to the birthing center, spent THREE nights there, and then had to be rushed to the ER. It was a nightmare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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yikes. sorry to hear that you had such a nightmare experience. my 1st labor was pretty smooth and relatively short, so i'm hopeful. i just really really disliked the whole hospital experience w/ #1. maybe i'm romanticizing homebirth a little...but it sounds so much nicer than going back to the hospital. thanks for sharing your experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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had one for #1. Long labor (to be expected with the first), but I was in great hands & always felt that both the baby & I were being monitored enough & totally safe. It was so nice being at home...the baby sleeps ALOT the first day, so "help" from the nurses didn't really seem like a big benefit we missed out on in the hospital. Cara Muhlhahn was my midwife...she's amazing. Good luck!! I'll check back occasionally to see if you have any other questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Freaking out about lumps on ovaries. Had ultrasound-they just called and said they need to biopsy it, and that my pap came back abnormal and they need a chunk of my cervix to test. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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ooof [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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You said this just happenned last night. Which is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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maybe she is just venting. heartless. Who cares what day it was. Jesus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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minor point, wouldn't you say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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oh GOD repost mom--give it a break. you are here waaaay toooo much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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not me. This just seems odd. "They" called op at this time of night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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I went through this-it was nothing. v. common. don't worry. there are all kinds of cysts you can have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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np: can cysts cause an abnormal pap? I've had ovarian cysts too, but my paps are always normal. Maybe it is just a coincidence? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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I don't know. I though pap was just for cervix, and false positive paps I think are pretty common. Did not think pap had anything to do with ovaries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:33 AM Flag
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Wow, I'm sorry. Do they think that the lumps and the abnormal pap are related? I can't imagine what you must be feeling, but try to go one step at a time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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it sounds scary but you never know what's manageable. i find my doctors love to scare me. unless it's something serious and then they gloss over it b/c they don't want to have to deal with a hysterical patient. good luck and please keep us posted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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I am sorry for your news. I went through the same thing about 15 years ago and the leap procedure is a little painful but in my case the biopsy of the tissue came back negative then. Hang in there, ask lots of questions. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] So....I seem to be a place in my "marriage" where the divorce motions have really begun to get in motion, and there doesn't seem to be turning back unless I capitulate (and live a life where happiness will be VERY difficult). Anyone btdt? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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no - but feel like I'm in the same place now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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getting divorced Its awful and I dont recommend it.Its a battle with ex for the rst of your life.Just fiimd happiness elsewhere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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You're saying to stay in an unhappy marriage for life? That's sick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had or know someone who has had success with covering a tattoo with a bigger tattoo? I wonder if it'll be obvious and show through etc tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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sounds like a disaster waiting to happen...just pay to have it removed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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op - that's what I want to do but the $7k is a bit much right now - and I hate the thing so much it depresses me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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yuck. get it removed [ Reply | More
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[ - ] walt is still rocking an afro, i see 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Just occurred to me, the 3 kids I know who got into G&T programs have WOHMs and WOHDs. Does anyone know of a kid who tested in with a SAHM or SAHD? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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i wish UB would have emoticons on this site because I'd be able to convey how much I am rolling my eyes at this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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lol--ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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Wouldn't such a correlation be interesting to know? Wish I could see stats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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are you going to include everyone from the nail technician who works long shifts and has no choice but to leave her kids w/ low paid babysitters who give little stimulation? there are so many factors that go into the quality of care of the kids of both SAH and WOHMs. And testing into the G&T program just really isn't indicative of success in academics or life or anything else really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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well, I was more thinking along the lines of kids who go to daycare or have a nanny watch less tv than a kid who is home during the day with a busy WAH or SAH parent or maybe being with an adult other than the parent (be it with a low or high paid care giver) forces a kid to mature in ways that prove beneficial academically. There are WAY too many factors to have this be the deciding one but I did wonder if there was a common thread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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not a single kid in this city of 8 million. nary a one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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you know people who got into G&T programs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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Yes, our Building Super's DS - WAHD and SAHM. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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every G&T has some SAHMs, but far fewer than private schools for obvious reasons. Most moms work at least part-time unless there is a younger dc at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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^^^There are 4 in my dd's class that I know of [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Np - Makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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I sah and my 3 dcs are dumb as rocks. satisfied? I knew I should have never quit my fun job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Honestly, in my circles and preschool class, very few SAHMs. Mom's with flexible jobs, yes (flexibility afforded by well paid DH's), but pure SAHMs are rare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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OP: This is true. I WAH but I know very few SAH people. I just wonder if there is something to be said regarding test scores that would be in favor of the WOH model. So many people argue the SAH/WOH issue. I think this would be in the + column for WOH' families! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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The four I know are kids of sahms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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OP: OK, maybe that disproves my theory.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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probably more just reflects whether you know more sahms or wohms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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^^^as are the two kids I know who got into Hunter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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most parents woh, especially once kids are school age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendations on a honest real estate agent in Brooklyn? They all seem to be so full of BS and this is when the market is softening? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.29.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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what part of brooklyn are you looking for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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a range -- the slope, windsor terrace all the way to kensington, clinton hill, fort greene, prospect heights... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:51 PM Flag
[ - ] In what grade do those Barcley dance classes start? Do people really send their kids? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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She must mean Barclay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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3rd grade, and yes they really do send them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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Is that the one you have to be invited for? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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No, you're thinking of Knickerbocker. Anyone can take classes at Barclay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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DD got an invitation for Barclay and we sent the acceptance back but since then I haven't hear anything. What happens next? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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hijack: what time of year do Knickerbocker invites go out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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I never thought I'd say this, but: If you have to ask... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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my daughter is in 1st grade currently, I am wondering for the future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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The point still stands. Those of us who have to ask this question don't need to worry about getting an invitation for dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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Is your DD really apt to be invited to Knickerbocker? If so you must have friends w/ older girls already involved. Why would you ask on UB instead of asking your friends? VBA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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definitely not a VBA. my daughter attends one of the tt all girls schools, I will ask my friends but I wanted to learn here first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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np-what does VBA mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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veiled bragging alert (or words to that effect) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:34 PM Flag
[ - ] nice family friendly town i can go to for the weekend, not more then 2 hrs drive from manhattan is? anywhere but li, tia 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.29.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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Pound Ridge NY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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chester, nj [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Rhinebeck, there always seems to be something going on at the Fairgrounds [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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from all of the above, which area is the nicest? best? with alot of kid activities? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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New Hope PA/Lambertville NJ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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new hope is not really family oriented. cool shops and stuff, but not for kids. Doylestown - 25 mins away has a park w/ an awesome playground. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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I'm from Doylestown. I think it's funny that it's now a destination. It's the suburbs to me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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I only know about the great playground because my brother's friend lives there. We all went out to visit him, went to the park (Central Park, I believe) and saw this crazy huge playground that was a child's fantasy...But it was closed for renovation!!! The injustice! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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op -here-went to new hope for mothers day, liked it but not much activity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Wow - there really are so fewer people on this board. Have most migrated to youbemom??? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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Wow! Youbemom really gets the tough dirt out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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doubt it. went over there & nothing but one person trying to get a conversation started [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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oh really? then why is it so slow here?? maybe people have just left altogether?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] My kids' Ped is not a vitamin believer, why is this? Ds -6yo- has been in the same weight for months. Thinking on getting them anyways... after all it doesn't hurt right? which vitamin should I get? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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they don't gain a lot at that age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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a lot of people think taking synthetic vitamins are not beneficial. I give my kid Spongebob artificially colored and sweetened ones, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.29.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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