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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:56 PM Flag
[ - ] If you're an SAHM and went to Ivy undergrad and/or have a JD, MD, or MBA, do you ever feel like you're "missing out" or regret that you might not be as successful in your career as your former classmates? Do you ever feel jealous or "inferior" compared to women with high-powered careers? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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no, i don't feel like I'm missing out, but i also am ok with knowing that when i go back into the work force it will probably be in a different capacity than before. I love hanging out with dd and would rather be no where else. I feel lucky that I have the opportunity to stay home, so I guess I'm not that focused on what i'm missing out on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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not missing on- but feel badly my parents spent all that money and I am not putting it to good use [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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ditto! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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I have bfa/mfa--so I was destined to sahm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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lol - my dh too. he had to add an mba [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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PhD count? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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no. i had a career and chose to leave it. it really was my choice. i am happier and more fulfilled now. that's not a reflection on anyone else, just me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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graduated from 2 Ivy leagues and have and MD and about to switch to being a SAHM. I'm sure I will at times "miss" the career I have set aside, but as for inferior, no; feel very privlidged to get to experience both worlds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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no and no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm leaving my husband with our 3 young children, I have no family here - so not sure where do I'm going yet. Also need rec. for good divorce lawyer. tia 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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he's going to take the kids? i wouldn't leave without an agreement in place or else it can be considered abandonment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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op - he says he wont leave the house - so I have to take the kids and go somewhere with them - I would never leave them with him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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ok -- but i don't think you should leave the house either unless there is physical abuse. get some sort of agreement because if you leave, you might have a hard time getting back into the house and it might cause a lot of grief and suffering for your kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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You should not leave with the kids, they can get you for "kidnapping" at least if you are in NY state, happened to a friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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is there any way you can start paperwork but not actually move out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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i cant believe you are leaving your kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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Read before you pass judgement. She's leaving WITH the kinds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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np: it is poorly worded, fwiw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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Don't leave unless its physical but get a good lawyer fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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Why are you leaving? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you ever feel like your deordant stops working after a while? Like if you have been using the same kinda for months and months? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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happens every once in a while with secret so i mix it up with something else for a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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Suave never works for me. Only Arrid XX dry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:53 PM Flag
[ - ] SATC comment- worst part of movie (I'll try to avoid spoiling) was the big admission by one of the men- NO MAN WOULD EVER ADMIT THAT. He'd hide it forever before he'd let his woman know. It pissed me off that the writers were that clueless, because it's every woman's fantasy that they have a man who'd have that much guilt over something like that. Know what I mean? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.01.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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What did he admit? Sucks that we can't post inside anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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I know, the no spoiler thing is impossible. I'm not telling because I don't want to spoil it. If you see it you'll know, if you saw it you know. That's all I can say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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youbemom.com lets you post inside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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did someone cheat? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:53 PM Flag
[ - ] DH wants to buy a bike for himself and for me and one of those trailer things for DD and an attachment rider thing for DS. I think he's just throwing $1000 or so out of the window. I bet we'll go biking two or three times this summer because we'd have to pack the bikes up on car (can't bike around my nabe -- too hilly). I don't want to bust his bubble, but it's such a waste. Still, he's so excited about it. What should I do? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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omg, he is me. i was planning to do the same. i am going to target tho to buy our bikes for around 200/ea. i was going to do this for dh for father's day. don't worry about packing it all up. let it be his job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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Can you rent first to see if you will actually use them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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i don't think there are any rental places around here... i guess i'll let him make an expensive mistake if he wants to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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you may love it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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i'm more of an indoors kind of girl, but we'll see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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get out and get some fresh air and exercise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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you should get in shape to get up and down those hills! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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true but they're not regular hills -- it's like san francisco -- but in nj... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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People bike in SF, a lot of them! If you get mountain bikes, the gearing will be really low just to enable the rider to get up steep hills. It won't be a waste of money if you get the bikes, get in awesome shape, save $$$ on gas and cut your greenhouse emissions! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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we really got into it. I started when they were young---now that dcs are older--7/9& 11--this year alone I logged 1,000 miles riding my bicycle with them. 1,000 miles!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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sounds like a huge waste of money if you aren't going to use it. Can't he do it just for himself and one of the kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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just get cheap bikes...you'll spend about $500 or so. Target has a schwin trailer for less than $150 that was on sale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:40 PM Flag
[ - ] What kind of stroller do you Manhattanites put your tall 4 yr olds in? Need suggestions pls. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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mac triumph [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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shoulder strap? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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yep -- i have one and love it. it's 5 yrs old and still going strong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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Thanks, I'm going to look for one on craigslist first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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But who forces their kid to walk 3 1/2 miles! I'm a big walker. Maybe a scooter is better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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i wasn't anti-stroller but i know there are some moms who are on UB when a child hits the magic age of 4 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:46 PM Flag
[ - ] DH's golf hobby annoys me. He is gone almost all day one weekend day and also golfs one night during the week after work. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Yup that is most definitely annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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OP: He doesnt see how its annoying to me. says I am being bratty when I complain that he is gone too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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no way. this would be tough for me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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You should start disappearing for one night a week plus the other weekend day. (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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gotta ask - WOHM or SAHM? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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I SAH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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you're so lucky. Ive tried to get him to cut back and he just wont. its not for work either. argh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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can you perform special sexual favors to change his mind? (just kidding) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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i would take up a hobby that took up the same (or similar amount of time). Maybe you should take up horseback riding! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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OP: I actually want to start to take my yoga class again which would be a good ammt of time away too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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that is really annoying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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ita. it's the worst. it's actually a very selfish sport for a dad. have him give up every other weekend day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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My dh plays one day every other weekend which keeps us both happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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Is it with work people? Or just friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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Just friends, he just left now to go play 9 by himself, i hope it rains on him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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OK that sucks (assuming the kids are little). If it was networking or something similar I would understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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OP: And to make it worse he plays softball one night after work too! No joke! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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You need to take the other day for yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Describe the most highly-educated SAHM you know. 77 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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JD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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I guess she didn't pass the bar [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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yes, she did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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np: you must not know many lawyers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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I know plenty of lawyers. My dh is one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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dh and i are both lawyers - i know a lot of women with JDs who left law to sahm. usually when dh is biglaw. in my dh's practice group there is not a single wife who works and about 5 of them also have JDs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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^^ and all passed the bar [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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my friend's father isthe managing partner in a medium sized law firm, not in nyc, and told us one night that he refuses to hire women anymore since they all leave the workforce. he will do it because he has to, but doesn't like to go all out in recruiting, etc. I was horrified. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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I see his point. He's better off hiring the ones whose kids are already in school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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yeah, but maybe do something to make the workplace friendlier instead of dismissing them all. and not every woman wants dc's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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It's a med sized firm. Very hard to give incentives like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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my dh runs a small trading firm and has figured this out. it isn't brain surgery. offer job shares for example. no excuses to have this attitude in this day and age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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So, someone in pr should suggest - good for publicity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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ita - i cannot imagine dh and I both working biglaw jobs, or even just a regular job and a biglaw job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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Do they plan to ever practice law? Sounds like such a waist of money if they don't do something in the general field [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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whether it is a waste is for them to decide. i used to practice and now sah and doubt i will return. i don't consider it a waste since if dh every left me at least i have education that qualifies me to earn decent money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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But how will you get a job with such a huge gap? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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i'd probably try to get something with the government or start doing some freelance work. i have a lot of friends who are lawyers and i have done a little contract work over the years. that aside, it's really not for you to saw that someone's education was wasted because they aren't doing with it what you would be doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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Don't be so defensive. Everything was interrogative in nature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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not a waste to be educated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:53 PM Flag
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OP, I understand but you can be educated by reading and studying and not putting yourself into 100k debt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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Practicing law sucks. Being a SAHM is just a good excuse to leave a horrid profession. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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yes, i know a ton of former lawyers who now SAHM and one MD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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Where did they go to school? Do they have plans to return? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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i'm a jd. don't plan to return. fordham law [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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hmm, i wonder if you're the sahm i'm thinking of above! fordham law grad, too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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SAHM here w/ a JD from Fordham. I would love to practice some day. [np] [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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Me too! Will definitely not return to the law. Would like to work again but not as a lawyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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some went to ivies and some went to non-Ivy but good schools. they all have plans to return to work, but not to work in big firms. one wants to start her own business, another wants to be a consultant of some sort, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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i have a jd, not from an ivy but from a good school, probably won't return because i hated practicing and dh makes plenty of money. might do something else when kids are older though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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I'm so glad I didn't get into law school. Everyone I know hates being a lawyer and the women are the most miserable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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i hear you. i loved law school, enjoyed my work for awhile but to make money in law i'd be miserable. oh well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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I know. That's why I asked my dh to get off partner track. Not worth it for the kids not to see him, for him to waste his entire life on some money pursuing goal when life is so short. I'd rather live modestly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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My SAHM friends all just have bachelors. I don't know anyone who did post grad stuff that stays home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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B/c they have to pay off loans right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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No. Not a money thing. Just a choice. [ Reply | More
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really? i know so many, incl. me, a ton of lawyers and mds [ Reply | More
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I'm not saying I don't get it. Even I could imagine possibly wanting to stay home a few years while db's are little. But it just happens I don't know anyone well who did it [ Reply | More
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where do you live? i live in boston where there is a large population of highly educated people [ Reply | More
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LOL NYC. We are pretty highly educated as well. Its just my circle happened to keep the career after db [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:45 PM Flag
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i think the area i live in in boston has a higher concentration than nyc in general - harvard, mit, tufts, bu, bc, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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Sure, my neighborhood (UES) is pretty uneducated. All we have in NY is NYU, and Columbia. And of course going out of state is unheard of. What "area" are you in? Dot? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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Hunter, Baruch, City College. YOu can get a good education if you want to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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I was being sarcastic. Boston mom is a bit of a pill [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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Oh, lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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np-i think it is more important to be around as kids get older. when kids are young, well, those are just the mostly fun ages (give or take) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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But they are in school full time, and then activities. Mine is 12 ans I OWHM and I am still home b/f her 4/5 school nights [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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that is not the case with most of the families I know. but in general, kids need you more as they get older [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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msw, mba, phd, a perpetual graduate student, jd, masters in education. lot of sahm's who found that trying to balance it all wasn't working for them [ Reply | More
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Are there really SAHM MDs? After all that training? Is it hard to go back to a medical career after being out for awhile? [ Reply | More
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I am guessing that statistically there aren't many. But I am sure there are some [ Reply | More
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yes, one of my bffs is. she went to tufts and doesn't plan to return to medicine [ Reply | More
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I know one [ Reply | More
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me, wharton undergrad, mba nyu - never did anything with it. Know a ridiculous amount of useless information [ Reply | More
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yes but not an mba job. tried to break into a fun industry - stupid mistake. I have no idea - an admin job that would train me to run a department maybe - I interviewed for one of those at one point and then decided not to go back to work yet bc I can't earn enough money. Maybe one day it will come in handy [ Reply | More
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One of my friends has a phd in russian literature. I don't think she ever intended to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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I know so many with masters at least- one has an IVY undergrad in Engineering and an MBA- but for us it's not a SAHM forever thing, it's a life phase thing- we know that we'll take our education with us and recycle it for reinvention eventually. [ Reply | More
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She's a rocket scientist at the jet-propulsion lab and is working on the Mars Rover project. [ Reply | More
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the question was about someone who sah and doesn't work [ Reply | More
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they she isn't a sahm, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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Oh, sorry. She had been home for 4 years before joining this project. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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If you went to professional school and SAHM, how do/did you pay off your loans? [ Reply | More
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i am an msw and was offered a full ride to graduate school. have no idea how, since I never applied for financial aid-it was a merit scholarship. so no loans-had planned on paying for it myself anyways [ Reply | More
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I paid my tuition in full before starting- I worked in corporate America prior to grad school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:49 PM Flag
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i paid off about half before i had kids, dh's salary makes the payments now. (monthly payment is pretty low and interest rate is less than 3% so we are in no hurry to pay it off since we earn more interest on our savings account) [ Reply | More
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Paid off loan, then had db's [ Reply | More
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no loans. my parents paid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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I have an MBA, and my previous employer paid for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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I worked for 10 years after getting my MBA including time as a WOHM. [ Reply | More
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I didn't pay for grad school. The taxpayers did. I had a Navy Scholarship and SAH after I fulfilled my service obligations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Self. PhD, two masters. Three different fields of work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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MY bf has a phibetakappa undergrad in chemistry with a minor in bio and MD from Harvard. Now at home. I'm a lowly Wharton MBA. I know lots of SAHM lawyers. The few Phds that I know personally who are not fulltime at something, have lower key college teaching jobs...but none (that I know) are SAHM. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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MD/PhD (technically on long term disability and had three dc while on leave) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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phd, mathematician/consultant [ Reply | More
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my sister, PHD. she home schools, attachment parenting, back woods... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Totally forgot dh has a huge disgusting oozing cold sore and kissed him while we were dtd. Anyway, I took a Valtrax and slathered on Zovirax. Is that enough? What else can I do? I have a party to go to next week. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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none of that will prevent you catching the virus. if you get cold sores yourself, you already have it and kissing him when he has one won't increase chances of an outbreak. if you don't already have it, you've exposed yourself but may or may not result in an outbreak. [ Reply | More
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Okay, never got one before. thanks. Maybe I"m safe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:39 PM Flag
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you're more likely to catch it when your immune system is down. also children more susceptible than adults. so dh should not kiss dc's when he has one or feels one coming on. but honestly, most people have the virus so it's not really that bad.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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i meant not really that big a deal..(or that bad). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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Okay, thanks! The weird thing is that dc has impetigo on his lip and then dh got his cold sore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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one other thing. hsv 1 CAN be transmitted genitally, so you can end up with a genital infection if he, um, kisses you there when contagious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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Good to know. Ew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Just had a terrible pedicure. Basically a foot soak and polish change for $35 - no scrubbing, callous removal, massage, etc. (I know - woe is me). What kind of tip would you leave. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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Do you always have a problem asserting yourself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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hardly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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Next time don't wait until it's over to express your disatisfaction [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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There is something a little off putting about sitting on my pedi throne while a woman bends over my feet and taking her to task for not scrubbing hard enough. I vote with my wallet in a case like this. What would you have said? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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there was an article in ny mag about this a couple of months ago... worth looking up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Yes I read it, I thought of it while I typed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Can you scrub more and then point at the spots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Eeeesh, cringe-inducing imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Ridiculous -that's their job! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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i wouldn't have given a tip at all until i had them re-do it to my satisfaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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no tip, they know what they have to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] ways to lose 5 lbs in 4 days?? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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cut off leg [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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Zero carbs and no sodium. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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good idea. have my skinniest friend visiting nyc from out of town on thurs. haven't seen her in a long time & i'm chunky (db is 5 mo) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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Well, as long as it's not a long lost love, it's not that important. 5 mo is nothing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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she must weigh around 90 lbs. no joke [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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So she is flatchested and anorexic. Just wear a lowcut shirt and hid the belly flab with the baby. If you have great legs wear a jean mini. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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i do have great legs and a great jean mini (that was very big on the waist - now snug). i have a ton of belly flab and huge boobs. she is flatchested and anorexic looking :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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You are going to look great then. Just don't button the skirt, hold it up with a tight cami! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:41 PM Flag
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Oh wear your hair down. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:43 PM Flag
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natch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:46 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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you're right. i will use my bella band!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:45 PM Flag
[ - ] True confessions of the day -- me -- I wish I could have slept all day instead of dealing with my kids today.... 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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i'm so tired. i must go to sleep as soon as the kids do!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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Thats not a confession in my house, that is aknown fact [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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sad, if your kids know that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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oh please [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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because they should think mom is a robot? give me a break [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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Of course my kids know it. I am a human being who sometimes doesn't like getting up at 6:30 am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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"sometimes doesn't like getting up at 630" is not the same as sleeping All day instead of "dealing with my kids" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:32 PM Flag
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Okay Stepford Mom, go put on a fresh apron. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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not a stepford mom, but my kids know i love them and want to spend time with them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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it was a true confession -- some days, we non-perfect mothers don't feel like dealing with our kids. now, get back on your mommy throne and leave me alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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it's fine if that's the way YOU feel, but all i said is it's sad if your kids know that. one person said it's "not a confession . . . a known fact". that's what i responded to! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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i'm sure all kids know that they annoy their parents at times -- now, that's a known fact. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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I know lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] DH drives me nuts sometimes -- brings me to look at a house we have no intention of buying because he's curious. Don't torture me and give me hope for moving and then say, we can afford it, but the taxes are too high. Grrrrrrrr... 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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You sincerely sound like you are talking about your dad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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that's the problem. i feel like he has too much say in everything. but then he says, "do you really want to pay $29,000 a yr in taxes," and I know he's right, but still... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:26 PM Flag
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Why is he right? If the schools are excellent and the area is run properly and you have an income that justifies it why not live in a safe, secure and stable town where you don't have to worry about property vales? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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well, i guess we always think that something better will come along in a town with taxes that aren't so high. DH is a lot more patient than I am when it comes to moving... I'm ready to do it now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Not always but often the quality of life in a town is predicated on the tax rate. High taxes = better schools = better property values as a rule of thumb. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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CT has low taxes and great schools! [ Reply | More
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my dh used to look at house after house. none being good enough. it must have lasted for 2 yrs. it was soooo frustrating. finally, we got a great house at the right price. he may surprise you. mine did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Does your DH travel a lot for work? My DH usually doesn't but he's going to LA for 4 nights. I have two kids (6&2) and I know I can do it but it's going to be a little exhausting (ex DS has swim practice in the evening after DD goes to bed, so DD is going to be in a really good mood) -- also have bday parties for the kids, volunteer commitments, etc. Any tips for surviving 5 days, 4 nights? TIA. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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You'll be fine. Keep it simple. Enjoy the peace and have a glass of wine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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I let things slide a bit. Don't really cook, don't beat myself up if we don't make it to an activity. Do my best to get them to bed early so I can enjoy some alone time in the evenings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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Do whatever you have to do. We sometimes have cereal for dinner, watch more TV than usual, all sleep in my bed... the rules bend when daddy's away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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skip swimming? send ds w/ a sitter or someone else? skip the bday parties for 2 yo or send w/ a friend. ds should be old enough for a drop off at a party. think of the single moms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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i'm so jealous that your dh usually helps w/ any of that! my dh works so much he's unavail. during the week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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I think you'll manage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I love my kids but why won't they shut up for 2 min? My DS who is 6yo is a total motormouth and asks me, "You wanna know why?" to just about everything he says. Drives me nuts -- but I think it's because I'm suffering from major PMS today and doing loads of laundry that it's bothering me today. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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my 5 yo is driving me nuts as well. I told him he could have a popsicle if he plays in his room quietly for an hour. Mommy of the year, right here! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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you do what you have to do. he can come over to my house for a playdate and we can lock the boys in the basement where they can talk themselves silly.... now, that's an idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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ugh. I feel your pain. When I can't listen anymore I let my 6 yo call grandma and grandpa and torture them for an hour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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now, that's a really, really good idea. i think i'm going to do that now... excellent! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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Just tell her mom needs quiet time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Any helpful advice on how to nicely tell my grandmother (great grandmother) that she can't hold my son because he hates it. She keeps on letting his head drop and really shouldn't be holding something so heavy anyway. I'm working on positive feedback but it breaks my heart. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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can you give her the baby when someone else is sitting next to her, someone else to help her hold the baby properly? i don't think you can actually say that to her without breaking HER heart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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OP, and ITA. There are some good suggestions here, though. Too much of a new, fretful mom to think of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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i was a fretful new mom once upon a time, too. just stay close -- believe it or not, babies are sturdier than you think. maybe sure g-ma is sitting down and in a carpeted area and you should be fine... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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Sorry, I wouldn't ever say that unless his life were in immediate danger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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ITTTTTA, you are a big girl - figure out a way to make it work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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how old is ds? can you swaddle him? that will make it easier for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Oooh, good idea! He's only a month, so she can hold him sitting down, but she keeps on getting up and bopping him too me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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Too much, not too me. Sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:12 PM Flag
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you prop her arms up w/ pillows to make sure she can get a comfortable position. don't tell her she can't hold the db, sit right next to her and be ready to help if need be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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OMG, lol, first baby huh? Just place him on the bed and have her lay next to him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:30 PM Flag
[ - ] is it me, or are there an awful lot of ub'ers today who about to give birth... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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^who ARE about to give birth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Why are people (like me) so hung up on whether they are having a boy/girl? I am one of those people and I don't know why it bothers me that I am having a second boy when everyone I know has a daughter (I really wanted a girl). It is so dumb and I know that there are so many more important things than gender... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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And you'll remember all those more important things once you meet your new son. Right now he's nothing but a gender and a bump on your lap, don't beat yourself up. [ Reply | More
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there's nothing wrong with wanting to have an experience and bond with each of the genders. like i said, it is totally normal. my MIL had four boys and felt the same way and now she has 4 DILs and she treats us all like her DDs and loves it -- takes us shopping, gossips, bakes, with us. And she has way more granddaughters than grandsons to spoil. Maybe it's just not your time yet -- maybe there might be a little delay for you, too, like it was for MIL... [ Reply | More
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