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[ - ] My fave restaurant is Tocqueville. What are some other places like this? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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is that on 15th street? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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Yum! I like it there, too. What about Extra Virgin (West Village) or Table d'Hote (Upper East Side)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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Five Points, the Harrison [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Name two things you love that are not DH or DC's:____________________ 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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my laptop and TIVO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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good chocolate and a good cry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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After I give DD a bath and put her to bed my wedding rings smell like her lotion. And cant live without my honey nut cheerios [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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Early bedtimes and nacho cheese doritos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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the beach, good R&B music, dolphins, citrus fruits [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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The beach at sunset and Seasons 1 and 2 of The West Wing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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chocolate and a good book [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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I was thinking good book, but went with good cry... you and I are in synch... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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sounds like ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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what are you reading now ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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Just finished Out Stealing Horses, by Per Petterson. Pretty good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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^^^you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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just finished "Let the Northern Lights Erase Your Name" and loved it... Trying to read "Snow" but it's a tough one for me. Also just loved "people of the Book" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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np: hated snow, couldn't finish it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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i don't feel like i'm smart enough or dedicated enough to do it. i was into the first 100 pages, then i couldn't get through the rest... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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trashy reality tv, getting an amazing photo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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good takeout and being alone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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Fire, a great massage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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The smell of a burning fire/beginning of fall, a great photo of me when I was 5yo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] have any of your gotten pg even though dh "pulled out"? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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no -- but i know a TON of people who have. it's definitely NOT a birth control method. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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I just got a + pg test today...I can't believe it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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wow -- are you excited or nervous? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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numb now. Have 2 kids (2 & 4). Had really rough post partum with both. Have always wanted 3, but was truly afraid to have another. So, surprised, excited, nervous all at once. Shocked, actually [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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You chose to have this child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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it will be okay. as long as you always wanted 3 it will work out in the end. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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i have a feeling they weren't ttc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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Yes. right here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:19 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have a cordless phone that actually works well? I have the WORST luck with them! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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no - and i hate the way they make them flat now so you can't cradle them with your shoulder [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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our new panasonic is really good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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can you tell me the model? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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np-we have always had panasonics, they are great, not sure the model, but look on epinions.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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I have a great Panasonic as well (NP here) - model is KXTG5471 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] db has had a cold since last tuesday. she's better, but still has a stuffy nose. The problem is she now won't just go down to sleep like she normally does. she's been going to sleep hours past her bedtime and she wakes up every few hours. She's fine (doesn't seem sick) when we go to her). Should i let her CIO? I'm totally at a loss her. TIA. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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can you put her on an incline in her crib? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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hasn't helped. she's all over the crib. she's 9 mths so she moves around a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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neti pot -- just kidding... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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how old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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^^^just saw your reply--our almost 9mo still naps in his stroller, on an incline, because he has bad reflux. if she's really congested, perhaps try that? also, are you using saline drops? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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i put drops of breastmilk in her nose. strangely, a tip from our nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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that's supposed to work, but we use saline drops whenever dcs are congested and they work great. i'd use them every night if she's congested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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it is a huge battle to get the drops in. i can never do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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9mths [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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maybe an ear infection?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] All I do is clean! I have the messiest kids in the world -- I have them help, but I feel like there's always so much to be done in my house. Anyone else? I have a cleaning woman once a week and I'm not a total neat freak, but I do like to keep a nice home. But it sure is a lot more work than I thought it would be.... Ugh. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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you need to teach your kids to pick up after themselves [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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they do, as much as little ones can. but what about the tomato sauce they got on the tablecloth that i have to wash again -- the couple of outfits my DD goes threw a day (she's a total toddler tomboy). i just can't keep up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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How old are dcs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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2yo and 6 yo -- the 6 yo is pretty good about picking up his toys, etc. it's just the laundry and keeping the kitchen nice, etc. maybe having a big house wasn't such a great idea after all... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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mine is 2.8 y/o and is a great kid. but i feel like she is MORE messy now than ever before. because she can do so many things by herself but has a pretty high error rate, you know? and then, to clean up after herself, she's willing but needs supervision to do so, which sometimes feels like more work rather than less. we have a small home and i keep a basket at the bottom of the stairs for things that need to go upstairs eventually. but otherwise i'm just waiting it out and trying to be patient. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have an iPhone? I can't figure out how to get the iPod function to play NOT on speaker. Even when I have headphones on it plays it on speaker. And, the iPod function wouldn't work at ALL on the airplane--wondering what's up with that too. thx 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.01.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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oops, did I accidentally post on apple.com again by mistake? doh, so sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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Oh, my, I wouldn't want to post something NOT related to parenting on UB!! Silly me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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but these questions are so stupid-why come here for an answer? seriously, are you that dumb, you can't figure out to contact apple? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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meow - chill out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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i am chilled out-my iphone works fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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if you have an iPhone, why couldn't you offer some helpful information to OP in the same amount of time it took you to be bitchy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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np: because it's in her nature! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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glad to know *something* works for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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LOL--really [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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np--shut up!! You're so annoying. Why not collapse the post?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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why in the world are you wasting time on this conversation when you could just collapse the post or read past it? Surely that would take up less of your precious time than continuing to be engaged with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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That's weird - have you tried shutting it down completely? This isn't normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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I've turned it on and off several times. Oy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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this will sound totally stupid, but are you sure the headphone jack is pushed in all the way? I've had times where I thought mine was but it wasn't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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LOL--I did make sure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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omg--I totally take it back--it wasn't!!!! LOL thank you so much!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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(oh, any idea about why the iPod function wouldn't work on the airplane?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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it should work in airplane mode so I'm not sure. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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np-what is airplane mode? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:32 PM Flag
[ - ] i need to lose 2 lbs by sat. it can be all water. any suggestions? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.01.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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don't eat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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low carb diet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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drink a lot of water, do cardio, and stay away from salt and carbs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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will 2 lbs really make a difference? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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yes. its all bloat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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Find a bikram yoga studio and take two classes. You'll drop 5 lbs at least [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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spanx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Think our apt is a deathtrap - big art leaning on floors, huge bookshelves, lots of electronic equipment - how do I babyproof this place? Has anyone used a service? Is that totally princessy? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.01.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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we haven't done a ton of babyproffing, we just don't leave db alone and did a crawl around of the floor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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there's no need to hire a service. just go to a babyproofing website -- i think goodhousekeeping.com has one and it tells you everything you need to do. i think there's one on babycenter, too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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FWIW, we had our place professionally babyproofed (had stairs, so needed someone to come in and do the gates), and it was only really necessary for the time between 13mo (when dc started to walk) and 2yo, at which point he was no longer interested in all that crap and didn't touch it. In other words, do as much "temporary" babyproofing as you can, knowing you can put everything back eventually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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np - honestly, not that hard to install gates on stairs, no need for a service for this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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well, there is a sucker born every minute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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I've never drilled a screw in straight in my life. It was a choice between having the things put in right for a couple hundred bucks or having them all wobbly and not exactly safe. Also, I live in a prewar with uneven baseboards and old stair rails that the thing had to attach to. Not exactly a cinch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:14 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have an anxiety disorder? how do you treat it? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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yep -- i take effexor for anxiety and wellbutrin for depression [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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what is effexor? any side effects? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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it has a few side effects so i started to take the wellbutrin to counteract them (sexual side effects and felt too numb) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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cbt can be helpful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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what is cbt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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cogntive behavioral therapy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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zoloft [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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I had post-partum induced OCD. Went on Zoloft. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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zoloft changed my life. I'm a normal person now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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I do, but I don't really do anything for it. Zoloft made me shaky and absent-minded, paxil made me psychotic. Have a bottle of Effoxor in my cabinet that I haven't tried yet - kind of scared to see what that one will do to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Went to park slope today to look at potentially moving there from Manhattan - have to say I was not really impressed. Some blocks were beautiful but South Slope is not that great, and the new construction was crappy. Am I missing something? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.01.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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there are so many nicer places in brooklyn, imho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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Such as? We have a georgous apt in Washington Heights but I'm feeling a little isolated and want to be nearer to sweet restaurants, coffee places, bookstores [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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not every place has the amenities, aka full gentrification yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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where in Wash heights? If you're in the Hudson heights area, there is more than one new restaurant, coffee place, etc on the brink of opening up right now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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We're in the lower 160's - keep thinking that it's coming, but the OC just closed on Edgecomb and I am discouraged (though I love the winebar on 170th) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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PS is like every other neighborhood on the planet - good areas and bad. FWIW, if you're looking for something more affordable, try Astoria [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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Of course South Slope is not great. It's not zoned for good schools either. You gotta look at North Slope (that's what people think of when they say park slope). If you can't afford it, look at center slope but I'd only go to NS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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Much of north slope isn't zoned for good schools either. Signed 7th and Sterling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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trees, great architecture, individually owned boutiques and restaurants, lots and lots of families, a real neighborhood (albeit a very large one), proximity to prospect park, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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Maybe I'm not digging on brownstone living - prefer a great pre-war apt with doormen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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well then, the slope's not for you. i lived in brooklyn heights and there's nothing like sitting on the stoop in the evening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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maybe someplace higher up in Wash Heights like above 181st-several beautiful prewar buildiings with doormen and more services there than in the low 160's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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there are nice buildings on Prospect Park West and I think some on 8th avenue too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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why don't you move to hoboken then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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try Eastern Parkway in Prospect Heights, Brooklyn, around the corner from P.S. & several great PreWar apt bldgs. What is your budget? How much space do you want? How old are dcs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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You might like Cobble Hill better. It's more consistently pretty. There's a restaurant scene there, and it's near Smith Street. PS 29 is a great school, as is PS 58. PS 261 is pretty good, so watch those school zone lines when you look. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] My 8.5 mo DD started crawling last week. Started out slow but now is super quick. Now she has figured out how to pull herself to stand. Do you think she will walk soon? Just curious. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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No way to know. My ds pulled himself up to standing at 7 mos. Don't remember when he started crawling. Took his first solo steps at 11.5 mos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Live in a NYC coop on the 12th floor. The super lives right near us they are so freakin loud. He has 12 family members living with him. Aren't supers supposed to have crappy apts? Why does this one have a 3 bedroom? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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How classist of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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I would be pissed. He lives there for free and makes noise that sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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I agree that the noise is bad, and that, since he's the super it's probably not a good idea to ask him to keep it down. On the other hand, he doesn't live there for free, since it's in part payment for taking care of the building. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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its just so disrespectful. I knocked on his door the other night around 8 bc db was asleep and I kept on hearing a loud banging noise. His wife tells me that her mother is making chicken. I told her that its just too loud. wtf? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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np; he does NOT live there for free. It's a part of compensation for the convenience of the shareholders who might have emergencies in the middle of the night. Havign said that, he needs to be just as respectful to his neighbors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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That is a major compensation. 3 bedroom in a nice building in a top floor on the ues. Not a bad deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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Sounds like very fair compensation & if he has a family of 12 - 3 bedrooms is tight. We have a 3 bedroom and three dc would be tight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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That has to do with unrelated people, I think. If it's family.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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I doubt ALL 12 people are direct family members. I mean, does he have 10 kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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i doubt the coop board would be pleased if they found out a huge extended family was living in the apt. i would inform them first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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These coop boards do jack. I swear they give you a hard time coming into the building but when things go wrong they do nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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np: really depends on the coop board. ours is incredibly involved and responsive. OP, you should complain to the managing agent and the board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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Even if the coop board does not take action, isn't it still a violation of occupancy limits? If so, you have a ground to report that to somethere. Call 311 and find out where to report. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 12:01 PM Flag
[ - ] i think its possible i am the only one on UB right now 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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you are not [ Reply | More
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i'm here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] is there such thing as having a minor bipolar disorder? my therapist is suggesting this and it baffles me. Just because I do a million things at once and get anxiety often when overwhelmed. I am really upset. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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all i know is that in law school several of my gfs and I saw the same therapist. we later discovered she'd diagnosed us all - 3 of us - as bipolar. really we were just stressed about school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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there is something called cyclothymia and there is bipolar disorder I and bipolar disorder II - not all of the bipolar disorders have the major swings that most associate with the name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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bi polar is flavor of the month dx. If you don't believe your therapist, get a second opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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ita. are you depressed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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not 100%, just get up and down [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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do you need a dx for insurance purposes? though bipolar is kind of extreme for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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hmmm -- never heard of it. sounds like anxiety -- which can be really intense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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what type of therapist are you seeing? FWIW, a diagnosis of bipolar disorder should be made and managed by a psychiatrist. Not to mention that there is no such diagnosis called "minor bipolar disorder" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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I've been diagnosed as bipolar 2, and the diagnosis totally fits. My mood swings are dominated by depression, and then out of no where I'll be slightly manic. People who are bipolar 2 have shorter, less intense mania than people who are bipolar 1, and according to my (now former) psychiatrist, tend to have more depression than mania. Plus, a good amount of time I'm just "regular". I was really upset with the diagnosis, and have had no issues over the past 8 months, but I know that the swings will be back one day! [ Reply | More
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totally doesn't sound like bpd. sounds like anxiety. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:11 PM Flag
[ - ] headed to trader joe's. what should i get for dinner?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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the chinese chicken chow mein -- which isn't chow mein but is really good with their brown rice... [ Reply | More
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where are you - I am 11201! Did my zipcode change??!! [ Reply | More
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[ - ] what would you have done? friend came to visit me from out of town. i purchased her museuma and a circle line ticket as a treat. fri night we went out to dinnner, i paid 175 for the both of us. she said she would get us the next night. she picked a very high end restaurant and it cost 230. waiter came over 3 times to check if we had settled bill. she just sat there. finally, i put credit card in. she said nothing. left today. did not give me any money nor say thank you. what should i do???? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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lose her as a friend [ Reply | More
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really? i make more money than her so i was not sure if she was just taking advantage or what. [ Reply | More
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she sounds like a bitch. I would have made her pay her end of the bill. [ Reply | More
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i felt weird causing a scene and i kept waiting for her to do something [ Reply | More
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ita. its one thing if friend is having tough time and you know up front you will be paying, but to say she will pick it up, pick high end, and then just sit there is beyond rude and taking advantage of you. [ Reply | More
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so what should i do now? i feel like a loser for letting this happen to me. and it was a lot of money on food! [ Reply | More
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is this the first time something like this has happened with her? [ Reply | More
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yes [ Reply | More
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Yikes. This is what I would do. I would email her and tell her that you are a little annoyed and confused and then say what you just said (about you picking up tab first night and her picking up tab second night). I would tell her I value her friendship, but you need to be remibursed. [ Reply | More
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should have said, value her friendship more than money but I need to be reimbursed. [ Reply | More
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okay but how do i do this without causing a huge fight! she did come see me so maybe she feels like since she had to pay airfare [ Reply | More
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My feelings are, you two are friends, you have history and no one should ever fight over money. You tell her your side, she tells you hers, you work it out. Its not that big of a deal [ Reply | More
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np: but she stayed with you, but didn't have to pay hotel. have you ever flown to visit her? how did it work then? how close is your friendship? [ Reply | More
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If the purpose of the trip was for 2 of you to get together, she did pay airfare. financially, it's fair. Did she want to see NYC and asked you if she could stay with you or did she come out to see you? When my friend flies over from CA, I pay for all meals (we don't go to high end). She offers to pay but I grab the bill before she can. I think it's only fair that she was nice enough to fly over to where I am. [ Reply | More
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I would not ask for a reimbursement. it will make you look petty, u should have not paid in the first place. If you guys are really close you should ask her why she picked such a pricey place. [ Reply | More
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because i am passive aggressive, i would say nothing to her, but talk about it ad nauseum to anyone without earplugs. [ Reply | More
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op and i think this is me. what do i have to gain by saying something to her. nothing, but lessen learned. [ Reply | More
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$230.00 [ Reply | More
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ita. there is nothing you can do without jepardizing the friendship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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You gotta let it go. Don't host her again or next time, you pay dutch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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ITA, let it go. It would make me crazy too and, in hindsight, you could have said, "Hey, thanks for offering to buy dinner tonight," and handed her the check. But I probably would have done exactly what OP did, and then steamed about it. [ Reply | More
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^^^and, you know, it might be that's she's having financial difficulties and is just too embarrassed to say anything. [ Reply | More
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when you put in the credit card, you should have told her what her share was -- or said something. that is strange. [ Reply | More
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ita. i would have said "it's 230, so your share is 115" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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ITA! the time to say something has passed, but it could have been brought up nonchalantly while paying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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That is really strange. If she couldn't afford it, why did she pick such an expensive place? Or why did she offer to pay to being with? [ Reply | More
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