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[ - ] No flames please. Will be hiring a nanny soon. One issue of concern is television. I generally don't like the idea of nanny watching tv when she should be watching db, nor do I like the idea of db being exposed to much tv, especially when I don't know what's on it. On the other hand, I understand a nanny needs a break at times, and tv is an easy escape. And, if I had a tv in my office at work, it would be really hard not to want to turn it on when I was bored or tired or fed up! Do you think it would be disrespectful toward the nanny to put a timer on the TV such that it can be watched during a specific one or two time periods during the day (db's naptime), so that she gets some downtime, but I can have a bit more control how much tv db is exposed to? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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yeah. she's not 8 years old. just tell her what your rules are and she should listen to this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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OP: But I read on here where a nanny said her employers had a no TV rule and she basically broke it with abandon and they were none the wiser. But presumably, they were otherwise happy with her work. This is the scenario that bothers me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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why picture this scenario if your nanny has never given you any reason to believe that the TV has been on all day? stop picturing the worst. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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So get a nannycam. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Just tell her no TV while DB is awake. If she's good, she'll respect that. Get a nannycam to double check on her if you don't trust her. Timer seems a little psycho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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but a nanny cam is waaaay more invasive! - np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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OP: That was my thinking but apparently nannycams are more the "norm" and timer comes of "control-freak"-ish. So I guess I'll do the nanny cam. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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OR: I agree. But my point isn't about protecting the nanny's rights, it's about getting what OP wants out of her nanny. If she wants to have her not watch TV and she wants to feel sure about it but not piss off the nanny, that's the only way. I personally just told my nanny not to watch TV when db is awake and I feel pretty sure she follows that rule. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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you make an extremely valid point! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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Really? If there was a tv around, I would totally watch it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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np: me too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:23 PM Flag
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if you're going to be that controlling, you might have a very hard time finding a nanny... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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I would find this very offensive. You should first relay your concern and possibly put a nanny cam on TV to make sure rules are being followed. Trust goes both ways [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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ITTTA! I used to nanny and I would not work for someone like that. Too weird [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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would you work for someone who put in a nanny cam? np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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I think you need to hire someone who is cool with your expectations and realize that - even when you find such a person - you won't be able to control everything. Part of hiring a nanny is learning to let go a little bit. Find someone you trust and let go a little bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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OP: Okay, the consensus seems to be to get a nanny cam. I actually thought that was more invasive, but it sounds like I was wrong. Thanks; I'll do that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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It is invasive but it's your kid, very precious to you, and you have to do what you have to do for peace of mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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do you have a nanny manual? seriously, outline the duties, expectations of what she is responsible for, as well as house rules, and a little summary of each child. As long as she knows up front what to expect [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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OP: What is a nanny manual? Are they something you buy or make? I'm clueless in this department. TIA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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It is something you draft yourself. Basically, it should contain all the contact info, info about the kids, rules such as car seats, no excessive computer use or phone use while watching the kids, etc, as well as the rules on tv for nanny and your kids. Also has emergency info about where to go in emergency (ie, family meeting place if there is a fire), where the fuse box is, how to use the laundry or washing machine, anything you feel she should know. This way, there is no question about what you expect of her. Do you have a contract for her? You can check out ivillage.com, some of the people on the au pair and nannies board have links to some helpful sites [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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No. We haven't hired anyone yet. This is helpful,though. Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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Yes, very disrespectful. If you want no TV watching, get rid of your TV's in the common areas and leave one only in your bedroom which, I assume, would be off limits to her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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We don't watch tv in our bedroom and never would. It is only allowed in the living room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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lol - you can't have it all babe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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I'm not asking for it all. I would never put a tv in my bedroom, and I don't want my kid watching tv. I guess I could just disconnect it altogether... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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yep. we keep it in our bedroom becasue we don't watch tv in our bedroom. it keeps it from being watched most of the time by nanny, by children, by us! good deal all around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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or put a small one in her room or in the kitchen, so that its not comfortable to watch. imo its important to respect nannies decision to let dbs watch tv sometimes. kids did to wind down just like we do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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maybe put db in a daycare center. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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This is not an option in our situation, or I would. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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If you worry about the tv you should also worry about the amount of time spent on the cell phone. It can't be controlled. No matter how much you pay her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:16 PM Flag
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that is completely offensive. honestly, you need to be able to trust your nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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Is there a reason you want to treat your nanny like she is a child? A timer is too much. If you have that kind of technology, you can monitor how much TV is watched and talk to her if she is watching it for hours a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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If you can't trust your nanny to make a decision about when its a good time for TV, then you really can't trust her with the lives of your children. If you're going to hire someone and put a timer on your TV then keep in mind the type of nanny that will take that job, b/c, as a previous nanny, any nanny who respects herself at all won't work for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Have only one TV and keep it in your bedroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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Don't overthink this quite yet. My nanny literally never turns on the TV unless she's babysitting at night and dc is sleeping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:09 PM Flag
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Get rid of the tv altogether [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 09:21 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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middle name dora [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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too old-ladyish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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old fashioned - but in a good way. lovely, simple, not overused at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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It has a pretty sound to it. On the other hand, it reminds me of flora and fauna. Which reminds me of bacteria growing in gross places. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Was at a block party and there was a basketball hoop. There was a man playing with his wife and small child. DD ran over because she wanted to play too (she is 2) and I went over to get her out of the way. While I am collecting her, the man shoots a basket and it hits my back! I am pregnant too! The guy basically was like "oops, sorry". I was majorly pissed! He saw me there and still threw the ball...shouldn't he have been just a little more apologetic, like "Oh i'm so sorry about that, are you OK??" Now my back is KILLING me. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Eh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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so if you or your husband whacked a pregnant woman who is hugely pregnant, you'd be nonchalant about it? wow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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OR: I actually am 9 mos pregnant myself so I think I'd be sensitive to this if he were really out of line, but you said he said "sorry." I mean, if he knocked you to the ground or something, it would be different, but I get hit by balls all the time (have a ds and a husband and a basketball hoop in the driveway) and it doesn't hurt that much. It's sort-of the cost of hanging on the playground IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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yeah it is YOUR husband and kid. not some random neighborhood guy who was being a jerk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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YOu need to let it go. It was just a basketball. You're wasting too much energy on this and, if you are as pregnant as I am, you don't have that much energy to spare! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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he was probably drinking [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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i don't think he was, just a weird guy imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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whatever, pita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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you sound hormonal, whats the big deal he said sorry & it was an accident [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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the big deal is i was getting my toddler and he shot the basket anyway. what if he hit dd? she would have been really hurt and cried and our ruined would be basically ruined. and he should have been a little more sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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YOu sound like an overreactor, to be honest. Basketballs are not rocks. If your dd would have been "really hurt" and your day ruined by her getting hit by a ball, that sounds sort-of . . . I don't know, like maybe you all need to grow a pair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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my husband did the same thing at a party at our friend's house -- shot a basket even though someone was walking through the driveway. men are idiots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Should we have three kids? It seems like so much fun day to day to have a big family, but when it comes to traveling it seems like its a bad idea, and I want to be able to give my kids things, and financially three kids will limit us. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Only you can answer that. Would be disaster for me and DH, we are definitely done at two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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I would die with two much less three, but I was on the fence about having one. I enjoy having one...you are still able to have a life and give dc everything they need. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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it sounds like you know the answer... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can we buy a sectional sleeper sofa. Jennifer Convertibles kinda crappy. Room and Board too pricey. Any thoughts? I'm in NYC for what it's worth... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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try Macy's. they have a very good selection of sofas. surprisingly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:27 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 yo fighting me when washing her hair. any suggestions. I've tried letting her help. not working. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.01.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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just do it fast. my 21 mo has just started doing the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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let her wash too? We took turns. DD washed her hair then I did. Worked for awhile [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Ditto here. DS used to love it, suddenly shrieks. I think it's a control issue. I figure it will pass. So now I'm just washing it every other night and doing it fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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i used to put a washcloth in front of her face to rinse and now she cries when i do that! but then i can't rinse it without the washcloth becase it gets in her face. what do you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone on who has recently purchased or leased a new car? What did you get? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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purchased bmw 535 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] trick to getting good hotels deals for june in paris? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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may sound crazy, but check out vrbo.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:32 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate that my dh has lost nearly all his hair and has gained 40 lbs since we have been married. There, I said it. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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understandable. the hair - he's not at fault. but teh weight? he could work on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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The hair thing wouldn't bother me, the weight would. Not healthy. Why don't you try to get him to take up tennis or running with you or something. Get a sitter so you can exercise together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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you're reding my mind. love him, don't love looking at the gut... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have the Chicco cortina stroller? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Any moms of 2 under 3 on? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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Me. 14 month ds and almost 3 yo. Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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Expecting #2 around #1's first birthday. Won't have any help and wondering how it's done :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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that sounds awful. np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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that's not helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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I actually do have help (a lot of the time). Honestly, when I am on my own it is really difficult. My friends whose children are spaced further apart seem to have a much easier time (one kid is usually in school, etc.) However, I just keep remindnign myself that in a few years this will supposedly be much easier. GL. I am sure that you will figure it out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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Also, the first months are really the easiest. Hard b/c of lack of sleep but since the baby isn't mobile and just really eats and sleeps, your routine remains basically the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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That's actualyl a bit reassuring. 2 yo will be starting preschool 3 ams a week when the baby is about 4-6 weeks old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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I had 3 under 3 until one month ago...my oldest just turned three and I have 19mos old twins [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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i was in that position, then had 3 4 and under. the key is to keep the older child napping every day!!!! That was the only way to keep me sane [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] DD is 4 months old. She was sleeping through the night and now she isn't. Waking up 2 or 3 times. Any ideas? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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Mine had a total sleep regression around 4.5mo. Not sure if was due to teething or what, but I know a lot of others who went through the same thing. That was when I started reading Weissbluth and prepping for sleep training. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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I was considering that...I teach school and am out for the summer. I want dd to be sleeping through the night by the time august rolls around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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do you give her the breast or bottle? If so, do not give to her when she wakes (since you know she can make it through the night). Put water in the bottle and give that to her. Soon she won't wake because it won't be worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Breastmilk in bottle...what if she is crying...let her CIO? I have a very difficult time with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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Ride it out for a month or so more and then sleep train. I did Ferber. Read a couple of the books and figure out what works best for your db and you and dh. But right now she might be having a growth spurt and need the extra feedings at ngiht. I think most of the "experts" don't recommend sleep training until around 6 mos old. Up until then you unfortunately follow their lead but just try to set up good habits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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That is what my friends have told me...wait until 6 months. She goes down for the night very early so she is up early and wakes up a couple of times. I am dying!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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mine was sleeping great and just started waking up through the night again. two steps forward, one step back. i'm soooo tired today [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I damaged cartilage in my rib cage in February due to heavy coughing from a very bad flu. My ribs still hurt when I breath deeply or sneeze. Should I be having this looked at, or just a sign of being old - long recovery. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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you never had it looked at? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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Just when it happened. I thought they were fractured, but the x-ray showed nothing. So they said "just cartilage damage" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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i'm going to chalk it up to slow recovery b/c of old age. but if you need peace of mind, check with doc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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I'd call the doctor. You shouldn't still have pain 3-4 mo later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Grrr... DH just returned from Asia today, fell asleep 2 hours after got back... still sleeping. I know he is going to be hungry when he wakes up and I can't deal with making him anything... I am sure he sort of won't care, but does anyone struggle with the guilt of not feeling capable of doing "wifely duties"? I was practically an only child, lived just with my Mom - lots of fending for myself... am having a hard time feeling responsible for another grown-up sometimes, when I take care of a toddler all day... thanks for listening... 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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I often feel the same way - was raised similarly and feel like a grown up should be able to take care of himself. But - DH pampers me when I'm having a hard time so I try to return the favor. Just try to think how nice it would be if you were the tired hungry burnt out one and he did this for you. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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thank you - I wish I could say the same, but sadly if I went away, he would literally eat almonds and bread with condiments for dinner. The worst part is he is the best cook, and we used to love to cook together/he would cook for me a lot - I think our dd has taken a serious toll on us... He also grew up in a country where the women really take care of their men - i like to point out that most of the women aren't working 50 hours a week on top of the rest of their work load at home! I am lucky though because he is seriously the best father I know - EVERYONE i know comments on it, so.. I guess i should pick my battles! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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well, maybe this is something the 2 of you can talk about (not tonight obviously!) Make an effort to pamper him a little and let him know how you would like him to reciprocate. He sounds like a great guy but maybe a little clueless. Men sometimes need to be told what to do! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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op: thank you! We do communicate super well - I think this is one of my hangups... like I feel very lucky how much he loves us and is committed to us - I need to show him, etc... he certainly doens't want a wife like someone from his country, but I guess all men like a little pampering/attention/dinner... I admit I do make him his meals for his flights - he won't eat airplane food, so I stock him up on sandwiches and snacks that make his partner totally jealous! Okay, I feel better now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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glad to help! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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Don't think of it as "wifely duties" that you must take care of. Think if it as nurturing the partner you love who would do the same for you if you were hungry or sick or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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np: just curious here...what exactly are you whipping up for him when he gets home, just an example? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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OR: My DH travels a lot for work and I WOH ft and have a toddler. I certainly don't go nuts but I make sure to have something in the house for him to eat when he gets home. He loves sushi so sometimes I'll order that so it arrives just after he does. Or I'll have salad fixings in the house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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I normally would I guess - but he has been gone about 6 weeks in the last three months, and I work full time - i am very tired... as is he... I should just get in there and make us both something... I did buy things to make, it is just a matter of doing it... thanks... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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can you order something? You could get cute and have a pizza and some beer waiting for him - very American after his travels. You don't have to get all Martha Stewart on him to make him feel good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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op: really good idea... he would probably love pizza actually - I just can't bear to order anything - been doing that every night practically since he has been gone...I should just suck it up... thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Just do it. It's easy and not that expensive. It will make him feel good. Seriously, it sucks to come home and be hugnry and there's nothing to eat. Light some candles and drink a beer with him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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op: thank you - okay, he is still sleeping anyway, but I made a barley salad that i think he will like! And I have lunch for tomorrow! I wish he would wake up though - i miss him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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can't he just go out and get a sub? That's what my dh would want more than a reheated dinner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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that or a plate of spaghetti and meatballs, after eating asian food for weeks. np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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op: seriously - he is SICK of Asian food! And he is very about the home cooked meal, and I am posoitive he has eaten out every meal for the past week! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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I never was very liberal, but I am amazed about how many women say that they always make the dh's meals/food. A friend of mine said that her dh came home from attending a pro baseball game the other night and he woke her up so she could make him a sandwich. She acted like that was normal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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I agree - the worst part is that I am a trained chef and I think the expectations are a bit higher! Lol! The sad part is that I used to cook a lot, but have the worst appetite since my pregnancy and now still nursing - am SO tired all the time and have no interest in food - makes it even harder! HATE shopping, would eat cereal for dinner every night sort of thing... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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WTF is your problem, beyotch?! He just busted his ass out in Asia to take care of your sorry ass and support his family and you can't make him a freakin' PBJ sandwich or something..? Don't be surprised when he serves you the divorce papers. Seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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op: WHAT???? OH AND I DON'T DO ANYTHING TO MAKE HIM HAPPY OR SUPPORT HIM OR WORK MYSELF!?!?! You have no clue about our situation, so don't call me names. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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hey, why'd you post if you weren't ready for any and all responses...? you sound like a peach. i'm sure you husband had lots of fun in Asia. No need to draw you a picture of what I mean, because deep down you were already wondering about that. Well, I'm here to tell you: it's true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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op: lolol - I'm rubber and you're glue... nasty person, aren't you??? My husband would have a good laugh about that one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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Dude, order his favorite pizza. My dh would be psyched to wake up to his favorite pizza after being away. Add a beer in, and you're the best wife eer. I don't think men care as much as we think they do! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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I would SOOOO much rather my dh order me pizza and beer than cook me somethin! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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I don't feel this way at all. You chose to create an environment in which you serve others all the time. DH is not a baby, he can get his own food, and if he can't, then he must learn. And if he won't, then he's the wrong guy for you. Don't become a cook for someone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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op: I really wish you guys would read a bit further into some of my answers actually... It is pretty much my own issue with feeling guilty... unfortunately, one person in particular, has turned this into me being a bitch b/c I won't make him a peanut butter sandwich (please note Miss Nasty above that I did make him a very nice dinner as it turns out) I just like to be nice and supportive, and feel guilty that I don't have the energy to prepare something he would like to eat - like a homecooked meal, his favorite. Gee whiz. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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