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[ - ] dd, is 4 and has been potty trained over a year. Over the last two weeks, has had several accidents--both urinating and defacating. I have been very low key about it...not wanting to make it worse. Told her we all have accidents but she has to try and be more careful. Do I start some sort of punishment? I am getting concered that it is happening too often. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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do NOT use punishment. what's going on in her life? any transitions or new stressors? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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do not punish her. what is going on in her life? did she recently suffer a head injury, loss of pet? etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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bc punishing her wont make her feel worse than she does??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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I am not quite sure she is upset about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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it's all about you now isnt it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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np ?? You wouldn't be concerend? Get over yourself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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how about asking what is going on in the dd's life that she is regressing instead of gee, maybe i need to get tough on her ass to make her listen to me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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well that is not at all what you said. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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OP: You are assuming i have not done all that. I am just trying to get some ideas as to the next step and looking for advice. I have DONE NOTHING yet, except ask some questions. BITCH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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could be a sign of something going on emotionally. ask her how things are going at school, etc. (not linking to her accidents) but just to get information. regression can be a sign of stress. punishment is a bad idea. gl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks to all the HELPFUL responses. She will be leaving preschool and starting kindergarten in the fall. We have been talking a lot about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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the end of school does cause regression in some kids. our prek director handed out an article relating to this exact issue [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks! Did she make any suggestions on how to discuss the end of school with your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Decided to buy a Prius. Any recs for a good dealer in the NYC area (Westchester etc. is absolutely fine) 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Call them all. I heard the Prius is on 8-9 mo backorder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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weeks, not months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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Queensboro Toyota was great-we dealt with Bruce Edelman and negotiated exactly what we wanted for a reasonable price over the internet [ Reply | More
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[ - ] 20 month y/o is a hitter. what can i do at this age to teach her not to hit. i don't think time outs work at this age. tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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I agree with you. You say, no hitting, hitting hurts, calmly and redirect. Over and over and over. This too shall pass [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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ITA. Really hard to teach them at that age that hitting hurts b/c they're still not totally up on the idea of others having feelings. Just repeat, repeat, repeat the message until they get old enough to get it. My 24 mo still sometimes hits me and then laughs, not even out of anger, just out of . . . exuberance. It's really annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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at this age, it is usually tied to the dc not having the words to express frustration (or many different emotions). work on teaching more words and try to intercede when you think it is going to happen. be consistent in terms of discipline (say no, remove from situation, etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] ok, need to move to 'burbs. pls tell me all the great new stuff i have to look forward to in the burbs. tia 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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Trips to the city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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space, public schools, a yard . . .? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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I'm moving too. Looking forward to space, central air, a yard, a garden, great public schools, grilling in our backyard, joining the local swim club, enrolling my boys in preschool w/o having to have them iq-tested and interviewed... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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my bedroom windows look out onto a canopy of trees. it's a great way to wake up. plus the whole backyard/patio thing rocks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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more space, less competition over stuff that doesn't matter (but probably there will be some in other areas, quiet, a yard that you can be almost certain no one used as a tiolet that morning... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] ok this might be a dumb question but I am a really new mom - do you use a bib when breastfeeding? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I didn't really use them until ds started teething and eating solids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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No, use a cloth diaper to use for burping, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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lol, no, unless you are REALLY worried about spit up, and even then it wouldn't do much good. save them for when you will need 6 a day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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It's not that funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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wow, thank you for letting me know what is funny and what is not. i will take a note of this converstaion and remind myslef later- "no, that is not funny. you may not laught when you are amused. check on UB first to see if it is actually amusing." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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snort! Now that is funny! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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no. but don't feel stupid, i wondered the same thing. you should see how much more bottle fed babies spit up than breastfed babies and then you'll understand why they make them for wee ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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i did at times. DD would spit up and i would hate hving to change her all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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not a bib, but i placed a burp cloth (I used cloth diapers as burp cloths) on my lap (or boppy, when I used it) under dc's head in case of spit up (dd did so more than ds). Nothing like a warm lapful of spit up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I find the cheapest Sigg bottles? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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you can't, b/c shipping online is 6-7 per bottle - such a RIP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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try amazon.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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some styles free shipping on amazon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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I bought mine at 75th and Park [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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ARe these bottles really that great? Are there other brands, or are Sigg the cool ones? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] is djokovic mom on ub or yoube? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm 36, relatively healthy, been ttc for 3 months, no success yet... how soon before we talk to the dr. about moving forward with fertility...? very confused and nervous. never been down this road before! 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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three months is nothing, i think. you'r enot that old, and why jump straight to spending all teh money and aggravation. i'd wiat at least 3 more months. then again, i haven't ahd this experience, so thers may tell you to hurry up and check it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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not good advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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np-not really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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why not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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She's 36, if she got pregnant today she would most likely be 37 when she gives birth, if she wants another that puts her at 38/39. She doesn't have the gift of time. It takes months to get appt, get bloodwork. She needs to take the bull by the horns now. And it may not cost any more than a copay to go to an in network RE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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sounds like a good idea- thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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no problem and the best of luck to you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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and if you throw in a miscarriage (God forbid) it sets you back months again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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give it 3 more months. are you using opks? do you have regular periods? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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are you using ovulation sticks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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You make an appointment with an RE now. Hopefully, you get pregnant before the appt. In the meantime, read Taking Charge of your Fertility and How To Choose The Sex of Your Baby. Both are terrific in teaching about your fertility, cervical mucous, timing of intercourse, what dh should and shouldn't do. Good luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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exactly what i did. then got to cancel the app't :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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happens ALL the time! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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I don't know where you live, but I just did a search on craigslist and both of the books are on there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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how many children do you want? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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thanks for the responses! i am using a fertility monitor, ovulated this month normally, but last 2 months I didn't ovulate according to the monitor. I was having some severe back pain and the dr. thought it was my body's way of responding to stress. she wasn't concerned, told me to wait a couple more months, but I just wanted some other opinions. I would like to have a couple of children, to answer one of the responders... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Go see an RE if you can afford it. That is a reproductive endochrinologist (sp?) not an ob/gyn. Can't hurt. Could help. Its too important not to do this. AND get dh to go get his sperm checked first. Easy as pie and info you need. He goes to a urologist to do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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You might want to temperature chart in tandem with the monitor (that way you can confirm/compare them to each other). If it will make you relax make a DR (RE) appointment now, otherwise the rule of thumb is over 35 and one year of TTC (as to when you go for med intervention). GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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my re said over 35 six months at the most. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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is this your first db? if so, i would get checked out. if not, i would give it 3 more months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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I would go see an RE. If you decide to go IVF route and all goes well, you will have 36-yo frozen fertilized eggs to rely on for future pregnancies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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That is a good point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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especially b/c at age 36 there is a relatively small window of opportunity [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 yo dd has an underbite and a dentist told me if i dont start correcting that asap, she could end up looking like jay leno! either that or she could have a lot of surgery. is he full of bs or do i have something to be worried about? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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It will need correcting but not at 2 yo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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^^Why don't you consult an orthodontist to make yourself feel better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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dentist here- I think it's a little premature to be worrying at 2 yrs... definitely consult with an orthodontist if you want- no harm. let me know if you want a recommendation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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do you know one on ues or scarsdale? tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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i know a bunch on ues- [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Yeah, I had a hardcore overbite - it was my jaw and not my teeth. Started correcting it at 9 or 10 and got great results. My orthodontist used my before and after pics at some conference. And yes, I was a hideously ugly kid :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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I've heard about these sort of things before. I would DEFINITELY get a second opinion though. These days, there are just too many cash cow dentist out there that got into the profession for the money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] there was a girl today in the park... about 7 years old... and she was playing with no shirt on. nyc..so crowded park. i was somewhat weirded out by this. am i right or is it me who's crazy for being weirded out? she's just a kid.. no boobs. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I would be weirded out! Especially with the thought that there is always some perv everywhere watching [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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I think this was pretty common when we were kids, like in the 70's. I don't see it anymore. But I guess there's nothing wrong with it, really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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ita. i'm ok with it in theory, but in practice, too many sickos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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I wouldn't care about the no shirt thing except for all the extra sunscreen that would be needed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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ditto - that's what occurred to me (the sun, the sun!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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you're in nyc, you see everything there. that stuff doesnt phase me anymore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I would notice this, but she's a kid, no big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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it would be no big deal to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Good website for a nice changing table-need something to go with a blue wood bed. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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Check landofnod.com. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] The ONLY thing I like about being pg is seeing and feeling db move. Buit I really like that a lot :-) 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I'm 7.5 months now and I pretty much agree with you. I also like just holding my stomach. Its so nice to sort of have something going on, when nothing else is going on! I dislike having my blatter squished though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Irritated by woman at the market earlier today. She was just standing in the entrance of the store on her cell blocking the entrance. Then she started to walk in. I was behind her pushing ds in his stroller. So partway in she stops completely, still in the doorway. I bumped her heel with the front wheel of the stroller and immediately said sorry and she gave me this nasty look and made some snippy comment. Idiot - she's the one stopping stock still in a thruway! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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you're right, she's wrong, but it still bothers you doesn't it???? I'm the same way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I had forgotten about it but jsut remembered. Pg so everything irritates me just a little bit more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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I'm there wish you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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lol, i love that you hit her with teh stroller. maybe exucse me would have sufficed, but she sounds annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I really didn't mean to. I wasn't following her that closely but I was walking in and not paying such close attention to her. It didn't occur to me that she'd just come to a dead halt in a store entrance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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see, i would have meant it if i did that. but seriously, you are right. what is wrong with people? I'm pg so i get that feeling all th etime. everyone just seems so much dumber and more annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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It totally irritated me and I think waht irritated me the most was that she was snippy about it! Like she had any reason to be snippy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm new to UB... stupid question to some, I'm sure... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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I think what's stupid is that you think this is a question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone ever feel "what's wrong with me?" I mean just that I continue to put myself in situations where I get hurt, and really never get what I need from my relationships! I just want to be the one with the power-I know so stupid-but it's the truth 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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Yes, I can't totally relate. Now that I'm 40 yrs I finally have learned to put up a tough exterior and not tolerate being treated badly by anyone at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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The tough exterior is easy, but how do you really control it, in your mind [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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You tell your self you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and if your not you make a conscious effort not to tolerate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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does it get easier to make those calls earlier rather than later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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Of course. You must demand to be treated with dignity and respect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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I feel that way somewhat. I find it very hard to make friends and i always feel like I'm not being true to myself in order to be in a relationship with someone else. I'm not sure if supposed to be like that or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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It's not supposed to be like that. I'm sure you don't expect someone to compromise themselves to be in a relationship with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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I know I was in a long relationship and I got so use to trying to make him happy or just be accepted by him that I forgot my true feelings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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From now on tell yourself that you are the most important one. I know it's cliche but no one will love you if you don't love yourself first. I'm speaking from experience. You have to command respect! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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I am trying but failing miserably. I guess I have to try harder [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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It sound like there are other deeper issues at work here - like from childhood. Therapy helped me a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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I know I have issues, abandonment, verbal and physical abuse. I've been to therapy but I don't discuss these things. I guess I need to start again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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The only way to feel better is to deal with the past. I have the all the same issues starting in childhood and ending with a physically and mentally abusive husband. That ended four years ago and I have taught myself to be stronger in my relationships with friends, family and men (I have dated one man since my divorce). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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You're right. Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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Your welcome. Things will get better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] help! the window treatments i bought from pottery barn don't work for my nursey. i'm due in a few weeks. does anyone have a window treatment person that works in the lower westchester area they could recommend. tia. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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not sure if they do westchester but I've had gl with gracious home and horizon in chelsea area [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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thank you..i'll see if they work in westchester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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yw. and as other poster says, don't worry about it, your dc's room will be ok. my dc slept in our room in a pack and play for 3 mos [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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I would just leave them. It seems a little silly to worry about something like that, just relax before baby is born [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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i can't...they don't fit and my dh hung them crooked. any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I got laid off-what do I tell nanny? We plan to keep her at least for now, but I won't be back to work until Jan at the earliest (my only qualm about keeping her is not the $$ but now we have too many people around-DH on sabatical). 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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why keep her then? why not take a break and save the money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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Because she has been with us 5 years and I will want her when I go back to work, plus having another DB in Sept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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are you positive you will be returning to work? that would be my only concern. I would tell her, and see if she wants to take any vacation time before the new baby, while it is convenient for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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yes, I am the main breadwinner, so will definitely be going back. Nanny already took her vacation this year plus an extra week and we will give a week off at Christmas too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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see if she would be cool with a week off without pay...this way you get a week without too many people around. or even half pay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, I don't think she would be-what else can I do? Rearrange hours? As it is, we have several hours a week we don't really need her because DCs are in school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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can you change her duties then? more housekeeping or shopping for groceries? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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Already have her shopping, we talked about adding housekeeping (more than the pick up she currently does) when her hours were during DCs school, but she declined! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] potty training help -- DD is using pee accidents during the day for attention (does it while I'm nursing #2), and also yelling for the potty a million times when she should be going to sleep (even after she's been taken to the potty one or two times already). We're being manipulated here. How to correct this without derailing the potty training? I'm already trying to be "boring" when I clean up after accidents, but the truth is, she still gets more of my attention that way than she does when I breastfeed #2... 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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she is obviously jealous of the new baby. How old is she? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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yup, though less jealous than she was initially... she's 22 mo. We're training early because she's had a history of UTIs and we have to get her out of diapers for her health. She showed a lot of signs of getting it fast at first, but now we're stuck here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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She might just be too young. Did your ped really say you have to get her out of diapers so young? That sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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np: i am the third or here. she's not ready. a lot of dd's show some signs around that age but are not truly ready until around 2.6. put her back in diapers. leave the potty as a volunteer and highly-praised option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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hmm, are you sure? she made so much progress; she can hold her pee for a long time now and she can pee when asked to, when sitting on the potty. it seems she's almost there except for the protest about her sister getting more attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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can she poop on the potty? can she tell you when she needs to go with enough advance notice to get her to a potty? can she stay dry through naps or nighttime more times than not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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no to question number one (she did at first but then got constipated and scared). yes to question number two, as long as she's not too distracted by a social situation. question number three: yes for naps, no for nighttime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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FWIW: My DS did the same thing around teh same age and when he started getting constipated/withholding bowel movements my ped told us to stop with the training that it was too much for him (we also had a new baby). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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i really just think it's too much for her. potty training is a major life transition and therefore a huge stressor. becoming a sibling is also a huge stressor. she's not manipulating you as much as she is communicating to you that she is overwhelmed. hear her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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np: You might be also making too much of the attention thing. It could just be accidents. Friends have told me that when they train earlier, it can take longer and involve more accidents. She's younger, has less control, fewer communication skills, it just might take longer. And you might be distracted too so not picking up on her signs she has to go. Asking kind of a lot her, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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np or: itta with this also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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well, if that's all it is, I'm happy to keep going forward and trying to make it work. I just don't want us to get entrenched in something where peeing becomes a way to get attention. it's been quite a pattern the last few days -- I nurse, she pees on the floor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Tell her she needs to wear diapers for the time being until she has better awareness. Don't do it as punishment or meanly, just say, Honey, I htink maybe we better go back to pull-ups because you're having too many accidents. If she's motivated to potty train, that will make her clean up her act. If she's okay with the pull ups maybe you were pushing the training too much anyway and with a new db it's not a great time and try again in a month. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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hmmmm. that was my mom's suggestion too but i've talked to so many other people who say never go back, it just confuses them more. not sure who to listen to, frankly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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Ask your ped. I know mine would say the worst thing you can do is push them or make it any kind of power struggle/control thing. But that's based on my kid and our family. Your ped may have different advice for you and your kid, esp if she has a medical issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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np: i am the or below - nooooooooooooo to the pull-ups. only use them over underwear as a just in case option when necessary. they are very confusing to children, imho, and do not in fact function well as training pants. btw, when a dd is really ready, the switch from diapers to panties can take place in a short a period as a couple of days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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np: What's the diff btw pull-ups and diapers? We use pull-ups not as training pants but just b/c at 2 yo ds is too big and heavy for the changing table and easier to use pull-ups. Don't really see the diff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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if you use them over underwear, nothing. but when used by themselves, the child gets the benefit of feeling like a big boy/girl but is still wearing a diaper - so it defeats the purpose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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Oh, we haven't posed it as a big boy/girl thing. Just convenience for us. I don't think he even notices the difference. But we're not potty training. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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they're totally great as a convenience, but lots of parents use them for convenience with the potty training and it can get you VERY trapped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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are you using pullups? if so, stop. panties only or put her back in diapers if you feel her regression is significant enough that she is no longer ready. and you need to get some occasional help with db if you can and spend some one on one time with dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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we are panties only except for naps and nighttime, when we use pullups [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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use them OVER underwear when you use them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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I have never heard of this pull up thing. Where did you get this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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actually first heard it on here. but it totally works to use them over underwear - and is definitely true in terms of their not being effective transitional wear (at least not effective in terms of aiding the transition). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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interesting idea, thanks. (OP) [ Reply | More
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