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[ - ] Do you ever have people who want to join you on your family vacations? I always just want to get away to a suites hotel room and be semi-alone with my DH for a good time. I dont' want anybody else in his family to join us!! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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Just say no. This time is just for you guys. See you at Thanksgiving! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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YES!!!We have 3 dcs so we have the inevitable friends and then dh has a sister who is single and loves to join us every summer for 3-4 days but while I love her it is a bit of a drag (god don't strike me down). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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How do you handle any hints to come along?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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well we're not great about it but we're planning on going away in August and sil has already started dropping hints so since dh is UE we're told her our plans are up in the air. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I cannot wait until my wretched boss has her baby - she will FINALLY (hopefully) understand what it's like to try to juggle work and family. She's so smug about being able to do it all, and actually once said to me, "You know, having a couple of kids isn't the same as a disability, and I won't 'accommodate' anyone who tries to come to me thinking along those lines..." 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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I hope she get everything, good and bad, that is coming to her. lololol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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I hate feeling this way, but she has made my working life so difficult - or rather, my attempts at balancing my work life with my home life so difficult - that I can't help but look forward to watching her own attempts to do the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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examples please... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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The most common is the, "No...I'm not approving that vacation day...I think we may have a project coming in that week, and while I'm sure you'd like to go to the preschool graduation, we might need you here..." (*note the "may" and "might"); "Your child is sick AGAIN? Ughhhh...well, how soon can you get here?" (*I missed 3 days between October and April d/t DD being sick) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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Sounds sort of discriminatory to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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Hard to say - she's generally not a very nice or giving person (complained that a co-worker took an entire week off after her mother died - very suddenly, and in her home country). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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she'd about to eat a piece of humble pie soon... unless, of course, she hires a couple of nannies to take care of her child around the clock... (one nanny won't cut it) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Be careful - she likely won't make the same choices as you or have the same priorities. It might not get better - it could, in fact, get worse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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NP - ITA. In the beginning especially she will feel like she's got something to prove. And also, really, things won't change that much for her until she has 2 dc or the first is in some sort of school or daycare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] what's the preschool situation like in nyc suburbs? it is crazy competitive like it is in brooklyn? or can you get in wherever you like? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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they are all fighting for kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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you mean they have lots of empty spots? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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it's much much less competitive than nyc. however timing is very important. You need to enroll as soon as enrollment is open. You'll most likely get in. But if you are shopping around in August you may not have any good options left. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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depends on the area, and depends on the school - we were on a year-long wait list for DS's preschool in Long Island, and were only able to get in when a child unexpectedly moved about a month into the school year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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where do you live? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm thinking of getting laser hair removal for entire bikini area. Here's my question: Is the upper inner thigh area (outside the vajayjay) considered the bikini area or is that a brazilian bikini? Or something else. I'm simply at a loss for terminology. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Brazilian means as smooth as a baby. Nuthin left. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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Hmmm. Than what's the area I referred to above? I feel like when they say bikini, they simply mean the outside of the triangle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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Right! Brazilian is everywhere you have hair even in between [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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So a brazilan bikini laser removal would get rid of everything but a strip? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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No strip! No hair! Nada, Nothing! like the day you were born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Don't want that. So if I want the triangle and get rid of everything else, does that have a name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Bikini! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Thanks. I know this was all very important ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Your welcome [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
[ - ] What's your view on gay marriage? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Totally for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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Woo hoo! Straight mommies for gay marriage! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I don't really care. But I'm sure divorce lawyers are all for it. Gives them a bigger potential client base [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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Wish i were invited. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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I think all marriages should be gay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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same as my view on interracial marriage and marriage across different religions (oh and while we're at it: same as my view on heterosexual waspy marriage). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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i have zero issues with gay marriage. its weird to me that people are so against it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
[ - ] do you dreamfeed your 4 month old? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I've heard good things about both Milburn & Maplewood, NJ, but they sounded pretty different from one another. I was surprised their train stations are right next to each other. Could anyone compare & contrast for me. TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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i grew up in Maplewood and we always thought the Millburn kids were more stuck up, less "real" than we were. A more adult perspective would say that Millburn is more homogenous, Maplewood more diverse. Millburn school system usually gets more kudos, but I loved my education in Maplewood, and it got me into a good college fwiw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Maplewood is much more diverse socioeconomically (with people who have their feet on the bottom rung of the economic ladder, people who have their feet near the upper rung, and everyone in between), racially (with a fair number of mixed race families as well), with gay families as well. It has a lot of (well educated) artists, musicians, Broadway performers, writers, architects, who are very involved in the communities and the schools. It therefore feels more urban and eclectic than most places, Millburn included. Our kids (one graduate,[in an excellent college] one current junior, one entering next yr) have gotten a very good education in schools from K through CHS; kids are interested in subject matter, are taught to be critical, imaginative, thinkers (dinnertime discussions are often lively!) and not just GPA, which we have heard, from several teachers and parents, is more the emphasis at Millburn HS. But, because of its homogenous (upper-middle class, white/Asian) nature, their average SAT's are higher. Depends upon what is important to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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maplewood is a pretty twon but surrounded by very very very very bad cities. the school is good, but not great. milburn has a much better school system. imo, if you are paying SO MUCH in taxes like in Maplewood, you at least deserve to have a school that is excellent, rather than good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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Maplewood is surrounded by Millburn, the South Mountain Reservation, South Orange, Union, which together comprise more than 90% of the border and are all fine communities, and problematic Irvington (a few blocks, and the new police station has just moved to that area.) Please post accurately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:24 AM Flag
[ - ] wellbutrin experiences? were you on another anti-depressant simultaneously? thank you. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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yep -- i take 75 mg of effexor and take 300 mg of wellbutrin to counter the sexual side effects of the effexor and to not dull me out as much. it worked well in the beginning but not as well now. i might switch it up again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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any side effects when you first went on the wellbutrin? it's making me itchy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] 7 y/o ds told us tonight he is having burning when he pees. Can a child this young have a urinary tract infection? Anyone btdt? tia! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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yes, he can. it's rarer in boys than girls but doesn't mean it can't happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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strangely his father dh had these infections yrs ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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No. go see the pediatrician. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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Yes, but it is extremely uncommon in boys, unless there is an anatomical abnormality (which could be very minor). How long has it been going on? I would definitely ask ped about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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it has happenned before he said but not that long and not that often [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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You need to call your ped about this. Recurrent UTIs are not great, and one could ascend and cause a kidney infection if untreated. It may be that he has a minor thing in that the ureters (that connect the kidney with the bladder) don't insert into the bladder properly, predisposing him to infections. It can be corrected and often doesn't require invasive surgery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] re: potty training: a lot of you suggested that I stop trying to train my DD and go back to diapers for a while. My problem is I can't see doing this without really confusing/disappointing her. She has so much invested in the sticker-reward system and all the routines we set up (dump potty! flush! wash hands! she says excitedly). So how do I explain when all that just goes away? If I am to go back to diapers, how do I make that work for her?????? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Try staying in for a few days and leaving her in her underwear. She'll pick up fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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her accidents have been when she's just in her underwear hanging around the house (earlier post I explained she was peeing in her underwear a lot when I went to nurse the baby, seems like a bid for attention) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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How about she only wears the diaper when you nurse? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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Just clean her up and put on fresh undies and tell her the potty should be used in the future. Maybe have her "help" change the baby's diapers - so she'll feel like she's getting some attention and superior in that area. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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well, i've cleaned her up and said that about a million times by now... that's why i came on here asking for other solutions, and was told by more than one person to go back to diapers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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Patience is a virtue. Back and forth between diapers is confusing - sending mixed messages. Be firm and patient. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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thanks. that was the perspective i began with, but after hearing from so many that i should go back, i question it. frankly i don't think either option is ideal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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What other choice do you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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the two choices are 1.) go back to diapers 2.) soldier on with the system i'm using. choice three would be to tweak the system somehow but no one seemed to think i was doing anything wrong that needed to be tweaked so much as that maybe dd was just too stressed out by the sibling to be ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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I had twins and didn't have such a problem. Make a decision and stick to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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not relevant -- twins have always known they were twins, they don't have the stress of a new sibling. And I am planning on making a decision and sticking with it -- you are seeing me in the midst of the process of deciding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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Extremely relevant had 3rd child while potty training get your ass in gear and take a stand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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Are you the OP whose DD wet her pants for attention? If so, then you explain that the "accidents" show she isn't quite ready to go without diapers yet. After a day or two of diapers, ask her if she's ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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yup, that's me. i'm not sure she has the language to understand "ready for underwear." she's pretty much an in-the-moment kid still, we're still working on concepts like "tomorrow." if I take the underwear away, she'll experience it (I think) as if they're just gone completely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you think it is weird if some other Mommy plopped down literally within two inches of you at the side of the baby pool??? She was sitting near us at the shallow end and when I headed over to the deeper end with my DDs, she came up and sat down next to me 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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i would think it was weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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So I thought maybe she was a lesbian SAHM because she kept giving me sideways stares through her shades. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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Sounds like a lonely social misfit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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did she say anything of just invade your physical space? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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She invaded my personal space, so much so that my ODD was leaning on her leg as she climbed up the pool stairs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:13 PM Flag
[ - ] dh and i are going on vacation w/5 mo db next month, flying to bermuda. when taking a cab from the airport to our hotel, i guess we should just put her in the baby bjorn during the cab ride? any better suggestions? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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Car seats are the law even in cabs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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so we have to bring our car seat w/the base with us? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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don't bring the base -- don't need it, and it's actually safer without it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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ita... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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I'm not sure. If you're using a car service ask if they provide them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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No base, just the carseat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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ah, no, that's not true. i'd bring a carseat anyway cuz db needs somewhere to sit, i presume he can't sit up by himself yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Not just a good idea, but vital for infants. You'll want one on the plane, too, and the cab to your hotel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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no, actually, they are not the law in cabs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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Instead of a cab, you can arrange for a car service - some of them have cars with carseats, if you request this with your reservation. But I agree that it is probably easier to travel with the carseat, particularly if it fits into your stroller. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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bring carseat with stroller attachment, roll it up to the door of the airplane and then gatecheck it; it will be there when you land and you can roll it to the taxi and then take it off the stroller attachment to snap her in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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whatever you do, don't put her in bjorn and do seatbelt over both of you. in a crash the belt will squish her against you pretty awfully. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Book mom irks me. I've worked in children's publishing for almost 10 years--who the hell is she? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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why? she is very helpful. and not claiming any credentials, but has lots of useful suggestions, what is wrong with that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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I've found her suggestions v helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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I've worked in children's publishing for 12 years, but I really like her. Good suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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Thanks...what aspect? any thoughts on the field these days? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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she irks me as well. so full of herself and will never brook any criticism whatsoever. oh, and she's a total loser. book mom here!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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I'm just jealous of you bc I am a children's librarian and wouldn't come up with half of what you do off the top of my head. But walk around the library with me and I could pull some great stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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sorry, i should have put "book mom here!" in quotes. i'm not her. i really do think she's annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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thanks..I admire librarian's tremendously and obviously owe many quite a debt. I love to wonder through libraries and find more "unusual" great ideas for my kids, but I'm trying to work in real time on UB , so sometime the suggestions are the obvious ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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^^^librarian's knowledge and depth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Bookmom..you are more than welcome to add your own thoughts and suggestions. I welcome other opinions and feedback. Be irked if you want. Whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] what did yves st. laurent die of? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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old age? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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71 isn't that old any more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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it is if you like to drink and smoke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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they're not saying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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they said 71 on the today show and that he had a brain tumor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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They are so deliberately not saying it automatically makes you think it must be something embarressing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:49 AM Flag
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He does have a history of drugs & alcohol but 71 is pretty old for an overdose! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:49 AM Flag
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well, his ex was on tv today, he said that he is not shocked, as he 'has known for over a year'. So>... Sounds like cancer. Prostate cancer is the main killer of men these days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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If it was a brain tumor why wouldn't the NYT just say that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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