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[ - ] Va mom here--my step daughter needs a lawyer in Buffalo--she is moving here w/ds--her ex and his parents want her to stay --the ex owes child support from Jan-rarely sees his son--has since fathered another child-which he gave up for adoption--help--we need a good local lawyer! Anybody? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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Sorry for my ineptness -- I tried to reply to this but ended up creating a new post. Contact Mark Mahoney for a rec. He's not a family lawyer but he'll know whom you need. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Thanks--what kind of law does he practice? I understand he will refer--but on his own-- what is his specialty--thanks so much for answering my post! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:02 PM Flag
[ - ] DS was 5 in January. He's going into K (but is one of the oldest in the class). Should he be reading by now? He's beyond not interested... 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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No worries. My DD has a January b-day, too. She loved (and loves) being read to, but no interest in independent reading. She made progress in school and is now in the top reading group, but at home she is completely uninterested in reading independently (now in 1st grade). Academically, she's fine, so I let her be. School is HARD and takes the joy out of things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I remember learning to read in K. I really don't think it's a great idea to push that sort of thing. Does he like being read to? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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totally depends on your dc. My ds went to kgn not having any interest in reading and I didn't push it. (some of his friends were already reading). teacher said not to worry and he'll do it when ready. he is now (he still struggles a little bit) but is doing much better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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he was a January baby too, btw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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Ask the teacher. I wouldn't worry right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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depends on the kid. a lot of kids don't read until 1st grade... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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I was you one year ago. DS was in K and getting help outside the classroom. Today he's finishing first grade and reading above grade level. He feels so good about himself too. He just was not ready last year. I'm sure you're in the same situation gl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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he is also a Jan baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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They aren't really expected to read until 3rd grade. They make you feel like your kid is "behind" if he [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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^^^ if he's not decoding well by the end of kindergarten, but this is BS. They call third grade the "great equalizer," by which they mean that by then most all of them can read. Don't buy into the pushy BS schools put on children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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No. He'll learn when he learns [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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Mine was 6 entering K and learned this year. He still needs lots of practice but has essentially learned it. He's very bright but doesn't love letters/reading. He does love numbers/math though. I know I'm going to have to push him with reading as he grows. He's on summer break now and I'm going to sit and have him read/practice a few times a week to keep it up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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^^He did not know going in to K this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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DD is at a so called top tier private school in nyc and they feel that almost all kids will know how to read by second grade. Even at that, the kids don't all read the same book until 4th grade. My dd started to read in first grade but has become an avid reader in second grade. It is one of her favorite things. It will come. Don't push it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else have to stop playing with a longtime playmate bc you disagree with paren't discipline/lack thereof or parenting style? its really hard but they have lost control. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Yes. It's just too hard. Sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Are you stopping because you are judging their behavior or is it that they are so out of control that their children are, say, hitting your kid a lot and you cannot put your child in that environment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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Well, this kid kept beating my child and i would have dealt with it if i thought the parents were handling it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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That is definitely a deal-breaker. I would speak to the other parents about it, before you break things off. They are going to get the message/be offended either way so you may as well give them a shot at changing things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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Well, they were certainly trying, but it was their first kid and i knew that what they were don't wasn't going to help much. I'm sure it's happening to them a lot. I didn't comletely break off. Just took a break. they get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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That's really tough. We had something a little similar but saw the family occasionally over the past 6 months or so, and now the children play really nicely together. Either the children, or the parents, just needed some time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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Yes. My dc was absorbing the bad behavior. Hard but necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you say to your SN 4 year old when they say, "Mommy, I NEED you...why do you have to work? Why can't you be with me?" Feel like the worst mother ever right now... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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what is SN about your dc? does he have comprehension problems? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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On the autism spectrum (PDD-NOS) - having a really rough time right now, so much so that I'm thinking seriously of taking FMLA time to be with him. I hate that I have to work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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you know, i'm a SAHM and daddy gets this all the time. If you were staying at home they would beg you to leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
[ - ] My DH is in the Air Force. I went to visit him this weekend and I was SHOCKED at how many married people act like they aren't married. It's a free-for-all. There was one girl who kept touching dh on the waist and it pissed me off. She was doing it to everybody though. I told dh it's inappropriate for her to do that etc, don't associate with her anymore. He assured me it was all her, he would let her know. Well I get home and I am on the phone with him, coincidentally I am browsing some pics online and come across one of him with his arms wrapped all the way around her while he is on the other end telling me I have nothing to worry about. BS. I told him I was done, sick of it, wouldn't put up with it. Would this upset you? They all go out drinking together 24/7. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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it would piss me off, yes. but how were you browsing pics online of him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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myspace, the girl had a ton on her profile [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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absolutely. it would bother me a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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wow. that sucks. can't say I'm shocked, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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It would absolutely bother me. Can you you move around with him to be together? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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not right now, he is in tech school. I would have to move from here to there for 4 weeks then move again for 7 weeks then move again to our station in Japan, all with a 2 yr old. But I'm getting to the point where I just don't care. I'm building my walls up b/c I am not going to let him hurt me. I know for a fact all those married men there tell their wives the same thing he tells me, how do I know if it's the truth, so far the evidence is working against him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Hosting an Adult surprise 65th birthday party for a couple. What are some unique ideas for the party? Thought of asking everyone to come prepared with their best story about the couple. What have you experienced that was really special? TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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probably asking people to make a page for a scrapbook. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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for my mom's 60th, my stepfather had a picture of her as a kid blown up and put on posterboard, and everyone wrote stuff to her in the margins and signed it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have a juicer they really like that's easy to clean and takes large chunks of fruit and veggies? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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yes. you'd like to know what kind, wouldn't you? i'll check [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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^waring pro [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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waring pro? okay, thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Yeah the one by Jack Lalane. It think its the Juiceman [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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you've used it? got terrible reviews [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I am missing a bra, do you think the maids stole it?? My DH says that maids would not steal somebody's elses bras What do you think?? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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didn't they steal your diamond celebration ring too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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I lock up my jewelry box into this lockable plastic crate right before the maids come. BTW, I was missing a bunch of stuff so I started putting more things away since we are packing up anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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P.S. I am low on the number of everyday spoons and I already saw that somebody was looking at my good spoons, which I have since put away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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a bra and SPOONS of all things????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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they are probably putting things back where they aren't supposed to, not taking them. Seriously. You sound a little paranoid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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I agree. Check the freezer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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How many maids do you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Maybe your husband wears your dainities when your not around and ruined it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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how many maids do you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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We get two in and they have been changing the team around so I have met four different ones so far. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Well if a formerly saggy maid shows up perky tomorrow... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Do you think weekly maids, not daily maids or live-in, would steal bras??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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OR was not me... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
[ - ] We're going on vacation and not telling our Landlord. Our house may get shown while we are away because he needs new renters. Would you lock up everything and if so would you use cardboard boxes taped or plastic crates taped?? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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what do you have that is so valuable? rent a safety deposit box at the bank. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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The amount of paperwork is too big for a safety deposit box. We do have a lockable file cabinet but DH doesn't file everything right away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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you'd be surprised...you can get a pretty big SDB. We have two very large ones because our home is being worked on right now and we are renting a place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Why not tell your landlord? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Our Landlord is ** hole who probably enters whenever he wants to if we are out on Saturday afternoons. We have account records and I have a lot of small electronic stuff, things that are small and easy to steal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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What makes landlord such an a$$hole? Do you follow the terms of the lease? He has a right to show the property, although he MUST give you notice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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PS - you sound a little shifty yourself for going on vacation and NOT telling your landlord. Check your lease...I think you have to give some sort of notice if your apt will be vacant for over a certain # of days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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are you nuts? i have NEVER shared my vacation plans with landlord. i wasn't trying to hide it, just never even crossed my mind that landlord needed to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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Landlord calls up at the last minute and wants to come in house. Yes, we follow the terms of the lease. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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"Reasonable" notice is required. Calling just before coming may or may not be reasonable. He needs to show the apartment! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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If you are really concerned, box everything up and store it at a friend's house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Best standard stroller rec: must have tray table; burban mom. Already have mclaren. Want somehing that has good basket, easy to fold. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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inglesina zippy -- i think it had a tray table you can take on and off now, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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you lost me at tray table. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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what's wrong with a tray table? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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i just don't know anything about strollers with tray tables, as i've never used one like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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very graco. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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there's nothing graco about inglesina.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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but TRAY TABLES are very graco. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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totally agree...I have not ever once wished I had a tray table on either stroller. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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i have to admit that i bought a cheap graco for disney and i loved that tray table! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you watch "grown up" tv while your children are awake and around? How often? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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no, not really... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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I watch the Today Show in the morning when we're all getting ready, and the kids watch it, too and have lots of questions sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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it is never worth the tantrums. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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I have a 2 1/2 yr old and 9 week old. they have never seen grown up tv. depends on the ages i guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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By grown are we talking news, soaps or reality shows? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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anything - sitcoms, drama, the news, etc. non-children's tv. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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Wait until bedtime for that stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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No. It's inappropriate, and I want to model that TV is not necessary to your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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All Tivo. All the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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Dh is a political junkie so our 2.5 yo ds has seen some presidential debates and some Sunday am talk shows, maybe a little c-span. Also, he watched football with dh a few times. Mostly, ds finds grown up tv too boring to sit through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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I don't, but occasionally dh does, which irritates me no end (he likes movies with all sorts of violence in them, which I already don't like but esp not in front of dcs) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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Only HGTV or the Cooking Channel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone use Jenny Craig to lose weight? Were you successful in keeping off the weight? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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i've been doing jenny craig since the holidays. lost about 15 lbs. it goes from 10-15 depending on the weeks.. i try to do it during the week and eat on my own and pig out on the weekends. so far, so good. just only eat the frozen lunches and dinners and not the shelf stable ones... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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I've been on it. Lost a few pounds. The food is fine if your standards are low (like me). For me the problem was that the calories were a bit too high (I have a very slow metabolism) plus it's probably more carb heavy than was good for me. But I will say, that I really liked the food--but again, I have low standards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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ITA Shelf stable are gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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totally unhealthy - all processed crap. weight watchers is much better - you can lose weight and be healthy at the same time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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I've been on both. And personally, I liked the convenience and brainlessness of JC. WW made my head hurt with all the points counting. Found myself obsessing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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okay then. but the processed stuff is really not good for you, and not sustainable. ww will teach you how to eat, and it is true that eating well requires more planning and care than eating processed junk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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me, too. WW was too tricky for me... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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were you successful with Jenny Craig? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:39 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you get out of entertaining his side of family if they are visiting and decide to stay over till weekday. Keep in mind I always get stuck with the entertaining. Should I just stay home?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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My DH is in charge of entertaining his own family, thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Plan dinner out. Book a cleaning service (or have cleaning lady come an extra time). That's a lot of work and dh needs to be willing to spend the money to take pressure off you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Please define this "entertaining." Do you mean you have to make the dinner reservations and then be bubbly and conversational at the table? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Well planning and fixing all meals at our house and sight-seeing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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Don't be such a great host. Meals are quick-n-easy or else at restaurants of your choosing. As for sight-seeing, a subway map and guide (courtesy of YOU) are sufficient. Don't be a martyr! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] any jewish moms on? I am not religious anymore because I see judaism as my culture and really have no interest in making my children go to temple but want to raise them to be proud of being jewish, proud of their culture, instead of a bat-mitzvah, taking them to Israel or even to see some of the camps to teach them about the past history. Are there any teachings, or books that focus more on this side of judaism and less on the religous? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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not that i know of. what's the benefit of the culture without the religion? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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" same question? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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Not that much in the US. But I find that this is the attitude of many secular Israeli's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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IT's easy to be that way when you are an Israeli citizen: jewish state. Default mode is jew. Here, it is a christian country. Remember banks and post offices etc close for Christmas day. Much different situation, cannot compare, imo need to do the whole shebang to have the J identity. I think you should do the bat mitzvah, but instead, do it at the wailing wall in israel, jsut you and y our family. Who says this stuff has to be some tacky party? make it y ours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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parents raised me as you want to raise you kids--now I am insecure in Synagogue--do not know hebrew--and since I married a Jew and have 2 dds you can bet they will not be raised as I was... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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op: there are humanistic synogogues that teach hebrew and kids grow up learning about judaism in a less relgious way but can read hebrew and know the history of the jews, there's nothing wrong with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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that's not the problem--it's trying to knoe what is know already--simply because my parents decided in the 70's that reconstructionist ideas work--but thet had the luxery of being raised w/all of the traditions--don't underestimate longterm insecurity--nor that they will not be mad later at your apathy about g-d... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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I relate to your response. Crappy 1970s reform education. Very little practiced in the home. Spend entire service trying to find my place. Hebrew is weak. Married a conservative woman with a strong background. Want my 3 ds's to go to a day school at least through middle school so they don't have to struggle with it like I do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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think about reconstructionism... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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^^ from what I know it is exactly what you are talking about. I was raised conservative and my DH in reconstructionism... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] what is la stylist mom's blog address? i can't find it. thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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thank you!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I are going away. Kids staying with MIL. Other than leave her the kids insurance cards, do I also need to sign an authorization or something? Thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I've never done that and have left my kids with my mom a few times since they were born [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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there's some guardian form you can find online in case DC has to go to the hospital... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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When DH & I went away, we left some paperwork with MIL authorizing her to make decisions. It was part of the Quicken Lawyer package -- great software and cheap at nolo.org. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Your sil's mother has passed away. Do you send a floral arrangement? Just a card? There was no service - she died in Florida. I'm close with SIL but I'm asking because dh is UE and I re think every expenditure. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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A card with personal sentiments will do. Funeral flowers are so expensive, and they're so temporary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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I would send food to the house during shiva or after the wake. Maybe a mass card, if catholic. Not just flowers if you are close. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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i would send a card, a mass card if Catholic, and perhaps a small donation to a charity she cared about. i agree that funeral flowers are sooooo expensive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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If that is the case, then write her a heartfelt note. She can open and read it if she feels up to it--so it's not intrusive and it's a tough thing to do and she will understand and appreciate that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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My mom recently passed away. The most thoughtful things were handwritten cards from friends/family - I was shocked how few of my friends did this. Tell them a few small things you remember and that they are in your prayers. Send it soon, not in two months. Best. BY THE WAY, I was really saddened that my sisterinlaw did NOT attend my moms funeral bc she wasnt sure what to do with ehr toddler..if there is any kind of service, family should be there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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And PPS Do NOT send flowers. There will be too many and they just get depressing. And the Mass Cards really arent as special as the handwritten notes..and im catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks all. i'm going to write a note with a card. Losing my mother was one of the worst things that ever happenned to me so I agree, some love is better than 1 800 flowers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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