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[ - ] What would you do to prepare yourself for the first night of sex with a new boyfriend you really dig? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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a good wax and a couple of cocktails [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] OK so opposite of the sanctimommy thread...what's your secret "bad" mommy thing that you do but don't like to admit? I let my DC watch too much tv. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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i also let DC watch too much TV [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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i sometimes let my ds's stay in an after school program when I just want some time alone... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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That is a good thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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but i feel others would judge me if they knew my kids were there while I was at home doing "whatever"... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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too much tv, an occasional soda [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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Play with spatulas, tupperware rather than instructional toys [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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that's nothing to be ashamed about! "instructional toys" are a crock [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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I once bought my DS a metal detector and threw $1 in coins in the backyard and told him to go find the treasure. Toys are what you come up with ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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ITA. Most kids prefer real-world objects to toys. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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Too much TV, and right now I am just so bored with being a mommy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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i let her play with RX medince bottles. She likes to shake them, at least they are child proof! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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My 2 yo had ice cream on Fri, Sat, and today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Signing my 3 yo up for 5 half days of school instead of 3. I never thought it was bad until everyone started questioning me "Don't you want to spend any time with her?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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That is silly. My dc has been in full day school and after school since she was 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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My 2yo is signed up for 5 half days starting this fall. I don't see anything wrong with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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ita. But all the moms in the two day a week 2s program say about a 5 day program "but I would miss her sooo much." I'm thinking that I have her for the other 21 1/2 hours everyday! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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I'm totally fine with the separation, and I think he will get a LOT more out of it than more mindless playground time or the increasing amount of tv we've been watching. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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I didn't bf and I didn't even try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 08:40 AM Flag
[ - ] How much do you pay a part time sitter? One DC: 16 hours a week? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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$12 to $15 an hour [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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15-20/hour [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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I pay $126 week for a toddler and newborn 2 days a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone/anyone give advice on moving upstate? New Paltz? How are the schools? Thanks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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it's cute up there, but I couldn't be there year round. There are still hillbillies around [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Bridal shower next week for friend I have not seen in 20 years. I cannot make it but sending a gift. She has cheapie martini glasses from Crate and Barrel on her registry (totalling $15.) Too cheap? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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yes... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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serious? I literally have not seen her since 8th grade. I was a last minute invite.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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can you get her a $15 gift that isn't in her registry so she doesn't know it cost $15 ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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Why are you asking if you know what you want to do? I agree with OR. It's too cheap. Either send a nice note and no gift or send a gift that you wouldn't be embarrassed to have attached to your name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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fu [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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Nice. I'd send you a late invite, too. She must be DESPERATE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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np: if you did want to hear our unanimous opinion, you shouldn't have asked. No gift is better than $15 from the registry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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Well, that is a little cheap. Is there something else small on the registry. You should feel like you have to spend a lot, though, since you aren't attending, and you haven't seen her in ages. Cap it at $50, but $15 is pretty cheap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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very cheap - send a $25 gift card if you don't want to spend a lot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Are rich people the only people who rent houses in the Hamptons for a month? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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well, it costs around $20K on the lower end, so what do you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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In Westhampton, young kids do summer shares. Don't need to be rich. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I told DH today being a SAHM is like everyday being the weekend....and that it is not always a great thing....do you get what I mean? Sometimes I just sort of wish for a Monday. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.01.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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I dont get it. I SAH and feel like i dont have a weekend, everyday is like wednesday to me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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yep == everyday, i have work, duties, etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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I WOH and I think op means that the weekend is tough - like a workday, not a relaxing weekend... my DH has been away a total of 1.5 months in the last three, and the weekends are TOUGH! I often wish for a Monday for some time to myself... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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Yes, sometimes the SAH life is very unstructured and reactive. That's the nature of the beast, but you can add some structure by setting up a playgroup, playdates, or finding volunteer work that you can do with children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] So.....just found out I am 10 wks pg with #3. #1 is 22 months and #2 is 11.5 months. Am I going to survive? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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wow! that's nuts! do you live in the city or burbs? and od you think you're going to hire some help? you might need it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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not with the economy the way it is. We are a burbs family and only have 2 bedrooms as it is. I am a wreck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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peopl do this all the time and you can too. once you get past the shock and figure out that clearly you need a new birth control plan (joking... we can joke about it, no ?) you'll be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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not really funny imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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sorry... trying a bit of levity... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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You will survive, but it is going to suck big time for a few years. Then it will be GREAT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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I wouldn't do it, personally. But maybe that's just me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Going to Montauk for a w/e with kids - never been, can you rec a good hotel? Tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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you don't have a reservation yet? that may be a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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in October...dh has a race there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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oh! I don't know why I read it as next weekend ("the" weekend instead of "a" weekend.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:46 PM Flag
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we're boaters, so we usually stay at the montauk yacht club (and it's not fancy -- it's actually kind of dated) but clean and there's an indoor and outdoor pool for the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Training for my first marathon. How bad is it to do Sunday's workout on Monday and Monday's on Sunday? Also, is lifting weights considered cross training? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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not bad at all. I switched it up all the time. As long as you are getting the miles in you are good. Which one you running? GL! I am jealous! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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I am training for the Disneyland marathon in August. I've had to walk a bit on some of my long (12+) runs. How bad is this? Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:43 PM Flag
[ - ] do banks have notaries? Where else could I go to get something notarized? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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Yes, banks usually have notaries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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yep, also lawyer or CPA offices [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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yes and real estate agencies have them too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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Legal office. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Those MailBoxes places usually have a notary on staff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Whats the worst thing Dh has ever done to you? ME: My mom was in the hospital dying, litterally taking her last breaths, and he asked if he could go wtch the game in the room next door. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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seriously ?! Is there even a response to that kind of question ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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wow. i thought my dh was the worst. he went on a bus. trip to other coast while dd was in hosp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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wow, that is pretty bad. was he having some sort of anxiety being so close to death, or was he just bored? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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OP: Nope. he is sports obsessed. at that time the game seemed more important to him i guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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that is just terrible. I'm sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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thx, ive actually never told anyone else bc i didnt want my friends to judge him. hes a good guy but def has his faults. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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OP: We were in the hospial all day and it was a tough day but thats still no excuse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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Did he apologize later? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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no, we just kind of let it go. He knew it was inappropriate. Has never even come close to doing something like that ever again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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were you married at the time? This is what i would consider a deal-breaker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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is he normally caring and attentive ? was this just a weird "hospitals and death freak me out" type of response ? how did you respond ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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yes, he is normally a great guy. I honestly think he wanted to see the game and just asked. I told him if he didnt want to be there then he could leave and he felt bad and stayed in the room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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I love my DH and while this isn't his "failing" I can imagine him just getting it wrong on a grand scale and not seeing how it was so awful. I also get not telling friends... Some things are better left away from girlfriends... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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OP: Wow, thank you. Its so nice to get a genuine reply and not someone telling me i have a terrible marriage or something snarky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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No... nobody knows why people are together and what works and how the good and bad pan out. Nobody could deal with me but my dh and vice versa, but I'm sure if people looked in, they'd have other opinions I'm not that interested in hearing. I get that about what you wrote... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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i'm so sorry that he did that. it sounds like he simply did not have the capacity to deal with the situation - her death and your pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:43 PM Flag
[ - ] when did you start dc on 2 meals/day? ds is 6 mo, started solids about a week ago, but just doing 1 meal per day. when to up it to 2? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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how's it going with the one? still most of the food going down the chin or is a fair amount going into db's belly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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he actually sucks it off the spoon - most to his belly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Thinking about going to switzerland. Any suggestions??? Any must see, avoid, suggestions? Thanks!! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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seriously, it is so small that you can almost see it all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Imagine if you will: Husband's class reunion. You know a woman who was horrible to you years ago - horrible - will be there. Other than looking great and being happily married for 12 years to DH, what else can I do to make sure she feels *slightly* like my life is better than hers. I know it's shallow and tacky and lame. I know... I can't help it though. Words of wisdom ? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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Looking great and having a good life is enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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mention your recent fabulous trips, your kids who slept through the night at 2 weeks old, and your dh's undying romanticism. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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Kill her with kindness. Your pleasant attitude will annoy her to shreds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I'm not mature enough for this one, although I wish I were... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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then ask her loads of questions and one up her with all her replies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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tell your dh that you need him to be particularly attentive and doting when in her presence. that's enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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good answer... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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yep. that and looking great will do it. you could snub her too, but that may backfire. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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I agree, snubbing her shows that you care too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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I think you're right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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what did she do to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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^^and I don't think it's lame, btw... totally understandable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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yes, I really would love to know as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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ITA, also would want the same thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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as an insecure girl years ago (she's a bit older than me) she followed me around yelling at me, told women I was a whore, things like that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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small town girl just ridiculed by Manhattanite... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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OMG! What a bitch! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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yes... a very big bitch with a very mean streak ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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make sure you wear a hot outfit and tell her about all of the trips and houses you have (you can lie) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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Outfit and shoes - check ! Sassy haircut - check. Confidence - still getting there... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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Just really do not care what she thinks. That is the best revenge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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just keep a smile on your face the whole time -- don't look annoyed ever.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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yes, i htink this is a good one... conveys confidence and that thoughts of her nastiness haven't crossed my mind at all... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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if she has a smaller wedding ring or engagement ring, say "oh that's so cute" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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good line, adding it in the list... you are all so good ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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these are the petty things i dream about too. do you know what she's done with her life? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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a few kids, married well, I don't really know.it was a shock when i saw her name on the reunion list as dh has never mentioned her name and the school is small. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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be REALLY nice to her. that will annoy the crap out of her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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you know how you think of clever retors after the moment has past ? I want to go ready with cleverness... brimming with cleverness... clever just spilling out all over ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you let your kids climb on trees in Riverside or Central Park? And do you let them go through the more wooded areas (off the paths)? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Yes, if it's a tree that can hold his weight. No, to going into the wooded areas (doesn't really come up) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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Yick on the wooded areas - I grew up next to Riverside park, and there were always "Beware: Rat Poison" signs in the woods... you couldn't have paid me to go in there! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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I know someone who took a dump in a wooded area of Riverside Park once. He brags about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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oh - blech! I wonder if the whole Rat Poison thing turned me off parks in general. I really am not into it - even for my 18mo dd... I dread taking her there :-(. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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