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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] Any recommendations for a place to stay on coast of Maine at end of August? 3 kids ... thanks 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.12.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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boothbay harbor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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go to acadia-it is wonderful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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castine...blue hill...north east or south west harbors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:54 PM Flag
[ - ] can anyone reccommend a good 1 hr photo place in the 70's on lex/2nd/3rd/madison? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.12.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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i use cvs 1 hour photo on 72nd and 2nd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Just got back from the playground where my dd (2.5yrs) was being bullied by a little girl (maybe 3.5?). The mother of the bully was on her phone and said nothing when the bully threw sand, took toys and hit my dd with a bucket. Should I have said something to her (interupt her call) or handle it myself? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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you should have handled it yourself, which I think would have spurred any self-respecting mother into action. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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OP: I firmly told the bully "no" (several times) and also instructed my dd to say "no, I'm using that" (in her 2yr old way). When the bully grabbed things, I took them back and said "dd is still using them." The mother, eyes cast in our direction, kept talking on the phone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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so it sounds like you did right then. I assume the "bully" stopped at some point or did you and your child just walk away? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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I think bullied is a pretty strong word givenyoru description. Try to have a little perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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eh its shorthand (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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nah, its a first time mom thinking her angel will never get bigger and be a pain in the ass to some other kid. BTDT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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eh, btdt too (3 kids, on both sides of bully-dom)-- still thinj its shorthand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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yup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Not a first time mom, my ds is 6yrs! And NOT an angel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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ITA but as the mom of a 3.5 yo I keep a tight reign when he's near anyone younger. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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OP: Not when she looked at me, pushed my ds and then laughed. Seemed intentional to me--as if she was seeking adult attention. BTW, she did this after about 15 minutes of me saying "no." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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right, but she is just a toddler [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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next time just slap her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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I could not agree more. As a society we have to be careful we don't water down this phenon. It's not shorthand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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Bully is a strong word... not one that should be used incorrectly as i believe in this case... there is a huge difference between 2.5 and 3.5... better to redirect your dd to play with younger kids... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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np: I agree that bully is a loaded word but I have met plenty at that age already. Some kids are just agressive from the get-go and with out the parents being all over it, it just snowballs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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i agree... but it is important to not water down that word or demean what a child who is bullied goes through... i would have said something to the mother if i felt it was beyond the pushing and normal roughhousing of kids that age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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or: I'm with you but sometimes it's hard to approach another parent about their poorly behaved kid. It's awkward and personally, I feel, ppl should be in charge of their kids. You can't avoid or micro manage every incident but you should mitigate what you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Exactly, I just wish that people would watch their kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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I think people "watch" their children too closely these days. They used to go outside in a pack and sure, sometimes they hit, sometimes they got hit - they all learned to deal with it. Which is a good thing. I can't imagine there is a child in the world who makes it out of childhood without an older child taking their toy or throwing sand. It really is not that big of a deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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Did your child mind as much as you did, or did she let it roll off her back? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:34 PM Flag
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OP: ds cried--especially with the sand throwing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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As hard as it is, always try to focus on your child, not the other. Your child will be exposed to all sorts of things. Everything is a teaching moment. If you child doesn't care, then let it go. If your child cries, then comfort and see if you can help your child figure out what to do next. If you need to distract and go over to a different place, then do that. But ALL children misbehave, ALL parents miss it at some point. WE are ALL in this together. And, best of all, everything is an opportunity to teach your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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I thought you had a dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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I would handle it myself and take care of my dd's feelings... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:45 PM Flag
[ - ] What kind of DC St.Anns is looking for? We are applying for 1st grade next year. DC is very smart(SB99, ERB 98) and loves art. Thanks. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.12.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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chances are they will be trying to fill the specific opening (i.e. white girl, AA boy) they may have [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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They actually add a class, but I heard that most of the spots for next years first are already going to be filled with sibs/legs/staff kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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where is dc going to K? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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zoned public K. We are happy with it for now. We missed St. Anns K admission. I didn't know they have different b'day cut off(nov.) DC has Oct. b'day. We could have applied it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone read Lisa Belkin's NYT magazine article yet? I loved how she took it back to the initial career choices women make. I'm so tired of the justification that dw stays home because her social work doesn't earn as much as his hedge fund. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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Link? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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I don't stay home but DH makes much more money than I do so his career is primary and I do a lot more with kids etc. More often than not it is the case, though there are plenty of exceptions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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is the article in this Sundays magazine? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:41 AM Flag
[ - ] My husband and I are in the beginning stages of discussing adoption. Can anyone recommend resources? Obviously googling brings up so many different sites to explore, it's a little overwhelming. Any specific places you would advise us to begin with? TIA 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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We adopted through Spence-Chapin on the UES. Great resources and well know & respected agency. They can help you think through all of the different questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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Here's their webpage: www.spence-chapin.org [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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OP: Thank you. Did you adopt domestically or Int'l? I hope you don't mind my asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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No worries, we adopted internationally (three years ago), BUT the international scene is a mess right now and several countries have temporarily shut down international adoption. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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Yes, from what I've read there has been a fair number of illegal adoptions and now the Hague has issued an Int'l referendum of sorts. I know that regulations are beyond necessary, but I wonder how many kids will be lost in the bureaucracy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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we adopted our toddler six months ago. I also recommend looking at spence-chapin, we used another good agency. Adoption.com is also helpful. Keep in mind that the initial paperwork you do will be helpful for any country, and then when you have that done you can switch to another country as things are always shifting in international adoption. The agencies don't really position it this way, but I found it to be true. Also, go with a big, reputable agency so that if one country closes, they will have others. Ours is chsfs.org. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Thanks so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:06 PM Flag
[ - ] How did you prepare your child for the G&T assessment? Did you hire tutors? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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of course, do you want your child to be the only one without practice?... and your child will be tested by a stranger, so don't tell me you can do it yourself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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We did the sample "test a few times" - hired no tutors. Played it like a game. DD got a 99% on both tests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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count your lucky stars, you and DD were very lucky leaving it to chance like that, prepping gives at least a 20% advantage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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leaving it to chance? we interact with her and don't need a tutor to prep her - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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I've got a challenge for you. Show me how you ended up with the number 20%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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have a best friend whose DS took test last year, scored 84%, got tutoring and scored 97% [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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is this your scientific explanation? You are kidding me, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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so he's probably not gifted and will end up in over his head and feeling really great about himself when he sees everyone else in class can do things easier than he can. that's awesome parenting!! Can't kids just be kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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Good night sleep night before. good bfast morning of OLSAT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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^^^did the sample test 2x. 99, no other prep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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me too. can't beleive people would tutor for this - to me that is falsy preppingthem for something they may not be fit for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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are you going to send your child to take the SAT without preparation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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what does the OLSAT have to do with the SAT? The OLSAT does not test for knowledge that was acquired within 13 years of schooling. SAT prep is a refresher and reinforces things you are supposed to know. The OLSAT is in a totally different category. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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the OLSAT only tests the ability to pay attention and listen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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well, and be able to answer quite sophisticated questions (for a 4yo, that is) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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nothing sophisticated about the questions, let's not exaggerate the abilities of these kids - 99% on Stanford-Binet is impressive, 99% on OLSAT is merely the ability to hold the attention of the child for 10 minutes more than the next. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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so, your kid aced the practice test without any mistakes? The OLSAT correlates with IQ tests. It is not as reliable for young kids due to the fact that it takes a certain level of maturity, though. Don't fool yourself that acing the OLSAT is such an easy feat for most kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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looks like someone swallowed the Kool Aid - the practice test is what 5 questions? The OLSAT is 40 questions. The maturity you speak of is really the ability to sit for those 40 questions. If you want your child to do well then you need to prepare them to sit for 40 questions with a stranger. Just dont see how any of you can argue against that unless you are trying to persuade others gainst test prep so your kid has a chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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oh, boy. Here we go again. Yes, sitting with a stranger for 40 questions is a requirement and that can be practiced etc. Or the kid already is able to do that (higher level of maturity). That said, this is not a counter argument to the fact that the OLSAT does resemble an IQ test to a certain degree. That has NOTHING to do with prepping a child. This skews the test results and is considered cheating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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NP, I took SAT with no prep and did great. It happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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that is really funny... what does "great" mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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did you read that "edge for life" blog? They interviewed a tester. Alos I would say the OLSAT gets yor child into a good school program, most everyone would agree that it is really not G&T assessment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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you realize that site is selling test prep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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I really don't get it. I for one, hope that none of you do test prep, that way my DS will have a better chance to get into a decent school; especially after all of the rallies going on around the city with the over crowding situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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The test is normed for kids who haven't prepped. Lets say, for argument's sake that you really get a ten point bump. That means your kid who would get a 90 now has a 99. You can brag to your friends s/he got into Anderson. Yeah. Then around second grade your kids is going to be miserable because s/he is overwhelmed by the other kids in the class. Homework will become a battle and school will become a chore. If my kid can't get into a G&T on his merit, so be it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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We did not prep at all, and never even saw a practice test.Honestly, my ds probably would have been bored out of his mind at the actual test and not done as well had we prepped him. He missed 1 on the OLSAT and 0 on the BSRA, by the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone know where to get great maternity jeans in nyc or online?any resale shops? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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I loved mine from Gap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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Pea in the Pod. I think you can get them online. I don't have them yet, but all my preg friends do and LOVE them! Get the FULL belly band so you can wear them througout the pregnancy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Any info on the new Mandell K? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.12.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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Curriculum looks very impressive...very creative and integrated, and the new space looks like it's going to be beautiful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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(Sorry if this ends up being a re-post.) The curriculum looks great...very creative and integrated, and the new space is going to be beautiful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:43 PM Flag
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ITA. An exciting new school option that promises to be an excellent choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] any info on the new Mandell K? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Why are biweekly appointments needed in the third trimester, assuming a normal, healthy pregnancy? Switched providers at 30 weeks and they scheduled my next appointment 4 weeks from my last. Trying to decide if it's worth it to make a stink. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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You want to sit in a waiting room every other week when things are just fine? If no reason to worry, why go so often? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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I don't want to. I posted because I want to know why the norm is to schedule every two weeks. Even my former crunchy midwife saw a value in it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Ah, I think it's CYA. At that point all they really are looking for is BP and protein in the urine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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I suspect you're right. I just have a tendency toward cynicism when it comes to doctors, so I'm trying to actually consider the reasons before I blow them off =). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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could it be that the receptionist made a mistake? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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Well, I'm 31 weeks pg and my doctor scheduled my next appointment 4 wks from my last. I wouldn't worry about it, esp if you are having a healthy pregnancy. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 03:32 PM Flag
[ - ] How much does it cost to have that procedure where they inject saline into your spider veins to make them disappear? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Anyone? I just noticed some on my legs and wonder if I can swing getting rid of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:29 AM Flag
[ - ] is electrolysis fine during pregnancy? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:22 AM Flag
[ - ] what happened to the good old fashioned dirty talk in the afternoons on UB? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.12.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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it's painfully slow and boring here now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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revamp was the death of this website... only lame heli moms on for the most part now... no one who can tell you the best brazilian wax or who does best blond highlights... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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J sisters my fav. Still trying to find a decent blonde highlight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:32 PM Flag
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highlights? go to ted gibson salon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:38 PM Flag
[ - ] If you or dh earns over $100k per year, what do you do? How much schooling was required? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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we both do. i'm a lawyer, he works in finance. college for him, law school for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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What type of finance? IB? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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no. HF, but small. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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what does that mean, small? very curious what people at small hedge funds make. mostly so I can tell my mom to be quiet when she says how rich all the hbers are and how lucky their wives are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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it varies, because the biggest part of his income, when he gets it, is the incentive allocation. so if performance is good, he makes way more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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dh does, works in politics, has a law degree from an ivy which probably wasn't strictly necessary, but sure has helped him along [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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We both do, both lawyers who work in financial services. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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We both do, he's an accountant, I am a management consultant. We both have MBAs but we were making slightly over $100K when we just had college degrees... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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private equity. just an undergraduate degree then some time in investment banking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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We both do. He works in finance at investment bank (middle office); I work in strategy for large compnay. We both have MBA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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