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[ - ] Path to making 2nd round at Hunter: kids who separate easily, participate in group activities w/o taking over or disrupting others, take instructions well and respect authority, show curiosity, well socialized at the playdate (3 hrs). Birthday has nothing to do with it. There are fall and winter kids who make it. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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I want to add kids that think creatively. My ds has tested as PG, but is a very concrete (not creative) thinker. Many of the "tasks" they had the kids do at the onsite involved thinking creatively to solve problems or make up stories. He can do all that you mention above though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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You know what? This sounds all great but in the end it's the Hunter folks that make the decision and I doubt those are as clear-cut as you say above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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It has nothing to do with birthday. Many winter kids are socially mature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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Getting to Round 2 is no easy task in the first place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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ans still your kid may not make it in. there are no guarantees. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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If a kid can do all that DURING Hunter 2nd round (for the whole time), I say the chances are 90%+. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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NP: Not really because there are many kids who can do all that in the 2nd round. It also depends on gender and race IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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Bingo! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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please show me how you get to that number? gut feeling? do you know all the kids that are accepted to Hunter? Do you know the kids that got into round 2? No? I thought so. There is no exact science to Hunter admissions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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Well, I can tell you that my friend's son cried hysterically going into the Hunter playdate and he got in. My DD did not cry at all and is definitely a creative thinker who plays well with others, takes direction and doesn't dominate and she didn't get in. There are more factors involved and they have a limited amount of space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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Your friend's son must have settled down real quickly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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I don't think you have any idea what you're talking about. DD does all of those things and got into 3 TT private schools and was dinged from Hunter; her preschool classmate who doesn't fit into your description at all but is very creative and mentally high-powered got into Hunter and was rejected from all the privates to which she applied. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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Yeah - not sure this is it. DS has these qualities and fared great in private school process but did not get into Hunter. DC very creative thinker and social and tests extremely well. I thought maybe they pegged him as smart and verbal as opposed to really "gifted." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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Some of it is luck. Kids break into groups and work together during part 2. If your child gets paired with good kids, it gives them a boost up, if not they are at a handicap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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DS was WL'ed. He was reading at 3.5 and was doing 35 piece puzzles at around 2. At Round 2 playdate he told me he put together a puzzle that 1 of the 'teachers' said was the hardest one and no one ever gets. Who knows if this why he made it past Round 2. We'll never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I have been so challenged and down, I don't think I have a lot to fight anymore. I am a 28 year old fulltime nursing student without family in the United States. I moved here because of my husband. He is emotionally and physically abusive. I want out of the marriage but he is determined to take the children away from me. Based on the law and his assets, I think he has a stronger say. I am trying to find a full time job doing anything, to boost my income. Does anyone here know of low cost legal advice? Any suggestions or general advice is also appreciated. Thanks. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Good luck. I don't know of any but there has to be something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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I don't, but I'm sure someone here can point you in the right direction. One thing I do know is, unless you have substance-abuse problems or plan to take the children out of the country, the courts will usually always side with the mother in custody issues, regardless of dh's assets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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Thank you very much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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You do have options. If you are in NYC, call 311 to get connected to shelters for abused women. The staff at those shelters can connect you to legal services for free (the lawyers are volunteers). There is no presumption that the income-earning parent will automatically get custody, but there is a presumption that an abusive parent will not. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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also, start calling the cops when he's physically abusive so that you have proof of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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Thank you very much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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this link might help: http://www.usattorneylegalservices.com/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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Contact InMotion. It is a non-profit organization that helps low-income women with matrimonial and child custody cases, among other things. My law firm, and many others, do many pro bono (free) divorce cases with them. The website is www.inmotiononline.com. The phone number in Manhattan is 212-695-3800 and in the Bronx is 718-562-8181. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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God bless you! I'll let you know how things turn out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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or: Please keep us updated. Good luck with everything! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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Also if you are enrolled in school, a lot of them have family counseling centers. Someone there could surely help you. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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^^ oh, and as I'm sure you know, you can work in a hospital as a nursing student. Benefits and all. Pay is not as good as it will be when you finish, but it's great for getting your foot in the door, getting the department you want, and the right hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:37 AM Flag
[ - ] how many days after 1st day of period do you potentially become fertile? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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doesn't it vary depending on the length of your cycle? I think it's 14 days before your next one starts. not helpful if you're irregular, i know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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is 19-14 days before next one. You ovulate usually 14 days before, but it's best to have sex before then to let the sperm get there in time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Some parents have not responded to my notes about the contribution to the class party/teachers gifts. I guess I have to call and see what they are going to do. I hate doing that, I feel so uncomfortable. What to say? 58 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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They have responded by ignoring you. I would let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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OP- There is a possibility they did not get my e-mail or note though. Plus, some of the money is paying for food at our party so it is really needed, and unfair for some not to contribute anything. I want to make an effort to get everyone to participate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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buy food that fits the budget you have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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exactly. this contribution is not mandatory. leave people alone. Spend what you collect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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OP- I will, it's nothing extravagant. But if too many ppl don't contribute there will be hardly enything left for teachers gifts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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or throw a potluck instead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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this is what you do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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This is not a mandatory thing. Get over it. Not everyone wants to pay for such frivolities. Suck it up and pay more than "your" share if you want to move forward with this silliness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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unless it is a private school, let it go. Even if it is private, it is totally fair, they didn't vote to have the party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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OP- all classes have a party. it's not something voted on. and a collection/contribution is made. that's just how it's done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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It really doesn't matter what school it is. Respect people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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OP- I've already paid way more than my share, thanks. I think everyone needs to cough up a little. It's for them and their dc too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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"Just checking to see if you're participating. I have to get this done today" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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Do NOT call. It is not a mandatory thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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OP- it's not technically, but in our school, it sort of us. Like an unspoken rule. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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I'm not sure why you asked, but clearly you are being told something you don't want to hear. Either listen or don't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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she asked what to say, not if she should say it. nasty... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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OP- exactly, thank you. nasty and cheap, apparently! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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you should say, nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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this sounds like hs all over again, "unspoken rule" that's crap they're adults and they get to decide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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I know. For heavens sake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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I hate those rules. If I wanted to contribute I would have given you the money or I would given some kind of gift ti the teachers myself. Also, why would you collect money for the food? Make it a potluck and everybody is happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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np: Why don't you call and leave a nasty message like the bitchy class mom did to me today? Completely ignore that sometimes parents have bad weeks with a kid with scarlett fever and now two more family members with strep. After all, you are class mom, you demand to be followed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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OP- re: potluck-a few ppl are bringing treats but basically it is an ice cream party, so that needs to be bought for everyone. Plus toppings etc. And a fruit salad/platter. Nothing crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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np- so buy cheap ice cream, a bottle of sauce and some sprinkles. Spend the rest on the teachers- make it basic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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I wish this "end of the year crap" would just go away. Parents are too involved. The children don't care. Just let school end. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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OP- they care. they are excited to have a party with their families at school. it's nice, if ppl weren't such tightwads. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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how old is your child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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OP- Kindergarten [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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Oh for God's sake. Kids don't need a party for every little thing. Of course they're "excited". Who wouldn't be? Doesn't mean they NEED a party. Indulgent much?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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I was excited for school to end (even when we didn't have parties). Imagine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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huh? year end parties are the best. I remember being all drunk. Oops. Okay, that was HS and without parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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lol. EXACTLY. Save it until there is a reason to celebrate. I don't give a rats ass if you are moving from 5th grade to 6th grade. You don't need a freakin graduation ceremony!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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NP: and yet, you and your DCs will show up, eat the ice cream and say "your welcome" when the teacher thanks you for the gift that you didn't contribute to buying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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OP- SO. TRUE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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OP- uh, no one "needs" a party for anything, not even bdays, but they are still fun and nice to have when there is a reason to celebrate, no?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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not really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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OP- fun mom? your kids must love bdays and holidays at home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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Birthdays and holidays are not remotely close to an end of the year preschool party. I'm honestly surprised that you wouldn't see the difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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OP- What is the big difference between an end of year party and a birthday party? why is one overindulgent and the other isn't?? aren't they both optional? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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Actually, no. Just because you CAN have a party doesn't mean you SHOULD. It's called OVERINDULGENCE, and it spoils the child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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I like the laid back kind of thinking but I disagree that the kids don't care. They are very well aware of the fact that the school year end is nearing. They really do want a party like this (at least 4 and 5yos do; 2 or 3yo more or less don't care) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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^^^^ Ooops. I am assuming we are talking preschool here. I take my comment back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:55 AM Flag
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she did post it under toddler [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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OP- pls. everything is posted under toddler. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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on old ub yes - but if you look at what people are doing now, most people are posting where they should. Thankfully, it makes it easier to screen through [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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OP- I think old school UBers still stick to toddler [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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most things are in general topics... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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OP- re: OVERINDULGENCE poster: so that means no parties, no gifts, no treats ever? Because just bc you can doesn't mean you should. No one ever HAS to do anything but it's called celebrating and making a fun day for the kids. Pull the stick out and try it sometime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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OP, the more you respond the less reasonable you sound. Don't volunteer for this task next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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I only have a 1yo but I can see myself being you in a few years, dealing with the unappreciative, uninvolved parents in the class. "We won't thank you for bucking up and dealing with everything, we'll just ignore and say you are overindulgent. Also, we won't chip in $15 or help a bit but we will gladly enjoy the party take credit for all of it" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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OP- yup, that's me. but don't be discouraged, most of the parents ARE willing to help and do appreciate. But there are always those that are cheap and take advantage. I do try not to let them get away with it bc it's so not fair to everyone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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I think you need an attitude tweaking. Don't call other parents names, don't assume you know what is going on in their life financial or otherwise. Volunteering at your dc's school is great. But conduct yourself in a kind, graceful manner. If you can't do that, then maybe don't take on the task, kwim? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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OP- it's a wealthy district and I happen to know who the "poor" parents are (and they are usually not the cheapest ones either). Trust me, they can afford the 20 bucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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In real life, you never know who has money and who doesn't. Neither dh or I need to work again. Not one person has any clue. The "wealthiest" people you know, go bankrupt in a second. You simply never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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my goodness, your child isn't even in school yet and you are already gearing up to be a pita mom. Somebody stop the insanity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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I would say, "This is a last chance reminder that we have not yet received your contribution to the year-end party and teacher fund. I will be collecting money at XX - if you can't make it, please email me and I'll arrange another way to pick it up. If you are choosing not to participate, please disregard this message." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:57 AM Flag
[ - ] my dh is being promoted from senior copywriting to associate creative director at an ad agency. he makes $92K now. any idea what kind of raise he can expect? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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shouldn't he know this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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yes and no- curious about others in the business [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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Salary.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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He'll likely get a boost to $110K. Most companies don't give more than 20% raises to in-house promotions, regardless of the level of promotion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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hijack..please help...my dh is in advertising/branding, has a masters in ad, i think he is being cheated in his pay, he has been working for 3 years post-grad school in branding, he is making about 6000.00 every month before taxes and insurance (only 4000.00 after taxes taken out and insurance out, we can barely pay our mortage with this). Do you think he is being cheated?????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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What does he DO in advertising? What's his job title? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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brand manager [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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$72,000 sounds a touch high for a brand manager. Why do you think he is being cheated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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i guess because he is making so much less than everyone else there, he has the least experience so i get it, he needs more years under his belt, but these people are making a lot of money....i need some patience [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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I can't speak for "everyone else" there, but I know the industry and he's making good money for that job function within this industry. How much experience does he have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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ok that makes me feel better, not much experience, three years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Three years and he's already making $72K?? How old is he? Was this a mid-career transition? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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i get from this post that he is doing better than i thought... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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^^it is hard in ny on this salary though, even though i guess it is good........we need to move out of ny too expensive... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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Um, it's hard in NYC on any salary. We're raising a family of five on nearly half that. You just need to find a more affordable place to live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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Hell YES. He's doing better than he OUGHT to be, in fact. If anything his company is being way too generous given his lack of experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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ok then, he is doing better than i thought...i have a doctoral degree in another area, was making that money right away without any experience, so obviously i have no clue about that business, i'm sahm right now so things are tight, but at least i know he is doing the best he can $ wise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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Good for you. I have a doctorate and I'm only making $48K. DH has only a bachelor's degree and he's making $900K. Degrees mean nothing when it comes to compensation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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op:thanks, i know getting a phd is so much freakin work and then the compensation can be horrible, i probably won't make much more than that...it was an intellectual pursuit that will never pay off monetarily, i'm wishing i got an mba instead, seriously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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^^not op, sorry, np with the salary question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Flame away: I think really smart kids are those who can do math and physics/logic - not subjects that require rote memorization or lots of reading. No, my dc is not good at math (though strong reader). 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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I think "smart" kids come in all shapes and sizes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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What does "smart" mean anyway? I am really good at taking tests, and outscored many people in school who had higher IQ's than I did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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School work is diff. They make you write down every single step of how you got to your answer (which awards slower thinkers) and that penalizes kids who can skip several steps to get to the answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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np - Not all schools at all levels of math do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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So you're talking about achievement tests like the SAT vs IQ score? How do you know your classmates' IQ? I don't even know mine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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Why not anything that requires "lots of reading"? What about creativity? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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Creativity, yes, but a subject that just requires a lot of reading and research doesn't show how smart you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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Math and Logic is one niche of smartness. Giftedness comes in all forms and shapes and most math is memorization anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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I can't reply to last OR (kicks me out), but after you learn math facts, higher level math is NOT about memorization. Good memory is a part of being smart but being able to memorize a bunch of things and being able to figure out using analysis are two diff things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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I understand but a 5yo "genius" who knows his basic arithmetic is not really doing anything abstract. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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Of course not. That kid is not a genius at all - any kid who can memorize songs can memorize 4+6=10 without understanding why this is so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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Was mozart smart? Newton? Jefferson? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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Mozart - music is highly correlated with math, so yes. Newton was a brilliant mathematician. Jefferson - I don't know much about him other than that he was a strong leader and an inventor (which prob'ly means he was creative). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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I think music wasn't math to him, it was colors. His senses cross wired. Saw a segment on it on Dr. Know. Happens a lot to muscians. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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So review and analysis of anything not inherently logical, such as math, doesn't take intelligence? The historians trying to explain why certain events took place in the way they did aren't smart people? neither are medical doctors (which is as much an art as it is a science)? Being able to read, absorb and analyze words is just as complicated as being able to analyze numbers, if not more so. There are different kinds of intelligence, simply because you can look at a balance sheet and tell if a company is a good investment risk doesn't mean that you can actually go in and run that company - two totally different kinds of intelligence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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Analysis is intelligence. BTW, I would not count accounting (it's really just simple math of addition and substraction) as high math. Linear Algebra and high level calculus and physics are. Once you learn to read, you don't analyze each word anymore to read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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but you specifically excluded subjects that require "lots of reading", meaning subjects such as history. you didn't seem to consider that at truly advanced levels, almost anything, even a word-based subject like history, takes serious intelligence to understand it. the basics always look simple. The causes of the American Civil war can be summed up by a 4th grader in 3 sentences, but historians are going to be arguing over the subtleties of States Rights for the next hundred years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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I don't know about historians. One can gather facts and do analysis but it's more subjective. Sure, physicists argue, too, but one's IQ doesn't have to be much higher to be a history professor than a physics professor at a given university. I do think high level philosophers are smart, bec philosophy is logic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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smart has only one small bit to do with skills. i know a guy who never learned to read or write and yet has been able to run a successful boating business where no one else has. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever had an endoscopy? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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breathe slow & deep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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OP- wait, don't they put you out for it?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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we are talking about that tube w/the camera they slide up your butt arent we? Beacause No they didnt knock me out but they did have a nice nurse come hold my hand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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I think endoscopy is down your throat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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OP- lol yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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I think you're thinking of a colonoscopy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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youre right...it hurt so much I forgot the name :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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my doc puts me out for that one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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I had the one with the camera down my nose into my throat, i don't know if that;s what its called [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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I have had several. What do you want to know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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OP- what did you go for (what symptoms) and what did they find? Were you totally out during it? And how did you feel when you woke up, any after effects? TIA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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I was completely out for the entire procedure. I woke up feeling tired and spacey, but no other effects. I went because I have Crohn's Disease. Why are you having one? Who is doing it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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OP- I have had recent gastro problems. Heartburn, lump in my throat, which have pretty much gone away after a course of Prilosec. But now feeling short of breath a lot. i have asthma but my breathing tests have been good so maybe it's related to the reflux? Its a gastro in the burbs, my dr referred me since I didn't know any. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:49 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the current IRS gas reimbursement? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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.455? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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are you talking about what employers need to reimburse employees per mile? I think its about 45 cents/mile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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what is .455? 45 cents? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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yes, but I'm wrong. it's .505 so about 50 cents a mile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:32 AM Flag
[ - ] is it safe to give a toddler a bottle in his carseat while I'm driving on local streets? my nanny said he could choke but I don't see how... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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I wouldn't because my DB has managed to gag/vomit by shoving the bottle waaaaay in when upset. I'd also worry about the bottle getting tossed overboard from the car seat and making a mess, but that's me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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well, you cant actually choke on liquid anytime. its solid things you choke on. liquid could go down the wrong way, but you cant actually choke. that being said, I still wouldnt do this unless it was a real emergency [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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This is a new one. Toddlers are totally able to handle a bottle on their own whether in the crib, highchair or whatever, no different in a carseat. I assume he is front facing now so you can see him in your rear view mirror? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:33 AM Flag
[ - ] am I crazy to be taking my 17 mo on a 6 hour car ride with my husband up to maine for vacation? Do you think it's too long a drive for that age? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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it's fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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BTDT - IL's summer house is an 8 hr drive (NYC to northern NH). We did that drive with DD at 3 mos old, 5 m/o, 15 m/o and 18 m/o (and repeatedly since then). It's really not a big deal - try leaving right after dinner and driving while DC sleeps in the car, that worked best for us when she was that age. Portable DVD player also works well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:31 AM Flag
[ - ] does anyone know of a sewing supply store downtown? does pearl paint have a very good selection of sewing things? (specifically i need a little tool for pulling elastic through a waistband) any tips very much appreciated! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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I always just used a big safety pin for that...why do you need a special tool? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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my mom had one and i remember it made the job much easier. it's like a safety pin with a long, thin handle. i also need to rethread a small ribbon through one of dd's dresses that is too narrow for big safety pin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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Pearl paint has a big craft store in another location near the paint supply building. But just use a safety pin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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it'd be too big..maybe i'll try a smaller one, but this tool with the handle just makes it super-quick. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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^^^won't be faster if you factor in having to go find it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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i'd like to just have one of these little tools in my sewing box, to use for future projects, too. do you happen to know of any stores downtown other than pearl paint? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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there are a lot of fabric stores on Orchard Street. they probably carry notions as well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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perfect. thank you!! i'll check over there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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Tons of stores around the 40's between 6 and 8th, there's a sewing shop on 23th too between 5th and 7th ave north side of street [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:57 AM Flag
[ - ] if dd's birthday party is on saturday afternoon, when should i make the cake? friday night too soon? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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whenever is convenient. Do you really think the kids are going to care even if the cake is hard as a rock? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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you are fine to make it anytime on friday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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thanks. should i put it in the fridge overnight? it's just a chocolate cake...i'll frost on saturday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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if its not frosted yet, you can leave out overnight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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thanks. : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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you can make it up to 2 days in advance, I think. Just as long as you frost it the morning of. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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yed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Every year, there are posters who are townhouse owners (bought it for $1MM+) in a bad public school zone and freak out about the school. It's one thing if you can't afford to live in a good gen ed zone but if you can afford it, why do people put themselves in this predicament? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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Maybe they bought before they had kids? Maybe they got a really, really great deal on a place they fell in love with. Who knows, not your concern. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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If you own an apt on CPW, if you wanted, you could sell it (even if you don't max profit) and move to better zone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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Well, that's not me, but I am in the situation where if dc hadn't qualified for G&T, I would have had to move out of the city b/c we can only afford the particular apartment we rent in Manhattan. It was really scary and dh and I were on edge for 5 months as option after option disappeared (Hunter, SMS, etc.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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I'm just tired of complaints from these people with money. It is their choice whether to choose space or money over the dc's school. Most of us can't have it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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I'm just tired of people bitching about schools. GET INVOLVED AND IMPROVE THEM. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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if the school will let you. Many schools don't let parents get involved other than giving $. Plus, DOE has strict rules the parents & the school admin can't fight. Plus, it takes more than 1 or 2 parents to improve the school. Esp'ly schools with kids who come from really challenging backgrounds. Educating and learning is not only about drills and such - there are emotional needs of kids and physical health that many kids in some schools can't meet. School is only a part of the equation. It's not as simple as you claim. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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VOTE. Complain. Get involved in less direct ways, like on the local community board or the PTA. The DOE isn't some monolithic entity that simply exists. It's an agency of the government, and the government is run by We the People. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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I know, I know, but you see it takes a GROUP of parents to make a movement. Some schools have PTAs where only 2 people attend. While you wait for the system to change, years go by and your kid pays for it. BTDT and it's not like you can come in and take over the school and change everything. There are more things you can't change than you can. Plus what you want is not nec'ly what other parents want. You are naive if voting, complaining and getting involved in PTA will turn the school around while your dc is there (in the span of 5 yrs). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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Then I guess you have to work REALLY hard. Nothing worth having comes easy. You may have to skip a manicure appointment from time to time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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LOL, manicure? Puleeese. I started volunteering for the school while my dc was only a baby, went through DOE training (for parents), tutored kids every week, raised $ and participated in school events, got to know teachers and administration and parents/legal guardians of many students. While what you suggest could work at some schools, many other schools, there are obstacles even the well organized parents can't overcome (assuming there is a group of organized parents which isn't the case). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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Bull. There is no obstacle you can't overcome. You just aren't working hard enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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You might as well ignore her. As we discovered 2 days ago, her child is not quite 3 yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:33 AM Flag
[ - ] My 6 yo has some neighborhood friends whose parents are a little to lax for my taste. They don't supervise the dc while outside, they let them play in the street, they "forget" ...(more) (0 replies)to pick them up from the school bus and playdates, they let them play on 2nd and 3rd floors alone with the windows wide open. I don't mind having the kids here but it's eventually going to get weird if I don't let mine over there so what do I do? My dd will actually tell the parents she wants to go their houses, so I can't blame it on her either. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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I haven't dealt with this yet, but i'm dreading it, too. Neighbor kids are out there all by themselves. I don't know waht to say. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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Why not just ask them if they're going to keep the kids supervised at all times? Maybe they'll be honest and say no, after which you can say that you're not comfortable with that. As much as you like them, etc. etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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Honesty is not the best policy. My 7 year old's best friend's parents only smile a tight little smile at me because I asked them not to let the kids watch tv. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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not to watch tv ever? Personally we have a no tv during playdate rule but I am not going to impose that on other people. Our house our rules & vice versa -TV is not a safety issue, guns in the house? That's a deal breaker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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their home, their rules IMO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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Fake?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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don't be a PITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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I would smile that tight little smile too. TV is not a safety issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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i hope you're kidding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:52 AM Flag
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That's a tough one. How well do you trust your kid? At age 7 is he responsible enough to be at a playdate where an adult is physically there but not supervising? I mean enough so he will not play in the street or sit in open windows whether or not an adult is there. If so, give him a cell phone & tell him to call you if there is a problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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OP- unfortunately I cannot trust my 6 yo to use good judgment or follow my instructions at all. She was told never to jump on a trampoline without the net around it and then did so anyway when the others did. And was also crying to go out and play ball with them IN THE MIDDLE OF THE STREET. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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That is why I said age 7, maybe this year he is too young for that responsibility but will be by 7 or at least 8. So this year you stick to playdates at your home & tell her that the only way she can play at their house is if you see him making good decisions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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I think that you need to chill out. Who supervises kids in their own house? How far away is the bus from the house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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that's what I was thinking, but parents nowadays are so much more intense than I was when dc was that age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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OP- really? you think it's OK to let 6 yos play in the street and on 3rd floors with open windows unsupervised? The bus is across the street and down the block from the parents I am talking about. should their 5/6yo just go home alone and hope they are there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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My mom wouldn't let me hang out at bf's house growing up b/c her brother was dangerous (violent, bipolar). It was uncomfortable but we just hung out at my place instead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:59 AM Flag
[ - ] is it ok to eat tomatoes now? NYC fwiw. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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only if you know where they're from. Farmers' market is okay - it's tainted irrigation that has gotten salmonella not only outside the tomato but INSIDE them. So don't think it's okay just to wash them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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I would hold off until the "re-call" is officially over. As long as your COOK tomatoes you are fine. Check out CNN health section for safe types of tomatoes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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