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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] if i can change anything about myself it would be not to be such a worry wort...any ideas on how to do this? it is starting to become a handicap...and i come from a long line of worriers 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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that is a hard thing to change but it helps me if I remind myself that I'm not in control. Worrying doesn't help anything. I tell myself that if something bad did happen, I would be really mad at myself for spending the last good days being miserable. If you are religious it can help to remember that you are not in control and God is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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thank you - that actually is helpful. i am somewhat religious (jewish)and I suppose it would help to think that it's all in someone else's hands [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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y/w (can't post in response to you) just try to remind yourself what wasted energy it is. Exercise helps too. :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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I actually saw a therapist about this once and she told me something that really helped. She told me about some study where they asked people what they were most worried about happening in 6 months then they following up; over 90% of the time, the thing did NOT happen. They couldn't believe it, so they did it again but asked for worries over the next year; same result. So, keep in mind that the thing you are worried about most likely won't happen! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Sister's husband works for Lehman...I'm afraid to ask how stable his job is over there....what is the deal? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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will find out sooner or later - what division is he in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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layoffs next week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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he's fine. they're all fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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dh works for lehman. he's hopeful this firing of gregory and the cfo will do the trick but he's also prepared--and prepared me--for the worst. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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financials are reporting next week...and there will be widespread layoffs. ok? not just lehman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:55 PM Flag
[ - ] The first. I can't see not being there with my children when they are so young. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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I think I would lose my mind at home all day with the kids. I love them but do not find them stimulating. I did not put myself through college and grad school so I could change diapers and read Dr. Seuss in an endless loops. 4 hrs a day and weekends with the kids is enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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ITTTTTTTA!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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same here! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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meh. I had a kid so I could be with her. Yes, it is sometimes boring and frstrating. So is work. I put myself through college etc so that I could have choices in life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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Sorry this posted as a new topic.... Funny but I found this a welcome change from my professional life. I enjoy the teaching and discovery aspect of being with my kids. It has also refreshed me and when I finally went back to my career I was able to handle it so much more easily. I guess it just depends on the individual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Really concerned bc my 7mo has flattening on left side of her head. She sits up, has good head/neck control, and there is no asymmetry (sp?) of her face. The ped. keeps saying it looks fine, but a few friends have commented. I put a call into a ped. orthopedist. Is that the right specialist to call? Anyone BTDT? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:02 PM Flag
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you need to see a neurological surgeon. They can determine if your DC needs a helmet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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ahhhh, okay, thanks! A friend said a ped. orthopedist would be the one, but I guess a neurologist would make sense [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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dd had the same thing. ped said he'd seen worse. didn't see a specialist. and it eventually rounded out. it's from sleeping on their back...skulls are still not hard yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:13 PM Flag
[ - ] My 3yo is having a lot of nightmares, scared of the dark, etc. and he's getting no sleep at night. He's got huge circles under his eyes but he won't take a nap during the day without me there hugging him. What could be causing all these nightmares? His latest nightmare involved my husband fallign asleep in his car and turnign colors, and now my 3yo won't go near DH in real life. I was sitting with him today relaxing and my eyes started to close (I was nodding off) and he flippped out and said "OH NO Mommy, now you too!" and started crying. Does anybody know what all of this means? I am so concerned about his emotional/mental health. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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that sounds pretty extreme. Has someone - babysitter, older sib etc - let him watch scary movies or something? Has some trauma happened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:03 PM Flag
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I am always with him, and I am pretty sure he hasn't seen something like that on TV. Nothing traumatic has happened, but he does have a new younger sibling and is toilet training. Other than that, everything else is the usual. He's always been difficult about sleeping and scared of the dark, but the nightmares are something new. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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hhmmm....I think you should call his ped and see what they think. It may be totally normal to have this kind of reaction to a new baby but it sounds a little extreme to me. They should be able to either put your mind at ease or guide you in the right direction to get help. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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To be honest I was like this is a kid - very clingy, easily frightened. Years later as an adult I finally see I had an anxiety and depressive disorder and meds have helped. I went through years of childhood therapy and it was really the meds that worked - perhaps there is some low-dose for kids? I would get a psychiatric evaluation. Seriously, nip it in the bud. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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I do think you should get him checked out. I don't know much about meds for kids, but maybe some sort of therapy or relaxation or even just him being able to talk about it (as much as he can at 3!) would help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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this sounds a bit extreme to me. my 3 y/o has nightmares, and is able to express what happened in them, but we were able to talk through the idea of a "dream" vs reality enough that she knows the difference and is able to sleep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Just got the path report results back from a recent m/c (I was 13 weeks). No chromosomal abnormalities were detected. Does that mean that I did something (I've had a LOT of stress in my life) or they just don't know why it happened? I saw a h/b at 7 weeks. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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I'm sure nothing you did caused it. Try not to beat yourself up. Sometimes it just happens. Sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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also it tends to deteriorate so hard to find out from sample [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:11 PM Flag
[ - ] So now helen (insiderschool) says: On g+t letters, today seems to be the day, but I haven't yet confirmed that ALL letters will go out (waiting for an official response). So this confirms today is NOT a day, am I right? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.13.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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http://insideschools.blogspot.com/2008/06/gt-wait-beat-goes-on-and-on-and-on.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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Nothing in today's mail. Possibly tomorrow, possibly Monday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:59 AM Flag
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The key word being "seems." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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She qualified her statement with "seems." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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I think insideschools.org's blog is not as good as it used to be when Phlissa was in charge of it. What do you think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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I agree, yes. But it helped that Philissa was an obsessed UBer, too! Is it a paid position? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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Hasn't it only been a week since Philissa left?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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This has been one of the longest weeks of my life... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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feel exactly the same! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:45 PM Flag
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tritto! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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It's been two weeks now that Helen is at the helm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:51 PM Flag
[ - ] do you think there is anything wriong with gettinf a two year old stories she might not enjoy now, but will definatley keep for years? (like a beautifully illustrated cinderella story etc)? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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not at all. I have done similar for friend's babies. You might want to also get a little toy the kid can play with now too though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:06 PM Flag
[ - ] what is a "wet read" on an xray? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:53 AM Flag
[ - ] so this is the new board, eh? is it working better now? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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it works fine for the most part, but everyone left, so it sucks because it's so slow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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ITA. Seems to be picking up a little at night but days are SSLLOOWW! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Just had second miscarriage in a row. Any recurrent miscarriage moms on. Did you ever find a reason for them and did you ever have a healthy pregnancy? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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Had 3 MCs, then went on to have 2 healthy pgs. Never found a reason, though. GL to you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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well, we DID find the reason for the pgs.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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had 3 m/cs (all chromosonal probs) then had twins with donor eggs. Make sure you get a pathology report & get a chrom scan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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Have 2 db's and 2 miscarrages in a row and now pregnant (6mnths) with 3rd. I was given the option to test but just decided to try again a bit older(37&38) with the two msc's so figured the odd's were higher [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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Hi, I am terribly sorry for your loss. I had two, they were unrelated. The first, no cause found. The second, I had a d&c and did tissue testing on the fetus and found out it was a trisomy problem (3 chromosomes where there should only be two and if you have that, you are not going to turn into a human - with the exception of two specific, but that's another story. They say it is "incapatable with life". I went on to have a healthy baby. Your pregnancy innocence is now lost, but that doesn't mean that you won't have a baby. It will just be a very long, crazy road. Did you do any testing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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please get your facts straight. trisomy 21 is down syndrome. these children are very much human and clearly compatible with life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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np: she did say with the exception of two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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I also had a trisomy problem & when I asked if there was any chance of the baby surviving they said there had never been a baby that lived past 21 weeks so that is probably the one she is talking about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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I had recurrent early miscarriages because of a luteal phase defect (not enough HCG produced by my luteum to sustain the implantation until the embryo starts producing its own, if I remember it correctly). Clomid and an HCG trigger got me past the hump. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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i had 2 m/c after a easy, healthy pregnancy 2 yrs ago. i suggest you go to RE to be worked up as i did. even if nothing comes up as with me you will feel better trying again knowing what is going on. most m/c are chromosomal though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 04:29 PM Flag
[ - ] ANyone on go to the PS183 orientation this morning? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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How was it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] what does your nanny give db for dinner? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.13.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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^^ over 1 yo, eating all table food [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:40 AM Flag
[ - ] That song 'You got me begging me for Mercy/ Why don't you release me' - Is that Amy Winehouse? I want to buy it. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.13.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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don;t know but you can put the lyrics into google and it should tell you who does it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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singer's name is Duffy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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yes - found it- thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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in some small way I am grateful that by purchasing the song I will not be enabling Amy Winehouse's crack addiction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Moving on to IVF soon. Please tell me its not that bad. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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it's icky... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 12:18 PM Flag
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It's manageable-- just take it day by day. and the best part it often works! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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- I just started ivf and began giving myself shots this week.....and so far so good. It's not bad at all, stay positive and take it day by day, thats what Im doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:18 PM Flag
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It's not that bad! There's something about their taking total control of your reproductive cycle that's a little creepy, but in our case, it was also a big relief to have someone else in control for a while. We got pregnant (with twins) on the second try: it was terrible not to conceive the first time, but it also gave our practice a chance to fine-tune the drugs to create a better stimulation. The shots aren't that bad. Stay positive -- it just may work! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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