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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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yes--all 3 learned at 4. Not a brag, but for some reason, kids seem to be learning so much younger these days. I think I was in second grade! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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my 4 yo learned a few weeks ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Do we still love Tory Burch? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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did we ever? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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ick... big gold buckled initialed ick... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Fine to feed penne alla vodka to a 15 month old right? the alcohol burns off right? if not she is going to have a whopper of a nap. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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It's ok. not great but ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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I do a lot of cooking and watch a lot of FoodTV shows. In actuality, MOST of the alcohol is burned off in the cooking, but a residual amount always remains, however trivial. The higher the cooking temp & longer you "boil" the liquid, the more likely the alcohol will "fully" burn off. I heard a statistic that about 5 - 10% remains no matter how much you cook the darned thing. (PS: I loved your question because I am pregnant and just yesterday, I ate some penne ala vodka. I was a tad worried myself and then I remembered the statistics from the food show I watched. Food for thought? :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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and a hangover! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:02 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone familiar with arbonne? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Havnt used my breastpump for a few weeks, should I wash the bottle again or is it still considered clean? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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it's probably dusty, so use a little endust [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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I'd wash it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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ok, just soap and water? Boil it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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In the time it took to post this you could have washed it ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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lol, db sleeping on me... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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I love that ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it normal to have burning nipple pain for hours after breastfeeding? Everyone tells me something different. I'm having a really hard time with BFing. I knew it would be tough, but not this tough. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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Have you only just started bf? Sometimes it takes a while to toughen up to it or maybe the latch isn't correct and the baby is sucking on the wrong bit! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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db is 10 days old. i've seen two lactation consultants and they both say latch is great. i never thought i would but i have been supplementing with formula, pumping, etc. also i am being treated for thrush but i'm not sure i have that. it's just so hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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It might be the pumping making you sore, it did me! Do you need to pump? I have a friend who just found it too painful and decided to give up. It does take a while for things to settle down and become more comfortable. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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pumping and nursing both do but i can tolerate the pumping. i'd really like to give her BM for as long as possible just don't know if it's worth it at this point. hopefully things will turn around. mostly i'm pumping to try to preserve some supply. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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I have had the same problem. Breast feeding was excruciating and my latch was perfect. My nipples cracked and bled. My son constantly fell asleep while nursing so there was a lot of latching on and then falling asleep, then latching on again. When I finally got to the point where I could pretty much tolerate the nipple pain, I got severe mastitis (infection of the tissue around the milk ducts) and had to exclusively pump due to the pain. You would know if you got this as it includes a fever and extreme pain in the breast, swelling and severe redness of the whole or part of the breast. I have had a hard time going back to actual breastfeeding versus the exclusive pump since my second bout of mastitis and near continuous yeast infection of the nipple. A few suggestions: try a lower setting on your pump. Use a very small amount of olive oil inside the cone of the breast shield (the cone part) as a lubricant. It does help. Pump for a shorter amount of time but more frequently if possible. The shorter time will cause less "trauma" to your breast and you will find that you can go longer and longer as you get more accustomed to it. It also increases your milk production. Heat and/or a shower before pumping are great if you have the time. Definitely gently massage your breast while pumping. If you think it is just an issue with getting used to it the above will help BUT you might have a yeast infection/thrush in the nipple. You may or may not have whiteness on the nipple. You can have a vaginal yeast infection at the same time. Your baby does not need to have thrush in his/her mouth for you to have a yeast infection in your nipple. The pain is burning on the nipple and piercing inside the breast that seems to be worse AFTER you pump rather than during it. I went to a breast specialist who recommended a dose of Diflucan which helped for the short term but the yeast infection came right back. My OB said I could put Monistat directly on the nipple as long as I gently washed my nipple before pumping and did not actually put my nipple in baby's mouth. The other option is Gentian Violet which you can get from your pharmacist for about $2. Its cheap and works well but is messy and will tinge your milk slightly blue. Do an internet search on Gentian Violet if you want to try this homeopathic approach. From your description it sounds to me like you have thrush/yeast infection of the nipple. I have it still and find that it never really goes away. The breast specialist I went to said I may just be susceptible and to make a decision about breastfeeding. I'm still pumping and it's been 12 weeks. My son is doing great. My breast still hurts most of the time but that is just the way it is for me. Breast milk certainly is the best thing and you feel great giving it to them. It also helps you get back to pre-pregnancy weight. Make sure you are drinking enough water/liquid as that helps too. Sorry to go on for so long but I do think you can do it if you can just get over the really bad part. It does get better although I can not tell you that it will ever be completely painless as it never has for me. I started feeding my first son who is now 3, formula at 12 weeks when I went back to work and he is also happy, thriving and doing perfectly. Do what is best for you, your child and your life. Don't be guilted into breastfeeding if you are miserable. A happy mommy makes a happy baby! Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.14.09, 08:36 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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how long? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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I never had ANY pain, it shouldnt necessarely hurt! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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I had pain for the first week or so... but - as unhappy as it makes me to say this - your nipples have to toughen up a bit... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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i know but i'm having more than i can stand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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You are the exception - for 99% of women the first 2 weeks hurt alot. The let down alone feels like lighting going off and then there is often chapping, etc. till get the latch down right (remember to point straight down the baby's throat) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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thrush? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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do you have lansinoh for your nipples? it WILL get better, but you should avoid bottles if at all possible. Give expressed milk with an eye dropper or medicine cup so baby's suck doesn't get confused. If you WANT to bf, you can and you will get through this. I had cracked, bloody nipples for 3 weeks and ended up nursing for almost 3 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 09:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Big boob skinny waist moms, do you wear tank tops when it's hot out? How do you do it without looking slutty? Layer them? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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I have the same problem! 34d, size 2 bottom. My rule is - either snug or revealing, but not both. You can also do a crop camisole with a long tank over. Thats the best way to layer w/out adding bulk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:12 AM Flag
[ - ] can i just drop my 11 mo's bedtime nursing without replacing it? dd will not take bottle. she is on full 3 meals a day. eats 'dinner' at 5-5:30pm and bedtime is 7-7:30. she drinks a couple oz of water from a cup. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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We initally replaced with a small cup of milk (a few ounces), but within 2-3 weeks switched to water instead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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OP: Why did you switch to water? Also how old was your DB? Did you continue to nurse at other times of the day/night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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I switched to water, so my ds wouldn't get used to having milk at night and also its bad for their teeth if you don't brush them before bedtime. My ds was 12.5 mos when we dropped the bedtime nursing and that was the last nursing. After that, I was done :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:13 AM Flag
[ - ] expecting number 2 (in my first month.) i drank coffee all through my first pg, but now i'm v. worried about all of the new "research." does anyone on here still drink coffee while pregnant? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.13.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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yep... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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yep you are and how much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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I did... a cup a day each day, but I drink espresso which I hear has actually less caffeine than regular coffee. I don't know if that is true though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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it's day #2 and no coffee and i have a 1 yo who still gets up every night...and i really want an iced coffee... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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have an iced coffee... we all worry too much ! enjoy the day and don't make yourself crazy over something simple like coffee... at least i feel that way... Dad's an OB prof and he is the most laid back with these things, so I am too... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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i did and dd is perfect [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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op: i feel like an addict. i don't know why i care this time--dd is perfect too, and i nursed and imbibed coffee (sometimes at the same time)...but this pg is making me wacky [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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I just asked my OB about this and he said the new information is there is a possible link to early miscarriage. But that is for women who drink excessive amounts of caffeine - limit it to 300 mg of caffeine each day (which would be 2-3 cups of coffee) and you'll be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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chai [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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selfish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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I'm a HUGE coffee drinker who cut it out almost completely when pg (2-3 coffee drinks total and now 7 months). It actually feels good to get out of the caffeine addiction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:11 AM Flag
[ - ] when does registration start for NYC public K for Fall 2009? I know it's early, but I want to make sure I don't get stuck on a waitlist. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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For gened not until spring 2009. For G&T and lotteries you fill out a request in NOv/Dec 2008 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:42 AM Flag
[ - ] This is Friday's mail call for G&T letters. Please post here whether you received any G&T letter in your mail today. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.13.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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it doesn't seem hopeful based on what we have read today - but if someone posts they got a letter I will be sprinting home to get the mail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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10011. nothing in the mail. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 10:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Where to begin. I met someone, it got sort of racy but only on line, and now he wants to see me in person. I am married and so is he - and yes we have met before in business circumstances - a bit scared now he will show up on my doorstep. He does not live in or near NYC. I told him No and he seemed to take it ok, but I am still scared...what to do? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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ask yourself if it is worth it. and everything that is going to go away if it grows and you are caught. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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does he know where/how to find you? if you're truly scared, i might contact him and tell him you regret it, or at least next time he contacts you, be clear and don't get into anything with him (racy-wise) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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Yep. He dropped me off at home a few weeks ago. I don't think he would risk losing his job/family etc...but he kept saying, Where are you? Can I come over etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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yeah, if you see any signs that he's going to pursue this, definitely let him know you regret it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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That could unleash some unwanted wrath. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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pray that he doesn't come knocking..and don't flirt when married again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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I made it clear this was an online thing and that after that night it would end...am in couples therapy with DH and need to get my marriage and life in order. I have been a mess. I feel like I am on a rollercoaster ride and I hate myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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well sounds like you are trying to fix things which is good and I hope you are successful. I hope he also respects what you told him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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you are probably not the first woman he did this with nor the last... just hope he got the message (you were serious and firm, no ?) and chalk it up to a really bad decision... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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I am very attracted to him and very needy right now. I behaved badly and I am trying to stop. For now I stopped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Due to an UB mystery, I cannot respond to you OP, but I understand being needy and feeling that excitement of a "new" thing, but part of why you felt needy of him / this was because it was inappropriate and daring and a break from the difficulty of DH and all that... It isn't real... Real is hard sometimes and online isn't real... This guy also farts in bed and is rude and dismissive and all the rest of that stuff that familiarity breeds. Try to remember that he's just a guy like the one you have... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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first, stop being such a skank [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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your sensitivity and kindness are admirable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:36 AM Flag
[ - ] pls help, totally late/behind for planning my son's 4th bday party, live near union square...pls help, I dont' want to go to one of those kid gym places, feel like that is done all the time...pls, pls help 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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a party in the park. They're the best. That's what I would do if my dc's bday wasn't in January. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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regardless if they are done all the time, the kids love it. If not then how about a pool party at McBurney Y? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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yeah park picnic party. kids will have fun and parents will have way more fun that party at a gym. good food, beer/wine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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but what if it rains, I don't want that pressure... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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np: that's what sucks about park parties. You have to have a plan B. BTW I always end up spending so much money on those [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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we rented a movie theatre (one screen) off-hours and showed a kids' movie and they ate candy and popcorn and it was rain-proof and cool and not too expensive at all... In fact, each kid got a popcorn and drink for free. We are not in NYC, but maybe it could work for you ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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^^ parents sat in back with bagels coffee and mimosa... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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If your only reason for not doing a gym party is that it's done all the time, I wouldn't worry about it and go ahead. Kids watch the same three videos over and over and over again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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At age 4, they can be in the "big" gym at Chelsea Piers which is whole new experience(or you could do a soccer party there as well). Or do an iceskating party and have extra help there to give lessons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:46 AM Flag
[ - ] when do you tell nanny to take a taxi and when to take public transportation? dd is 4. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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I don't have a nanny but when my 4yr old is too tired, I want to get home fast, ect I take a cab. Other than that I take the bus. It isn't hard on the bus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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In bad weather, if they are going somewhere not easy to get to by bus or subway, or if dc is really tired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Please be kind and accept that I feel very socially awkward. I'm going to a family bar mitzvah this weekend. The grandfather of the bar mitzvah boy has just been diagnosed with cancer that has spread - it's not good. The grandmother (the wife) will be there. When I see her, I'm not sure what to say. If I say I'm sorry, it seems to imply that her husband is already dead. What's the best thing to say in this situation? TIA 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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mazeltov on your grandson's bar mitzvah [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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no, you shouldn't it is a happy occasion, if you mom wants to say something, that is up to her, you shouldn't take away from the occasion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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no. don't say anything specific about the cancer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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a smile and a big mazel tov on the blessing of the bar mitzvah... it's not the place to be sad nor the time... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Thanks - everyone seems to agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:23 AM Flag
[ - ] No letter in today's mail from the DOE. BASTARDS!!!!!!!!! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.13.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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They said they'd mail today. Did you think it would get to you the same day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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they also said "this week" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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and they said Thursday at some time. Others said we should expect it around the 20th of June. Nobody knows anything right now. We should just sit back and relax. The least we expect the letter the better the news is going to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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I called today and got a very harried woman. I asked if they had been mailed out and she quoted the website to me. I said they had taken that particular language down. She said that she assumed that they had mailed the letters but really wasn't sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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i got an email that said "You should expect to receive correspondence shortly. Have a nice day." what does that mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Thanks to the Obama campaign, even white trash women think knuckle pearls look good on them. *gag* 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.13.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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ok waht does that mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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Michele Obama always wearing a strand of knuckle pearls, a la Betty Rubble or Wilma Flintstone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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ahhh. i never noticed that. i shall now go search on google images. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I think the NY Times- Styles section did a piece on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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np; I find white pearls hideous on anyone under 70yr old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I would rather see her in some fabulous African-inspired colorful handkerchief/head wrap thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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I wouldn't say that. I think black pearls are nicer (imo) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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yeah, like that's going to happen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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huh ?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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Oh please....Barbabr Bush wore them years ago.......has nothing to do with BO's wife [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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troll [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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Why is that gag-worthy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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