UrbanBaby

06.13.08, 08:20 AM New York City
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Where to begin. I met someone, it got sort of racy but only on line, and now he wants to see me in person. I am married and so is he - and yes we have met before in business circumstances - a bit scared now he will show up on my doorstep. He does not live in or near NYC. I told him No and he seemed to take it ok, but I am still scared...what to do? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.13.08, 08:20 AM Flag

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ask yourself if it is worth it. and everything that is going to go away if it grows and you are caught. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:21 AM Flag

does he know where/how to find you? if you're truly scared, i might contact him and tell him you regret it, or at least next time he contacts you, be clear and don't get into anything with him (racy-wise) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:22 AM Flag

Yep. He dropped me off at home a few weeks ago. I don't think he would risk losing his job/family etc...but he kept saying, Where are you? Can I come over etc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:23 AM Flag

yeah, if you see any signs that he's going to pursue this, definitely let him know you regret it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:23 AM Flag

That could unleash some unwanted wrath. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:25 AM Flag

pray that he doesn't come knocking..and don't flirt when married again [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:22 AM Flag

I made it clear this was an online thing and that after that night it would end...am in couples therapy with DH and need to get my marriage and life in order. I have been a mess. I feel like I am on a rollercoaster ride and I hate myself. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:24 AM Flag

well sounds like you are trying to fix things which is good and I hope you are successful. I hope he also respects what you told him [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:26 AM Flag

you are probably not the first woman he did this with nor the last... just hope he got the message (you were serious and firm, no ?) and chalk it up to a really bad decision... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:24 AM Flag

I am very attracted to him and very needy right now. I behaved badly and I am trying to stop. For now I stopped. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:29 AM Flag

Due to an UB mystery, I cannot respond to you OP, but I understand being needy and feeling that excitement of a "new" thing, but part of why you felt needy of him / this was because it was inappropriate and daring and a break from the difficulty of DH and all that... It isn't real... Real is hard sometimes and online isn't real... This guy also farts in bed and is rude and dismissive and all the rest of that stuff that familiarity breeds. Try to remember that he's just a guy like the one you have... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:33 AM Flag

first, stop being such a skank [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:34 AM Flag

your sensitivity and kindness are admirable [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:36 AM Flag