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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] So frustrated with my local public PTA--am always sending suggestions of things they should be doing, and they never do any of them 55 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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why don't you join, and do those things? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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Um, some people have to work full time at demanding jobs to afford to live in this city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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If you aren't one of those amazon women who can work full time and run the PTA then why don't you let those who can put in the hours do it the way they want? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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They don't own the school just because they have wealthy dhs and stay home all day. My issues are valid, and I am contributing to the world in my own way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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As a full time working mom I sympathize but you sound like you may be coming off as a PITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Whatever, I guess this is the thanks I get for not moving to the suburbs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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yes, as if you deserve thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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What's a PITA? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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pain in the *ss [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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um, the majority of the parents at my dc's school pa are working parents. and a mix of jobs. no more or less demanding than other parents' responsiblilities. so get off your high horse and do something other than bitch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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I am a lawyer, 60-plus-hour weeks, thank you very much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Hi. We've kinda answered your question, but you don't like the answer. Part of your problem may be that you come across like a PITA. Or your suggestions may be PITA. One can be a Working Mom With a Very Serious Job without also being a PITA. Just consider the feedback you're getting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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np: and some of us downsize our lives so that we can be active in our community and schools. if you want to get involved, then make time and join. Otherwise stop bothering us who make lifestyle choices different than yours. (and, on a related note, take a freakin' vacation day once in a while and chaperone a field trip. You kids miss you.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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I will continue to make my own choices and provide a strong example to our dds, Susie Homemaker, and that does not mean I need to abdicate my voice in my dc's school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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Again (from another working mom with a job that sounds a lot like yours), you sound unpleasant, defensive, hostile, and not very cooperative. Can you see how this might actually hurt your efforts to get something done? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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Are you f*cking kidding me? Don't get on the "I work so I'm setting a good example" high horse. Women who take an active role in their children's education make as great if not a greater impact than you do. So stop overcompensating for your WOH guilt by crapping on the choices of others. Signed FT WOHM who's class parent and involved in the PTA without being the PITA you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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And we make our choices. I freelance, so I'm not a homemaker. But I get up at 5am and work so that I can make time for my school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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Yes, and let me guess, your dh works full-time and pulls in big $$$. Or you have a house or big co-op that you bought for five dollars in 1997. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Now you just sound bitter in addition to entitled and obnoxious. I can't imagine how someone who keeps your high pressured hours even has time to UB. I say FAKE! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I'm sure you can't imagine much of anything about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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I think you need to step away from the computer. You're why the WOH/SAH battle exists. Take your entitlement and your attitude and do something positive for your kids with it. Or, direct that anger at your husband. B/c clearly you take issues with families who make more and yet are able to DO more than you do. But complaining is so much easier, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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No... judging others without revealing anything of your own circumstances is easiest of all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Read up, suagr. You're the one judging. I work full time, am class parent and am involved in the PTA. My DH doesn't make big $ at all and we went public b/c we had to, not b/c we wanted to. Judge that you freakin brat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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nope. we live in a rundown house and we pull in barely 90k together. we really really hope this is temporary. but we're involved in our community and our schools. I come from a family of local politicans and teachers, and this was a lifestyle choice for us. (when I quit my ft job, I was making more than my dh!) We struggle but we're happy. But seriously, don't save your vacation days for trips away--just take a day off and be a class parent, or walk them to the firehouse field trip, or make popcorn with the class on a rainy day. It's fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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I do take time for some of these things--and love it--but that's on an entirely different schedule than the PTA works on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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then maybe you need to be the trailblazer-- attend enough meetings and make your case when you have their sympathetic ears. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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^^^argh. excuse my barely understandable typing while nursing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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I think the point most people are trying to make is that it's really easy to complain or fire off suggestions, much less easy to make things happen, and if you're not willing to be one of the people making things happen, for whatever reason, you shouldn't necessarily expect other people to act on your ideas. They may have other priorities that are more important to them, and they are willing to commit the time to make those happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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well said! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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As someone pretty involved with the PTA I can tell you that they probably listen to your suggestions (along with the MANY others from other parents) and do they ones that they feel comfortable with. It's always the same few parents who help out and if you want to do something specific than you'll probably have to tell them you'll chair that particular event--working f/t or not. They probably do think you're a big PITA if you constantly make suggestions, but never help out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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AMEN. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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OP: I would be glad to help in some ways if they would take the time to approach me and work out a contribution, meetings, etc., that would suit the schedule of someone who works late hours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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they should approach you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Yes, there is a whole cohort of new two-career families in the school communities that might be able to make a contribution, if they were cultivated by the same old crowd of sahms and part-timers who are used to doing everything their way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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np-if you really wanted to make a contribution you would approach them .You just want them to come grovelling to you to ask for help- that will never happen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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Please understand that I have ceased responding to you because it is obvious that practical words will fall on deaf ears. For some reason you believe that those doing things should bend to your needs just because you want them to. You need to make a decision to become involved or stay bitter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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you need to approach them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Here's a thought - that isn't their concern. Their concern is making the school your child goes to as good as it can be. Kissing your a$$ doesn't fall high on their list. I doubt implementing your "helpful" suggestions ranks high either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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OK, then they are going to have a hard time attracting the well-to-do new families of the area, who will opt for lottery schools or G&Ts or privates, where yes, they certainly will get the a$$ kissed a little more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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really? your top reason for picking a school for your child is how well they kiss parental ass? yeesh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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So go private if you want your a$$ kissed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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yes, in those schools you will not only be asked, but expected to contribute and put in hours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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we are at a top G&T, and I have yet to get my a$$ kissed. i also work similar hours. I contribute a ton of $$$, since i have no time to spare. They do a great job, and I am very pleased with the infrastructure they have put into place and run. I have not had any seriously great ideas, but if I did, I might go to the PTA meeting and see if anything was being done in the area of interest. I think you don't have the right attitude. You need to see that they are not there to serve you, but to make the school better. if you contribute money, that helps, but it won't buy you any a$$ kissing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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Your best bet is to contact the PTA president directly. The executive board of the PTA (especially the PTA president) does so, so much and doesn't have the time to approach/contact every new parent. It is really a f/t job without any pay--constantly at school, dealing with the parents, teachers and office. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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as above OR suggested, going to the PTA meetings are a great place to start. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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And cue the "but I work 60 hours a week" refrain. Funny, I manage to go to PTA meetings and work that much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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and where is dh? where are dcs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:30 PM Flag
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Let's see - DH is at work and DC is at school. PTA mtgs are in the morning usually. Stop with your excuses. You want things without having to work for them. Tough sh*t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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Would *love* if our executive board would hold meetings in the mornings... evenings only [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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Sometimes ours are evenings, too. You MAKE it work and go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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which, of course, is done to accomodate working parents.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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You can't win with her. I'm done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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They are not personal assistants. Get off your high horse and pitch in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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you can't be for real. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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Oh why oh why can’t my servants on the PTA do the simple things I ask of them? I am so much busier and more important than they are, there is no way I could possibly soil my own hands with the work, but here I am killing myself to give them orders and they ignore them! Listen, as a major volunteer with my daughter’s organizations, let me tell you I HAVE A JOB TOO. Most PTA parents do. We juggle. If you can’t find the time to participate, don’t waste our time complaining. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Renovations:Changing contractors but want to use the tradesmen he introduced. What are the chances they will accept the job if we approached them directly? Like contractor but he needs to delay the project due to over-commitment. We can't afford to wait for him. We liked one of the tradesmen (and his quotes!) and want to hire him. Tia for advice 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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The odds are not good. You are only going to give them one job, but the contractor may hire them again and again - they are not going to want to screw with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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op:yes, that's what I thought. Not sure if even worth trying? But you're right that he's not going to want to get on bad terms with the contractor even if I explain the situation. Back to searching for a cabinet maker... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:57 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone in southern Westchester on? is that fireworks, thunder or is my dd having a big party up in her room? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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All I hear is my DH crunching on a burnt Pop Tart! (He's very annoyed b/c it was the last Pop Tart and he didn't check the toaster setting and it's a little crispy!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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NP: what flavor? The blueberry ones are great a little burnt. The strawberry ones with fiesta sprinkles, that would piss me off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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The strawberry! :( I'm also pretty sure that he dribbled filling onto the couch and that he's trying to hide it from me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone else very nostalgic about the end of the school year? i think i'm overreacting. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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I always shed a tear or two on the last day of school and the first day of the next year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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this is my first year with a dc in "real" school and i'm so weepy. i want to write a note to dc's teachers thanking them but i'm afraid they'll laugh at me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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Nah. I'm sure they get plenty of notes. You're not the first to feel this way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
[ - ] what do we think of the new chanel "LA" nail colors - bright yellow, purple 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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I have the Essie purple on my toes right now -- not my favorite, but it turns out that DH loves it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] $75 to fill up our car with gas. seventy five dollars. do you know i sometimes spend $75 for our weeks' groceries. that is a lot of money. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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Yea. I spend that weekly on groceries. So so so so so glad I don't have a car anymore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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i [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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i've spent $700 at target with nothing exciting to show for it. now that is a lot of money [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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That's just stupid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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what did you buy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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socks for three dc, diapers, underwear for one dc, baby food, camisoles for dd... a list of things that would make you yawn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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it's the diapers. i just spent $100 on nothing and it's b/c $35 of it was a case of diapers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Does everyone's baby try to suck the water out of the washcloth during a bath? Or lean into the water to drink it (and then make a horrible choking sound)? I mean, we give the kid water and milk during the day... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.18.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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My db does the same thing. So gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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he or she is just testing out what will happen...ideally baby hasn't pooped in the water before drinking it. otherwise I think it's no biggie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Db tries to drink the washcloth but not the tub water. very cute. Db also always pees in the tub water so good thing she aint drinkin it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 08:14 PM Flag
[ - ] thank god we escaped brooklyn 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.18.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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brooklyn wasn't that into you either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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mmm yeah, keep telling yourself that while you hold your breath walking down the street this summer cuz the place reeks in the heat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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ita. The vision of the horror of Park Slope on a summer Sunday evening with trash cans overflowing is definitely in my rear view mirror! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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I assume that you have fled to the burbs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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ita we left 2 yrs ago after over 20 yrs and life is great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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sooo overrated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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Funny, I live in Brooklyn and was just thinking the same thing about you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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awww I miss it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I think in the future the citywides in elementary will have a lot of only children. Seems like you'd be taking a big risk enrolling a child in a citywide when you have younger sibs to think about....same with district G&Ts but at least the scoring margin is wider. I know so many younger sibs that didn't make the 90 or 97 cutoff that they needed to get into sib's school 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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We thought about that when making the ranking decision - I honestly think that #1 is going to be quite smarter than #2 - but ultimately we decided to treat them individually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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itta but with the caveat that if they do go to different schools the school philosphy should reflect the individual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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the sibs will never take over a school. all the worry about sib policy is misplaced. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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I would be interested to compare the scores of first-borns or onlies with sequential kids. I have 3 kids & my recently flunked kid didn't have the focus as there are always 2 other kids around competing for attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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I was thinking the same. I would bet that firstborns and onlies did way better overall [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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2 kids, both 99s on all tests, but older one is more outgoing, and people would think of him as being smarter. #2 is shy and less assertive. no one thinks of her as being the supersmart one, but her tests say otherwise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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The DOE changes its policies every year. Anyone who relies on anything year to year is insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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ITA. My kids are 1 yr apart & i have desperately been trying to get info on next yr.s policies from the G & T office -- was told "Time will tell." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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Remember, they changed policy this year after the tests were given (95 to 90). Even when they say it is done, it isn't. still to play out this year is how they fill spots that were declined. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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honey, if you are deperate already, you are screwed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I keep unchecking the NY Schools box and every time I refresh, it comes back checked. How do I uncheck it for good? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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did you 'save settings'? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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i hit save as default and it seems to be gone for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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you have to click update filters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Wondering if a private accept got a G&T spot and will give it up. In turn a Hunter accept my get the private spot and then my dc (99 OLSAT, but only ranked A,N,PS 9 and no luck) will get in off the Hunter w/l. Or, did any Hunter accept get into A and drop out of Hunter? All longshots I know. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.18.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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where will you go if these longshots don't pan out? hopefully you have a decent zoned school or private. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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op: No real options. Homeschooling for a year then reapply or pack it in and move out of city (can;t afford to move within city to a good school- rent is way cheap). Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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My goodness, why didn't you apply to other D3 programs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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OP; I was naive adn thougth a 99 would get her into 1 of those 3 schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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yikes. I would have at least put ps166. so much better than you think, and certainly beats sitting home with mom for a year hoping to get in off the hunter w/l. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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ITA- or at least put TAG down as a choice?? Our DC scored 99 too. We ranked A, then PS 9 then PS166 (loved NEST but commute too much w/ another baby on the way). We got 166. This year was tough. LOTS of 99's and not enough spots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I think some of the 99s (especially the Hunter w/l ones) felt too cocky and sure of themselves as having gifted kids who needed only citywide or the best district program. well, sorry to say, its a big city out there, and many smart kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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ITA- TAG poster from above. It was a tough year and that PS 9 only has one G&T K class, so now it turns out that PS 166 has ALOT of 99's and 98's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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op: I am not "too cocky". I did not rank any other schools because we would not have taken them if offered. Being the there are no w/l this year, we did not want to be offered a spot, decline it and take that offer away from someone who would have taken advantage of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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I see your point but you also should have covered your bases by listing TAG or 166 or 163. At least you would have a spot and could always try for A, N or PS9 next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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I am a big believer in the squeaky wheel thing. You won't have a shot at A or 9, but if you're persistent, I really wouldn't be surprised if they toss you a NEST opening late August [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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op: You think? They said no wait lists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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I don't believe them. There are going to be spaces and they'll need to be filled, and no one will know how they really fill them. Squeaky wheel, I tell you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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op: Thanks for the encouragement. They said the seats would be filled with familes who move to the city over the summer or after testijng was done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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Well, we were pretty squeaky this year, but always in a nice way (without going into details) and things worked out well for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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op: congrats! hope it works out for us too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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GL. Decide on a specific contact person (Nicky, Grace, etc) and check in regularly over the summer by phone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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op: Thank you, I will do that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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From what I saw in an earlier post, if you didn't get any placement, they will try to work with you where they have openings, but I think it's likely to be a G&T at a less popular program, not one of the most popular. They will fit your dc in where they have openings, but still much better than staying at home for a year. What can it hurt to try? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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girl or boy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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op: Girl- too bad not a boy, the w/l has called #10 boy already and only 3 or 4 girls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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i know a two girls who were on the wl (higher numbers) who got calls this spring. one mom told me the dd was 7 or 8. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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op: No way. I just spoke with the office a few weeks ago. They are only up to #4 on teh girls list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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why would the mom lie to me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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op: I doubt she would, but why would the office lie to me? Someone is messed up somewhere- hopefully for me it is Hunter office and they really are up to #8. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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np: Did that mom say her #7/8 dd was going to go to Hunter off the wait list? Or did they decline the Hunter spot? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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It must be agonizing to have a girl on the wl this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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op: Yes, it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] So dd is almost too big for infant carseat - how do NY families get around the city if, say, you take the subway somewhere in a stroller, but want to take a taxi home? Assuming you're not lugging around a car seat. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.18.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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I avoid taxis (except in rare instances) until dc is old enough for a booster. It's not very practical but I can't see lugging around a carseat or sit-n-stroll. We do take the bus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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You just hold the kid while you're in the taxi. I've done it many times [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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Yep. Or you use the sit n stroll if you know you're taking a cab somewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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This is incredibly dangerous. Check out the carseat lady's website. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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I don't bother with car seats in general. They are too much of a pain in the butt! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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Glad Im not your kid. sheesh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:52 PM Flag
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didn't take taxis with dc till 3yo. before that -- walked, took the bus or subway, or drove our car. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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we don't have a car, live on the other side of manhattan from our families, and find ourselves too pooped at the end of a visit to get on a subway... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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the bus is a lot easier than the subway with young DCs, and a lot easier to get cross-town on a bus anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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You can try a sit-n-stroll, but they're pretty lousy as strollers and bulky for the subway or bus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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what is a sit-n-stroll ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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how old is she? The graco saferide will last til about 14 mos or so but after that you are in the same boat you are now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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taxis are exempt from the carseat law so you don't have to lug a carseat around. but if you really want to you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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The way people drive *I* want to be in a 5-pt harness in a taxi! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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Buy a Tote N Go for taxis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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that is useless garbage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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Honestly, I limited taxi use as much as possible until DS was closer to 2yo and we took busses and subways as often as possible. But I WAS willing to put DS in a taxi without a car seat. My only rule, is no highway. So essentally, if we had to leave Manhattan in a taxi, we would bring the car seat - but that was pretty rare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 10:13 AM Flag
[ - ] worst thing you ever did to your dc? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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dislocated his elbow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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how'd you do that? pull him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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OP: He fell forward and I grabbed his arm and pulled backwards to right him. He would have been better off if I had let him fall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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no way to go back and rethink it. i once scratched dd right near her eye when i grabbed at her b/c i thought she was falling off the bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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Nursemaid's elbow is really common and easy to get [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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I pushed him. Not hard, but still. I felt so awful. I was really at the end of my rope but of course that's no excuse! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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I accidently poured boiling water over his stomach while bathing him. He was 3 weeks old. We ended up in the burn unit. Never bathe your baby in the kitchen.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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Oh, how terrifying for you! Especially as a new parent (assuming he was your first?). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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That happened to a friend of mine and social services came in to investigate them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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np: as they should! I'm sure your friends were cleared and good to go, but that is a pretty big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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Yes, they were cleared, but it took a long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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Yes he was my first - he is 4 now and is fine - the skin healed very well - he sometimes gets a heat rash where the burn was but there is really no scaring. It was awful - I lost what little confidence I had. My stomach still turns when I think about the actual moment it happened. I didn't have have any visits from social services or anything like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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how did that happen - so awful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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I had boiled some water for sterilizing pacifiers - I was using the same cup to pour water over db and I picked up the wrong cup. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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you must have felt so awful - ugh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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where to start? the most noteworthy were the time i dropped a metal ball that glanced off her head. adn the time i burnt her leg in a freak kitchen accident. i think that was both to the same kid. my other kids had more generic things...i slammed the door on ds's hand once, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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you don't remember which kid you bounced a metal ball on and burnt the leg of? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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i'm pretty sure it was dc#3 both times. but i might be mistaken. i keep telling myself to start keeping a journal but then i think that i might not want a record of some of the stuff that goes on around here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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how many kids do you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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three. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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My DD fell off the bed 2x. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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get dd into Nest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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I burned DS with an iron. He came into the room and I dropped the iron and as I fumbled for it, I knocked it into him. I also got burned. We both needed burn medicine. He "made" me write a note to his teachers, explaining why he had a bandage on his arm (one line of the note said: "He's fine"). We're both okay -- no scars (b/c I applied the medicine every day! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Just learned that a HS classmate of mine died- the obit asks for donations for her childrens' education in lieu of flowers. I wanted to collect money from our graduating class to donate to the family. Any thoughts of how I can do that without incurring fees or asking everyone to send me a check? paypals??? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.18.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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Talk to the family about what arrangements they've made and then send out a blind mass email to your graduating class asking them to send donations to whatever trust was established [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] has anyone heard more info on the girl who was "supposedly" taken from carl schurz park today? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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I want to know this too, since this is our park. We live one block away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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no, but I've been wondering myself. I tried various google searches (including amber alert search) and found nothing. I plan to ask around the neighborhood tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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i'll be there tomorrow, so i'll be asking people. let's hope it's a solved case or we'll be living in fear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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it would have been all over the local news if the DC was still missing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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np: it would've been all over the news anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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i kind of agree, but at the same time you never know. i also checked ny1 and local sources and nothing. i'm betting it's a custody thing. i read only 1 child in all of '07 was a true abduction...most were parent battles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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^in new york. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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where did you hear this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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NP: it was a post earlier in the day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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it was on ub earlier. Anyone do a search on youbemom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone who's miscarried on who got genetics tested? How long did it take to get results? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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haven't gotten anything back yet but they told me five weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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i was supposed to get it tested for the big columbia study free but they messed up the samples... grrrrrr... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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not v long -- less than two weeks (tho 2 of the 3 times, I was not in the US) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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About 4 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a Lexus SUV 350. How do I fit 3 carseats? DS is almost 4 so could go in a booster but he is bigger than most of his friends who still need a booster with a back on it. Need it for car pooling. DB is in a britax marathon. Anyone have similar problem? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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i am in the same boat. a friend has a volvo wagon with 3 seats from sunshine kids (or something like that) which fit three across. i'm not so sure i want to ditch my britax's yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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The car seat may be the Radian 80. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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I need a suggestion that doesn't involve spending $700 on new carseats or a new car.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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I'm confused. You need extra car seats for car pooling? Shouldn't the parents provide the car seats for their own children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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we have 3 britax carseats (1 marathon and 2 roundabouts). We decided on a minivan to avoid this issue. I have to say, as much as I didn't want a minivan, it really does work for our situation. I think I've been converted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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the sunshine kids seats are great... one of their seats has a 5 point harness which holds the kids until they are 80lbs. I have one and it's great. 4.5 dd loves it, it's one of the safest seats out there and it doesn't take up much room! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] my eyes are pretty deep set and not very large. (i always think of them as piggy eyes). i also wear glasses. what type of eye make up would help me look better? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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get lasic and ditch the glasses [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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i don't want to do surgery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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Try some white eyeshadow [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.18.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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